Jerry Banfield

Hear how I limit activities like watching TV, listening to music, and reading fictional books to approximately an hour a day because I want to stay focused on living in reality. Listen to stories of how I used to spend my entire life in one fantasy or another. Explore the problems that I faced with getting lost in thought when I wanted to be participating in my life. Try driving today without listening to any music and without thinking about something the entire time. What I try to avoid completely today is fictional thinking especially as far as my life's story. My day is spent focused on what I need to do, why I am doing it, and how I can do it most effectively. Each day used to be spent mostly thinking about how nice life might be if ... or how awful life might be if ... When I share about how devastating fantasy thinking is for relationships especially with a partner, I hope you have the chance to identify any areas you would like to improve in your life today and behaviors you are doing that are p