The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert

Caller Question: "I am in the process of filing for divorce. I feel it was the right decision, however now that Have been out of the situation that caused a nervous system overload, and as the hurt caused is starting to fade, I am more clearly able to see my role/issues/shortcomings I played a role in in the marriage (critical, expecting him to live up to my husband “manual”, layering shame on top of his already existing shame) the list goes on … this is leaving me with conflicting feelings… and it hurts. It isn’t fun to see that I guess my question is how do I sort through the feelings of the divorce being what I needed to do and feeling like … I could have done much better at ex//(Not layering on the shame whenever he made a mistake/speaking my truth calmly when triggered )… the feeling is maybe there is more I could have done? I am feeling a responsibility for the situation too where I hadn’t really before…. Kind of a messy, unorganized question, but these are my thoughts. Thanks for your time!" We'd love

Caller Question: " In sex addiction, can you and your partner's attachment style be mislabeled? I have several women that I know that think they are "avoidant" because they are rejecting their husband's external validation seeking through sex. Is addiction usually avoidant attachment?" We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation with 2 experienced therapists on realtalkrecovery.com. Tap here to listen on Apple Podcasts Tap here to listen on Spotify Come join us at one of our Retreats! https://risingsonconference.com  

Caller Question: "My husband just got back from your Rising Son conference and it’s feeling like he’s changing and becoming the man I’ve always known he could become. The problem is now that he’s taking his place in our family I am losing my place as the strong steady lead of our family. I honestly don’t know where I fit. So my question is 2 fold, 1: As he embraces his masculinity how do I embrace my femininity? I don’t even know what that means. 2: Does one weekend of spiritual awakening just erase 11 years of pornography addiction. I terrible that I can’t move on like he is." We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation with 2 experienced therapists on realtalkrecovery.com. Tap here to listen on Apple Podcasts Tap here to listen on Spotify Come join us at one of our Retreats! https://risingsonconference.com

Caller Question: "What is the best way to handle a relapse, both for the person struggling with addiction and for their partner? What is the best way to move forward?" We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation with 2 experienced therapists on realtalkrecovery.com. Tap here to listen on Apple Podcasts Tap here to listen on Spotify Come join us at one of our Retreats! https://risingsonconference.com

Guest Ashlynn joins Brannon for a unique episode focused on recovery from different types of pain, Betrayal and Divorce.   

Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way. Join her on her new podcast HERE Follow her on social media at HERE Mentor with her at HERE My guest today is Kristin Hodson, she is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. Founder & CEO of The Healing Group. She has a unique ability to break down the topics of sexuality into easily digestible pieces empowering people to further develop their sexual identity. Online courses a https://www.kristinbhodson.com Follow her on social media: HERE   Kris

Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way. Join her on her new podcast HERE Follow her on social media at HERE Mentor with her at HERE Jessica Miller is an LCSW who has worked with children and families who have experienced trauma. she works to help people heal from significant emotional, physical or sexual abuse using various trauma modalities along with attachment theory. Jessica hosts the podcast Thoughts on Thoughts with two fellow therapists, KJ Reid and Taylor Thomas. You can find her online @thoughts.podcast.  KJ a licensed therapist and

Caller: Hi! Betrayed partner here (porn addiction). I'm a new listener & I just listened to E58-is it ok to be attracted to more than 1 person. I have to say that coming from the betrayed partner's perspective, what was said & talking about the "3 second rule" is terrifying! For a lot of us, our partners could only have sex with us BECAUSE they had an image of someone else in their mind OR it was someone that he saw that made him want to have sex with his partner ONLY because she's the only physical option at the time &\or didn't have the opportunity to go masturbate at the time. So after seeing an attractive woman, even if it's hours later, we're wondering if it's REALLY me he wants to be with or is he just fantasizing about her. & if we don't have sex, we're thinking it's because, after seeing her, he just isn't aroused with "settling" for me! It's a huge double edged sword for some of us. How in the world are we supposed to get past that? We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit you

Trusting ourselves is a challenge as it denotes that we know who we are inside despite expectations around us.  Yoga Therapist and betrayal trauma body expert, Sariah Bastian joins Coby to discuss the importance of trusting ourselves and how to do it.   Sariah Bastian can be reached HERE You can follow her on IG HERE Want to be on an episode with Coby to walk through one of your hard situations in real-time?  If so click HERE and click the contact button and email me with who you are and what situation you want to walk through.   Find the podcast "Grow With Coby" on any podcast app.   For more info and to connect with Coby go to growwithcoby.com MENTOR WITH COBY HERE

Ellie is my youngest of two daughters.  She is my fiery redhead who teaches me to have more empathy, more love & how to do my makeup! She is would take over this podcast if I let her, so we may have more Ellie in our future. Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way. Join her on her new podcast HERE Follow her on social media at HERE Mentor with her at HERE After producing 200 episodes together. The Hosts of the Betrayed, The Addicted, and the Expert have expanded to 3 separate podcasts still supporting those healing in there journeys of l

I don't feel like i have a really clear question to ask, i've just been in limbo for 3 years. Knowing God will bring me and my spouse back together and it happening feel like two alien forces working against eachother. As my counselor says, "i am the only one who can determine how long I can live this way." After 3 years of separation, i would say he is still doing things for recovery, but he doesn’t know why he’s not safe, why I don’t trust him, and I’m not convinced he believes he needs “recovery.” He had 3 affairs, 20+ years, does Bible study, has accountability partner I don’t think is helping, has counselors that seem to think I need to forgive him, and he says if he moves into the house he would be able to be emotionally intimate. I completely agree with your comments about him never trusting me, and I don’t think he can trust me yet. I do wonder if I should take the leap, trust God, let him move in, trust he will move towards me, etc? I believe in a God of miracles, but He also blessed me with a brain

Candice is a Master's level psychologist, and has worked in jail and prison settings as well as in crisis work too (doing assessments at hospitals for people whom are in a mental health crisis of some kind). She has experience working with suicidal ideation, depression, anxiety and trauma. She recently started her own practice in June. She's a single mother to her son, and they live in Michigan. You can find Candice on IG at @hoperising_candice_mallp & on psychology today HERE  Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way. Follow her on social

"I loved the Podcast I listened to on Boundaries. So much great info, tools and principles discussed. I appreciated the podcast because of the difficulty I had with a group my wife got involved in that did a lot of the things you talked about and then some. I'm willing to bet they've destroyed more families that they have actually helped. They broke so much of my own trust and actually caused me a lot of trauma. I had to do multiple therapy sessions of EMDR to get over that. My wife (soon to be ex) is stuck in her victimhood and refuses to move on. It took me a long time to realize that my wife was the last bad habit I had to kick to get into Recovery. I have found new love and have the connection I have always wanted using the tools and principles I have found here.  My question is along the lines of my wife retaining her victim status and not moving forward, especially due to the women’s group she is with. Because of that I have been cut off from my son. I have seen or talked to him in 3 months now. I’m try

BenJoe joins Coby to discuss the emotions that come along with moving a family from El Salvador back to the US after 11 years.  Having 5 kids and lots of professional and ecclesiastical responsibilities, BenJoe shares how he has navigated such a transition as a parent, partner, professional and individual.   Ben is the COO of an international call agency and has lived overseas for 11 years.  Upon returning home he shares how he dealt with the issues he faced as a parent, partner, professional and individual.  Facing emotions and looking ahead to forcast what could happen helped him anticipate what issues his kids and wife may have so he could deal with it the way that was best for him and his family.  You can follow BenJoe on Linkedin at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/benjoem Want to be on an episode with Coby to walk through one of your hard situations in real-time?  If so click HERE and click the contact button and email me with who you are and what situation you want to walk through.   Find the podcast "Grow

Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way. Join her on her new podcast HERE Follow her on social media at HERE Mentor with her at HERE After producing 200 episodes together. The Hosts of the Betrayed, The Addicted, and the Expert have expanded to 3 separate podcasts still supporting those healing in there journeys of life. Sundays join the "Grow with Coby" show for the tools to grow and heal from the challenges of life. Monday join Brannon and his brother for "Real Talk Recovery" Podcast with of not 1 but 2 expert therapists. Wednesdays check o

Caller Question: "Does society manufacture Lust addicts through shame? i'm seeing more in myself and my fellows in SAL how damaging shame is to recovery. this mentality of "I'm a sexaholic, an addict" whilst i personally feel necessary in the start of recovery, is causing a lot of shame-train and relapse. I see shame still being this huge driving force that is impeding my growth. i'd love to discuss with you guys your thoughts on if Lust actually is the problem, or if it's this pressure that we have put on ourselves due to our morals, shame on not living them, and if there's a self-fulfilling cycle out there that society at large provides me that fuels this train. it makes me curious if there's a better method than the "I'm a sexaholic" deal" We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation with 2 experienced therapists on realtalkrecovery.com. If you're looking for insight into real recovery, you can find more stories and conversations like this on The RE

Nate Farnsworth is the Presiden and CEO of Factory Six which is a private label CBD manufacturer but is also a friend of Coby's and has been for years.  He has spent many years in business as an entrepreneur and has thrown his hat in the arena of extreme sports in that he has run an ultra marathon in the Wasatch mountains at high elevation but also ran marathons and many half marathons. He and Coby discuss what discomfort is about both physically and mentally especially when we are in stressful situations in life.  Learning to access those situations and evaluate their intensity and corresponding emotions is vital in reducing collateral damage in our lives and relationships.   Nate can be found on IG @natan720 or at his companies website factory6cbd.com Want to be on an episode with Coby to walk through one of your hard situations in real-time?  If so click HERE and click the contact button and email me with who you are and what situation you want to walk through.   For more info and to connect with Coby go t

After producing 200 episodes together. The Hosts of the Betrayed, The Addicted, and the Expert have expanded to 3 separate podcasts still supporting those healing in there journeys of life. Sundays join the "Grow with Coby" show for the tools to grow and heal from the challenges of life. Monday join Brannon and his brother for "Real Talk Recovery" Podcast with of not 1 but 2 expert therapists. Wednesdays check out "This is Ashlynn" as Ashlynn Mitchell reveals the people and process that support her in living her life to the fullest! Each of these podcasts support you in relationships, healing from trauma, owning your sexuality, finding authenticity, and enjoying life beyond the trials. We still believe in what we teach. If you need help you can go to?  Go to HERE Click here to move beyond betrayal HERE

Caller Question: "How can I be a Sex Addict and a Sexual Anorexic? In a recent podcast about increasing sex drive, sexual anorexia was mentioned, and I looked into it. As a sex addict it seems confusing that I would also be a sexual anorexic, but the criteria seems to fit. My wife and I were physical while dating, but as soon as we got married the desire for sexual intimacy disappeared. The pornography addiction remained, but despite my wife's desire for sex, I struggled to be intimate with her. I assumed it was the addiction, but 3 years of recovery has not increased the sexual desire for my wife. Is it Sexual Anorexia? Intimacy Anorexia? Or something else entirely?" We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation with 2 experienced therapists on realtalkrecovery.com. If you're looking for insight into real recovery, you can find more stories and conversations like this on The REAL TALK RECOVERY Podcast hosted by The Therapy Brothers (Brannon Patrick LSC

My guest, Emma Belle was born in the UK and lives in Dubai with her partner and two gorgeous cats. They are currently going through fertility treatment to try and have a family.  They have had 7 rounds of fertility treatments (ovulation inductions and IUI).  She is a survivor of Domestic violence and sexual trauma and was diagnosed with Bipolar 10 years ago. She now gives back to others. You can find her weekly online support groups HERE for those living with Bipolar Disorder and those that are sadly TFMR Mamas.  She is an ambassador for www.bipolaruk.org and is host a new podcast for them called "Let's talk bipolar".  She is the host of the Vulnerability Rocks Podcast where her guests bravely step in to vulnerability to share their own experiences to help others. Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate