Divorce Source Radio

Your finances are certain to change during and after divorce and therefore raise fear in just about everyone facing this transition.  Today we speak with Elizabeth Polizzi, a financial expert who specializes in strategizing around the finances of divorce.  She discusses how vital it is to be informed and educated in order to negotiate the best possible settlement.     In this straightforward talk, Elizabeth elaborates on the 5 Keys to preparing financially for your divorce.  She invites you to examine in great detail what you have, what you owe, what you need and what you want and offers valuable tips and the best way to negotiate your settlement.     For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

One of the most important decisions you make in the early stages of divorce is the legal approach that will be most effective for your circumstances.  You may find that each attorney you interview states that their approach is the right one for you.  It can be overwhelming and scary to sort out what the different legal avenues are and how to discern what is best for you and your spouse.   Today we talk with Bill Laufer, a 40 year veteran attorney in the matrimonial law arena whose firm specializes in family law and handles all 4 legal approaches: litigation, arbitration, mediation and collaboration.  Listen as Bill walks us through the pro’s and con’s of each and how to make the best choice given the personalities and circumstances you are facing. For more on Karen and Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com

Are you being alienated from your children? Do you understand what Parental Alienation is and what do you do if you find yourself the targeted parent and your children torn from our life.  Our show titled is named after the book A Family's Heartbreak - A parent's guide to parental alienation, and today I'm going to speak with the author, Michael Jeffries, to help families better understand Parental Alienation, and it affects. The definition of parental alienation is heartbreakingly simple—one parent deliberately damages, and in some cases destroys, the previously healthy, loving relationship between the child and the child’s other parent. Parental Alienation is harmful to our children's well being. I believe we can stop this destructive behavior if we can just recognize the warning signs and make a choice to not act this way. Get counseling to help work through issues of accepting your current situation and learn to move on to a healthier future. For more programs, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com

Collaborative divorce is the newest ‘kid on the block’ when it comes to divorce.  It is a process in which you and your spouse commit to staying out of the court system and working in a spirit of creative problem solving, transparency and trust.  Beth Dalena, Esq. shares what a Collaborative Divorce looks like and who is a good couple candidate and who is not.  We also explore the emotional, legal and financial benefits of divorcing outside the court system. For more on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

Most people considering divorce expect that they will have to ‘litigate’ in order to legally divorce.  There is also a lot of criticism around the litigation process.  Listen in as Wendy Samuelson, Esq. shares the benefits and protections of working within the courts to divorce.  Wendy shares what litigating means, how the process typically unfolds and when and how it can offer protection and support.  We also explore how to hire a litigating attorney that is a good fit for you. For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

In this episode of Divorce Recovery with Shelley Stile we discuss the need to change the perspective of your situation which in return caan help alter your attitude in a positive manner. Fear of our future after divorce keeps us stuck in the pain of the past. This fear prompts our mind chatter to paint a bleak picture of an uncertain future, which in turn creates a disempowering and negative attitude towards life. A negative attitude on life becomes all pervasive and leaves us powerless and depressed. If we stop and think about it, the future is totally unpredictable and unknowable. We simply cannot know what the future holds. Thus it is our perspective about the future that will lay the foundation for what is coming around the bend. If we want our future to look a certain way then we need to take charge. Uncertainty is always part of the process of taking charge and moving on. Courage to me is living with uncertainty. Our perspective or attitude on life not only changes the way we think but also changes our

Award winning writer/producer Arlene Sarner has written for every major movie studio including. Arlene is a talented and engaging writer who shares her story about forgiveness, personal transformation and moving on.  Arlene shares her very powerful story of turning years of acrimony and hostility towards her ex husband, into a now peaceful and civil relationship and says” So don't lose hope--even the most rancorous relationships with exes can eventually shift into civility” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/arlene-sarner/an-ex-passover-guest_b_852318.html?ref=tw Topics in this program include: • The Lunch with the ex and how it changed everything • Forgiveness, the power to forgive and letting go • How letting go of anger changed a family

Understanding the Divorce Landscape takes a big picture look at what you are facing as you enter the world of divorce.  We share tips that support you to effectively take control of your part of the divorce process, the one part of the process that you have direct control over.  You will hear what to educate yourself about in advance of making significant decisions, the importance of prioritizing your efforts, and how to maintain your sanity by focusing on those things you have the ability to influence.  This show and those that follow it are designed to dovetail with our 12 Step Divorce Recovery Podcast series by helping you understand the general territory of divorce, discern what aspects of it apply to your particular situation, and prepare for the many stages and phases so you will be able to effectively negotiate the bumps and bends ahead with grace and dignity.  For more on Journey Beyond Divorce, visit: JourneyBeyondDivorce.com

Toni and Steve are back, and this time, looking into relationship attachment styles, and what creates them. (Childhood Trauma) To learn more about attachment styles, visit: https://youtu.be/d8yhFBqipk0 The dynamic duo also chat about: How breakups become easier over time Over protecting your kids YouTube stars and social media Guy drives his car into a Chicago mall, while Toni's Daughter there shopping with friends! Be sure to follow Being Single with Toni and Steve at: Facebook: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio Instagram: @BeingSingleRadio To email Toni & Steve, send to: DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com Thanks for listening and following!  

One of the most common questions newly divorcing people have for me is, "how long will it take before I'm over this divorce ordeal?" How long it takes to "recover" from a divorce depends on a number of factors, including how long you were together, how good the relationship was and how committed you were to your spouse, whether the divorce was a surprise to you or not, whether you have children together, whether you or your spouse are involved in a new relationship, your personality, your age, your socio-economic status and on and on. In addition, grief has a life of its own and you are done when your grief process is done, and not a minute before. There is no magic formula and no way to get through your grief on the fast track. But you can do things to slow your process down. In addition, grief has a life of its own and you are done* when your grief process is done, and not a minute before. There is no magic formula and no way to get through your grief on the fast track. But you can do things to slow you

(Listener Note: This is Episode #12 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order.) Step 12 is the final and most exciting Step as we explore the unlimited possibility life offers when we intentionally create each step of our journey with a willingness and desire to engage fully - utilizing all our gifts, talents, skills and passion. With each completed effort we joyfully surrender the outcome, having faith that whatever it is, it is the perfect and only next step for us. Upon that outcome being either in-line with our desired goal or different, we assess, integrate what we have learned, recalibrate our plans and re-engage. This is the practice of SESI.  SET your intention, ENGAGE 100%, SURRENDER the outcome, INTEGRATE your experience and lessons and begin again.  We expect the unexpected.  We are comfortable with change.  We embrace all learning opportunities.  We are fully alive, fully engaged and fully responsible.

  Our guest, Emily Brown, is Director of Key Bridge Therapy & Mediation Center in Arlington, VA. (http://www.affairs-help.com/); works with couples, individuals, and families regarding the underlying issues in marriage, divorce, and betrayal. An extramarital affair is one of the most painful experiences that couples face, and one of the greatest challenges for helping professionals. Whether you are seeking assistance in your personal life or you are professional seeking information to better help clients, this is the show that provides the wisdom and guidance so many need.  Emily is the author of Patterns of Infidelity and Their Treatment, and Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity, and numerous articles on affairs.  Topics in this program include: An in-depth look at the 6 different Affairs How to rescue a marriage if there has been an Affair Affair recovery: the process and insight Debunking the myths and misconceptions about Affairs Rebuilding trust How to talk to your chi

Our program deals with Toxic Post Divorce Relationships. In this program, psychologist Dr. Larry Friedberg discusses how to deal with an unreasonable and angry ex.  For some couples, divorce means the end of a relationship and they learn to move on with their lives in a healthy way for themselves and their children. Then there's the group we're going to talk about today where for one or both partners of a divorce, the relationship and past problems continue and in some cases become even more toxic then when they were married.  The sad part of this is for those with children.  Children have had enough to deal with through the divorce process and if even one of the divorced partners chooses to continue the fight, it's their kids that are forced to pay the price.

Toni and Steve are back with another fun and enlightening episode of what it's like being single... AGAIN!  Can you relate? Topics include: 9/11 - A day we will never forget, Bad Ex's, Steve's new clothes and much more.  Enjoy!  Visit our Facebook page at: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio.com.  

Either you or your partner had an affair and you’ve made the decision to stay together.  Yes, you can stay together and settle for a relationship that is OK, or with the help of David Feder who is an expert in treating infidelity, you can survive infidelity, rebuild your relationship and thrive. In this episode of BEYOND INFIDELITY David Feder begins a 2-part review of some of what he coins, the common “recovery hurdles” that can interfere with the process of rebuilding your relationship after an affair.  Tune in to learn about what you should avoid so that you and your spouse can rebuild and have an extraordinary relationship.  It begins here. For more information about David Feder, go to closeconnections.ca, or you can speak with him by calling 416-315-5107.

Step 11 challenges you to utilize all you have learned in the previous ten steps to design and move towards your ideal post divorce life now, regardless of if you are pre, in the midst of, or post divorce. Put it together to create a more encompassing perspective and begin to experience life as an unpredictable adventure that you have the power to influence profoundly.  By assuming full responsibility for your life, you can engage with a creative freedom and use your power to direct yourself towards the life you desire.  Receive a powerful navigation tool, the MIFR, which is both a broom and a life compass.  It allows you to sweep your mind clean of old ways of reacting using Mindfulness to analyze any reaction before you take action. Using Inquiry to correct your course of action through Focus, and finally navigate to destinations of your choosing by Reframing your perspective. The MIFR allows you to take action in ways supportive of your goals, sweeping away perspectives and actions that have undermined you

In episode #3 of Beyond Divorce, Susan Pease Gadoua discusses Not Missing the Lessons from Past Relationships & How to Not Make the Same Mistakes - Regardless of what went wrong in the marriage or past relationships, YOU were part of the equation. The "stories" we have about what went wrong in past relationships are revealing as to where our unhealed wounds reside. If you don't work on healing them, they will show up in the next relationship too! This program will help you better understand and identify patterns that may not have served you in past relationships and suggests how to do your inner work so that you can avoid these behaviors from resurfacing again in future relationships. Learn the three reasons why people are attracted to each other and stay together Learn the three dynamics at work in steering the relation-ship Learn the three steps in breaking unhealthy relationship dynamics Learn better communication skills and how not to shut your partner out And much more

If  you find yourself stuck in a state of  blaming your ex for most of the problems in your relationship, this program will help you understand how to take responsibility for your part of what went wrong in your relationship thus allowing you to take back control of your life. Once you have moved into acceptance of your life, you can concentrate on moving on after divorce. Moving on means connecting with what is now important to you. Moving on means discovering what you truly want from life, what makes you come alive and brings you joy. This episode of Divorce Recovery with Shelley Stile will help you become empowered, confident and enthusiastic to move on. You will learn to take full responsibility and control of your life and transform it into something wonderful and new.

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Mark Banschick, M.D., we discuss needy and clingy personality types.  Have you been with this type of person or was it you that displayed these traits? Neediness Pushes People Away: When the relationship is no longer in the “whirlwind romantic” stage, you may feel the need to cling too much in order to maintain what you had. “What’s wrong?” “I feel like you are not there.” Anxiety occurs because you sense a change, but you may be responding to something completely normal. It’s a burden to have to deal with a clingy lover. “Everything is fine.” Will you just stop it?” The irony is that as you push your concerns forward, you partner may just decide it is too much to deal with. And if you're the clingy person and you are involved with a narcissist, this can turn explosive.  There is no shame to admit that you are too clingy. And there are usually good reasons why you became that way; like anxieties in early childhood. Good relationships are worth a lot, so if you’v

Our guest, William A. (“Bill”) Eddy is an attorney, therapist and mediator, and the President of the High Conflict Institute based in Scottsdale, Arizona.  (http://www.highconflictinstitute.com/).  Bill helps us understand what personality disorder is and how to get along with someone who is narcissistic, has a border line personality disorder, or is a persistent blamer.  They aren’t just difficult people, they're the most difficult people. They file lawsuits, file complaints against professional licenses, gather negative advocates to support their position, cost employers lots of time & money, disrupt & distract, find a target of blame, and convince everyone that its never their fault! Topics in this program include: What is a personality disorder Understanding the High Conflict Personality Pattern Dealing with the personality disordered spouse Understanding the damage of parent alienation Managing through the legal process with a personality disordered spouse How personality disorder driv