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Tim's abuse What a brave thing to do So this episode of the PDU podcast follows the recent episode of the Tim Ferris podcast #464 'My healing journey after childhood abuse' and I wanted to first applaud Tim for being so courageous and also offer maybe a bit of commentary and help of my own. One of the most simple yet powerful messages to come from this is "You Are Not Alone" Tim shared with us his journey yet I wanted to offer some alternative thoughts to seeking help, providing hope to those unable to follow that path. Even if this does not personally apply to your life someone you know may be dealing with this secret so it would be great to share conversationally with as many people that you know and it might just be the difference that makes the difference - I truly hope so. I'll leave it there and let you come and press play. Simply set your state simply to be curious and see/hear what you find. Please share as always - here's the link if it helps: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/204-tims-abuse/

How To Let that feeling go-Don't push it away Craving be gone! So a 5 Minute Quickie Podcast to show you how quickly you can let go of a negative feeling. There's not that much that I can say other than have a listen and stop pushing feelings away because they tend to get stronger and more persistent when you try. Heck, I'll even guide you through it :O) Come follow me! As usual please share this episode: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-309-how-to-let-that-feeling-go-dont-push-it-away and if you're new here then find a subscribe button on that app. Let me know your thoughts and experiences feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave

 Changing Your Limiting and Core Beliefs Can you? And should you? And How? Can beliefs be changed even if it's a core belief? The simple answer to that is a big fat yes - if it no longer serves you or you find it not to be true. A silly example is of a person who, in the past, used to 'be' a smoker but has stopped. In the past, they believed they were a smoker and now they believe they are not.  I've put the be in ''marks for a reason, because their belief would have been "I am A smoker" describing who they are at an identity level by their behavior, which is what so many of us do but it isn't who we are, it's what we do, it's not our identity. Remember the last FMQ about labels?  Have a listen if you haven't already and you will see how the labels we are given become our beliefs too. When working with clients I find nearly all have a core belief such as 'I'm not good enough' or 'I'm not worthy' and it affects all that they do and feel. When they disappear BOOM! Their whole life changes. If you think about th

Labels -They Are Not Who We Are Be Careful They Don't Define you When I work with clients I often hear this "I'm depressed" or "I'm Anxious" or even more dramatically "I'm Clinically Depressed" or well you can fill in the blank. Is that who they are? Absolutely not! That's not their Identity it's their behavior, the way they 'choose' to behave. Yet we say things like this so easily without thinking and said enough will define who we are = WE ARE THE LABEL Throw away the label, change the behavior, and be YOU! The REAL YOU! This is only a five minute quickie  podcast but we do cover serious 'stuff' here, so please press play, listen and commit to be you Oh! and share this to everyone you know so they can throw away their labels too   :O) https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-308-labels-they-are-not-who-we-are Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email

Secondary Gain - What's That? Secondary gain, Is that an NLP term? Probably not. Is it something I want? Well, some people have it without knowing, some use it, and some have it in some way foisted on them. In any event, you really don't want it or be part of it. Although I do share one story where I used it to my advantage in a naughty way  :O) It is important to notice it or the effect of it and if you are at service to it trying to be a nice well-meaning person. If you don't know what I'm writing about that's the point of the podcast and I'll share with you my thoughts and examples I have seen so you can get a picture and feel of what it is. If you know what it is it's still worthwhile listening as knowing and doing, as we know, are not the same thing. Just so you know there is a small process within this podcast, as I like to do to give you a real experience, so make sure it's safe to do so. Press play and Awaaaaaaaaaay! Oh! please share this episode: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/202-secondar

The Value Of Questions I Love questions, they are a foundation of how we can develop and improve. We also hear talk of active listening - what's that? Let's put the two together, which I think you will end up agreeing with me, is a must when we really use questions to create deep change. In the five-minute quickie podcast we, you and I, will dive a little bit deeper and see where we can take this. So put your swimsuit, goggles, and flippers and let us see and hear what we can learn. Please share what you do learn and also the podcast: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-307-the-value-of-questions/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review If you want to access my FRE

It's Really Not That Complicated When you know what and how and here's where I share that Inspired by listening to'experts' getting it wrong I think (Well I know) I have an answer that works to ensure when you work on yourself or have a feeling you just don't like and want to change. If you don't start in the right place and go in the right direction the chances of getting to where you want to go are pretty slight and I'll share with the example from the experts and a client of mine. Heck, I'll even go with you and explain the process and unlike many actually go through it with you - How nice am I? :O) Remember I am a hypnotist and hypnotherapist but not yours so as I say in the recording if you really feel you need help go search out a therapist, there are so many great ones out there - even me, and get the job done quickly and easily. Having said that the process is simple maybe so give it a listen first. It's worth saying, if you're absolutely fine right now it's still 100% worth listening to as there may

I Had A Dream Nothing even near a little bit like the MLK Dream that inspired the world. But just a dream that when I thought about it and saw the message. The thing is the message didn't jump out at me but a series of things happening that over time went Ahhhhh! I got it. I hope by sharing this it may just get you to think, not overthink, and make up answers but ask the right questions to let the Ahhhh! come to your conscious awareness and then follow that advice. It's all about asking the right questions I found and then to listen with your awareness as the answers can come at unexpected times. Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-307-i-had-a-dream/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music /

Accepting 2nd Best Would you? Do You? If you wouldn't accept 2nd best why do you? What? Where do we, you and I, accept 2nd best, It'll be ok it's good enough or it's just about good enough - It'll do? From ourselves maybe. We don't like accepting 2nd best from others, do we? This is a bit of a forerunner to episodes to follow. They are going to include going into serious subjects such as loneliness, depression, OCD suicide, and trauma to name but a few and I want to ensure when we do we hit them being our best because when we do we'll get so much more for ourselves and others who need that help. Even without this being a forerunner this subject is so relevant to everything we do and I do mean everything! So even if you only pick up one golden nugget from this it will make your life immeasurably better. Please enjoy and have a paper and pencil available if you can as I go into how to deal with what happens if the how to's don't work - I don't know of many that go through this part and I've been thinking about

Striving Here's something to think about and you can muse about it right now, doing the thing you're doing right now. Are you doing your best right now? or is it just good enough or maybe Oh! I never thought about it. Would you put up with "Well it's good enough" or "Just good enough" when you're engaging the services of others? Hmmmm I think not Yet you may accept it when you do things for yourself or others. What would you think if this was the standard that you or a significant other brought to your relationship? Now here's a musing - what would it be like if you were to Strive to be your best in everything you do? How would that affect your career? Your relationships? Be the example to others? you fill in the blanks. It's a simple concept (In simplicity there is genius) not difficult to do and it only takes the will to do whatever it takes and you have that in abundance. Please share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-306-striving Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or em

The Wrong Way To Success   Maybe when we look at how to be successful we have so many ways to choose but we have to prepare for it. Are there only the right ways? Hmmm, let's have a think about that. I love sharing a process created by an NLP wizard called Robert Dilts and it makes so much sense, well to me it does. It's called the Logical Levels, I'll briefly tell you about it. It is soo important to me because it helps me with every client I work with. But and I don't often like a but I got to thinking, maybe if we turn it on its head, got a little counter-intuitive we might be able to use it as the basis of creating success. If you listen often you may remember the podcast where we talked about having a retreat to work on ourselves well this can be linked to that too, in fact, it could apply to so many things you work on or plan to do. It's simple, and we like simples, and like anything you want to have a great result it does take effort, maybe 'the will to do whatever it takes' this will be a foundation o

Five Minutes Is All You Need This is literally 5 minutes long and is the epitome of the Five Minute Quickie podcast I simply want to remind you of something so simple yet so beneficial Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-305-five-minutes-is-all-you-need What are you caused to remember and will begin again and create a wonderfully rewarding ritual? Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie Why not look for me and the podcast on > SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q

Digging through S**T Firstly apologies but I have a little swear in this. Why? - Because I get and have gotten so cross at something I heard and hear too often by people who should know better. It's a well-known fact that people of influence can affect people's beliefs and therefore have a responsibility for what they say. In short: Change can be quick and comfortable if you want it to be - Maybe they didn't! Please share if it's okay to do so  :O) https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/digging-through-st/ Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie Why not look for m

Help Me! - Help Me! Two words we seldom say or ask and if we did our world would change. Are we too proud to ask? or would that be a sign of weakness to show others I'm not coping. Sometimes we can shout out these words but we're shouting in a whisper with our internal voice. You see whilst we think we can find the answer, and sometimes we try to fool ourselves but you have to be in a different state that the problem state to find the answer. That's why you/I need that help. Maybe if you haven't someone to ask and that would never let you off the hook or use an excuse there's always a way. I'll tell you about my friend Phil who helped me and from my experiences working with people who have gone through that invisible barrier they were hiding behind and have taken the responsibility to seek help. When they do that the change can be so quick and comfortable. that change ripples through every context of their lives. Come with me and dive into two types of needing help and how to get it and overcome that anxiety

I Can't Do This from the Clough Bus Whoooo! It's so hot and I don't think I can do this! What are you a little bit good at? Have a think and as you do remember how good you were when you started learning that? Probably pretty useless, in fact, before that, you didn't even know you were pretty useless. Would this be important to you? Let me go through the 4 stages of learning and how to get that positive identity belief that when you get it - Nothing can stop you - You will become unstoppable. If you think that would be important to you then come with me and press play >> And it's a little experiment I didn't think I could do and I'd love what you think of the quality of this episode, please email me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Oh! and while you're hear :O) please pay this forward by sharing this podcast https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-304-i-cant-do-this-from-the-clough-bus And make sure you're subscribed on the platform of your choice Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can

What Are They Thinking About Me What we perceive we believe We all, yes this is a true generalization, think or have thought people have been talking or thinking about us and it's not positive in fact we perceive it to be very negative. And this is a great skill to have - WHAT!!!!!! Yes, the skill, not the way we presently use it to make us feel bad. It had it's purpose back in the day of cavemen and cavewomen but no longer does what it was set out to do And if you come with me I'll give you some examples and one more personal to me. I  won't stop there because I'll show you how to use this skill for good and also how to stop the old way of feeling bad. Now that's got to be a deal maker - for sure! All you have to is press play > and pay this forward (to all your friends) https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/what_are_they_thinking_about_me I really hope this makes a big difference to you if you suffer from these thoughts Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questio

Get Out Of Dem Ole PJ's They'll weigh you down If you find this offensive Hmmmmm..... You might want to stop........... and Muse You may think I've gone into an old fuddee duddee age but I know it needs saying. These things are an anchor and will weigh you down and I'm only trying to protect you from stagnicity, and yes that's a word - I word I just made up. They say "if you want to get a head get a hat" and that hat is the 'Act as If' hat that doesn't look good with your PJ's. This is becoming the new normal and you have to make it yours and take advantage of what others are doing that you can be different. Yup! This is all very vague and that means you have to press play and come with me and If you want to help your friends share this: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-303-get-out-of-dem-ole-pjs/ See you on the other side of the duvet Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please

The Art Of Self Sabotage Or How to succeed We've all done it, we all do it still - Some wear it as a badge of honour. So I figured it was time to explore this wonderful art of not completing and feeling disappointed in our selves or worse. I know you want to succeed and grow and feel confident and competent and everything else that comes from doing and actually completing something worthwhile. Overcoming a few difficulties on the way to success and let that success spread to other areas/contexts in your life. That's why I felt it so important to dive again with you and find a solution and that's what I've done. All you have to do is come with me on the auditory roller coaster and you will learn the art of success And all I ask is that you share this episode and send a little feedback https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/196-the-art-of-self-sabotage/ email to feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedb

One Affirmation That Works I have an issue with affirmations especially the ones that don't reflect what you really think. Let me give you an example: I'm Happy I'm Happy  I'm Happy I'm Happy I'm Happy but the thing is I'm not I just wish I were, in fact, it's so far away from how I feel it's making me feel worse. And that's the point I have real difficulties with as I believe like this it sets up a conflict between your conscious mind and your unconscious mind. What I believe is, first deal with the cause of your unhappiness and then apply yourself to find happiness - Simples. But and yes I don't like buts either so And I have an affirmation that really does work. Have a good listen and use it and see, hear, and feel how good it works. As usual, please share this episode and all the rest to everyone you know and even those you don't :O) https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-302-one-affirmation-that-works/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests

Wakey! Wakey! - It's Time To Wake Up Have you ever had the experience of driving with your windscreen misted up or your glasses misted and everything is just a little blurry? And then seeing things clearer as that mist begins to ever so slowly disappear? Now more than ever, I feel we are living our lives looking through those distorted, misty lense. We've always, in this adventure of your personal development, been in this continuum of waking up, shaking off limiting beliefs, letting go of negative emotions, and little by little improving us, who we really are, and being made harder by what life is throwing at us right now. So it's time! To do something about this and I think I've got te answer. It's not a new answer but it is one that works! The answer here has a number of variations so you can adapt them to your own circumstances and begin to see the world, your world more brightly, hear more clearly and feel more intensely. How? Simply press the play button and come with me :O)   Then Share: https://perso