The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert

Scott & Melissa join from Canada. They allowed us to dig into some of the ups and downs of their journey in recovery. The hard parts including D-day, miscarriage, and feeling disconnected from God. The highlights including rebuilt trust, overcoming sexual anorexia, and Love. We had some beautiful moments filled with emotion. Thank you for sharing this with us Scott & Melissa.   We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation with 2 experienced therapists on realtalkrecovery.com. If you're looking for insight into real recovery, you can find more stories and conversations like this on The REAL TALK RECOVERY Podcast hosted by The Therapy Brothers (Brannon Patrick LSCW "The Expert" and Tyler Patrick LMFT "The Wandering Therapist").    Tap here to listen on Apple Podcasts Tap here to listen on Spotify

My guest Amy is a business owner, designer, mother and wife. She is passionate about building and growth in her life, within herself, her business, and building up those around her. She lives and works in Utah’s Heber Valley with her husband and three kids. She enjoys spending time outside (especially the desert), wake surfing and boating, traveling, playing pickleball and spending time with family. Amy has a passion for creating spaces and values the vulnerability that comes with design. Her business Styled Life Design specializes in new build construction design. She believes that your environment can reflect you, and help you to achieve your dream life. We met in line at a conference where i was speaking. Kept in contact online. Then years later wound up rooming together at ALT summit in Palm Springs California - the rest is history I suppose. Lots of events, dance parties, walk and talks, Marco polos, more conferences, karaoke, axe throwing, double dates — you name it. We do the fun and the seri

Caller Question: How do I overcome residual lack of self confidence and catastrophizing after childhood bullying?  I still struggle with lack of confidence and fear of what life holds after childhood bullying. I have a hard time loving myself and believing that I deserve success because I still have residual beliefs that shape my self image and identity. I would love more insight on what I can do to forge a new life and move past this." We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation with 2 experienced therapists on realtalkrecovery.com. If you're looking for insight into real recovery, you can find more stories and conversations like this on The REAL TALK RECOVERY Podcast hosted by The Therapy Brothers (Brannon Patrick LSCW "The Expert" and Tyler Patrick LMFT "The Wandering Therapist").    Tap here to listen on Apple Podcasts Tap here to listen on Spotify

Lucy Mitchell, daughter to Coby shares her story about creating spike to use as a character who puts thoughts in her head that aren't hers and actions that don't represent who she really is.   Spike has four methods of trying to keep us from being our true and #authentic selves.   TEMPT US: This is when thoughts of losing #patience, lashing out, making decisions that do not reflect who we really are, and become actions that cause damage to ourselves and our #relationships. SHAME US:  Thoughts like "I'm not good #enough", or "They will never forgive me", or "I'm so stupid because of what I did."  As humans, we don't come wired to think these thoughts but by living life the Spike Narrative does come and these #destructive thoughts are not us. MOUNTAINS OUT OF MOLEHILLS: When something goes wrong and all of a sudden it's doomsday and we've lost all hope or thoughts of catastrophe flow one after another.   MINIMIZE, RATIONALIZE AND JUSTIFY:  This is when lashing out becomes ok.  This is when thoughts of hurting #

My guest today is my friend Amanda.  She is a mom to four kids living in Northern Utah. She's been on a journey of healing and expanding and evolving for the last 3 years. She loves to be outside in any capacity,  traveling, dancing and other ridiculousness, and is learning to lean into things that scare her or make her uncomfortable. Like being on this podcast. She is not an expert but has found so much healing in mindfulness and mediation and crystals. Amanda was in one of my groups and then won a ticket to a dance party and I invited her to my house to get ready before. It was one of the scariest things she had ever done showing up by herself that night but she will never regret it! So so happy and grateful we became friends! Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life fu

Caller Question: "What Does Healthy Masculinity Have To Do With Recovery?" Brannon and Tyler talk with guest Jon about his recovery and the different periods of growth that he's experienced and what the obstacles have been. Brannon and Tyler both know Jon and have had the chance to watch him develop into the man that he is today.  Join us and 29 other men at our Rising Son Men's Conference this September from the 23rd - 25th at Bear Lake. This experience is designed for Christian men seek to build a deeper connection to God, Self, and Others while experiencing Higher Level Recovery principles through immersive activities. https://risingsonconference.com If you're looking for insight into real recovery, you can find more stories and conversations like this on The REAL TALK RECOVERY Podcast hosted by The Therapy Brothers (Brannon Patrick LSCW "The Expert" and Tyler Patrick LMFT "The Wandering Therapist").    We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation w

When anxiety and then overwhelming feelings hit in a very abrupt and sudden way, Coby faces the reality of his emotions in an effort to find out what is really behind the anger he feels.  He used the following steps to work through this emotional upheaval. 1.  Recognized his body saying something was off by manifesting #anxiety. 2.  Identified the #overwhelming #emotions without #judging them. 3. Changed the #music to a #playlist that would help him #calm down. 4.  Recognized his #projecting #anger on another driver on the road as his own #emotional #overload and realized there was more going on inwardly. 5.  Listed the current situations (situational #triggers) that were going on in life and what #emotions each one evoked. This process allowed Coby to #connect with himself and process in a way that gave him insights into what his body was saying.  This allowed him to not take #emotions out on anyone but to be #calm when returning home to his girls. Want to be on an episode with Coby to walk through one of yo

My guest today is my former therapist, Amy Andrus.  She is a licensed marriage and family therapist since 2000 & CSAT since 2013.  She’s taught courses at BYU & counseled many students at the Women’s Services and Resources Center, where her eyes were opened to the world of sexual addiction and trauma.  Amy's life has been affected by sex addiction in a personal way. She knows the struggle, shame, and guilt the addict experiences. She has found it rewarding to facilitate individual change and work with the family system to ensure long-term growth and change.    Amy's a single mom of six. Her youngest daughter has Down Syndrome, and raising her has taught her countless life lessons. Find her on Instagram at @askamyandrus   Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a

The Therapy Brothers focus on the need for healthy boundaries and define a little more clearly what that is by playing out some real world scenarios from their therapy practices. Tyler even digs into some of his own recovery work with his wife and boundaries he got hung up on.  If you're looking for insight into real recovery, you can find more stories and conversations like this on The REAL TALK RECOVERY Podcast hosted by The Therapy Brothers (Brannon Patrick LSCW "The Expert" and Tyler Patrick LMFT "The Wandering Therapist").    We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation with 2 experienced therapists on realtalkrecovery.com or therapybros.com.

Situations that lead to intense #emotions, which in turn create #behavior that is unwanted.  That is a situational #trigger and they are real in everyday life.  Here are a few takeaways from the episode. There are 2 types of situational triggers: Know situational #triggers Unknow situational #triggers Within those are 2 variations: Current situational #triggers Ongoing situational #triggers HOW DO WE IDENTIFY THEM? Which situations have intense emotions surrounding them? Which roles in life have these situations as an: #individual, #professional, #parent or #partner, whatever applies WHAT DO WE DO ONCE WE IDENTIFY THEM? List them by the role you play Rank the intensity on a 1-10 scale with 10 being most intense HOW DO I USE THIS CONCEPT EACH DAY? Rank their intensity on a 1-10 scale each day till they no longer play a role in life. Identify which situations you will face each week and the night before each day. When you can't control situations around you, all you can do is pour your energy into the

Kallie is an operating room nurse who lives with her husband and two children in Iowa. Meditation and mindfulness have been an integral part of her healing journey. They had such an impact on her that she became a certified meditation instructor. Kallie trained under Deepak Chopra and Roger Gabriel through the Chopra Center and now enjoys sharing the gifts of mindfulness and meditation with others in small and sustainable steps. You can find her HERE Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way. Join her on her new podcast HERE Follow her on soci

Caller Question: "How Do I Increase My Sexual Desire While I'm Working My Recovery?" We hope you found something meaningful in this episode. If you're looking for insight into real recovery, you can find more stories and conversations like this on The REAL TALK RECOVERY Podcast hosted by The Therapy Brothers (Brannon Patrick LSCW "The Expert" and Tyler Patrick LMFT "The Wandering Therapist").    We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation with 2 experienced therapists on realtalkrecovery.com or therapybros.com.

Knowing yourself enough to the extent of seeing the same frustrating and maddening situations come ahead of time and then still losing your cool is nuts.  It is also common.  Why does this happen?  What can be done to prevent it?  That is what this episode is about.   #Emotions that trigger #behavior we don't want are so so common in every human but how do we experience them without getting so upset?   Want to be on an episode with Coby to walk through one of your hard situations in real-time?  If so click HERE and click the contact button and email me with who you are and what situation you want to walk through.   For more info and to connect with Coby go to growwithcoby.com

Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way. Join her on her new podcast HERE Follow her on social media at HERE Mentor with her at HERE After producing 200 episodes together. The Hosts of the Betrayed, The Addicted, and the Expert have expanded to 3 separate podcasts still supporting those healing in there journeys of life. Sundays join the "Grow with Coby" show for the tools to grow and heal from the challenges of life. Monday join Brannon and his brother for "Real Talk Recovery" Podcast with of not 1 but 2 expert therapists. Wednesdays check o

"How can I determine whether it's scrupulosity or if I am in denial again? A few years ago, I was diagnosed with scrupulosity. During my upbringing, my understanding of religion became very strict, and I acquired the perception that I needed to be perfect in order to be worthy and loved in the sight of God. I was led to believe that if I felt certain feelings that I was sinning. These feelings of worthlessness were coped with sexual misbehaviors. Throughout my youth, I began be very obsessive about confessing my sins to my church leaders. I literally saw repentance as confession, and yet I couldn't figure out why I still felt unworthy no matter how much I would confess, so I assumed I wasn't specific enough, that I didn't cover enough, and that I never did enough to be forgiven by God. My addiction progressed into my marriage as well as my obsessive confessions but to my wife, yet there were obvious patterns of denial as well. I struggle to know the difference within me." We hope you found something meaningfu

Being ready to face life each day is not complex but our brains resist new activities because it is not a #routine and our brains operate best on cruise control.  So how do we establish #dailyhabits that foster physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual balance so we can show up our best selves when life goes sideways?  This episode is about sharing best practices for establishing dailies. #Workout: 30 minutes #Spiritual Devotional: 10 minutes #Journal Daily Emotions by Role in Life: 5 minutes Share emotions with your safe person: read your list of emotions Things to keep in mind about dailies: -Do what you enjoy so it is #sustainable -Take the path of least resistance  -Use your tech to establish #reminders -Plan ahead by reviewing when #dailies are scheduled each night for the next day Want to be on an episode with Coby to walk through one of your hard situations in real-time?  If so click HERE and click the contact button and email me with who you are and what situation you want to walk through.   For more

Jordan Ferney has been my friend since I was 9 years old & she always had big ideas.  She continues to create as a successful entrepreneur building www.OhHappyDay.com & Color Factory.  She is currently a contributing editor at Domino Magazine, living in NYC with her 3 cute kids & lovely artist husband Paul.  You can find Jordan at HERE Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible when life doesn't go as planned & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while free from the past.  She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of intention & freedom.   Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way. Join her on her new podcast HERE Follow her on social media at HERE Mentor with her at HERE After producing 200 episodes together. The Hosts of the Betrayed, Th

Caller Question: "Masturbation. Ive heard both of your episodes on it. As well as one from sex for saints podcast. I dont deny theres a change in the church about masturbation and love the new movement you're a part of to speak up. Im hopping aboard to speak up publicly about how I'm a recovering sexaholic, working the SAL program, etc.  So far from what you guys have spoken about in regards to masturbation, i agree to a degree. But I was hoping you could help answer my question:  I'm curious if you could speak more to how lust plays a part in masturbation.  From my own experiences it definitely has played a central role. And as a married man i dont know if i can masturbate without lusting to a degree that would ruin my recovery/slippery slope and scratch the itch/ relieve sexual tension/ etc.  But for my kids. Teaching them. I agree a lot with what you've said, but i know that masturbation is a dangerous gateway into lust addiction."   We hope you found something meaningful in this episode. If you're lookin

Ellie is my youngest of two daughters.  She is my fiery redhead who teaches me to have more empathy, more love & how to do my makeup! She is would take over this podcast if I let her, so we may have more Ellie in our future. Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that may just help you shift your own journey in a beautiful way. Join her on her new podcast HERE Follow her on social media at HERE Mentor with her at HERE When we started this journey we had no idea, where it would lead.  Although we have never taken a stand as to what should happen with a relationship after infidelity, we have strived to

Kelly Petersen is the friend that you want in your corner whether you're going through a tough time or having the best time of your life! We met through Instagram and have discovered we share a love for being your true self and teaching kids all about emotions. She is lovingly known as Boundaries Babe by those who know her. She is passionate about all things self care, just graduated with her degree in elementary teaching where she is committed to creating safe classrooms and teaching for all students.  She's been married 6 years and from Omaha, Nebraska. Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversations with those she loves & respects who share their #bethebuffalo moments that