Divorce Source Radio

When a divorce becomes confrontational and spirals out of control, it's known as a high conflict divorce.  In a high conflict divorce, a war is created that is costly and damaging to the children and the divorcing couples.  In fact the damage they wreak spreads a wide net into their extended families and friends, and sometimes even into the greater community. In the long run this couple pays the price because they may never be able to restore their lives to healthy functioning. It's best to do everything in your power to avoid entering into a high conflict divorce and in this program, Psychologist, Dr. Larry Friedberg helps us better understand the signs of this type of negative divorce so that we might avoid the pitfalls and costly legal battles. We’ll also discover how poor communication skills and narcissistic personality disorders can fuel the flame of a high conflict divorce.

In episode #2 of Beyond Divorce with Susan Pease Gadoua, we discuss finding a "New Normal" after your divorce. Settling in with a "New Normal" post divorce can seem impossible but it will eventually happen for those who put the effort into making it happen. The impact of divorce on your life is like throwing a large rock into a pond: there are lots of ripples and it takes a while for things to settle down again. Topics covered are: Understanding the three main areas of transition people experience during and after divorce Having realistic expectations about how long it should take to find a new normal What you can do if you think you should be feeling better but you're not Staying open to the new normal not being anywhere near what you thought it would be (it's usually better!)

In this Best of DSR episode of "Ask Henry", attorney Henry Gornbein, answers the question, "Do I  have to pay spousal support?" (Also known as alimony) He also answers the follow-up question, "What's the difference between modifiable and non-modifiable spousal support?" If you are a woman what could prohibit you from receiving spousal support of even have to pay it to your ex.

Dealing with child custody and visitation is one of the most difficult aspects of getting divorced.  Divorce and child custody cases are often sensitive and emotional matters.   In this program, we’ll discuss The different types of child custody, child support, and visitation.  Divorce Source Radio legal correspondent, Henry Gornbein, explains how you can step back from your anger and do what’s in the best interest of your children.  Henry also emphasizes not wasting your financial resources through unnecessary litigation.   Henry explains how to have a “game-plan” and provides a step-by-step guide to prepare you for your divorce and child custody case. This is a very important program for anyone divorcing with children. Visit www.DivorceSourceRadio.com for more information.

In this episode of Divorce Source Radio, our guest, Suzy Bricker, discusses how dealing with her divorce was actually harder than dealing with her cancer. Eight year ago, Suzy discovered she had cancer and began a journey to regain her health.  After two years of recovery, and dealing with her troubled marriage, Suzy came to the realization that she had to leave her long-term marriage in order to save her life. Suzy offers advice to women going through divorce, regardless of their age and explains that with the right mindset, a healthy and happier you awaits at the journey's end. Topics in the program include: How to deal with the loss of a spouse during tough times Reinventing yourself after divorce Dealing with loneliness Steps to attain independence Letting go of anger and acceptance of your new reality And much more

Our guest, Joan Kelly PhD., a Clinical Psychologist, is an internationally recognized expert on divorce and children’s adjustment and interventions designed to assist parents and enhance resiliency in children. Dr. Kelly has been studying the impact of divorce on children since 1968. She is an author, therapist, mediator, and parenting coordinator with four decades of experience working with high conflict parents who are separating. Dr. Kelly shares her insights and wisdom on telling your children about your divorce-- providing script ideas and important messages. She will guide you through the conversation and preparation you need to do.  Having this conversation is not one most parents want to have, as only 5% of parents actually sit down and explain to their children about this significant change in their life.  Yet, telling your children about separation and divorce is critical if you truly want to do what is in your children’s best interest, and minimize the negative effects of divorce on children.  To o

From the "Best of DSR" series comes Co-Parenting Peacefully for Your Children.  This has been one of the most listened to programs on DSR. If you’ve decided to separate or get a divorce and have children, your next important decision should be about co-parenting.  Divorce may be the end of a marriage, but it is not the end of the family.  People who separate but continue to work cooperatively as parents give their children the best chances for a smooth adjustment to living in two separate households and continued growth. Psychologist, Dr. Larry Friedberg shows us ways to communicate with your ex without hostility for the good of your children. Learn how to: Be respectful of your ex spouse. Resolve conflicts and discuss major issues privately, not in front of the children. Not confide, complain or grumble about your ex to your kids – you need family, friends or a therapist for that role. Not use our kids as messengers between you and the other parent. Assure our kids that both parents will listen to feeling

So you think divorce in America is difficult?  Well, believe it or not, divorce in other countries is even more challenging than in the States. In this program, Steve Peck speaks with Liz, from Ireland, who explains how difficult divorce is in her country. Liz speaks with first-hand experience, as she just recently received her divorce, seven years after filing.  In Ireland, women are at a tremendous disadvantage, as spousal support is rarely provided by the courts, leaving women to fend for themselves. Divorce Source Radio legal correspondent, Henry Gornbein, joins us as we explore the vast differences in our legal systems.

Debate may never resolve whether fault based marital conduct codes once were a positive force for stability in marriage, or solely the focus of ever greater contentiousness in divorce process. One thing is certain. They are gone. Their vestiges may remain on the face of a few statutes in some states, but their force in law is no more. Yet, marital conduct codes expressed in terms of grounds or fault were inarguably important in at least one sense. The very existence of these legally enforceable standards mitigated the risk of investing in marriage. Compliance with those minimum standards ensured that marriage would be protected by law, that the investment in marriage would be secure. Conversely no fault in its essence is a system without standards, a code without relation to conduct. Unavoidably, the process it spawned left marriage without protection. In eliminating the problems of fault based divorce, the good was thrown out with the bad, the baby with the bath water. Divorce happens to good spouses because

One of the first things that needs to be dealt with after entering the divorce process is the division of assets. For most people, their homes and rental properties are at the top of the list and this is not an something to take lightly. Our guest is Randy Morrow, a Certified Real Estate Divorce Specialist. Randy approaches divorce realty with a collaborative attitude. It isn’t just about helping divorcing couples sell their homes, it is about the selling experience for the clients during the divorce; and what happens to the clients after the divorce.  Having gone through the terrible ordeal of divorce himself; and then the years following as he uncovered and battled to overcome the layers of self-doubt; lack of confidence; low self-esteem; facing up to fears, etc.; Randy passes on these lessons to his clients (if they choose to talk about them) so that the healing in their lives can improve faster. Topics in the program include: ·     The difference between a typical realtor and a Certified Real Estate Di

As a specialist in family law for over 40 years, Henry Gornbein  strongly believes that a divorce should be the last resort, not the first resort, and that too many people file for divorce, often for the wrong reasons. The Parental Divorce Reduction Act's purpose is to reduce unnecessary divorce, decrease parental conflict and litigation surrounding a divorce, and educate parents regarding the impact of divorce on families. As a practitioner with extensive experience over many years specializing in family law, Henry has concerns, because many marriages have an imbalance of power between the parties. Often, one spouse is very controlling, and the other spouse feels powerless While Henry believes there is a lot that is good in the proposed legislation to reform marriage and save as many marriages as possible he discusses his concerns and reservations in this episode.

Our guest, Chris Gersten (http://www.divorcereform.info/), is a former high ranking official in the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, serving in both Bush administraions. He was responsible for launching the Federal government's Healthy Marriage Initiative, creating a national organization to reform divorce laws in the U.S. and educate the public about the impact of divorce. The result is the launch of the Coalition for Divorce Reform, formed in order to increase awareness of the negative impact of divorce, encourage discussion and debate about the effect of divorce on our culture, and support passage of divorce reform legislation. Topics in this program include: • How the Coalition for Divorce Reform is trying to make a difference • Why marriage counseling does not work; education and alternatives • The importance of marriage education and the potential to save marriage • The importance of a waiting period before filing for divorce • Understanding relationships, the impact of divorce and so much

Sex addiction is a problem that is sweeping the nation and one of the leading causes of marital conflict and divorce. Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Dr. Kenneth Adams, is our guest and discusses what we can do to recognize this behavior and what we need to do to seek help. Topics in The Program Include: Could you or your spouse be a sex addict? What causes someone to become addicted to sex? How sex addiction affects relationships What to do if you are the partner of a sex addict The clues to look for that might indicate that you or your spouse are a sex addict Available treatment options and much more.

Everyone's talking about the Schwarzenegger divorce.  After twenty five years, Aronol and Maria Shriver have separated and appear to be heading towards divorce. After leaving office as Governor of California, news broke that Arnold has another child from an anfair with one of his staff members.  And now as each day passes, we learn more about other alleged affairs Arnold may have had. Affairs have played a roll in many divorces, so what can we learn from the Terminator's case?  In this program, attorney Henry Gornbein provides his thoughts on this widely popular affair.

When Beverly Willett was faced with divorce she did something few have tried... challenging the divorce in court.  She wanted desperately to save her marriage and avoid divorce.  Beverly has extensive knowledge about the judicial system, both from her research and personal experience, and is passionate about divorce reform. Beverly www.beverlywillett.com, is an author and former attorney. Her articles about divorce, marriage and parenting have appeared in many publications, including The New York Times, Newsweek, Woman’s Day, Family Circle, Prevention, Salon.com, Parenting and The Daily Beast. She’s a regular contributor to The Huffington Post Divorce page, a former Contributing Editor to Chicken Soup for the Soul Magazine, and a long-time advisor to Parentalwisdom.com. For the past year, she has been consulting with groups and individuals about divorce reform on a pro bono basis. She is the chair of the advisory committee for the Coalition for Divorce Reform. (http://www.divorcereform.info/) Topics in this p

In this program we revisit the first step when considering a divorce, selecting the proper attorney for your divorce. Our guests include renowned Michigan Family Law Attorney and  Divorce Source Radio Legal Correspondent, Henry Gornbein and from Toronto, Deborah Moskovitch, a professional Divorce Consultant and author or The Smart Divorce and host of The Smart Divorce Radio show. Topics discussed will include: How to go about selecting the proper attorney? Should you hire the first attorney you visit or shop around for an attorney? What to expect in your initial consultation with a prospective attorney Questions to ask a potential attorney Watch for attorneys who bring you in with unreasonable expectations or perpetuate conflict We'll discuss Mediation and Arbitration.  Are they the less confrontational form or divorce? And much more

Our guest, Hanna McDonough, is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and Psychotherapist (www.hannatherapy.com).  Ms. McDonough shares her wisdom on finding the best in yourself, and delves into relationships and what’s important – is it sex, money?  And, what are the differences between men and women and they way each values a relationship. We explore the gamut in topics and - learn about living your life as an exclamation, not an explanation. Topics in this program include: The value of a therapist: how to find a good therapist, when to stay and when to go Understanding a verbally abusive relationship Exploring transformative therapy How to keep your marriage HOT Putting children first

Originally broadcast on October 8, 2009, Surviving Divorce with Dr. Larry Friedberg explores the five stages of anger and grief as it relates to a divorce. The five stages of divorce are: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression/Pain, Acceptance/Recovery. It’s harder to get over a divorce than the death of a loved one.  Learn ways to cope with your hurt, anger and pain and discover how to come out the other side of divorce a healthy and happy person. This is a “Must Hear” program for anyone experiencing the emotional pain of divorce.  For more information, visit www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.

Our guest, Emily Brown, is Director of Key Bridge Therapy & Mediation Center in Arlington, VA. (http://www.affairs-help.com/) works with couples, individuals, and families regarding the underlying issues in marriage, divorce, and betrayal. Battles over custody and related issues that are fueled by a personality disordered spouse can be the most frustrating of all wars.  The judges regularly get conned by the personality disordered spouse who makes nice in front of the judge; the other spouse who is angry and upset appears to be the problem.  Emily has worked with a number of these cases, trying to extricate the victimized spouse – and overcoming the frustration which many experience.  Tough cases, but she likes the challenge. Topics in this program include: ·         Insight into personality disorder ·         How to deal with a persistent blamer, and managing within the legal system ·         How to help children when their parent is personality disordered ·         Finding the help you need to cope ·

The Intelligent Divorce lays out a blueprint that can teach you how to handle your divorce with grace, strength and wisdom. Based on hundreds of case studies and a decades of experience, it is designed with the health of your children in mind. Our guest is the author of The Intelligent Divorce, Dr Mark R. Banschick,  a diplomat of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology with over 20 years of experience in child and adolescent psychiatry. Topics  Addressed Include: How to parent better during turbulent times What type of feeling are your children going through What are the signs to look for that your child isn't handling the divorce that well. What type of behavior to expect from your child How divorcing couples in conflict can come together to form a United Front for the sake of their children. How to maintain open communication between your children and much more.