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While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true.  Today’s session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman’s journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared.   Tune in as she shares the struggles she faced with her narcissistic ex, and how while he never changed, she changed so much that she rarely feels anxiety around interactions with him.  Elle shares how she is living a peaceful and joyful life in spite of the fact that she has been divorced for 8 years, co-parenting / parallel parenting her school age child with his dad (and has many years left to go before her child is emancipated).  Elle shares specific tools and strategies she received from coaching that you too can use to minimize the stress and tension in your situation.   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidre

The psychological impact of living with a HCP crushes your self esteem often leaving you, the spouse insecure, reactive and bitter.  Dr. Gayle Reed shares how forgiveness is a healing balm for the spouse of the HCP.  She explains the traumatic impact of verbal and emotional abuse and the psychological defenses you use to manage the resulting anger, pain and confusion.     While forgiveness seems to be for the HCP, it is actually for you, the spouse. Forgiveness is not condoning, accepting, excusing or denying the abuse.  Gayle takes us through a 4 phase process that helps you to uncover the impact of unforgiveness, examine the benefits of choosing forgiveness, begin the journey to forgive and the healing that journey invites and ultimately, how forgiveness, healing and growth is the cornerstone for finding meaning in the struggle with the HCP.   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

Today’s episode is dedicated to your healing journey. Those of us who marry HCPs have our part in the dysfunction as we discussed in episode 2 -  Divorcing A Narcissist: The Personality Disorders and Dysfunctional Dance of High Conflict Marriages.    We are excited to have Ross Rosenberg with us again today to share deeply effective strategies for healing from codependency, a self love deficiency disorder.  Ross speaks passionately about how vital it is to heal trauma from childhood to gain the self love that was ‘robbed’ from your childhood.     As the spouse of the HCP, the promise for your future lies in keeping the focus on your healing and in changing behaviors that have not benefited you.  If you struggle with this,we are here to support you.   Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit:  www.jbddivorcesupport.com

As we began discussing in our last episode, communicating with a high conflict personality (HCP) is often frustrating and fruitless, and leaves us feeling angry, exhausted and unheard.   Today’s episode offers a unique and powerful approach to communicating with a narcissist that enables you to protect your interests without conflict or drama! This strategy neutralizes combative and emotionally charged power struggles and inspires the narcissist to cooperate. (Get ready to take notes!)   Special guest Lindsey Ellison, is the author of Magic Words, a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching.  As a result of struggling to communicate with her narcissist ex-spouse and support her clients to do the same with theirs, Lindsey brilliantly applied her experience from her previous marketing career to design a simple yet powerful 5 step strategy to get you what you want from a narcissist.    Need support? Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at  www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond

Today’s powerful episode gives you the strategies and tools needed to communicate more effectively with your spouse’s high conflict personality.  You have been struggling with criticism, deflection, blaming and black and white thinking.  You have doubted your own version of reality, lost your self esteem and tried time and again to reason with your spouse to no end.  What you didn’t know was that communicating with a HCP requires a very different approach.   HCPs do not respond to logic.  Their brains are wired differently which is why your reasoning was fuel to the fire of conflict you were trying to put out.  You continually get hooked into his/her reality, react is frustration or discouragement with nothing changing   Today’s guests, Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle are experts in high conflict disputes and explain why your reasoning approach has not worked and what you need to do to communicate more effectively with the HCP in your life.  Learn about the EAR and BIFF approaches that will forever change

You kids have been experiencing conflict throughout the marriage, even if you think you have ‘hidden’ it from them.  Now that a decision has been made to divorce, tensions will only rise. It is all the more important to focus on protecting your children now while navigating a high conflict divorce.     Deciding when, how and what to tell the kids about the divorce is just the beginning.  Figuring out how to parent in the ‘in between’ while still living together is another sensitive topic that needs to be handled carefully.  Then there is the possibility that you or your spouse may blame, criticize or bad mouth the other to the kids. This is always harmful to them and we discuss what you can do to minimize the damage.    Finally, the money earning parent may want to increase his/her time with the children. We discuss the importance of honoring and maintaining as much ‘normalcy’ as possible for your kids and handling any change with caution and clear communication, so they understand what is happening and why. 

You kids have been experiencing conflict throughout the marriage, even if you think you have ‘hidden’ it from them.  Now that a decision has been made to divorce, tensions will only rise. It is all the more important to focus on protecting your children now while navigating a high conflict divorce.     Deciding when, how and what to tell the kids about the divorce is just the beginning.  Figuring out how to parent in the ‘in between’ while still living together is another sensitive topic that needs to be handled carefully.  Then there is the possibility that you or your spouse may blame, criticize or bad mouth the other to the kids. This is always harmful to them and we discuss what you can do to minimize the damage.    Finally, the money earning parent may want to increase his/her time with the children. We discuss the importance of honoring and maintaining as much ‘normalcy’ as possible for your kids and handling any change with caution and clear communication, so they understand what is happening and why. 

Entering the legal process of any divorce feels frightening and overwhelming.  For those entering high conflict divorce, the fear and confusion is escalated due to years of living in a dysfunctional marriage and the complexities involved when divorcing a high conflict personality.   There is often a greater need to be in the court system due to the power imbalance in the relationship, the lack of transparency of one spouse, and the intimidation and bullying that repeatedly derails negotiations.  For the high conflict divorce, it can be enormously valuable to take advantage of the court’s ability to control the pace of the legal process, require a net worth statement and other financial documentation and include additional experts to help with custody and spousal support and asset distribution. Today’s episode is filled with vital information on how to hire the right attorney, what to expect throughout the process,  the do’s and don’ts of communicating with your high conflict spouse and the vital importance of

Living with a narcissist is ‘crazy making’.  Understanding your role in the ongoing insanity is vital in order to create lasting change. In order to navigate your divorce effectively and strategically and emerge confident and renewed, it is essential that you keep your focus on that which you have power over...your thoughts, feelings and behavior. Today’s episode invites you into a ‘coaching experience’ where we validate your reality of fear and uncertainty, of your self esteem and confidence having been chiseled away in your dysfunctional marriage.  Tune in to access powerful strategies to begin to feel confident and empowered. Learn how futile many of your efforts of engaging with your spouse have been and how to let go of those behaviors. Receive new ways of thinking and being that lead you through your divorce with greater calm and clarity and invite you into a new and immensely more pleasing life experience. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyon

COVID-19 is impacting our lives in many ways. For many of our listeners, this virus is affecting their plans to divorce, or how they might be dealing with a past divorce. Topics in the program include: Filing for divorce during our current Covid-19 situation How to deal with visitation during these times Financial implications of divorce at the current time Could current spousal support orders be modified if your ex's income changes due to loos of work And more Join Steve Peck and attorney, Henry Gornbein for answers to these and other questions regarding the legal side of divorce during the coronavirus outbreak. For questions or comments, write: DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com

If you have lost yourself amidst your marriage with a narcissist, today’s show will reveal and explain much about the insanity you have been living with.  It is vital to understand the traits of the pathological narcissist and your role as a codependent in order to emotionally heal and change behaviors that have kept you stuck in your unhealthy marriage.  Our guest, psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg, coined the name 'Self Love Deficit Disorder' to explain codependency. Ross has invested significant personal and professional attention on understanding codependency, healing himself and helping others heal from codependency or Self Love Deficit Disorder.   In our conversation Ross explains why codependents attract pathological narcissists into their lives, the dysfunctional dance that takes place throughout your relationship and what you need to address in order to heal from your ‘self love deficit’ so that you never attract a narcissist into your life again.  Ross leaves you with a few powerful strategies to break

High conflict personalities drive high conflict divorces. If you have been married to and are divorcing this type of personality, today’s show helps you to understand the traits common to this personality type. You will begin to understand your spouse’s inability to manage his/her emotions, their black and white thinking, extreme behaviors and tendency to blame are common to his/her personality and not about you. Our guest expert, Virginia Gilbert is a family and marriage therapist. She also sheds light on your part in the unhealthy dance of high conflict divorce. Most partners of high conflict personalities are caregivers or codependents, an equally unhealthy role in the relationship dynamic. We discuss the tendency of the codependent to want to change the HCP, keep the peace, be triggered and reactive and take the HCP’s behavior personally. Virginia speaks to the trauma of being married to such a personality and the impact it has on your nervous system and therefore your behavior. Learning to trust yourse

Join Steve and Toni in this week’s episode of Being Single Live from the “D” as they discover what it takes to develop confidence and work your way from Fearful to Fabulous with Author, Confidence Coach and Divorce Recovery expert Fiona Eckersley. On this episode of Being Single: Confidence Coach Fiona Eckersley discusses moving on from a surprise divorce and unlocking personal power Discovering a new normal of personal choices Creating new and positive self-talk How trauma can lead to new perspectives and create new personal experiences How gratitude can create daily satisfaction and positive thoughts Follow our Guest: Website: http://www.FindfabulouswithFiona.com YouTube: Fiona Eckersley Contact: CallfabFiona.as.me   Follow Being Single on Facebook at: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio Instagram: @BeingSingleRadio Contact Us: DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com Bookings:Beingsingleradiotoni@gmail.com

Join Steve and Toni as they continue the journey of understanding and connection with Personal Development Coach and Author, Jonathon Aslay.  On this episode of Being Single: Mid-Life Dating and Relationship Coach Jonathon Aslay discusses self-love Setting intention with online dating profiles The inside scoop on what men really want How women can take the lead when reaching out to men- Be “NICE” Toni learns a lesson on judgment and expectations How silently sending love creates better experiences Follow our Guest: Website: http://www.jonathonaslay.com Twitter: @JonathonAslay Follow us on Facebook at: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio Instagram: @BeingSingleRadio Contact Us: Bookings:Beingsingleradiotoni@gmail.com

Toni and Steve are back with the 1st episode of 2020. Steve and Toni recently decided to start dating after years of knowing each other through hosting this show together. This episode highlights Steve spending Christmas in Chicago and meeting Toni's family, and then traveling back to Detroit for New Years with Toni meeting Steve's family.  Meeting the family of someone you just began dating can be quite interesting, to say the least. Thanks for listening and being part of our Being Single family.  We wish our listeners a healthy and happy New Year!  (Follow us on Facebook at: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio or Instagram at: @BeingSingleRadio.)

The Anatomy of An Affair series with David Feder continues with Being Alone for The Holidays in Episode #7. For many the significance of the Holiday Season is a combination of religious significance, gift-giving and reconnecting with friends and family.  But after an affair, what once seemed easy is now more complicated.  What is the right kind of gift to buy and what message do I want to give are now questions that need to be considered?  While we once looked forward to spending time together this year we worry about how to manage the awkwardness that may exist.  And what about the kids, don’t they deserve to have a good Holiday Season?  This is the time of year when some anticipate the arrival of Santa Claus, they look forward to spending time with parents, extended family and friends and they wonder whether the gift they so desire will be waiting for them. How you spend time is not an all or nothing proposition and it is often best to give each other permission to have some alone time apart from one

Your Divorce Settlement has been negotiated and agreed upon.  Now it is time to step off the divorce battlefield take off your ‘coat of armor’ and begin the task of coparenting post divorce.  The good news is that much of the ongoing stress and tension around the negotiations quickly melts away which provides you with the opportunity to be fully present in attending to your children’s needs. But old habits die hard...so today we are going to highlight some of the most important Coparenting Do’s and Don’ts.  You and your ex were unable to cohabitate.  You have differences that are so extensive that you were unable to mend your marriage.  These differences will undoubltedly show up in how you each parent. The task and challenge in every situation is putting your children before your need to be right or better.  Today’s show intended to help you set yourself on the right path. For more info, visit Journey Beyond Divorce.

As we continue our post divorce series, today is all about you guys!  As you enter your new life chapter, we will guide you on how to refresh and reinvent yourself through style and image. Today’s guest will share tips on how to become your most authentic, magnetic and powerful self. Grab a pen and begin to explore how to hone in on the deeper blocks keeping you from attracting your dream woman! For more info, visit: Journey Beyond Divorce.

Your new life chapter provides an opportunity to reinvent yourself from the inside out.  You have stepped off the ‘battlefield of divorce’ and now is your time!  A time to refresh, renew and decide how you want to present yourself to the world.  It helps to understand what looks best on your body type and how to go through your closet to get rid of those items that don’t make you feel good about yourself.  We look at the new you and how to dress to feel confident, empowered and sexy.     Today’s guest is Diane Pollack is a fashion aficionado with over 20 years in the fashion industry and founder of Stylempower.  Diane educates women to create outfits that make them feel empowered and that enable them to radiate confidence. Listen in as Diane walks us through her client process and shares fun and effective tips for sorting through your wardrobe and creating a look that fits the new you!

Once your divorce is final, you are so relieved for it to finally be over, that it is easy to miss the crucial steps that can only be taken after your divorce is final.  This vital step allows you to secure and protect what you received in the settlement and sets you up for financial stability post divorce.  In today’s show Aviva Pinto helps review everything from closing accounts shared with your ex to retitling your policies, investments and accounts to changing your beneficiaries, drafting a new Will and taking care of your estate planning.  Regardless of the amount of money you are working with, the advice and guidance from today’s guest will enable you to launch into your post divorce life with a sense of financial security and peace of mind. Bronfman E.L. Rothschild, LP is a registered investment advisor (dba Bronfman Rothschild, Bronfman Rothschild Wealth Advisors, and Bronfman Rothschild Plan Advisors). Securities, when offered, are offered through an affiliate, Bronfman E.L. Rothschild Capital, LLC (