Simply Abundant Intuitive

No matter how digitally connected we are, loneliness is rampant. Our phones (and computers, tablets, TVs, etc.) are master distraction devices. How often do you scroll through your phone while sitting across from another human? Or while on a Zoom call? Or while on your computer with the TV buzzing in the background? What happened to focusing on one thing or one person with our undivided attention? If your focus is scattered and you are half in/half out, you’re not really anywhere. You feel disconnected. This creates a vicious cycle of needing attention or something to make you feel less lonely, which you seek through these connection tools, only to have your energy sucked dry by not being present. Distraction becomes a form of self-containment, causing loneliness. In this week’s episode we’ll look at why we use technology to distract ourselves, and the cost to our emotional health. We’ll also explore what to do when feeling compelled to pick up your phone. Much of this behavior is on autopilot, so simply bec

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of choosing yourself, deciding how you want to feel, how to tell when to stay or when to go. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

You think it’s fate. The “meant-to-be-together” signs are there, and you can’t wait to live happily ever after. But then the relationship you were betting on falls apart or evaporates into thin air. Why is the universe screwing you over AGAIN? You were doing everything right, believing you were being led in the right direction. The universe must be out to get you, wanting you to suffer. Maybe it’s seeking revenge for something horrible you did. Or it sees your fatal flaw and is saving you from revealing it. It is conspiring against your happiness. Just like the other conspiracy theories out there, yours doesn’t hold much weight in reality. You think your doomed love life is happening TO you, not BECAUSE of you. But guess what? The universe isn’t controlling your love life… you are. Instead of looking at the universe as the enemy, look at how you are the one conspiring against yourself. How are you sabotaging your relationships? If you want to attract healthier partners, look at who you currently attract and

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of dealing with a dismissive person, having a crush on a stranger, and worrying about screwing up a new relationship. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

Bela Gandhi was hit with her matchmaking intuition when she was a senior in college. While chatting with a guy at a party, she experienced a very strong feeling and blurted out, “You’re going to marry my roommate.” She set them up, and today they are married with three kids. But Bela’s path took a turn before she parlayed her dating intuition into a career. Using her degrees in Finance and German, Bela worked for 12 years as an executive at her family’s multinational corporation. She was successful, but her heart started tugging at her to start her own business. Three years of anxiety and fear of failure ensued before Bela started the Smart Dating Academy in 2009. Her first order of business was translating her matchmaking intuition into a process—the same process she used to meet her husband (they have been married more than 20 years and have two kids). “If you find yourself with heavy butterflies in your stomach, it’s your gut telling you to get the hell out!” –Bela Gandhi What’s Bela’s dating philosophy?

Have you ever tried to manufacture a fairy tale? In it, you dream of being rescued by your prince or princess. It’s a fantasy love story that you play out in real life, except he/she is more like a villain in a thriller novel or the antagonist of a dark comedy. But no matter… you’ll endure the pain you’re in while telling yourself you’re living in a fairy tale. Playing the victim feels safe and comforting, but of course you don’t really see your character as a victim because your need to cling to a fantasy is stronger than your willingness to see reality. Fantasies are created when you can’t handle your own feelings of disappointment, shame, rejection, etc. It’s a way of avoiding reality, but it comes at a price: pain. And it is a pain you are choosing. You may not even notice, however, because you have grown accustomed to it. In this week’s episode you’ll learn how to be your own rescuer so you can rewrite your story into something that matches reality. And guess what? You can still have your happy ending!

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of feeling like an outcast, feeling lost without your partner, and self-responsibility. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

How often do your edit yourself in a relationship so you won’t be kicked to the curb? You’re afraid of asking for what you need, or expressing how you feel because you’re afraid it will be too much to handle. You imagine your mate looking at you like a crazy person, then turning around and leaving. Or, if they stay, you think they will totally shut down and you will feel alone. If you have found yourself in this situation, why are you so focused on the other person’s reaction, trying to anticipate what they might do, rather than looking inside at your own feelings? Why does he/she matter more than you do? When you walk on eggshells and accept breadcrumbs for fear of being abandoned, you are disowning parts of yourself. Anger and resentment often build up because your “perfect” behavior isn’t being recognized and appreciated. It’s like looking for water in a desert; you will never find a healthy relationship this way. In this episode, we’ll look at these self-defeating actions and why you choose them instead

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of detaching from a long-distance relationship, onesided relationships, and oversharing. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

Monica Berg was a precocious kid, having tea parties with God at the age of three. As she grew up, she lost that spiritual connection, until she found the kabbalah at age 17 and reconnected with that part of herself. She saw people around her chasing happiness and not finding it, so she looked to the kabbalah for guidance down a different path. On her journey, Monica discovered the importance of emotions, and how they are here to tell us something about ourselves. Emotions are also a form of energy that can be transformed into strength, which she drew upon during the most challenging events in her life: an uncle being diagnosed with schizophrenia, an eating disorder, and a son with Down’s Syndrome. The day she looked in the mirror and saw the skeleton she had become, realizing what she had done to herself, Monica started journaling about her shame and disappointment. Being kind to herself followed. When her son was born, she decided to lean all the way into embracing the unknown. She chose a proactive life i

This podcast title came from a meme that really resonated with me, “Never beg to be loved.” While it may not sound like something you would do, I see it quite often in insecurely attached relationships (it never happens in healthy relationships). Begging to be loved results from feeling misunderstood or not properly seen, and being so invested in the relationship that you need your partner to be in the same place you are. Your world revolves around him/her, and you’re terrified of not finding that again with someone else. The feeling is desperate and painful; like you might die if your partner leaves. And on top of your fear of loss is a big ol’ layer of shame. If anyone knew how you were acting in order to keep your partner, you would die all over again. This also happens a lot with break-ups. Your partner says it’s over, which sends you into a tail spin. You beg him/her to stay because when you look at the future, all you see is pain. The only thing you believe will ease that pain is to convince your partn

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of judging family for their actions, having anxiety in a new relationship, and feeling insecure when your partner meets friends. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

I used to dim my light in relationships, believing I was too much: too strong, too masculine, too overbearing, too intimidating. It all went back to childhood, as these negative beliefs usually do. Instead of being myself, I tried to exude who I thought I needed to be. Not too much, not too little… jussssst right. Like Goldilocks. What an exhausting dance, not to mention inauthentic. Even with all that effort, I never did feel like I could get it right. But the point isn’t to get it “right.” The point is to connect with someone who thinks you are awesome exactly as you are. Your perceived flaws or “too muchness” is what someone else will be drawn to. Overcompensating for what you fear is too much (or even too little) stems from a fear of rejection. And it’s old. If your mom or dad used to say, “No one will like you if you do X,” or “You’re too much—who will ever be able to handle that?” it sticks with you. It can erode your sense of value so you start to believe that who you are is unlovable. But walking on

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of fear of loss, the drama triangle, and choosing against yourself. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

Melanie Tonia Evans had done a lot of personal development work, believing she had things figured out. It wasn’t until she married a narcissist, and had a subsequent psychotic break, that she was confronted with everything she hadn’t healed within herself. She thought he was the love of her life when they met—his delightful qualities making up for the lies, violence and other red flags she dismissed as outliers. Eventually, this smart, self-aware woman was hooked. He was her heroin addiction, and after about five years of marriage, she hit bottom. Suicidal and weighing less than 80 lbs., Melanie suffered a psychotic adrenal breakdown that she was told she would never fully recover from. Doctors said she would need three anti-psychotic drugs just to function. “You can’t think your way out of extreme trauma.” –Melanie Tonia Evans In this episode of “Moving On,” you’ll learn about the blinding clarity Melanie experienced shortly after her breakdown, where she saw her husband as a mirror for everything she had

Change is hard no matter how you look at it, but your perception of change adds another layer. This often happens when you complain about someone, believing they need to do things differently. “Why do they always do X?!” or “Why don’t they stop doing X?” There is no room for them to be themselves and make their own choices. It can also happen the other way. Maybe someone in your life changed and you don’t like it. You swear they are wrong or bad, and you want them to go back to the way they were. In your mind, your perception is the only way. You can’t let go or accept anything different. But why do you personalize someone else’s actions, and feel the need to judge them? When you label someone’s lack of change (or their new way of doing things) as good or bad, you’re attaching your own story to it. You are not responsible for someone else’s path, and you can’t control what they do or don’t do. Sure it can be frustrating when people don’t do what you want, but instead of shaming them for being “wrong,” turn t

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of toxic people, intellectualizing your feelings, developing a sense of belonging. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

How often do you look back on decisions and cringe? It could be a relationship where your partner cheated on you, but you decided to stay. Then they did it again and you still stayed! Or it could be how you used to punish people for not living up to your perfectionist expectations. Most of us have regrets of some sort. This is especially true if you are working on yourself because the person you are becoming is much more aware than the person you used to be. And that’s a good thing! Your past choices aren’t the problem—it’s how you berate yourself now for what you did back then. You may even wonder how someone who made so many bad decisions could ever deserve happiness. This is a prison you build for yourself, which only serves to rob you of happiness. When you look back with regret and catch yourself saying, “How could I be so stupid?” or “What was WRONG with me?” take a step back and ask yourself how you felt back then. How much did you value yourself? Regret usually comes from a place of lack—lack of self

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of lifelong healthy relationships, love vs. attachment, and coping after a breakup. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

Zahara has lived many lifetimes in her life. She was an elite martial artist at a young age until she had to have a spinal fusion surgery at 13. Despite being told she wouldn't come back, she did. She trained until she could walk, waled until she could run, run until she could kick, and trained to go to the Olympics until she was in her 20s. A double kidney infection took her out of the sport, and she had to shed her identity as an elite martial artist. She became the executive director of marketing for one of the biggest baseball agencies when she was 25. She let that job go after she discovered her passion for facilitating groups and holding space for people. She's been helping people finding what they're passionate about since then. Here's what we talked about: -Her elite martial artist journey -Her many death processes she has experienced in her life -How she became addicted to prescription drugs -Finding something to be passionate about in the darkest moment -Struggling with co-dependency -Rebirthing fr