Divorce Source Radio

In this week’s podcast, Stacy talks with New York Divorce attorney Chaim Steinberger - a passionate believer in “divorce without destruction”, as he shares his unique perspective on how women can find the right lawyer to represent them. Chaim went through his own rather nasty divorce and said to himself, “There’s got to be a better way!”   Finding an attorney who truly cares about you, fully understands your story, and is driven to bring you justice is just some of the useful advice Chaim shares during the show. You’ll also learn: Why a win/win,“Game Theory” approach to divorce is preferable to a zero sum game strategy [2:46] The four most important factors women should consider when choosing a divorce attorney [6:53] How there seems to be a disconnect between what women really want from a divorce attorney vs. what attorneys think they want [12:10] Why the best lawyers not only listen to their clients’ divorce stories, but fully understand the subtext of their story. [17:40] Why the single greatest determina

This week on Financially Ever After, Stacy is joined by “The Divorcierge,” Karen Bigman. Karen’s background includes both an M.B.A. and Divorce and Life Coach training, making her a powerful source of practical and tactical divorce advice. In addition, Karen also brings personal pre- and post- divorce experience to her work. In this conversation, she shares lessons learned in working with the wrong financial advisor, and how women facing divorce can find the right financial advisor for them. Some of the highlights Karen offers include: The clues that her financial advisor didn’t understand her lifestyle and her plans for her financial future, and wasn’t really hearing her.  [7:20] How a lack of transparency around fees, taxes and portfolio makeup affected her income expectations. [10:55] The importance of asking the right questions when interviewing a financial advisor (see link below for a list of questions provided by Francis Financial) [17:05] Why choosing your advisor based solely on a friend’s recommend

As a Master Money Coach for professional women, Carrie is living her passion to empower women with the skills and knowledge to save and build wealth. As she so brilliantly states it, “With wealth, women gain an equal vote in the world, build security and control and have choices about how they want to live.” Listen in as Carrie shares some incredible insights regarding the deep and complex relationship between emotions and money behaviors, and learn: How Carrie’s work as a money coach differs from that of a financial adviser: Dealing with the money emotions that drive money behaviors [4:50] Why so many professional women are earning real money but are not acquiring real wealth (hint: It’s not their fault!), and how so many layers of societal “stuff” get between women and money. [9:00] How being “selfish” with money is an act of self-care. [14:30] Why taking the time to fill out a happiness chart is the first, and possibly the most important step on the road to financial empowerment, and how comparison destro

This week, Stacy is joined by Barbara Huson, a leading authority on the connection between women, wealth, and power. Along with being an experienced financial coach and speaker, Barbara has published 6 books, applying the wisdom she gained in her journey through 2 divorces, to empower millions of women. Her ultimate goal is to help individuals live up to their financial and personal potential, in spite of the challenging experience of divorce, and she offers personal stories and tips to help and inspire others to succeed. In this episode, you will learn about: What inspired Barbara to help women get savvy about money (3:08) How to key into the spiritual side of money (6:01) The three levels of financial development to create wealth (12:25) The relationship between money, gender, self-worth, and social change (13:19) Myths about money and how to create a new mindset (17:29) How to identify and change your ideas of gender roles around money (20:20) Getting in touch with your emotions (22:14) Support groups and

Matrimonial attorneys, Linda Decorato and Bryan Goldstein, share the top tips you need to know to get on top of your financial picture, without arousing the suspicion of your husband, before you file for divorce and while you are still under the same roof. Linda and Bryan tell real-life stories of women who went from being financially clueless to financially smart, making great decisions that led to their long-term financial security. In this episode, you will learn: How to cope with emotional pain, and realize it is not permanent (6:34) Why it’s better for your children to see strong mothers who make the decision to leave an unhealthy relationship (12:00) The difference between going through divorce when you’re involved and not involved in your finances (15:10) Why you need to be financially aware, so his debts and his fraud don’t become yours (17:45) How to protect yourself, as a non-working woman, with your own account and build your savings (20:00) When the innocent spouse rule doesn’t apply (24:45) If i

This week, Stacy is joined by Sallie Mullins Thompson, a CPA who has been through the divorce process, herself. Sallie focuses on the importance of being financially independent for a healthy marriage, as well as for a healthy divorce, should it come to that.  Becoming financially independent, like coming to the decision to end one’s marriage, is not a transition that happens overnight - both require a tremendous amount of time and preparation, financially and emotionally. In this episode, you will hear about: How Sallie realized the importance of being financially independent (03:21) Her process of becoming aware of spending and educating herself in finance (05:52) Planning the transition to divorce (08:46) How Sallie overcame the fear of leaving her marriage (15:44) Tips to become financially independent, and when to work with a financial advisor (21:22) Resources for experienced CDFAs  Sallie Thompson | W: www.smtcpapllc.com   P: (212) 243-9126 E: smt@wt.net Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P:

This week, Stacy is joined by divorce and family mediator, Rachel Green. Rachel focusses on the importance of communication not only for a happy marriage, but also for a happy divorce. Mediation is a process for resolving disputes by which an independent mediator assists the parties in reaching a mutually satisfactory settlement. It is an extension of the parties’ own negotiations and is sometimes referred to as a "supercharged negotiation." In this episode, you will gain insight on:  Couples who lack communication in the mediation process (05:00) incorporating your attorney in mediation (16:39) Three ways to know if mediation is right for you (19:44) How Rachel mediates cases when one of the spouses has been a victim of domestic violence (23:52) What ‘Shuttle diplomacy’ means (28:33) Some of the mistakes Rachel sees women make as they go through the divorce process (34:48) Rachel Green | W: www.mediate2resolution.com/  P: 718- 965-9236 E: Rachel@mediate2resolution.com Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancia

This week, Stacy is joined by the financial editor of NBC’s TODAY show, owner of DailyWorth, AARP’s personal finance ambassador and host of the podcast HerMoney, Jean Chatzky. In this episode, Stacy dives deeper into Jean’s book, ‘Age Proof’ to focus on the importance of what women can do to achieve both financial independence and biological strength to get you there. In this episode, you will receive answers to the following questions: As a financial expert, did Jean deal with all the finances in her marriage? What are her top tips? – (05:26) How does Jean pick the best investments and manage her finances? (12:05) What is the link between health and wealth? Jean explains how you can secure both. (14:20) What is a Health Savings Account? Do you need one? (17:58) What are the best options for health insurance plans for newly divorced women? (23:34) What are some words of wisdom for divorced women who want to stay financially and physically fit? (28:23) Sign up for Daily Worth’s Newsletter, helping women earn

This week, Stacy is joined by experienced seasoned litigator and matrimonial attorney, Richard Adago. Gray divorces have become increasingly common and Richard has come across numerous cases, both amicable and uncordial. In this episode, Richard provides an insight into the legal aspects of how to deal with an unexpected broken marriage and specifically when adult children are involved. In this episode you will gain insight on:  Why there is an increase in gray divorces (03:00) How a gray divorce is different to a younger couple getting divorced (07:31) Client stories about being financially in the dark (09:38) What is not allowed in a marriage when fishing for financial information (15:37) Tips on how to legally disclose your husband’s financial information (17:58) What Richard’s financial story is (19:32) When mediation is the right route to take (26:19) When interviewing lawyers, how to know who is going to protect you from yourself (30:27) Richard Adago | W: www.phillipsnizer.com/ P: 212-841-0541  E:rad

This week, Stacy is joined by Michelle Lisa Anderson, speaker, Author and CCO of movement ‘Love over Addiction.’ Michelle shares her personal story of divorcing a man who suffered from drug and alcohol addiction. She also opens up about the details behind her dysfunctional marriage, which she kept hidden, and how she opened the door to happiness. She emphasizes the importance of loving ourselves for the people we are today and not the people we are trying to become tomorrow. In this episode you will gain insight on: How to support a friend or family member who is going through a dysfunctional marriage (07:43) Why we so frequently pursue those who can't love us in the way we need (12:04) How to prevent this from this happening again (18:42) How to know when to leave (22:44) How to know whether your situation is ‘normal’ (29:29) Where to receive emotional support during a transition (34:04) Those interested in receiving Michelle’s Free 12 Tips Every Woman & Mother Need to Know When Loving Someone Who Drin

This week, Stacy is joined by Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, and budget coach, Michelle Jacobik. Her financial solutions and support programs have helped numerous women rebuild their financial life before, during and after divorce. In this episode, Michelle provides an insight into being financially prepared for such a drastic transition and what to avoid during this difficult time from both a personal and professional aspect of divorce.  In this episode, you will gain insight into:   What a budget coach does (4:11) How Michelle got into the budgeting industry (7:04) What financial consistency means (9:49) How Michelle brought stability to her finances (14:30) What prosperity after divorce means (20:06) What tools make budgeting and recording your spending easier (22:30) Useful resources for budgeting (28:19) How to prepare yourself for your post-divorce financial situation (33:00)   Michelle Jacobik | W: https://michellejacobik.com/  P: 860-334-1351 E: michelle@michellejacobik.com Stacy Francis | W:

This week Stacy is joined by Christine Barranca, who shares her courageous divorce story. Christine was in the middle of an unhealthy marriage, and at the same time she was also dealing with a career change, and battling cancer. Stacy and Christine discuss the challenges of feeling trapped in a marriage, and how she ultimately succeeded in leaving. Christine is now thriving, and enjoys spending time with her son's family, friends, reading historical novels, mentoring junior agents in her real estate work, and supporting and guiding women diagnosed with breast cancer. In this episode, you will hear answers to the following: What were some changes during and after the divorce? (2:56) How did you gain the courage to say “this is not how I want to continue living my life?” (4:24) How did you keep a strong bond with your children throughout this process? (9:50) How was your life going to change financially? (12:17)  What did you do when he withdrew all the money from the joint accounts? (16:59) How did you know t

This week, Stacy is joined by Kathleen Burns Kingsbury, a wealth psychology expert, founder of KBK Wealth Connection, host of the Breaking Money Silence® podcast, and an internationally published author and speaker. In this episode, Kathleen highlights how important it is to have regular financial conversations with your partner and that research has shown it increases intimacy in relationships. Kathleen holds an interest in financial psychology, background in banking and drive to empower people to take control of their financial lives. This episode is filled with insightful secrets on how to make good financial decisions when going through divorce. You will gain insight on: What gave Kathleen the courage to not make the money conversation taboo (03:38) The difference between men talking/not talking about money compared to women (05:37) If finances have anything to do with the fact that 50% of first marriages end in divorce (06:58) Why couples try to hide finances from their spouse (08:16) What happens when

Your relationship, what you do with it and how you look after it should never be taken lightly.  This is especially true after discovering infidelity and when choosing the right therapist is critical.  Finding a therapist who is  knowledgeable about infidelity, who is a good fit for you and who believes in what you want to achieve through the therapeutic process is critical.  David Feder says that “ an important predictor of a positive outcome in therapy is the fit between the therapist and the client and to this end clients should interview a therapist before beginning therapy.”  In this episode of BEYOND INFIDELITY David talks about:               Why it is important to find the right therapist? Asking the therapist about their experience in treating infidelity? Asking whether the therapist has personal been impacted by an affair and how their experience may affect treatment? Whether it is OK to ask the therapist about the model they use to treat infidelity? and Asking the therapist about what they conside

Your spouse or partner had or is having an affair and your reaction is a cocktail of emotions that probably includes a combination of shock, rage, disbelief, anger, sadness and fear.  However, you might also be blaming yourself.  Logically, you know that you can’t be responsible for a choice you did not make but emotionally you believe that somehow it was your fault.  Instead of sending yourself good messages, your mantra is now, “I must not have been enough” and “if I would only have…”.  You become powerless and a victim. This podcast is about taking back your power.  This podcast is about getting unstuck and not being a victim.  This podcast is about taking back control of your life so you can heal and move on. For more on David, visit www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com.

This week, Stacy is joined by matrimonial attorneys and Certified Divorce Financial Analysts, Lisa Zeiderman and Faith Miller. It was their own difficult divorces that their path to a career in matrimonial law was forged. They recognize that organization, responsiveness and knowledge of complex finances is necessary in order to best advocate for their clients. In this episode, Stacy, Lisa and Faith focus on the financial, real estate and emotional assistance a matrimonial attorney provides. You will gain insight on:   ü  Postponing getting divorced until a maintenance alimony is not taxable to you (05:07) ü  Poor financial mistakes being made regardless of guidance (07:56) ü  Reassuring your child in a non-expensive way (11:40) ü  What not to put in your joint account (15:54) ü  The difference between passive appreciation and active appreciation (19:42) ü  How finances are different from your parents’ generation (23:25) ü  Prenups and Postnups (42:05)   Lisa Zeiderman | W: https://mzwnylaw.com/  P: 212

Affair expert, David Feder interviews a "hurt" partner of an affair in this three part series.  Affairs are never easy.  In this episode we hear from on of Davids clients as she bravely discusses the details of her husband's affair. For more on David visit: www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com.

This week, Stacy is joined by Joy Loverde, a consultant on active aging and the elder-care industry. She’s the author of, “Who Will Take Care of Me When I’m Old” and “The Complete Eldercare Planner.” It’s important to think about what you can be doing to age as active and happy as possible.   In this episode, Joy highlights how important it is to have an insurance policy that will allow you to remain independent. In order to support family, women are constantly putting their own financial well-being in jeopardy. What you may fail to realize is if you can’t take care of yourself, you won’t be able to take care of those dependent on you. You will gain insight on:   What to put in a long-term plan (05:18) Medicare (05:55) Insurance policies for long-term care and what isn’t covered in Medicare (12:20) Spousal discount on your long-term care (12:20) Community and Caring (16:55) Joy Loverde | W: www.elderindustry.com  E: jloverde@elderindustry.com   Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-900

This week Stacy is joined by successful business woman, Jenny Powers. Jenny married her childhood sweetheart and then found herself filing for divorce, mainly due to issues around money.   When Jenny’s divorce attorney asked her basic questions related to her financial situation and she realized she couldn’t answer them, she decided things needed to change. Jenny is someone who has learned from her mistakes and is now happily re-married and having smart money conversations with her husband.   In this episode, Stacy and Jenny will share helpful tips on how to have the money conversation with your partner. Jenny shares her insight on all of the below questions:   Do you feel like your ex-husband had a handle on the household finances? (04:34) Do you feel that the lack of conversation about money led to your decision about the divorce? (06:29) How long did your divorce take? (08:46) How did you choose a lawyer? (11:12) How did you manage to support yourself afterwards? (12:36) What did you take away f

This week Stacy is joined by successful business woman, Lara Kisielewska. You will gain insight on a whole new, cheaper and quicker approach to divorce. Do It Yourself (DYI) is a technique that eliminates the need to hire outside professionals, making the process extremely cost-effective. Lara met her current husband on a volunteer trip and highly recommends volunteer based travel as one of the best things you can do when you find yourself in a rut. She claims, “you may not find a husband, but you're definitely going to break your patterns, get a new perspective and heal in some ways large and small.”   In this episode, we will focus on:   ü  When you should use a DIY approach (04:42) ü  Where to get a DIY guidebook (11:16) ü  Who is the DIY approach most suitable for? (12:45) ü  How does having children impact this decision? (18:34) ü  Tips and tricks when going through divorce (29:55)   Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-9008 E: stacy@francisfinancial.com