Jerry Banfield

Hear the story of why I quit playing my favorite video games like Call of Duty, League of Legends, Battlefield 1, and all other PC, Xbox One, and PlayStation 4 games after 25+ years with 20,000+ hours of total gaming! I hope this is is useful for you to understand why I gave up my life as a gamer and am switching to music production instead! What motivated me to change was seeing how much pain gaming was causing in my life and how very little pleasure it was bringing not only me but also my friends. Often it was easier playing with my friend to see how annoyed they would be playing a game than to notice it myself. When I talk on the phone with my friends, they are usually upbeat and full of life. During many of our games, we would not have any good conversation because of my live stream and the pain of losing a game. The reason I told myself I was continuing to play video games was to play with my friends and finally I saw that there was a better way I could spend time with my friends besides gaming. W

Hear how I transform failure stories into the foundation of success today by using the pain from making mistakes to give me motivation to learn a better way of living. With a better way of living, miracles, success, and happiness become automatic. The idea of a successful person often looks like someone who has been willing to push through a lot of pain to get somewhere but in my experience it seems more that what most of us think of as a successful person usually reflects a willingness to use life's challenges as inspiration to find a better way to live. The key seems to be about how the story of the failure is told. For example, in dating if you get dumped and blame the other person for it, there often is no opportunity to learn. If the truth is you believe you got broken up with or cannot get a date because you are too fat, using the pain of getting rejected to motivate you to start eating healthy and exercising more can lead to success finding the partner of your dreams. For my business online, I go

Hear today how I am trying the three to thrive morning routine similar to what Tony Robbins does each day to see if I get the same results in my life in the form of enhanced productivity and less stress! What I normally do is have five, ten, or even twenty things I want to get done in my business online. As an entrepreneur working full time online at home, I feel a huge pressure to take my business to the next level and the problem is I often overschedule. With a to do list in my mind that covers the whole day, I usually get at least half of it done but still feel like I did not do enough at the end of the day. While I would never work at a job where a boss expected this much of me, I routinely tolerate it from the boss in my head. The worst part is that I often make fear based decisions based on avoiding the pain that day and bringing the most pleasure. For bringing the greatest pleasure, I often associate making videos. In creating the greatest pain, I often think of boring business tasks like sendin

Hear how today I was inspired to make a Microsoft PowerPoint presentation about suicide prevention and to plan on advertising it to the world with Google AdWords for video and Facebook ads after sharing it live on YouTube and Facebook later today! If you are looking for more ways to give back and do charitable work in your life today, I hope listening to my story here will help you see unique service opportunities available for you because the world needs your help just as much as it needs mine! When you are uncertain of how to volunteer more or donate your time and money, you might receive inspiration by understanding how I use prayer and meditation to ask the universe to give me the insights I need and the willingness to act on those inspirations. After spending years in my life skeptical about the value of giving back and now with seeing so much evidence in my own life of the power of serving others, you might find motivation to try one new activity today that will put you in a position to give back. F

Would you like to actually achieve your next goal instead of making progress on it and giving up? How would you feel if your New Year's resolution for 2017 and beyond was not only accomplished but you smashed through your initial goal? For most of the last 15 years, I set goals and made New Year's resolutions but rarely ever lived up to them. For example, I would set goals of losing 10 pounds, quitting drinking, or making more money. Next I would focus only on how to achieve the goal rather than why I made it to start with. In a few days, weeks, or months, I would either have completed the goal or given up on the New Year's resolution. Either way, the purpose I originally set was never finished. If I wanted to lose weight, even when I did it I soon put the weight back on. If I was trying to stay sober for my physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health, I figured a few days, weeks, or months proved "I was not that bad, I can drink again" and the original goal of being healthier was totally lost.

Hear how I discovered an amazing lie that I have been telling everyone about not liking to read books! The fact is I read books every day and that for around ten years I have been telling people and believing that I did not like to read but that I did enjoy listening to books on Audible. When I look carefully at my life both recently and all of the past I remember, I see a consistent love for reading books. I have read more books than I can count in my life probably thousands. Every day I listen to books on Audible and every day I read at least two soft cover or hard cover print books. Why then was I just about to tell my friend Joseph Delgadillo last night while I was talking to him that I do not like reading books? Thankfully after telling this lie so many times I caught it coming out of my mouth in shock and told Joe that I did actually enjoy reading. How long have I been telling people that I do not like to read and then resisting, ignoring, and giving away any books people got me? For years my mo

Hear how volunteering and making $25,000 a year produces the same amount of happiness as earning $70,000+ a year! After years of practicing giving generously and seeking today as my exercise to find a new way to do it, I am grateful that I was shown the power of giving by others. While many people said I was crazy or stupid to give so many of my online courses away just days after I made them, the free coupons I gave out to my courses resulted in millions of dollars in sales. Sharing the best strategy I had found after two years of working online to make money and get Facebook likes got my into the position to make a YouTube channel with hundreds of thousands of subscribers and to teach online courses. Giving a little money away every day helps me feel wealthy and in feeling wealthy the universe continues to give back more to me. My goal is to give everything I have and trust that I will receive back just what I need. I am happier today than I have ever been and I work to keep that by giving away everyt

Hear the story of the gambler who died and thought they went to heaven which I hope acts as a parable showing that winning League of Legends or any game in life all the time would be no fun. Applying this to my business is helping me understand that each failure or loss is exactly the experience I need to do better. Why do we think in life we should be able to pick the perfect partner or the right job or a fun hobby or the best investment on the first try? When I hear many people talk bad about online dating, I often discover they went out with one or two people before giving up. With dating I understand that I needed to fail as many times as necessary to get it right which took 8 years and hundreds of painful failures. Every time I would get excited when I was messaging a girl and every time it did not work out, it hurt again. Just days before meeting my wife after another failure, I wondered if I deserved to have a good life and just liked not having things work out. In some way, I found a deep spiri

Why is it every baby I see looks perfect? When does that change? As a scientist, I think it is critical to establish a clear point of "birth" or "death" where the perfection in a child becomes transformed or forgotten into something else that we then end up calling a person, an employee, a statistic, a criminal, a success story, or any of the other labels we apply to each other that seem more important than everything else. For example, my daughter now is a year and four months. Seeing her shows me all of the beauty of the world as does seeing any other baby. If in 30 years she is talking to her therapist about her problems, when would the change have happened from the baby I see now into the person being described to the shrink? I ask this after having went through the exact same change. 30 years after being a beautiful baby love to my mother, I was talking to a rector at my church explaining all of the sins I believed made up who I was. He helped me see my essential nature had never changed and that

The unlimited power I have available now is to make the decision to create the life I want to have. I am grateful for each person that has helped me see the real choice I have each moment is heaven or hell. Life or death. Joy or pain. As I write this, I choose life again to be of service here to you with the hope of passing the same message I receive each day forward so that I may be prepared to receive it back. When I was unaware of the decisions I was making, I felt helpless, sick, and alone. It took a lot of unconditional love from people just like you to help me see the seemingly insignificant power I had to decide to do something this moment offered me everything I needed to make the life I wanted. Today after years of suffering in the life of my creation, I now am committed to making the best life I can here with the purpose of being useful in showing you the way and helping you show me the way. Hear stories of how I yelled at my parents wishing I had never been born and how I had some peace eve

Hear how I just discovered the opportunity to eliminate one activity I do daily and have done most days for the last twenty years! Playing video games has been part of the foundation of my life, the idea of who I am, and an activity I have spent probably 20,000+ hours on in my life. Within the last 24 hours, I just have been given the vision to see that my life might be better if I stopped playing any video games at all. No mobile games, Xbox One, PlayStation 4, or League of Legends! Just 48 hours ago I had committed myself to playing one game of League of Legends every day, one podcast episode a day, and one online class created every day. Clearly something had to give because I also have a wife, daughter, service commitment in my community, and the need to sleep. For months on some subconscious level I have suspected that my time gaming might be ending which might be why I have consistently made efforts to increase it. Why has it been so difficult for me to see my life might be better without video g

Hear my list of the top 20 behaviors, reactions, and ways of thinking I will no longer tolerate in this life I am creating here with you today! I hope listening to this will be helpful for you as you look at making your own life exactly how you want it. Thank you to Tony Robbins for inspiring me to make this list based on having made it yourself when you were seeking to improve your own situation! 1. Getting mad, judging, and being mean to my wife, daughter, and anyone in my life. 2. Feeling like I am a bad person for my thoughts. 3. Being ashamed or feeling it is wrong to look at someone. 4. Focusing so much on what I want later that I forget what I need to give now. 5. Avoiding my feelings especially with work. 6. Withholding love and affection. 7. Condemning my dogs and other people's pets. 8. Feeling superior or inferior because of what I do or have. 9. Cramming my day so full I am afraid of failing to do everything. 10. Choosing less productive activities over more useful ones. 11. Making my schedule

Hear the story of how I went from expecting to earn less money in 2017 to changing that story into one of planning for making a greater profit than this year! When I discovered recently that my core financial belief for 2017 was that I was going to have a difficult year for my business while maybe going bankrupt or certainly making less money, I was shocked! At what point did I choose this damaging and limiting belief? After I was banned from Udemy, at some point out of fear I must have figured that I could not possibly do as good without my huge revenue from their website and despite my best efforts to do more, my belief stayed the same. I became aware of this belief in listening to Tony Robbins's book "Money Master the Game" as he encouraged me to think about the future of my finances. During a call with my mother, I realized that I was acting as if 2017 was going to be worse than 2016 despite NO EVIDENCE or REASON! As of December 24, 2016 I have NO DATA on what 2017 holds. The question is what will I

Hear the story of how today I am finally at a healthy weight after 14 years of ranging between overweight and morbidly obese all while telling myself I was athletic or not as fat as others. You might like hearing what finally worked to break my cycle of trendy diets and huge weight gains followed by a big effort to lose weight that ended it being fatter than ever. The last time in my adult life before recently I was at a healthy weight was when I was 18 years old as a freshman in college. My parents raised me to eat healthy balanced meals and as soon as they opened a Zia juice on my University of South Carolina campus, I did not have a healthy weight again for 14 years. The Oreo elation smoothie I got there on a daily basis helped add 10 pounds to my weight by the end of the year and no matter how much I exercised, I simply ate too many calories to burn it all. When I started drinking alcohol every week as a sophomore, my chances of maintaining a healthy body dropped to nearly zero. Through the next ten

Hear a method to see the truth about the people around you today with a parable featuring three men and one simple insight. Eckhart Tolle mentioned this in a recent talk I listened to and I liked it so much I thought to share it here with you. What I see today is that what I think of other people is what I think of myself. Other people for most of my adult life were just stupid jerks available for me to take advantage of. The problem with this view of the world is that deep down I believed I was a selfish idiot that deserved to be exploited. Now I see a world full of loving and caring people that have a lot to teach me. Wherever I go I see people that are kind and understanding. People have superpowers that they are using every day in ordinary situations which I am now excited to see and share! What motivated me to seek a different world was my inability to continue living in the hell world full of complaints and harsh judgements. Today my greatest opportunities often are those where me being loving,

Hear solutions I have found for overcoming the self-sabotaging behaviors that defeated my best efforts to improve for most of my life. Helping others seems to give me my best chance to not screw myself over in my business, relationships, and health. Getting help with my most destructive habits was possible after I realized I could not fix the problem on my own willpower. For me, drinking alcohol to excess was my top self-defeating behavior and I found help going to Alcoholics Anonymous. While the most toxic problem in your life might be different, I would guess finding a community where people are having the same problems as you will provide a chance to escape from your top problems. As a member of a community, family, and friendships, I find the more I share about my own self-harming habits, the more I learn from others both in helping them do better and in learning how to do better myself. Reading self-help books also gives me inspiration and practical tips. Even with all of that effort, I still some

Hear what I put into the smoothie I make each day that you see me drinking on most of my live videos on YouTube and Facebook! You might enjoy the story of how I started making this whole plant food raw vegan smoothie on a daily basis after reading the book "How Not To Die" by Dr. Michael Greger. I read the book as a recommendation from my uncle Joe who is a doctor with 40 years of experience as a general practitioner. The reason I was even willing to see him was that I had a rash all over my chest and back for nearly two years that seemed to respond to what I ate. With everything I ate having around 30 ingredients, how was I ever supposed to diagnose a food allergy? While the rash turned out to be a fungus that responds to sugar, the motivation to learn to do better with my eating was invaluable! When I made the switch to a whole plant food diet with a raw vegan foundation, I realized I needed a good way to eat vegetables. My wife suggested I blend my fruits and vegetables together to make a smoothie wh

Hear the strategy working for me to change behaviors I do not like from my dogs and child into actions I do like which eliminates the desire for me to yell, correct, discipline, and criticize. What I share is based on an understanding of positive and negative reinforcement loops. Most behavior begins as a harmless exploration of the world. From a dog, one bark or from a child picking up one item to play with it. When I provide loving attention in the form of praise, the behavior is likely to be repeated. The problem is that most of us want any attention so much that we are willing to behave badly to get it. We want to be seen even if it is in a bad way. At almost a year and a half old, my daughter plays with most of what she sees. She picks things up, pokes them, and sees what they can do. If I decide I do not want her to play with a certain thing and I try to fix that with any kind of negative verbal feedback, even if it is sweetly delivered Dolores Umbridge style rather than yelling, then the messa

Hear what I do when I am mad at a partner that helps me snap out of it faster which avoids the majority of the pain! This works with my wife, daughter, business partners, family, and friends. The basic strategy I use is to first notice that I am experiencing the pain of being angry and then to start focusing on remembering that the most important part of my relationship is that I chose to love the person. Most of the pain of being angry is in forgetting the most important part of the relationship with is how you feel about the partner. Instead of continually fueling the anger by reviewing what happened to "cause" the anger and what I am going to do about it, I shift the focus inside to see how much it hurts to be angry and focus on what I would choose to feel if I had a choice which is love. I use an example with my mother where I remember that I chose to be her son with the same being true for my friends, family, and wife. To be a good parent, I know it is critical to avoid being angry at my daughter be

Hear how the questions I ask determine the results I get! For example, asking how do I make $10,000 a month in my business either fails to meet the objective or gets me the $10,000 in a way I do not enjoy. When I instead ask what I can do to make a business that helps you the most and gives you a way to give back to me, then the results are much greater than whatever I would have originally asked for. As a dog owner, I often have asked ineffective questions like how do I make my dogs stop barking or not knock the baby over. After I asked how could I be a better dog owner instead, I immediately got answers from my mother who is a veterinarian about how I could train my dogs first thing in the morning. It was easy for me to see once she made the suggestion that if I trained my dogs to go down on command, this would fix the problem of my daughter getting taken off her feet by the dogs running around. Empowered with better questions in most areas of my life today, the exercise I try is to find one more area