Jerry Banfield

Hear what works for me today to get the biggest results in my business in the last amount of time as well as having a happy marriage and good relationships with friends! The trick is that I look at my life as continually planting seeds for the future by giving the most I can in the last amount of time. This is the opposite of thinking about what I want, what will make me happy, how I can make money, and how I can get my partner to do what I want them to. Happiness I am learning is the byproduct of right living and I hope listening to this is helpful for you to live a life at the maximum level of happy for yourself today especially when working online and having a girlfriend, boyfriend, wife, husband, or fiancé! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Would you like to feel that the work you are doing today especially with your Facebook marketing and business online is good enough? Hear my thoughts today on how the need to build an impressive business often prevented me from doing good work for the people asking for my help. When is enough to feel like we have made it when making money, getting Facebook page likes, asking for post shares, and trying to make viral videos? I see no end outside of today. With over 2 million likes on Facebook, you can see I went on what felt like a never ending cycle of trying to get more people to follow me only to discover what a poor job I was doing being of service to them. Today I feel good enough about my business and work to be of service to you here each day. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Hear how hard I worked to be a cheap person most of my adult life only to waste all of those gains and more on foolish large purchases. Listen to how I would waste hundreds if not thousands of dollars going out at the bar and then rationalize not tipping at a restaurant. Be inspired in seeing what works for me today to be more generous with smaller expenses and more intelligent with larger expenses. Know that while I am not perfect today, I have made better decisions in the last two years with my finances than I ever have since I could hold a dollar bill. When you hear my struggle with asking for help with money only to get the same cheap principles applied back on me, I hope you will have more love and patience dealing with the same in your life. It hurts to be on the receiving end of other people acting cheap while then wasting all of their hard earned money on decisions like buying a house that is barely what is affordable or not learning more about retirement planning. Thank you for reading this and

Hear the sleep routines I use that help me get eight or more hours of sleep consistently each night while allowing the sleep I get to be fully effective in healing my mind and body. To begin, I explain what I do an hour before bedtime to prepare for sleep and I share stories of the struggles I experienced as an adult back to high school in getting enough sleep. The most consistent mistake I made was getting in bed with a stimulated mind from playing video games, checking Facebook, or working on my business. Today I try to avoid doing anything that is mentally stimulating within an hour of bedtime because this greatly reduces the chance of me tossing and turning in bed. As I go deeper into getting good sleep, I explore the possibility that you might already know what to do to get good sleep and be powerless to do any better. You might wake up on not enough sleep every day and swear you will do better that night only to end up in the same trap again. Many people use alcohol, prescription pills, and illega

Hear how I get through a day today where I have been hurting off and on with the feeling of an empty hole inside me and feeling like a person that is not good enough. I hope as I share how outwardly there is no problem in my life while inwardly everything is awful you will be able to relate and feel not so alone next time this happens with you. Each person that has shared the inside of their feelings on a tough day like this with me has helped me out to avoid years of suffering through being open to crying the pain out and asking for help. Listen to how I minimize the damage from a bad mood with my wife in the morning and open my arms to letting my family heal me throughout a day where a customer service message sends me over the top! Throughout the day, instead of focusing on why, I consistently try to feel what I am feeling and ask what I am feeling instead because dealing with the what of how I feel usually effortlessly shows the why once it passes. Getting stuck trying to explain why I feel the way I

Hear the story of the situation I faced today needing to go to the bathroom as a man while a women's restroom a stood open for me to use. I think you will enjoy listening to the entire thought process I went through as well as hearing the context I put this decision making into in terms of seeing my own mental conditioning and learning to selectively a step outside of it when the situation dictates a different and obvious good solution to a problem that my mind is not able to solve effectively through what I have been taught is in compliance with the rules. The exercise for today features a look into my life for more areas where my mind is making it something really simple into a difficult problem based on a conflict with my conditioning. I value your feedback on this episode today because I recorded it on my iPhone while vacationing in Orlando this weekend with my family and I hope you enjoy listening! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Hear how I dedicate my life to creating happier people by continuously learning how to be a better person myself by studying one new non-fiction self-help book at a time! I just started listening to Money Master the Game by Tony Robbins which is already helping me learn better ways to think about money. I already read Rich Dad Poor Dad and hundreds of other self-help books within the last five years which collectively have given me what appear to be superpowers in my daily life. As I listen to Tony Robbins discuss financial freedom, I am amazed today that even with the debt I have that my life clearly falls into having financial independence today because I have the ability to do what I love every day and get paid for it. That looks like a miracle today because when I started reading book after book about how to improve my life, I clearly did not have freedom from hardly anything. I suffered, I struggled, I fought, I complained, and I consistently added to the problems of the world. The power of reading

Hear how I was in a great mood one day while traveling and then after eating a big meal feel immediately into a very foul mood only to discover that the only change in my life had been what I just ate. Since then I have repeated the experiment many times and changed my eating to minimize triggering bad moods which then string together to form depression. In my life what would have often been called depression could easily be explained by having several meals every day which then made my body feel bad and I interpreted mentally as life around me being a problem. Now I rarely have that after lunch slump or after dinner depression that comes with overeating and just eliminating that from my life has prevented a huge number of negative thoughts and feelings. Taking the edge off of a big problem like depression with a completely natural solution in more healthy eating is amazingly simple, effective, and applicable to anyone today. Thank you for reading this and I hope this podcast episode of Happier People is

Hear solutions to receiving bad news from a doctor about how long you have to live and about how living a life of expectation is consistently inaccurate. While any person can guess at your future, you have the greatest influence on what actually happens in your life. If the doctor says you have six months to live, that is just a guess the same as if I tell you that you have twenty years to live. We are probably both wrong and it is hard to say who is more right. I have learned that a life of expectation is based on thinking certain people know the future and that I also know my own future which has consistently proven wrong in my own life. When I look to see how little of my past I remember, I see the only thing I do know about the future is that everything passes. With everything passing, I find a great sense of peace about the future because it is uncertain and yet I will get to enjoy the beauty of it in one way or another. This conversation helps me highlight the big motivation for the life I live t

When it comes to seeing people, why is it so challenging? My daughter is a little over a year old and she simply looks at everyone everywhere. She sees people seeing her and she interacts with the world without the heaviness that we have as grown ups. As I go out into the world today, I am so confused as to why interactions among people are so complicated. Why are most of us unable to simply see each other in a healthy way? Children have no problem seeing me and I have no issue looking at them. I notice what a child is wearing, eating, seeing, and am free to look into their eyes without judgement. Try this on an adult and most of them completely avoid me. The moment I start to notice most adults, they attempt to avoid being noticed. People often will go to great lengths to avoid being looked at ranging at a minimum from looking down to a maximum of an angry outburst asking "WHAT" or "WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM?" At the gym is the most ridiculous place for this because everyone is that the gym to make looki

Hear how I use a third party point of view in my life to quickly step out of bad situations and turn what might become drama into a humorous situation instead. You might call this mindfulness, consciousness, presence, awareness of a higher power, or patience. Today I share a story of how I reacted after Twitter failed to verify my account when I expected that they should because my Facebook and YouTube accounts are already verified. When I got the rejection email, I shame triggered into all my old feelings of rejection and not being good enough. If you have a hard time understanding this particular feeling for me, just wait until the next time you get a message that you read as not being good enough and you will understand. After I share how I reacted after receiving that email, I explain how bringing the idea of sports announcers commentating on my life into my thought helps me to snap back into the present moment and to not get stuck in the hellish torture chamber of my mind. I explain how I learned t

Hear how I deal with physical pain in my life featuring a story about how a sudden cramp producing an intense pain in the butt helped me learn how to find the humor in the middle of the hurt. Listen to the story of how when the same cramp started last night I quickly paid attention to it and it never got serious. Learn about my back pain history and what worked to break the cycle of trying the numb the pain with muscle relaxers and Advil only to end up in the same pain again the next day. Most of my adult life I have had some kind of ongoing chronic pain whether it be headaches, backaches, sprained ankles, and most recently these random butt cramps. Now the difference is I rarely have pain that is recurring for more than a few minutes. Massages once a week help a lot to prevent the neck and backaches. The strategy for reducing pain I share in this episode I hope will help you see opportunities to get the pain you have in your life to pass quickly first from the mind and then from the body. --- Supp

Listen to the story of how my vision transformed from hell to heaven just with doing service work in an effort to honestly share the pain of my life and what I learned from it with other people like me. Hear how I grew up as an idealist seeing a world full of poverty, hate, and pain. As I worked in the middle of it, I turned into a callous critic of the world complaining from my armchair with no hope for the world. Now, I see that all the change I would like in the world must happen in me. My part of the collective means that every little improvement and bit of healing I give and receive makes an impact on the whole of humanity. Today I feel empowered to work hard each day to genuinely improve as a human being and to try to be a role model that other people learn from mostly in seeing how I live and how I feel because I have learned from so many healthy role models myself within the last two years. I seek daily to learn how people with happy and healthy lives act while getting help with replacing anyth

Listen to my inspirational monologue today about learning to fix up the good things I have in my life already first instead of seeking something new to provide a solution. In my online business, I just have realized that all the work I need to do is in making a better business out of the one I already have rather than chasing the next big thing. In five years of failing to do business well most of the time online, I have seen that my tendency to value new customers over existing customers, new money over old, and to seek salvation in the great achievements has cost me a lot of opportunities to help the people that have already asked for and given me the ability to help. In my relationships and living situation, I find the same is true. I would consistently try to get more friends on Facebook instead of being a friend to the friends I already have. I would fantasize about a bigger house instead of fixing up the one I already had. While I recognize sometimes life requires a move, a relationship change, or

Hear how on a day where I am sick I still show up to do the podcast because it is good for me to do it every day. Listen to a story of two antarctic exploration teams that had a long journey and the difference approaches they used with one team doing the same amount every day and the other doing the most they could every day. Can you guess which group died from exposure and which group completed their journey? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Hear how I discovered the power of getting out of bed with my wife every morning in producing a happy mood immediately that morning. Twelve months after seeing that my life was consistently happier if I went to bed with my wife, I finally have noticed that if I get out of bed right away and help with my daughter in the morning, my day almost always starts off on a happy note. The amazing lesson I share today is the power of small decisions on happiness. I see being happy today as the product of making the right choices in life not on major things but on very minor things like when to get out of bed, what to say, when to eat, and when to go to sleep. Being conscious of the impact of these decisions allows me to act in a way that produces a consistent good feeling about life and to see that if I choose in the opposite way, I am knowingly choosing to suffer. Now when my wife gets out of bed, I realize my choices are to get up with her right away or to have a bad mood that morning. Seeing that clearly motiv

Listen to how I enjoy a day being sick and am free from the suffering of wishing I felt better. Hear the habits and ways of thinking today that allow me to accept the cold or flu I have while seeing the benefits to feeling this way like more opportunities to rest and an easier time being mindful. For most of my adult life, I felt like a victim of the world when I was sick and always was in a hurry to feel better. My basic thinking was that not feeling good was simply annoying and better to minimize the pain while fighting against it to get better. Today I take a loving approach by looking at how I feel and adjusting what I do to match how I feel. This allows me to spend much less time being sick overall and also is a part of eliminating activities like drinking that I used to do which make me more sick than any flu or cold ever did. Thank you for reading this and I hope you enjoy listening to this episode of my Happier People podcast! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Hear how I am slowing down my life today to enjoy each moment. Listen to stories of what happens when being in a hurry is the default state of life and the consequences that are completely avoided by moving through the day with a little patience. I am sure the advice I would give myself 10 years from now is to slow down. Where am I trying to go each day? In my business online, what difference does doing one more video make at the cost of being in a hurry the entire day to produce it? When I am driving, I gratefully have learned after being stopped by police at least ten times to drive the speed limit no matter what. Now when I see another person speeding and driving recklessly, I know where they are in a hurry to get to. They want to arrive in the future and they will never get there. I still speed through simple activities like going to the bathroom and have even noticed I have been trying to hurry through writing this description. Begin conscious of my habit of hurrying through parts of my day is t

As my throat starts feeling sore this morning, listen to how I think about the benefits of getting sick and look at the fear that comes up of experiencing the illness. I hope hearing my thoughts as I potentially am about to come down with a cold will be helpful for you next time you are feeling the same way. Hear how I find it unnecessary to take any additional supplements because my daily eating is already designed to do the very best I know how to do to fight illness and simply continuing that is enough. While I used to be quick to take cold medicine at the first discomfort of being sick, hear how now I want to fully feel how sick I am to help my body heal by making sure I do not do more than my body wants to during the sickness. In the past I often would try and work through being sick using cold medicine to numb the pain only to end up getting sicker and staying sick for longer. Even if you are feeling great today, I hope listening to this episode of my happier people podcast will be helpful for you

Hear how I limit activities like watching TV, listening to music, and reading fictional books to approximately an hour a day because I want to stay focused on living in reality. Listen to stories of how I used to spend my entire life in one fantasy or another. Explore the problems that I faced with getting lost in thought when I wanted to be participating in my life. Try driving today without listening to any music and without thinking about something the entire time. What I try to avoid completely today is fictional thinking especially as far as my life's story. My day is spent focused on what I need to do, why I am doing it, and how I can do it most effectively. Each day used to be spent mostly thinking about how nice life might be if ... or how awful life might be if ... When I share about how devastating fantasy thinking is for relationships especially with a partner, I hope you have the chance to identify any areas you would like to improve in your life today and behaviors you are doing that are p