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Our guest, Bruce Sallan shares his story of becoming a first-time dad, to a son, four days after his 40th birthday, less than 9 months after getting married (they got pregnant on the honeymoon). His second son was born three years later. When Bruce’s sons were still quite young, he left show biz to become a full-time dad and to care for his ailing parents, the classic “sandwich” situation. Shortly thereafter, his marriage ended and his wife abandoned their children, leaving the state. He became a full-time single dad, in his late-forties. Hear Bruce share his lessons and musings on being a single dad.  Topics in this program include: Reactions from friends and acquaintances about being a single stay at home dad The inherent differences in the parenting styles of mothers and fathers How gender differences affecting parenting, friendships and dating A single dad’s view on custody and the children’s best interests Triumph over heartbreak; new ventures and lessons learned The real importance of being a single p

In Episode #5 of Sex after Divorce with sex therapist, Juliana Neiman, we discuss masturbation. Masturbation is looked at as taboo by some and others were raised to believe that it's wrong to pleasure yourself. In addition to feeling good, masturbation is a good way of relieving the sexual tension that can build up over time, especially for people without partners or whose partners are not willing or available for sex. Masturbation also is a safe sexual alternative for people who wish to avoid pregnancy and the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases. Medically, It relieves stress and keeps everything about your body—your heart rate, blood pressure, reproductive system, brain chemistry—in very good shape .A 2003 Australian study found that men who ejaculated more than five times a week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer. Regularly flushing your system, so to speak, keeps your semen healthy and prevents the build up of cancer-causing chemicals. So why all the hush hush?  Juliana breaks down t

It's the question you might be asking yourself right now, should I get a divorce?, and it's a question worth asking. In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D., Dr. Banschick helps us understand the process of evaluating these life changing questions and helps us take a look at our values. Many divorced people have said if they would have known how hard divorce was going to be, that they would have reconsidered getting a divorce and worked harder on saving their marriage. Other topics in the program include: The mortality rates of divorced individuals - Who's dying sooner men or women? What role stress plays the break-up of marriage How divorce affects your kids How marriages become like a business, How marriage can drive a relationship farther apart And much more

The forgiveness journey – how to make it happen Our guest, Mark Rye is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Skidmore College. Mark's research interests are in the field of positive psychology. He has studied the impact of forgiveness on post-divorce adjustment and has developed and evaluated interventions designed to help divorced individuals forgive their ex-spouse.  Recently, he has become interested in how forgiveness of an ex-spouse relates to parenting approach. In this informative and thought provoking interview we discuss what is forgiveness, and how to achieve it – so that angry thoughts do not hold you back from moving on.  We explore how forgiveness is a journey and how your thoughts, feelings and behavior can transform you.  This is a very powerful and forgiving program! If you have any questions about this topic, please email Mark Rye at mrye@skidmore.edu More information and resources may also be found at the Fetzer Institute http://www.fetzer.org/resources Topics in this program include:

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D., we look at a less confrontational form of divorce that is gaining in popularity, Collaborative Law. Our guest is Attorney Rita Pollak, an expert in the field of collaborative law.  Rita has helped designed training programs for other professionals with a desire to provide a  peaceful alternative to the traditional divorce and mediation, and promotes www.CollaborativePractice.com for individuals looking for more information on Collaborative Law. DIVORCE CAN BE MORE PEACEFUL. "Anyone entering the divorce process owes it to themselves and family to look into seeking a collaborative attorney". - Steve Peck In the program you'll learn: The benefits of collaborative solutions for marriage dissolution, child custody and co-parenting issues, division of assets, and more. How Collaborative Divorce/Collaborative Practice offers guidance, information, and respectful problem solving. Understand how to better manage the effects of divorce on you

Episode #4 of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman helps us to reflect on our past emotional and sexual relationship(s) so that we can discover what role we may have played in the demise of our relationship. Juliana helps us understand our past with acceptance and shows how to move to a place of forgiveness. And once we've reached a new place of calm and understanding, we can then move on to future healthy relationships.  Is there a proper time to get back into the dating world? How should you approach future relationships sexually and how to better communicate your needs to your partner as discussed as well. For more on Juliana Neiman Click Here.

The dissolution of a marriage is a major life transition that entails having to make some of the toughest decisions of your life at a time when you are least able to. Not knowing what to do -- and not being able to learn or take in information about these areas of your life that could potentially impact you and your kids for years to come -- means that you have to depend on others for help. Finding the right professionals early on may be easier said than done, but all you need is one professional you like and trust to get started. You can then ask her for assistance in getting the other team members together. If you're lucky, a divorce network will already exist in your area. In this episode of Beyond Divorce, Susan Pease Gadoua provides answers to commonly asked questions from people going through divorce.  These answers are provided by the Divorce Dream Team, a group who has come together to provide "one-stop-shopping" resources for women going through divorce.

In this program, The Smart Divorce radio show with Deborah Moskovitch features Elliott Katz, author of seven nonfiction books. He teaches the principles he shares in his book: Being a Strong Man a Woman Wants After the end of a relationship, Elliott sought to learn about being a man in a relationship. He found books on marriage and relationships said little to him. He found powerful timeless insights in the lessons that fathers and other older male role models taught younger men. People started seeking his advice and would say, “Why didn’t someone tell me this before?” Moving beyond the trendy ideas about a man’s role – that just don’t seem to work – Elliott shares insights on being a man that have withstood the test of time. Interestingly, these insights are the traits that he heard many women complain were lacking in men today – showing leadership, making decisions and taking responsibility. Topics in this program include: Why are women so frustrated with today's men? How does growing up without strong m

If you are considering filing for divorce or recently done so, this program is for you! Attorney, Henry Gornbein, discuss the Top Ten things to Consider Prior to Filing or Just After Filing for Divorce.  Many people during this emotional time in their lives don't slow down enough to think things through and as a result, make mistakes that cost them thousands of dollars and enormous emotional suffering. Topics in the program include: Seeing a Marriage Counselor First Family Finances to consider Thoughts on Child Custody Understanding the Budget you will require to live your new life Building your Support System And much more

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick M.D. we discuss the similarities of a dysfunctional marriage and the dysfunction of our federal government. Like opposing spouses in a bitter divorce, both parties claim the exclusive ability of knowing the “right thing to do.” After all, they “care” more about those in their charge. Each one also wants to get the better of the other, even if it means maligning or making ugly accusations – and, in the end, getting nowhere. It is part of being human. But in a healthy relationship, whether a good marriage, a reasonable divorce or a functioning Congress, the conflict usually transforms into a collaborative effort rather than a combative one. Though power struggles are inevitable, they don’t have to be destructive. Granted, it may be easier to be a single parent or to govern as a single party — but it is almost always better to have two points of view. Like the children caught between two parents in this unpleasant divorce, the American public is

In the second episode of Sex after Divorce - Reconnecting with our Sexual Selves, sex therapist, Juliana Neiman, explains how our "sexual script" may have played a role in past unhealthy sexual relationships. In this program, you'll learn how what you were told, taught or experienced early on in your life defined your "sexual script," or, said another way, your feelings toward sex.  Were you raised to think of sex as something you don't talk about, or something that is natural and healthy?  Did your parents discuss sex with you, or were they the type to not mention it at all?  Did religion play a role in making you feel sex was wrong?  Was your first sexual experience a good or bad one? All these situations early in life define our sexual scripts, and sometimes, these beliefs and feelings are quite negative and prevent us from living a healthy sexual life.  In this ten-part series, Juliana will talk about sex and help us understand our sexuality in the context of dealing with the emotional turmoil and afte

Have you ever stopped to ponder why the divorce rate has risen so dramatically over the past 50 years? Divorce was a rare event previous to the first world war with a rate of less than one per 1,000 of the yearly number of marriages. There has been significant progress in divorce reform making it easier and fairer to obtain. Researchers would most likely agree that not only has divorce become more socially acceptable, but divorce laws have also changed to provide a more equitable resolution for many since the late 1960s. The amendment to the Divorce Act to permit the reason for divorce as no-fault (in other words, no-blame divorce) has radically altered the factors influencing the decision to divorce. In this Program, Divorce Consultant, Deborah Moskovitch discusses the evolution of the divorce rate and it's impact on the family.

Thousands of kids experience the stress of divorce each year. How they'll react depends on their age, personality, and the particular circumstances of the separation and divorce process. Every divorce will have an effect on the kids involved — and many times the initial reaction is one of shock, sadness, frustration, anger, or worry. But kids can also come out of it better able to cope with stress, and many become more flexible, tolerant young adults. In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D., we'll discuss signs to look for that may indicate your kids are having a problem.  Dr. Banschick breaks down each age group from very young children through their twenties.

In this first episode of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, we begin the journey of looking at our sexual selves.  Wherever you are in your step of the journey, we'll talk more specifically about Sex remembering that we cannot completely separate sexuality from our emotions- our psychology and unique personality traits- and where we come from. In this series, Juliana will talk about sex and help us understand our sexuality in the context of dealing with the emotional turmoil and aftermath of their divorce and help us to understand  how we can change and improve our sexual life with the next partner?  We'll start at the beginning:  what is the beginning?  For us to understand what is happening with our sexuality- what happened while we were married- and what insights we want to gain- and thus make some changes if we realize we have to in order to enjoy a more satisfying fulfilling sexual life- for ourselves and with our new partners whenever that happens. Topics include: Who first talked to you about sex

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Thousands of kids experience the stress of divorce each year. How they'll react depends on their age, personality, and the particular circumstances of the separation and divorce process. Every divorce will have an effect on the kids involved — and many times the initial reaction is one of shock, sadness, frustration, anger, or worry. But kids can also come out of it better able to cope with stress, and many become more flexible, tolerant young adults. In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce Radio Program, Dr. Mark Banschick MD helps us recognize if your kid are in trouble and what to do to set it right. You will learn how to parent constructively with your ex spouse or how to raise a healthy child alone. You'll be able to chart your kids progress and feel reassured that things are going to be okay. You don't want your child to be a statistic.

This episode of Beyond Divorce with Susan Pease Gadoua, Discusses the challenge and rewards of co-parenting post divorce. How co-parenting goes post divorce depends to a large degree on how it was during the marriage: if it was difficult, it may be more difficult post divorce, and if it was good, it may be better. Often, the parenting dynamics are exaggerated so, even though the amount of contact with your ex is less, the intensity of the contact may be greater. Challenges to overcome include being fearful that the other parent has less regard for the health and safety or your child, disapproving or your ex's parenting style, feeling a sense of competition with your ex and using your children as pawns. In divorce, there are often feelings of anger, sadness and hurt - co-parenting is no exception. It's important to get adequate emotional support as well as co-parenting education. Learning effective communication styles can be crucial in having a better working experience.

Part of a divorce is the division of property. The marital home used to be one of a couple’s major assets but due to the current economy, the equity in many homes has been turned upside down leaving couples with little or no equity and in some cases, the couples owe more than their house is worth. In this "Best of DSR"program featuring attorney Henry Gornbein, we discuss the difference between Real Property and Personal Property; we’ll look at residential and commercial real estate holdings. And if you own a business, you’ll learn how businesses are valued and dealt with during a divorce. We’ll also discuss how Boats, planes, cars, furnishings, Stock Assets, Pensions, collectibles, and Inheritance come into play when dividing property.

In the first episode of The Intelligent Divorce, Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D. discusses how to tell your children about divorce. Truth is a great value, but it is not the only value by which we live. When it comes to kids, their health and well-being trumps everything else. We bring them into the world fresh and innocent. Your children were probably born into an intact family. This is what they know – a solid, caring team who loves them. Much will change with a divorce. A child is no longer able to be with both of their parents at the same time, under the same roof. Their sense of security can be lessened and they must adapt to a new way of life. Do you really want to tell them the truth? Should they know that their father had an affair and left their mother (and them)? Do you want them to know about their mother’s alcoholism? I’m not so sure. There is a lot in life that’s private. Kids need to have their innocence. This means that they need not know everything – explicit details are better left unsaid. In my min

Divorce is an extremely emotional time in our life and under stress, we don't always make the right choices. The legal system is confusing and frightening and we sometimes let our anger get the best of us creating a battle with our soon to be ex that can last a lifetime and affect the lives of our children and our finances. In this episode, DSR host Steve Peck, speaks with Divorce Consultant and author of The Smart Divorce, Deborah Moskovitch on how to avoid costly mistakes during divorce. Listening to this show if you are new to the process of divorce can save you thousands of dollars in legal expenses, the relationship with your children and your sanity. Visit www.DivorceSourceRadio.com for more free resources.