Thank You Heartbreak

Chelsea talks about the challenge of seeing yourself as you are in this moment; the challenge of accepting feedback and being secure enough to let it direct you rather than divert or deter you; the challenge of staying motivated when you feel embarrassed, exposed, and like you’re not enough; the challenge of remaining confident when you are stuck in the land of comparison; and the challenge of really letting go. This episode is, ultimately, about accepting both yourself and the challenge—the challenge to grow beyond your current way of being, thinking, and relating.—Sign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comWork with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/servicesConnect and send in your questions and/or letters on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak or by email Chelsea@breakupward.com—Mentioned in this episode:PRSUIT newsletter:http://prsuit.com/Shaunta Grimes, "If you want to change your life, just do this one thing."https://medium.com/@shauntagrimes

Chelsea talks dating in 2018 with Alex Nahai, music producer and Founder and CEO of Alex Nahai Enterprises.Alex gets deep and quite frankly schools Chelsea about:— The power of self-awareness— Perfectionistic dating— The conditioning you come into a relationship with and how that directs or deters you from certain people — Readying yourself for love and the benefits of waiting for yourself to become right for a certain kind of relationship— Why breakups are one of the most teachable moments of our lives— The best and worst personality type for Tinder— What is more complimentary in a loving, thriving relationship, dating someone who thinks like us or is the opposite of us— And so much more.Connect with Alex on Instagram at: www.instagram.com/alexnahai—Sign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comWork with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/shopConnect and send in your questions and/or letters on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak or by email Chelsea@breakupward

Piggybacking off “How To Move On When You See Your Ex Every Day,” Chelsea responds to three listener's letters that relate to the topic. Instead of shelling out advice, Chelsea tries to point out what each letter is not communicating despite their confessional nature. Chelsea jumpstarts the episode with her usual psychobabble, wondering "where should I begin?,” as if this were a therapy session she desperately needs. She talks about the difficulty of asking for help, the guilt of talking about yourself and why it’s so important to have someone or at least some outlet that you can turn to that asks, What are you feeling? Where does it hurt? What is going on?At 17:30, we hear from The Queen of Sorrow, a letter writer who’s confessed her love to her best friend only to have him admit that he’s been crushing on another girl. Now she has to watch them flirt in class and she feels betrayed. In our second letter, at 29:18, Chelsea responds to A Large Amount of Emotional Baggage, a woman who was betrayed by

Whether you’re seeing your ex at work, in class, or simply on your social media feed, there are two ways to confront the reality that you both are alive and yet no longer privy to the intimate details of one another’s world. You can avoid one another or you can brave one another. In this episode, Chelsea responds to A Confused Train Wreck, a listener’s letter who’s been left with the daunting task of having to see their ex every day. Chelsea reflects on the benefits of doing what isn’t easy to do for the very reason that easy won’t prepare you for your darker dramas and more daring dreams. She talks about which friends belong in your inner circle in the wake of a breakup and why we might choose to love someone—or at least attach ourselves to someone—who treats us badly. Chelsea wraps this episode with 7 ways to move on from your ex.Also, in the intro to this episode, Chelsea opens up about the one thing that embarrasses her when it comes to creation in the public eye (it may surprise you) and the fine dance b

On last week’s episode, Chelsea woke up feeling the burn of her breakup, only to fly back home that day to discover, that when she landed, her heart had let go. This subtle and transformative shift came with relief and revelation. In this episode, Chelsea talks about the revelation that snuck up on her in the wake of heartbreak. She also backtracks over the events surrounding this shift and the moments—and men—she experienced that solidified as well as validated her experience of breaking upward. She finishes up the episode with a listener’s live question—when to let go of unrequited love.—Sign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comWork with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/servicesConnect and send in your questions and/or letters on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak or by email Chelsea@breakupward.com—Related to this episode:"I Couldn't Save Him," by Chelsea Leigh Trescott on Thought Catalog. http://tcat.tc/2bg9aWe

Have you ever been sad and lonely within a relationship? Have you ever been sad, not about what you were feeling but, about how much you weren’t feeling? Has your heartache ever been over, not what your partner was lacking but, all that seemed to be missing in yourself? Chelsea has. In today’s episode, Chelsea talks about the years she was dependent on love and latched onto boyfriends in an effort to distract herself from the magnitude of her own issues as well as the searing pain she expected would come with being alone. She talks about loneliness—her fear of it and why her fear kept her locked in a cycle of loneliness—and how she recovered from her impulse toward latching and, as a result, lives an honest, happy, and single life today.—Sign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comWork with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/servicesConnect and send in your questions and/or letters on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak or by email Chelsea@breakupward.com—&quo

Chelsea responds to "The Girl In A Situation," a listener's letter who describes what she's found while snooping on her new boyfriend's social media. She worries about what it means and how it makes her feel, and Chelsea helps her get to the heart of it. Themes within this episode include: love triangles, not being wild enough, apologizing for yourself, self-sabotaging intimacy by needing to know everything about your partner's past, taking in versus taking on other people's stories, letting past partners be a benchmark for what you must live up to, overcoming judgment, not deleting evidence of your past or diminishing life experiences, eating disorders, being proud of what once was shameful, and how you'll never be sorry for starting.Chelsea also discusses her year with anorexia and...cries. Because this podcast is, in many ways, about rising up with sincerity rather than capsizing in shame, this episode has not been edited but, rather, lets the tears and revelations r

Chelsea responds to a listener’s question about the effects of a partner’s sexual history. Basically, can a decade of transactional sex and porn use cause someone to be emotionally distant? Chelsea gets to the heart of it, exploring not only the question itself but the mystery surrounding it. Like, is it possible to look for safety—or comfort, rather—in a man who is emotionally distant even if emotion is the intimacy you crave? If so, why? Let’s go there. —Sign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comWork with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/servicesConnect and send in your questions and/or letters on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak or by email Chelsea@breakupward.com—Referenced in this episode:Love Warrior: A Memoir by Glennon Doylehttps://www.amazon.com/Love-Warrior-Memoir-Glennon-Doyle/dp/1250075734Not referenced but applicable to this episode is a book that should be required reading for all:Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy by

Chelsea talks about one of the—if not the—most disempowering acts of all time: waiting. Whether it’s waiting to break up or to start dating a person of a certain stature or compatibility, whether it’s waiting to quit a wasteful habit or a destructive dependency, it all circles back to our fear of assuming our full potential. Chelsea gets real about her frightening dependency on Adderall and her tendency to put her “real life” on hold… for an entire decade… and why freeing herself from her own self-restraint is the bold move that quickly launched her into, not only having more but, showing up more which directly relates to being more.She talks about how no longer waiting to become more before she acts is the very act that’s placing her in the arena she’s always longed to be invited into.For starters, The Bachelor world. Last Tuesday, Chelsea was invited onto iHeart Radio’s Help! I Suck At Dating—a podcast hosted by three former Bachelor and Bachelorette contestants. In today’s episode, she talks about how she

Chelsea talks heartbreak with Angelica Hodges, a Nutritional Therapy Practitioner, Certified Health Coach, personal chef, and host of the soon to be released podcast Heart Centered Living.Angelica gets candid about:— The perks of raising a child as a single mom— How marriage doesn’t just mean you’re ready for parenthood— A woman's intuition— Falling out of trust with yourself over time through life experiences and how we return to love (and empowerment) when we reengage with our instinct and self-belief— How becoming a wife taught her the power of choosing her partner every day— Why your significant other should come before your children— Why carving out time for self-care is not selfish but selfless— What landed her in therapy and why she’s such an advocate for asking for help today— Plus, her one hope for this world… spoiler… it has something to do with no longer seeking permission to be yourself. Visit Angelica’s website at: www.simplydeliciousnutrition.comConnect with Angelica on Instagram at: www.in

Chelsea responds to a listener’s question about emotional abuse. How can one stay friends with someone who’s been emotionally abusive in the past and what kind of boundaries can be set to protect themselves against future harm? Chelsea gets to the heart of it. —Sign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comWork with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/servicesConnect and send in your questions and/or letters on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak or by email Chelsea@breakupward.com—Referenced in this episode:Zen and the Art of Falling in Love by Dr. Brenda Shoshannawww.amazon.com/Zen-Falling-Love-Brenda-Shoshanna/dp/0743243366/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8

Chelsea takes a sick day, opting to push pause on addressing listener’s stories and turn the questions on herself in an effort to heal physically and maybe even emotionally too. Answering the first three questions from her 31-Days of Braver Questioning Workbook, Chelsea is a believer that healing post-breakup has everything to do with the cathartic, and often uncomfortable, process of confronting the questions you have for yourself about your relationship as well as the truths that are hard and sometimes shameful to convey and confess. This episode is Chelsea’s attempt to purge herself of the questions themselves. The three questions she addresses are:+ What do you think the world is trying to wake you up to or, perhaps, is even trying to save you from through this breakup?+ During your relationship where might you have been passively engaging in life? Was there anything you were doing before your breakup that just didn’t feel right or honest, that didn’t feel like enough?+ If you had the chance to sit down w

Chelsea responds to a letter from Fiancée Left Behind. The central question surrounds our need for closure, and our tendency to look to our ex for answers and peace. Chelsea gets to the heart of it, offering an alternative view of what closure means and how one can achieve it on their own. Also discussed in this episode is, how we don’t always know what we are working for or really moving towards and, because of this, the importance of having strength on reserve. —Sign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comWork with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/servicesConnect and send in your questions and/or letters on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak or by email Chelsea@breakupward.com—Quoted in this episode:Brené Brown, “When we deny our stories and disengage from tough emotions, they don’t go away; instead, they own us, they define us. Our job is not to deny the story, but to defy the ending—to rise strong, recognize our story, and rumble with the truth until we

The morning after attending a funeral, Chelsea wakes up feeling good, really good about life. Instead of focusing on why this is, she tells her listeners HOW this is. In other words, how can someone wake up and feel good? How can we wake up in the aftermath of grief and feel better?With utter transparency, Chelsea walks her listeners through her day. Showing them that life is a series of choices, and the bolder we can be, the better we will feel for the very reason that we are living life on our unique terms. In this episode, she talks about:+ The importance of saying yes in the places where you've withdrawn and are saying no+ Loving the questions and living for the opportunities+ Using crossroads as invitations+ The benefits of opting for the more uncomfortable choice and doing what you would do if you weren't intimidated by the potential for emotional consequences+ Celebrating small wins, judging less, hugging longer, and telling people you love them all along+ How not controlling others with your

TYHB listener’s voted for a solo episode so here it is. It’s 1:55 am and Chelsea has just returned from an evening out with her ex boyfriend and the first love of her life. It was an unexpected, unfiltered, unmediated rendezvous and so is this episode. Chelsea reflects on their night together and, really, the relationship her and her ex shared. She talks about why their time together was a Breakupward moment in and of itself and why she thinks she’s able to see her ex all these years later with nostalgia and without any trace of animosity, regret, or sadness. She also talks about how her world has begun to feel small and what that suggests to her about how she's living her life. Of course, in typical Chelsea fashion, she mentions Maya Angelou, Oprah, and touches upon Brené Brown's belief that maybe what the world really needs is less retrospective wisdom and more brave hearts showing people what it looks like, feels like, and sounds like to be in the midst of change. Chelsea wonders aloud about what

Chelsea responds to a letter from Discardable, a listener who’s seeking advice. Discardable feels unsupported and like she’s constantly prioritizing her partner’s feelings over her own. How can she know whether she’s in the “devalue/discard” phase of a relationship? Chelsea gets to the heart of it. —Sign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comWork with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/servicesConnect and send in your questions and/or letters on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak or by email Chelsea@breakupward.com

Chelsea talks heartbreak with Daisi Jo Pollard, an international beauty queen, modelpreneur, and 2005's Miss Jamaica International and 2012's miss Ethnic World International, plus many crowns and many accolades more. Daisi gets candid about:— Being at the mercy of another man's rejection of her— Her take on being "objectified" by men— Our tendency to judge people we get into relationships with by what we think they will become— The marketing of relationships— Shedding layers as well as friends as we move through the world creating ourselves and finding out who we are— The importance of interdependency, and so much more.Visit Daisi's website at: www.daisipollard.comConnect with Daisi on Instagram at: www.instagram.com/daisijoConnect with Daisi on Facebook at: www.facebook.com/daisijoRead Daisi's Mogul spotlight at: bit.ly/mogultyhb27--Sign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comWork with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/s

Chelsea jumpstarts this solo episode with a passage from A Million Miles in a Thousand Years by Donald Miller. Reflecting on the importance of making more of our moments, Chelsea uncovers the hidden beauty of doing this not only for and with others but with and for ourselves. After discussing the joy and serendipity that comes from letting our intuition and our own yearning guide us, Chelsea makes a confession. Something happened recently and she's not proud of it. With plenty of humility and her own brand of humor, Chelsea divulges the details and reflects on the teachable moment.Sign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comWork with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/servicesConnect and send in your questions on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak—Books discussed in this episode:A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: What I Learned While Editing My Own Life by Donald Millerhttps://www.amazon.com/Million-Miles-Thousand-Years-Learned/dp/1400202981/ref=asap_b

Chelsea responds to a letter from At A Loss, a listener who’s seeking advice. At A Loss is outgrowing the man she loves, a man who makes her laugh and is genuinely a great guy, but is simply unmotivated. Should she sit down and talk it over or cut her losses and leave? Chelsea gets to the heart of it. Sign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comWork with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/servicesConnect and send in your questions on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak—Books discussed in this episode:Can’t Help Myself: Lessons & Confessions from a Modern Advice Columnist by Meredith Goldsteinhttps://www.amazon.com/Cant-Help-Myself-Confessions-Columnist/dp/1455543772/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar by Cheryl Strayedhttps://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Beautiful-Things-Advice-Sugar/dp/0307949338/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8How to Be a Person in the World: Ask Polly’s Guide Through the Paradoxes of Modern Life by Heather Havril

Chelsea goes deep real quick in her first solo episode as she talks about her journey from losing herself, returning to herself, and now becoming more of the woman she’s always yearned to be—for starters, a podcast host. She reflects on her college years and the decade of her twenties, her habit of clinging to a new long-distance relationship each time she moved to a new city, isolating herself and losing her voice in the process, overcoming anorexia and depression, and ultimately saving herself from herself in thanks to singleness, New York City, and coaching.Sign up for Chelsea's newsletter at:bit.ly/tyhbletterFind Chelsea's website at:www.breakupward.comWork with Chelsea:www.breakupward.com/servicesEmail Chelsea:chelsea@breakupward.comConnect on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak and twitter.com/tyhbpodcast