Divorce Source Radio

In the final episode of our ten-part series of Sex after Divorce - Reconnecting with Our Sexual Selves, Juliana Neiman talks about creating your own personal retreat at home as a means of self discovery and growth.   Not everyone can afford or needs to go away to a personal retreat to work through their issues after divorce.  Juliana shows us how to get the most out of being alone at home and spending time reflecting on what has and hasn't served us in past and offers insight into making healthy choices that will lead to fulfilling future relationships.   Topics in the program  include: Learning the ten emotional and sexual basics in a relationship Defining what intimacy really is Discovering your realistic expectations for a new relationship Learning to deal with your daily stressors Dealing with anger and disappointment And much more.

In  this Episode of "Ask Henry" with Attorney, Henry Gornbein, Henry answers questions related to visitation issues with your children during the holidays and what annulments are and how they work. The Holidays can be an especially difficult time when you are divorcing, especially the first year. Henry discusses options of sharing time with your children.  It's always best if you can come up with a shared holiday plan with your ex because if you can't, the judge will be forced to do so.  If you can't come to an amicable agreement, Henry offers advice on how to approach your attorney as a means of bargaining for fair rights for equal parenting time.  Divorce Source Radio would advise you consider the best interest of your children first. The second question deals with Annulments.  What are they? Is there a difference between a legal annulment and a religious annulment?  Does an annulment free you of paying spousal support and how easy is it to get one? If you would like to ask Henry a question for an upcoming

In this epidose of "Ask Henry", attorney Henry Gornbein answers questions regarding mediation and child custody. Questions asked include: What are some key issues in mediation that someone should be concerned about?  What should the role of an attorney be in mediation? What are some key steps to consider in preparing for a custody battle? If you would like to ask Henry a question for an upcoming show, email us at DivorceSourceRaadio@gmail.com of phone your question in to our Voicemail Listener Line at (248) 686-2256.

Our guest, Mark Baer (http://www.markbaeresq.com/) is a family law attorney, mediator, and collaborative law practitioner in Pasadena, California and has been practicing for twenty years.  He received a great deal of media attention regarding his opinions that the family law system in the United States destroys families and his views on better and more constructive ways of handling such matters.  His articles have appeared in Forbes, The Los Angeles Daily Journal and Valley Lawyer Magazine.   Columnists from the Pasadena Star-News, the Los Angeles, Times and other newspapers use Mark as a resource for their columns.   Problem solving is a hallmark of a good lawyer.  We explore this outlook and learn what you need to consider when looking for a lawyer.  To learn more, Mark has written the must read article Things to Consider in Order to Select an Attorney Who is a Problem Solver and Not a Conflict Creator  (http://www.markbaeresq.com/Pasadena-Family-Law-Blog/2011/September/Things-to-Consider-in-Order-to-Select

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Mark Banschick, M.D.,  we discuss dealing with stress during divorce and our guest is Joanie Winberg of www.FreshStartAfterDivorce.com. During your divorce, have you ever felt "Stuck in the muck" and not sure how to move your life forward or the stress of your "inner voice" working overtime with doubt or the feeling of lack of self-confidence to make decisions?  If so, you're not alone.  Joanie helps us understand how to deal with and gain control over the stress and anxiety we may be feeling during this very difficult time in our lives. Topics in the program include: Learn how much of our stress is self inflicted How to quiet our anxious mind The difference between internal and external stress The difference between real and imaginary stress Stress reduction techniques And much more.

In episode #9 of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, we discuss ways of GROWING through the divorce process.  This program helps us understand the importance of healing past wounds prior to moving on to new relationships prematurely. If you still have feelings of hopelessness, anger, bitterness and regret, and find yourself thinking about your ex and thinking what could have or should have been done in the past, this is a Must Hear program. Juliana helps us detach from our past and move forward to new relationships and possibilities. Divorce can be an opportunity to expand and re-brand yourself, and by doing the "personal work", you can be mindful of things you may have done in the past that didn't serve you or your relationship, make changes, and move forward into healthy, safe relationships. It's all about expanding, change and letting go.  Juliana Neiman provides answers and suggestions for you to GROW through divorce into a happy, healthier you.

Our guest, award winner and mentor, Judge Lynn Toler (http://judgelynn.com/toler_divorce_court/) is smart, talented and creative – and judge on one of television’s most successful courtroom drama series: DIVORCE COURT.  Judge Lynn Toler is a former municipal court judge who now hosts the nationally syndicated show, Divorce Court. She is also a bi-monthly contributor to News and Notes on NPR and became host of the prime time TV show Decision House in 2007. In 2006, Judge Lynn published her book, My Mother’s Rules: A Practical Guide to Becoming an Emotional Genius. Praised as an “awe-inspiring memoir” by Essence Magazine, it not only chronicles her life as a child raised in the shadow of her father’s mental illness but provides practical advice for anyone seeking more and better emotional control Having completed more than two thousand episodes, on DIVORCE COURT, Judge Lynn Toler turns up the heat on court shows in this half-hour, relationship oriented series. Viewers experience the drama firsthand as husbands

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D., our topic is Fairness. Many of us going through a divorce have felt we have been wronged and that much of what we are going through is unfair. We had hopes and dreams that our marriage would last forever and then one day, perhaps out of the blue, our partner tells us they want out of the marriage, you're served divorce papers or you discover your spouse has been having an affair.  Even the court system fails us in their attempt of fairness. This can leave us feeling so betrayed and it all feels so unfair.  As parents, we have a duty to teach our children about fairness. The only fair outcome of your divorce would be to free yourself from what you believe was not fair and move on to a happier life, and in the process, provide an example to your children that there's a better life out there with acceptance.  This program also features a powerful example of forgiveness from the biblical story of Job.  This is a MUST HEAR PROGRAM for any

In episode #8 of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, we discuss the process of selecting a new partner and understanding your "non-negotiable" needs. Through self analysis and looking back at past relationships, we can identify what we require in a partner that makes us feel safe, loved, protected and nurtured.  Juliana provides a check-list of what to look for in a new partner and helps us understand how miscommunication with your ex may have occurred .  Juliana provides tips for a healthier communications dialog as we move on to future relationships. Understanding and expressing our needs better helps build healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life. Juliana also continues the discussion of expanding our "sexual menu" with our partner to include Sex Toys,and trying different Sexual Positions.

In this episode of "Ask Henry" with attorney Henry Gornbein, Henry answers the questions What Does Fault Mean in No-Fault Divorce and Are Prenuptial Agreements a good Idea Prior to Marriage? If you have a legal question related to family law, "Ask Henry" is your opportunity to get an answer or second opinion. Write Henry at DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com or phone your question in to our Listener Line at (248) 686-2256, and your question will be answered in an upcoming show.

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Mark Banschick, M.D., our topic is Getting Your Kids to Sleep.  This can be a challenging task with many children but during a divorce, the challenge can be even greater. Our guest is Maureen Healy, founder of Growing Happy Kids, a worldwide organization focused upon fostering happiness in children. She was named a “Creative Activist” by Creative Visions Foundation and authored a “Peace Curriculum” for preschoolers, which is distributed worldwide by The Simha Foundation. Healy is not new to making a positive impact on children around the world. In 2007, she created a program for Tibetan refugee children in Asia and built child-centered programs around the United States. Maureen helps parents understand what keeps children up and provides examples of what we can do to provide a better sleep environment that encourages rest and sleep.  If you are experiencing problems getting your kids to sleep, this is the program for you!

Our guest, Lisa Decker (www.DivorceMoneyMatters.com) who is referred to as Miss Money Matters ® - is the CEO and founder of Divorce Money Matters®. Ms. Decker is an expert in divorce financial matters, and a discreet problem-solver who guides her clients to “Divorce Your Spouse, Not Your Money®.”  She has been interviewed by CNN, Good Morning America, NY Times, Business Week, CreditCards.com, ForbesWomen.com, and Oprah magazine. The finances of divorce and how they are managed and worked through during the divorce process can significantly impact your post divorce future.  Tune in to understand the most common mistakes and what you can do to avoid them.  Topics in this program include: How to make decisions based on facts, not emotions How to create a realistic post-divorce budget The impact of joint debts Protecting your income streams Considering the long-term consequences of your choices Developing your dream divorce team

A monthly update of what's happening in and around DSR from Divorce Source Radio founder, Steve Peck.  This update is for the month of October 2011.

In the seventh episode of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, our journey of the "sexual menu" continues as we discuss the taboo of anal sex and sexual fantasies. Sex therapist Juliana Neiman provides a quick review of what we have learned since our first episode.  The information and advice provided in this series will help you to learn from mistakes made in past relationships, with the goal of entering into a healthier relationship in the future. After divorce, it's quite normal for some individuals to lose their desire for a new sexual relationship, and you may even experience a fear of becoming sexually involved with someone new, due to your damaged sexual self esteem.  Juliana helps you understand how to address these feelings and move forward. The program then addresses the taboo topic of anal sex and the creation of sexual fantasies with your partner as a way of broadening your sexual menu.  Juliana helps us remove the sexual roadblocks that may have negatively affected our sexual relationship with

In this episode of "Ask Henry," attorney Henry Gornbein, answers the questions:  Should I move out of our home or stay? and When is The Right Time to Introduce a New Flame to Your Children. It used to be that keeping a marital home was the best thing to do for the sake of your children and finances, and this property was routinely a bargaining tool when dividing assets.  Today, with the downfall of the economy, many homeowners are "underwater," meaning the owners owe more than the house is worth.  Henry helps us make sense of when staying is the proper thing to do, and when it's best to cut our losses and move on. The second part of this program is dedicated to when to tell your children that you have a new love interest.  This decision is sometime rushed and not in the best interest of the children.  This is a subject that should be handled with care, and Henry provides his advice on what he feels is in the best interest of the entire family. If you would like to ask Henry Gornbein a question to be answered

In episode #8 of The Intelligent Divorce with Mark Banschick, M.D., we take a look at the celebration of Halloween. Halloween can be a great time of fantasy and fun for most, but if you are in the process of divorce, you may be having a hard time enjoying the season that once provided so much enjoyment. In this program, Dr. Banschick takes a look at what should be, and could be, a time of enjoyment and fun.  Dr. Mark helps you understand the natural grieving process that could be stealing your joy and helps you to redefine this once happy holiday.

Our guest, Matt Hamel (http://www.virginiadivorceattorney.com/bio/matthew-r-hamel.cfm) is a family law lawyer who understands military divorce.  With legal skills forged in the crucible of the Military Justice System, Matt is an unyielding advocate for military wives, female service members and the children of military families. Recognizing the lack of easily available information about military divorces and Virginia law, Matt joined forces with the Hofheimer/Ferrebee law firm to co-author an informative book about Virginia family law and it's impact on military families. Equally important, the book discusses entitlements due military wives as a result of their marriage to military members. Armed with knowledge as a former Navy JAG officer and motivated with an advocate's passion to help women through the family crisis of divorce, Matt also wanted to honor female military spouses who often serve their nation in quiet desperation as their family life unravels. Thus, he not only co-authored this book, but he al

In this 6th episode of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, we continue our exploration into our sexual selves. Sex Therapist, Juliana Neiman discusses: How and when to say no to sex as in How to tell your partner, not tonight How to say no to a sex act you don't prefer When is the right time to begin having sex with a new partner? This program touches on how to feel if your child in their teens or twenties has never experienced sex or a relationship with the opposite sex.  Since so many "tweens" are in relationships and having intimate relations, should you be concerned that because your child hasn't expressed an interest in going on dates that your child may be gay? Finally, we discuss Oral Sex and break down the taboo and myths surrounding it.  Juliana shares some helpful resources for those looking to expand their "sexual menu".

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Dr. Mark Banschick, M.D. on Divorce Source Radio, Dr. Banschick explores the definition of forgiveness and helps us better understand how we might get to this important point in our divorce process. You'll learn that forgiveness is not allowing your past to become your future.  Dr. Banschick's thoughts on this subject are both entertaining and powerful as he is passionate about helping couples work through the madness of their divorce for the sanity of their children and themselves. A word of caution to listeners:  Dr. Mark makes his singing debut at the beginning of this program.  After the show, co-host Steve Peck told Dr. Banschick that after hearing him sing, he thought he should go to Hollywood... the walk would do him good.  ;) This is a must hear program for anyone going through divorce and coming to grips with forgiveness.

At some point after divorce, mom will start to feel sexual again. That’s a good sign. It means she’s healing and on her way to wholeness. Unfortunately, because there’s so much sexual shaming and mixed messages in our society about sex and divorced moms, divorced moms will often distort their sexuality (meaning inappropriate and risky sex), or limit themselves to unloving relationships or shut down their sexual sides all together. This doesn’t serve anybody. We are meant to be whole, and sex is a part of that wholeness. Divorced, not dead. There’s a better way. In this program, Divorce Coach, Jeanie Rule explains that when a mother can understand, embrace and integrate her unique sexual self into her divorced-mom life, then she’s able to tap into the special sparks that good sexuality brings to all of us – better health, emotional well-being, creativity, connection to others, confidence, vitality.