Thank You Heartbreak

YouTube sensation and unexpected author of A Sucky Love Story: Overcoming Unhappily Ever After, Brittani Louise Taylor, had no intention of ever writing a book, let alone a memoir, about the unimaginable demise of her rom-con worthy romance. But when her go to medium for processing her experiences was suddenly the one place she was legally not allowed to share her story, Brittani found herself alone and silenced for the very first time. To recover her sanity, worth and integrity, Brittani found herself weaving together the narrative of her very first love story, a story so deceptive, terrorizing and depleting that it would come to act as evidence in a domestic abuse case. What Brittani presents to us now, both in her memoir and within this episode, is a cautionary tale. In a world where strangers turn into soulmates with a swipe, love lives are documented and consumed by hundreds, thousands, and in her case millions of eyes, even the most genuine people fall short of the authenticity they so badly want to uph

Interior designer and founder of Seriously Happy Homes Rebecca West speaks to one of the most pressing questions post-heartbreak: how do I live inside what was, amongst the many reminders of failure and loss, and do I have to? She talks about the importance of redesigning your home, reimagining your life and finding something new—an adventure that began inside the house she shared with her ex-husband and started with a fresh coat of black paint on the ceiling and downsizing to a twin size bed. This conversation, however, is not only about embracing single life and committing to the healing nature of solitude but about prioritizing intention and self-work before partnering again as well as the commitment, mental shift, and daily choice that comes with marriage. At minute 10, Rebecca joins Chelsea to talk about prioritizing adventure over the status quo, the experience of joy over the fear of losing one's source of joy, the complexities of entrepreneurship and our human need—and responsibility—to reach out

In one of the liveliest conversations on TYHB, Results Coach & Author Bertrand Ngampa aka Coach B provides insight into the male psyche—like, why a man might compare the women he’s dating or why a date isn't enough without sex—and encourages men and women to level up every life pillar in order to cultivate a satisfying and intentional life as a single person as well as become the one for the one you are seeking. 9:30 minutes in, Coach B joins Chelsea and discusses this and many more gems like:— when people hire a coach, often they are yearning for connection— the leader must guide the relationship— why we compare the people we are dating against each other— forgoing the thrill of short-term pleasure if you have no interest in being connected long-term — the host of problems that comes with short-term sexual pleasure — harnessing the power of sex, of saying no, forces you to dig deeper within you and level up— not getting sex for a man is not fulfilling because it’s not validation that you, as a man,

Chelsea responds to Torn And Miserable On Thanksgiving, a listener who is dealing with the unexpected loss and grief of her sister the first holiday after her passing while trying to negotiate the expectations of her husband who does not want her attending the family Thanksgiving celebration. How can she show up for her mother while not abandoning her husband on such a special and sensitive day? Chelsea gets to the heart of it.—Work with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/shopFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterConnect and send in your questions and/or letters on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak or by email Chelsea@breakupward.com

This hour conversation with writer & producer Richard Boehmcke runs the gamut with sensitivity, intelligence, pop culture references and humor. In addition to tackling one of the most popular questions sent to Chelsea, how to wait for a woman who isn’t ready for you, Rich delves into the grief involved in ending a relationship where nothing’s really wrong but nothing’s really right, the danger of relying on one gear in order to create, growing the plant you feed, the human tendency to look for permission to be multidimensional, striving for expression but settling for repression, moving forward without letting go, embracing partial connections out of desperation for possible connections, and what makes his relationship with his fiancé different from all his past romances. PS: This episode is full of one-liner quotables. In minute 14, Rich joins Chelsea to talk about this and literally so much more:+ men avoiding the vulnerability of “this is who I am”+ the power of reflecting, feeling lonely, and sitting

“Don’t be too afraid to let it all go for something else to be created,” is both a warning and anthem from author Jane Binns. Speaking candidly about her divorce and doing what her mother couldn’t do, Jane brings her newly released memoir Broken Whole to life. With searing honesty, she talks about her yearning to feel visible in her marriage, the severe and everlasting impression her mother’s tolerance and her father’s stoicism had on her, the particular grief that follows the death of not only an ex-husband but your son’s father, and the relief of no longer having to live for her dad's attention. At 9:30, Jane joins Chelsea to discuss this and so much more. Gems to look out for:+ the relief of being seen+ modeling your parents marriage+ doing in your marriage what your mother couldn’t do in hers+ how you can forgive more when you aren’t that committed+ divorcing for your child+ the risk of putting yourself out there+ being a safe, stable and good man is not enough+ the setbacks of the eternal optimist a

“You can quit waiting for the other shoe to drop: I’m in it for life,” are the promising words that convinced author Kathryn Taylor to remarry, retire from her thirty-year profession, sell her home, and uproot to Charleston to support her new husband’s career. Life was honest and full of celebration when, out of nowhere, Kathryn’s husband announced that he was done with the marriage and didn't want to talk about it. At minute 7:30, Kathryn joins Chelsea to talk about it. In particular:+ the isolating yet rampant nature of unexpected abandonment and loss+ the mistreatment of women+ human nature is the want to understand what happens in your life+ the internalization of blame and responsibility+ what you do when you have no answers+ grieving in the United States is an unacceptable process+ the brief window of time to process pain in America+ the healing power of a best friend+ women are preprogramed to be givers and nurtures, rarely thinking of what’s best for them+ the timeframe for recovering is arbitrar

Transformational Coach and 6-time author Susyn Reeve opens up about her most recent book Heart Healing: The Power of Forgiveness to Heal a Broken Heart — in particular, the sudden and unexpected breakup that inspired the first half of the book and how she learned to "for give" with no strings attached. In minute 12, Susyn joins the conversation and speaks to:+ the dealing phase versus the healing phase of heartbreak+ that danger of strings attached aka co-dependency dynamics+ the one question to ask yourself when you’re self-sabotaging+ the rabbit hole of unworthiness+ the pattern everyone must address first and foremost+ the myth of striving for something else and then we'll arrive+ the internalization of I’m not enough+ everything going on in our life mirrors our calling+ the one question she asked herself at 14 and the question she now poses to the worldPlus, so much more.—To connect with Susyn, visit:Her website: www.susynreeve.comHer books: https://www.amazon.com/Susyn-Reeve/e/B001K86ZRI/r

Maria Dowd, The Founder and Chief Catalyst of My Amazing LYFE, a woman’s empowerment lifestyle brand, joins Chelsea to talk about the specific triggering events that occur which begin to change everything. It’s the wakeup calls and reality checks that whisper—or scream—enough is enough. Get your act together. Get out of your own way. It’s time to Breakupward. At minute 12, the conversation begins. The many gems that are discussed are:+ the life changing power of one bite size move+ our deep need for enlightened help vs soapbox help+ the call to uncover our own breakdowns, missteps, and misdirections+ our troubling capacity to talk ourselves into staying and out of leaving+ how living out loud sets you up to be as free as possible+ mother + temptress + queen + prince + knight + king+ dating up and dating wider+ hard wiring vs soft wiring + people give themselves away because their character is hard wired and they lack self-awareness+ we stay because we want to try one more time+ our tendency to rationalize and

The Founder of Live for Yourself (LFY) Consulting and The Breakup Supplement Dr. Benjamin Ritter helps clients develop their internal leader while cultivating greater levels of alignment, confidence, and emotional intelligence in the areas of Life, Intentions, Values, and Expectations. He joins Chelsea to talk about leading oneself in the wake of heartbreak. He’s full of wake up calls, aha moments, and plenty of wise counsel as he challenges Chelsea to rethink what it means to block an ex and provides advice to two listeners who have written in with a dating question as well as a question surrounding confidence and comparison. At minute 5, the conversation starts. Gems to look forward to:+ losing oneself in relationships + the arrogance of thinking you’re The One+ the difference between a soulmate and life partner+ what healthy merging looks like in love+ the aftereffects of an abusive relationship+ the consequences of staying too long+ slowing down and focusing on the person in front of you+ there isn’t scar

Author and Founder of Fraxtory.com, a publishing platform for deconstructed fiction, Jesse Rutherford talks about one of our finest lifeline's post-heartbreak——creativity.6 minutes in, she joins Chelsea and opens up about:+ the power of self-sufficiency + satisfaction not coming from roles, titles, or achievements but within yourself+ disillusionment with our lives as well as our creative process+ if you have a creative process, you always have something to look forward to+ you can never plumb the depths of creativity, spirituality, athleticism + choosing your best idea aka the most important idea at the time+ parenting helps with prioritizing our creative process+ not wanting your children to run your mind+ the Calvinist work ethic + physical and financial exhaustion+ perfectionism surrounding parenting+ there isn't one formula for success+ time, effort, and work should never be underestimated + what works is getting in the zone+ the powerlessness within co-parenting+ it's not fair to ask one

International best-selling author and healer Milana Perepyolkina integrates the best information available, the richness of her Ancient Romani culture, and the rituals and practices of Gypsies to help her clients and readers delve into a magical world of energy and extrasensory abilities to increase health and happiness no what matter life throws one’s way. At minute 7, Milana joins Chelsea in the episode, shedding light on pain, purpose, motion, experimenting, reinvention, gratitude, resilience and forgiveness post-heartbreak. Gems to look out for:+ we all have more than one soul mate+ destiny or fate makes sure you are with the best person you need for your spiritual and emotional growth+ the need for a playful attitude of wonder versus a goal set and stone+ fate or destiny interferes, you aren’t in control+ the importance of being process oriented (right brain) not goal oriented (left brain)+ when you eliminate your pain, it means you’re now ready to heal+ post-heartbreak, you have to reinvent yourself and

Founder of The Remote Yogi, Yoga and Spiritual Coach Taryn Raine helps women feel empowered and supported through her home yoga program. At minute 13, she opens up about:+ stepping into the role of leader and mentor early on+ the tension surrounding being the focal point+ overcoming the syndrome of being “too much”+ splitting your persona in high school to escape your reputation and persevere it at the same time+ how owning one’s side of the story and taking responsibility frees you to share your experience+ the push and pull of religion within a marriage+ the pitfalls of perfectionism+ how the desire to be the best wife and a power couple can isolate and intimidate a husband and make him feel small+ there being no such thing as comparing mistakes; there is no better or worse+ whether you deal with your depression through alcohol and gambling or work and self-growth both can be exit plans+ rushing into marriage and the anxiety of feeling caged in+ buti yoga+ the healing power of students and how students teac

After 13 years of marriage, an already quiet man became even more so. Unable to speak to the reason, wife Carol Gee, retired military (AF) veteran, motivational speaker, and 4 time author of Random Notes (About Life, “Stuff” and Finally Learning to Exhale), Gilded Pearls (Vibrant Thoughts, Tips and Tidbits for a Full Life), The Venus Chronicles and Diary of a ‘Flygirl’ Wannabe, asked for a marital time out. In this episode, she brings her infectious laughter and the gift of storytelling to the conversation, sharing with Chelsea a story that has yet to be shared before. That is, the story of breaking up after 13 years of marriage, starting over in a new city without friends, a job, or a spouse, fashioning a new and blessed life as a single person, and returning to her ex, and her marriage, two years later. Fast forward to March of 2018, and Carol and her husband have now celebrated 45 years of marriage and are happier than they have ever been.At minute 22, Carol joins the conversation and opens up about:+ bein

Licensed psychologist, Dr. Diane Strachowski, brings 20 years of experience as a relationship expert and dating doctor with a speciality in ‘Securology’ into the conversation today, offering Chelsea a priceless opportunity to uncover her own love style and become more secure in love. Dr. Diane’s ‘Securology’ philosophy and guidance stems from two proven psychological theories: Attachment Theory, first studied by John Bowlby, which uncovers your love style and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) which challenges your negatives thoughts and helps you turn them into positive thoughts. This episode will wake you up to your own triggers and tendencies within relationships, as well as their underlying origin and reality (for instance, why are you actually overreacting to your boyfriend’s phone being turned off), while providing you with clarity and actionable takeaways to begin positioning yourself as a more securely attached individual in and outside of a romantic relationship. Some a’ha moments and memorable insig

Owner of Wonder Woman Media, two time author, award winning entrepreneur, female empowerment advocate and self-proclaimed work in progress Hope Alcocer gets real about: + the winding road back from heartbreak+ coping with (aka accepting) her persistent tendency toward depression+ early memories of self-sabotage+ being deemed “too much” for a man+ rearranging the thrones in her new relationship+ the beautiful chaos of keeping up with a partner+ romanticizing not only our exes but our identities within a past relationship + cutting cords with friends+ setting firm boundaries and asking for help+ writing the demon out of yourself+ deciding enough is enough and knowing when to put a story to bed + the current yearning amongst women for more “in-between stories” + plus, so much more.Mentioned during this episode:Hope Alcocer’s Mogul Spotlight: https://onmogul.com/stories/thank-you-heartbreak-spotlighting-creatives-14-3635cac0-8b1b-4fe3-8839-76b6bc368194“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to

Lindy Lewis, the Banking from Breakup coach, shares her insights on what she calls the “ultimate breakup bounce back.” She comes with a wealth of knowledge, pulling from her own Breakupward story of a long-term relationship where she was left ghosted and her identity missing. Her story, of course, didn’t end there. Lindy shares with the TYHB audience how she went from losing herself in the process of loving another to winning herself back through self-love, which is a riveting, restorative journey in and of itself. In this episode, we delve into leveraging your breakup and using it to your advantage so you can move on with your life and become a stronger, more confident version of yourself. And, in true Lindy fashion, she tells us how we can start banking from a breakup right now… because, as her grandmother insisted, you should never leave a breakup empty handed. Other gems to listen out for:+ why your ex owes you nothing and how the only closure you need comes from the breakup itself+ taking back your power

Denver’s BURNing star Jacqui Pugh is a breakup coach specializing in singles and life coaching. After going through multiple heartbreaks herself, she realized her heart’s purpose was to be her own client and then teach her clients with the same passion and grit. Through her BURN program and group coaching, she helps her clients do the deep work to detach from their ex and find their new happy. Drawing on her training in NLP, Jacqui helps you feel what you need to feel, address surfacing patterns, reframe and release narratives, and move into self-love.In today’s conversation, we swap stories and together come into new insight dealing with:+ the many facets of grief+ why befriending an ex is selfish+ no longer dating potential+ trading in ego relationships for soul connections+ how to combat negative self-talk+ one of the greatest misconceptions of self-development+ what the real work requires of us + how we attract the relationships necessary for our mission+ why the learning is never over, plus more.To conne

Author of The Happy Break-up and future therapist Cate Gennaro joins me for a conversation about the upside of heartbreak. She lends her two cents about why self-esteem goes missing in the wake of a relationship and the importance of nurturing independent interests while happily involved with your partner. Other topics include: + the nature of CBT therapy+ the meaning of closure — and, so importantly, how you can attain it without your ex’s help or input+ why your transformation can make even your family uncomfortable+ the vulnerability of establishing adult friendships+ the difference between happiness and joy+ the moment rejection is no longer a part of your vocabulary, and much more. To connect with Cate, visit:her website: www.categennaro.comher Facebook: www.facebook.com/CateGennaroAuthorher Twitter: www.twitter.com/categennaroher Instagram: www.instagram.com/categennaroPurchase her book, The Happy Break-up: Mindful Coloring and Activities to Heal and Empower, on Amazon or by clicking here: https://www.a

Chelsea responds to a letter from Stuck in Love, a listener who’s seeking advice. 8 years ago, Stuck in Love put his feelings on ice when he found out the woman he was attracted to was married. Fast forward to three months ago, and she’s reached out, letting him know that she’s separating from her husband. Sparks immediately fly, trips follow not too far behind, along with the “L” word. But, this love story comes to a sudden halt when Stuck in Love regretfully expresses his impatience and the woman who’s captured his heart opens up about her husband wanting to repair the relationship and bring the family back together. How should Stuck in Love proceed? Chelsea gets to the heart of it.—Sign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comWork with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/shopConnect and send in your questions and/or letters on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak or by email Chelsea@breakupward.com