Divorce Source Radio

On this episode of DSR from Detroit, Kathey Batey returns to share wisdom on how managing your divorce better can lead to a happier post divorce life.  Kathey is a domestic mediator, author, speaker and corporate trainer on conflict communication. She is the author of the Suddenly Single series. She has worked with hundreds of individuals going through life transitions.  For more on Kathey, visit her website.  

This week, Stacy is joined by attorney, social worker, and founder of DLM Divorce Mediation, Debra Mechanick. Debra clearly understands the clinical dynamic of family relationships, and will advise you on how to take a peaceful approach to separation and divorce. How does one make well-reasoned, logical financial decisions when in the midst of what, arguably, is one of the most emotionally-traumatic experiences a family can go through? In this episode, Stacy and Debra will provide you with tools for approaching the divorce process by separating emotions from rational decisions. You will gain insight on: Three big mistakes women make when rushing through the divorce process (6:29) Understanding new laws (12:31) How to separate emotions from the decision-making process (19:18) Techniques for avoiding unhealthy communication that may influence negotiation (23:10) How to compartmentalize the divorce process into 3 components (28:32) Taking care of yourself (36:41)

Whether you have decided to stay in your marital home or have found a new place to start over, this can be a fun and exciting time.  Our environment has a powerful and profound impact on our emotions and how we feel about our life.  Today’s guest, interior designer Jodi Topitz guides us in our home transformation from We to Me.  She shares fun, easy and inexpensive ways to create spaces that make you ‘feel good and heal good’.  Jodi’s love of color, texture and design is contagious as she takes us room by room sharing best colors to consider, and simple ways to make a space feel bigger, warmer or more inviting.  You certainly don’t have to spend a fortune.  Repurpose your favorite items, add a few colorful throw pillows,  a unique area rug or strategically placed lighting and your home can represent the new you while being a much desired oasis to soothe your spirits post divorce.  Get ready to smile, expand your visionary horizon and begin creating a home that represents the new you! For more on Journey Beyon

Mali List Mayer, a single mother and solopreneur, who has launched her life independently, joins Stacy this week. Mali hones in on the importance of educating yourself financially from a young age. From learning how to budget to choosing the right adviser for you. Stacy and Mali provides savvy tips to get on top of your investments and not rely on your other half for help. In this episode, you will gain insight on: Educating yourself on financial terminology and concepts – 8:17 Choosing the right portfolio and adviser for you – 11:32 Approaching your adviser in the most effective way – 15:23 Understanding how advisers charge – 21:50 Teaching the next generation about your values of money – 28:17 Mali List Mayer, a single mother and solopreneur, who has launched her life independently, joins Stacy this week. Mali hones in on the importance of educating yourself financially from a young age. From learning how to budget to choosing the right adviser for you. Stacy and Mali provides savvy tips to get on top of y

This week Stacy is joined by psychiatrist and author of Fulfilled for a valentine’s day special about finding yourself before you find your soulmate. Fulfilled illustrates how the science of spirituality helps you live a happier, more meaningful life. In this episode Stacy and Anna provide you with real life examples and exercises focusing on four important points during a divorce: relinquishing victim mentality, having faith and giving/offering forgiveness, rising above indecision and owning your thoughts & feelings. You will gain insight on: What made Anna decide to write Fulfilled? (3:03) How to start healing yourself (5:38) The Mirror Principle (6:28) What are some of those tools that women can work through to start to find that nugget that might not be fully ready in themselves? (8:07) Harnessing your personal power (16:05) How do you move beyond feeling like a victim in a divorce? (16:48) Faith and forgiveness (18:29) What would Queen Elizabeth do in this situation? (24:06)   Stacy Francis | W: ww

This week, Stacy is joined by Francis Financial’s very own, Davon Barrett. Davon shares his personal story of growing up in a divorced family and how it’s impacted him today. This powerful episode brings to light a child’s perspective and provides key takeaways for what parents can be conscious of when bringing up their children in a split home. Stacy touches on the following questions:   What worked well with your mom and dad? How did they try and make you feel comfortable at each of the new homes?  (5:30) How did you deal with the compromise and change?  (7:08) Did you notice any differences with regard to money? (11:14) Do you ever find yourself having to make uncomfortable decisions on who to spend time with?  (13:30) Has your parent’s relationship taught you lessons for when you might get married someday?  (30:50)

This week, Stacy and matrimonial attorney, Randi Karmel, dive into the importance of preparing a divorce settlement that incorporates planning for your special needs child’s financial future. Randi shares words of wisdom, pulling from her extensive experience, to ensure you are supporting your child, regardless of potential disagreements in parental decisions.   In this episode, Stacy and Randi focus on cases where divorcing parents must work collaboratively to do what’s in the best interest of the child and find a middle ground, financially. You will gain insight on:   Dealing with contradicting opinions for your child’s treatment (05:10) What expenses need to be planned for (09:46) How to financially care for your adult children with special needs (14:59) Who becomes the trustee during a transition (18:18) (20:20) Randi Karmel | W: www.randikarmel.com  P: 212-755-0224 E: Upon request   Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-9008 E: stacy@francisfinancial.com

Stacy is joined by Publisher and Editor in Chief of The New York Amsterdam News, Elinor Tatum. Elinor is a single mom to her 7 year old daughter, and has been divorced for 5 years, and in this episode, she talks about the importance of taking care of yourself and building your support team for life. There may be weeks where you need 24/7 support, and it is important to recognize how much stress you, personally, can take on, and who you should go to for the advice you need, whether it be your attorney, financial advisor, mental health professional, or friend.   Elinor and Stacy specifically touch on the following topics:   Who does the most supportive team consist of (7:19) Finding the perfect attorney/ financial advisor/ mental health professional (9:50)(12:36)(13:25) How to not break the bank on legal costs (16:47) What to do when the relationship with your attorney isn’t working (28:14) Top consideration for your mental health during the divorce process (33:04)   Elinor Tatum | W: www.amsterdamnews.c

As you enter divorce negotiations it is imperative that you have a good handle on your financial picture and the value each asset represents.  The fear and uncertainty of what your financial reality will be post-divorce plagues everyone.    Getting educated and enlisting professionals to support you in negotiating a win-win settlement is vital.  Today’s guest Jaime Goodman a CDFA (Certified Divorce Financial Analysts) shares the importance of managing your expectations, understanding the values of your assets and the tax implications inherent in each. Grab and pen and paper and listen in.    For more info on Journey Beyond Divorce Click Here.

Do you hate your ex-spouse more than you love your child? For this holiday episode, Stacy is joined by Shari Bornstein, Director of Parent Services at FamilyKind, to discuss how to put bitterness aside and prioritize your children when celebrating the holidays.   In this episode, you will gain insight on:   How to prevent and prepare for possible conflict during the upcoming holidays (12:19) Finding middle ground when it comes to differing parenting styles (15:01) Scheduling your holiday sharing plan (15:47) Parenting techniques, such as the pizza delivery technique, and using buzzwords to avoid bitterness and conflict in front of the kids (17:46) How parents can avoid being “naughty” by coordinating traditions and not “out-gifting” each other (23:46) Tips on how to make the holidays less stressful for your children (30:22)   Holidays can be a stressful time for many, especially for divorced families whose children split their time between parents. FamilyKind is non-profit organization located in New

Stacy is joined by internationally recognized communications and relationship expert, Dr. Patty Ann Tublin, as she shares her passion for ending the gender pay gap and her research on why women become unaware of their financial situation once they get married. In this episode, Stacy and Patty Ann focus on the importance of fighting for your worth in the workplace, emphasize the need for a change in women’s mindsets about money, and demonstrate ways to not drop your financial IQ as soon as he puts a ring on it. You will gain insight on:   ü  How to advocate for yourself and get what you deserve (11:36) ü  Why educated women become financially illiterate when they get married (16:53) ü  How the impact of women’s lack of financial control affects them in divorce (20:21) ü  Financial advice for women going through transition (22:32)   Dr. Patty Ann | W: www.relationshiptoolbox.com P: 877-456-7230 E: dr.pattyann@gmail.com   Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-9008 E: stacy@francisfinancial.c

Now happily remarried with a three-year-old son, Kim Mishkin joins Stacy to share her powerful story about how she transitioned from an abusive marriage and built the strength to fight for her worth. In this episode, Kim and Stacy acknowledge the importance of telling your story, giving yourself time to grow on your own, and finding the balance of the key players needed to help you through your transition.   In this episode you will gain insight on:   ü  Having the courage to come forward about being abused (3:40) ü  How to have ‘the conversation’ about moving forward (6:52) ü  Helpful support networks and resources (8:02, 14:48) ü  The healing process and how to find happiness again (18:54 )  Kim is also a co-founder of Support and Solutions (SAS) for Women. SAS provides divorce support and coaching for women who are considering, in the process of, or recovering from divorce. Since 2012, they have helped women come to terms with questions such as how to prepare for divorce in practical and emotional ways

Happy Holidays from Divorce Source Radio. So what’s to be happy about you ask.  I know things may be very rough for you right now, but I want you to understand I have been there and gotten beyond that. I’m re-airing this show I did going on five years ago when I went through my own divorce.  It was all happening during the holidays and I reached out to psychologist, Dr. Larry Friedberg to help others like me cope with our first holiday alone.  This has been one of the most listened to programs on Divorce Source Radio and is my gift to you.  I hope this program, Divorce During The Holidays helps you.  – Steve Peck, Founder & Host, Divorce Source Radio. The holidays can be a challenging time for families going through divorce. We have these images of perfect family holidays, yet your own family is coping with a situation that is anything but perfect. In this program, psychologist, Dr. Larry Friedberg, provides advice to help get you through the holidays. This Program Covers: Dealing with ALL Holidays

Boo! This Halloween, what is more spooky than having your ex inherit all of your money if you die? Alison Besunder, expert in trust and estate planning, elder law, estate litigation, commercial litigation and intellectual property law, joins Stacy to discuss the importance of an estate plan, particularly when going through a transition, such as divorce.   In this episode, Alison and Stacy highlight the first and most important steps that you should take to help you take the least financially-draining path during this time. Alison reveals the shocking consequences of lacking an estate plan, and how that can impact the most important people in your life. They answer questions that could save yourself from the devastating possibilities of life without a will, such as:   Why do you need an estate plan when you get married vs. getting divorced? (12:13) What happens if your spouse dies during your divorce and there is no will? (15:59) Can your ex-spouse still make the medical decisions for you after divorce? (2

This week, Stacy is joined by Grief & Gratitude workshop creator, Jenny Douglas. Jenny focuses on the importance of curiosity, patience, and standing with a community after divorce. She shares the grieving techniques which helped her find the best version of herself, during her own divorce, and move forward.  And she shares this with the women in her workshops, as well.   In this episode, you will gain insight on:   ·         How to feel gratitude about your marriage regardless of the heartbreak ·         How to gain emotional stability during a big change in your life ·         The importance of not having to rely on your partner for finances   Jenny has achieved an incredible amount since her divorce and inspires others with the unique and stimulating activities in her workshop. To attend a Grief & Gratitude workshop, visit the website provided below.   Jenny Douglas | W: www.thebrooklyncottage.org E: jennydouglas@me.com   Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-37

This week, Stacy is joined by Elise Pettus. Divorced mom and founder of UNtied, Elise created an online network to connect fellow divorced women and help them re-discover their confidence, post-divorce. In this episode, you will gain insight on:   ü  Conquering the process of divorce and coming out the other side “financially ever after” ü  Pre-divorce tips and help with the grieving process ü  Building a team, including an attorney, specific to your needs   Elise emphasizes that women need both professional and social support during this transition. She recommends that women not look at their split as a tragedy, but rather as a challenging and meaningful opportunity to create a new chapter.   Elise Pettus | W: www.untied.net P: (917) 797-6465 E: elise.pettus@gmail.com   Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-9008 E: Stacy@francisfinancial.com   Elise Pettus, Francis Financial, Stacy Francis, Divorce, Free Divorce, Advice, Divorce Source, Radio, Steve Peck, Women

In this episode of BEYOND INFIDELITY, David Feder, expert in treating infidelity continues his discussion in our 2-part series about the recovery hurdles that can interferes with and derail the recovery process.   If you benefited from David's last informative episode of "Recovery Hurdles you will enjoy this one as well, so tune in to learn more about in Recovery Hurdles, part 2.  In this episode David Feder reviews more of the common mistakes that people make but should avoid when they want to recover from an affair. Having the extraordinary relationship you always wanted is possible but you need to know what to avoid if you're going to get there. For more information about David Feder, go to closeconnections.ca, or you can speak with David by calling 416-315-5107.

This week, Deborah Donenfeld recounts the moment she realized that she was entitled to leave her unhappy marriage of 22 years. By allowing herself to grieve and focus on her self-worth and her children, Deborah ultimately freed herself and gained more clarity and control in her financial life Deborah Donenfeld | W: www.deborahdonenfeld.com P: 212-675-4420 E: deborah525@gmail.com Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-9008 E: Stacy@francisfinancial.com

This week, top matrimonial attorney, Caroline Krauss-Browne, shares how she persevered in her career from working part-time to being a mother and then becoming a partner at a top New York City law firm. Stacy and Caroline dive into the harsh reality of child custody within same-sex divorces. Are you protected as a legal parent of your child? In this episode, you will hear a powerful pro-bono case Caroline worked on that fought for the right of the non-biological mother.  Caroline Krauss-Browne | W: www.blankrome.com P: (212) 885-5426 E: ckraussbrowne@blankrome.com Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-9008 E: Stacy@francisfinancial.com

This week, Stacy is joined by friend and single mother, Deirdre Coupe Hopkins as she reflects on her divorce and the role money played in this chapter of her life. After leaving her alcoholic ex-husband, Deirdre raised all four children on her own. With the help of education, family and community, she ultimately gained her financial independence. Deirdre always lives her life with the glass half full mentality and continues to do so 25 years later. Deirdre Coupe Hopkins | E: deirdrecoupe@gmail.com Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-9008 E: Stacy@francisfinancial.com