Love Life Connection

Welcome to episode 258 of the Love Live Connection podcast! Did you lose a parent or other close relative early in life? Is it hard for you to trust both yourself and God/Universe and other things outside of you? Perhaps you’re always waiting for something bad to happen or have unhealthy habits like drinking or eating too much, binge-watching lots of TV, using drugs, or doing anything that suppresses your emotions. Keep these things in mind during this episode with my guest Becca where I help her come to terms with her self-abandonment issues. 7:11 - Where Becca’s abandonment fears come from 13:00 - What Becca experienced as a child when she wasn’t “perfect” 17:31 - Feeling stuck in the sadness and grief of her 12-year old self 21:26 - Self-abandonment as the culprit behind some self-destructive patterns 27:04 - Something my first coach said that can take the edge off negative self-talk 33:50 - A quick review and some tips from this coaching call  I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email

Welcome to episode 257 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How I Found Love Part 5. Last time we left off, I discussed how dating went completely on the back burner while working on the Obama campaign. During that year, I worked like crazy and wasn’t really taking care of myself. When the campaign concluded, I didn’t really regain my energy, so I changed my approach to food and exercise. I reinvented myself, became a vegan for a time and soon afterwards, I got a job in Washington D.C. and was ready to meet my future nice Jewish boy. Now, let’s move full steam ahead to part 5! 6:34 - My six-week romance with a banker in Washington D.C. 9:42 - What my best guy friend told me that changed everything 14:37 - The fateful chat invitation I received to a Happy Hour I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Listen to the previous episodes in the series: How I Found Love, Pa

Welcome to episode 256 of the Love Live Connection podcast! I’m always talking about, thinking about, doing, and coaching my clients on inner child work. But I know it can feel a little awkward. So if you like the idea of doing inner child work but have misgivings for whatever reason, then this coaching conversation with Debra will be helpful for you to listen to. I walk her through how she can get over that barrier so that she’s able to connect deeply with herself without cringing, and it’ll help her attract a more emotionally available partner as a bonus. 7:10 - A wish to re-ignite the desire to date 13:25 - How 5-year old Debra coped when trying to be accepted for who she is 20:25 - This decision serving as a turning point for her 26:27 - Using photos to connect with her inner child 31:25 - What she can commit to right now 38:17 - Wrapping up the coaching call with a review and some takeaways I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing fro

Welcome to episode 255 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How I Found Love Part 4. Previously in part 3, after hitting a low point, things in Charleston were beginning to look up. I loved my new city, had a great job, and quickly developed a great group of friends. I also dated someone for the first time who was respectful and actually wanted to be with me, and I found new confidence that allowed me to dodge a bullet with another guy. Then Obama’s people called me, and that’s where I continue my story now. 4:23 - A missed call and grueling days on the Obama campaign 7:23 - Why I was obsessed with my weight, despite being physically fit 11:59 - How ditching dieting and becoming a vegan helped me practice self-love   I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Listen to the previous episodes in the series: How I Found Love, Part 1 How I Found Love, Part 2 How I Found L

Welcome to episode 254 of the Love Live Connection podcast! This is the second coaching episode I have around pandemic dating. As you’ll learn in this call with Angela, the pandemic isn’t really the problem. She’s had quite a few relationships that started off well but ended shortly thereafter and can’t seem to get past the first date. During our call, we delve into her love life before the pandemic, the kind of people she’s attracting now, her parents’ relationship with each other and with her, feeling the need to walk on eggshells growing up, and navigating how to connect with potential partners and bring more feminine energy to the process while still in the middle of a pandemic. 4:07​ - What Angela’s love life was like prior to the pandemic 8:47 - Comparisons to her parents’ relationship affecting Angela’s dating approach 12:42 - A little experiment with 10-year old Angela 17:53 - What Angela tells herself when she goes online 23:59 - Making our online connections more like our offline connections 27:57 -

Welcome to episode 253 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How I Found Love Part 3. You might remember that after breaking up with my college sweetheart, I moved to Jerusalem for grad school and had two back-to-back relationships with people who didn’t want to be with me. Despite my love for travel and living abroad, it was one of the darkest times in my life and look back on it now with mixed emotions. It got to the point where I couldn’t handle my emotions anymore, so I reached out to a therapist. That brings us to part 3, which I like to call “learning how to adult.” 4:54​ - Moving back to South Carolina and feeling like a complete person for the first time 10:25 - My relationship with a nice Jewish boy just a few months later 13:08 - Why that relationship was so significant to me 15:09 - A situation that showed me how far I had come I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to this episode, here are your next

Welcome to episode 252 of the Love Live Connection podcast. This episode really highlights why inner child work is so incredibly important. So much of our romantic life has to do with us replaying out old wounds and issues from mom and dad (or lack thereof) and childhood. My caller today Mariela is doing all the things--swiping, going on dates, trying to be open and vulnerable, trusting other people--and it keeps blowing up in her face. As you’ll quickly realize, it’s not surprising that she’s facing this given her backstory. Even if you  can’t really relate to her experiences, I still encourage you to be curious about connecting some of the dots. 5:00​ – Mariela describes the pattern her dating life has taken 9:53 - 12-year old Mariela not getting love, support, or understanding from her parents 15:58 - When conditional love or unconditional love is appropriate 22:25 - Doing some inner child work on the call with Mariela 29:47 - A sign to know when you’re in a good place with the healing process 33:34 - Summ

Welcome to a special Valentine’s Day episode of the Love Live Connection podcast! A lot of times I hear women say that they’re deserving of love and love themselves, they know that they’re a great catch, they give themselves bubble baths, and so on. All of these things are great. Yet, when they’re in a relationship the love isn’t there; there’s murky boundaries, they’re not feeling very supported or seen by their partner, they’re attracting partners who exhibit toxic behavior, etc. I know for some of you this day is no big deal. Others, however, find it difficult because it reminds you of what you want but don’t have. Maybe you switch from camp to camp or are somewhere between the two. But wherever you are, I want to help you take your self-love practices and apply them to your dating life and relationship. 6:00 - Boundaries are the application of self-love 8:38 - Relationships not being about compromise 11:19 - How to shift your perspective when paying for therapy   I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me o

Welcome to episode 251 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How I Found Love Part 2. I’m excited to be chatting with you all again! In this episode, I give a quick recap of what I discussed in the first episode of this series. Then, I talk about my romantic adventures living abroad as a grad student, including facing denial and desperation regarding a guy I was crushing on hard, and seeking help through therapy for the first time. 11:52​ - The major problem in my romantic relationship with a guy in Ramallah 17:24​ - Totally crushing on someone at the organization where I interned as a graduate 19:59​ - My obsession to keep the relationship going 24:02 - Feeling like I wasted almost two years of my 20s while living abroad   I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Join me for the on-demand workshop, Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul. This is how to do the de

Welcome to episode 250 of the Love Live Connection podcast. This is going to be a really good episode to share with a friend. If there’s anything that’s a catalyst for late-night Googling or reaching out to me, it’s a breakup, especially one they can’t get over and feel they should because it happened a long time ago or the relationship wasn’t super serious or long-lasting anyway. Getting over a breakup is really two-fold: it’s getting over both the person and the relationship. The former is usually easier than the latter, but a lot of times we conflate the two. We can even know that the person wasn’t right for us or didn't treat us well. Yet, we’re still hung up on them and the relationship which can further contribute to inner turmoil. So if you can relate to that, you’ll love this conversation with Rachel. 6:52​ – Making a relationship mean something or it giving us something we can’t give ourselves 12:30​ - How it’s really about Rachel’s relationship with her dad and filling the masculine void 17:47​ - Ra

Welcome to episode 249 of the Love Live Connection podcast. I’ve brought back my good friend, Veronica Perretti. If you’ve been listening for awhile, you know she’s one of my favorite astrologers. I have her on the show a few times a year, just to give us little astro updates so we can know the energy and its effects on politics, society, and our lives (including our love lives). This is a longer episode than I intended, but I really think you’re going to love it. Will 2021 be a step up from last year? Maybe...or maybe not. Obviously in our conversation, we only speak of things very broadly. So I highly recommend looking to see where some of the things Veronica’s talking about are playing out in your chart.  5:22 - 2020 recap where we kicked off with generational conjunction of Saturn and Pluto 12:39 - Saturn loves to put us in our place but we need him for growth 20:00 - Why Veronica P. believes we’re entering an era of Aquarius, but not the Age of Aquarius 25:13 - Uranus in Taurus will force us to make chan

Welcome to episode 248 of the Love Live Connection podcast. Today, I’m having a coaching call with Antoinette. As you listen, keep the following questions in mind: Do you have a habit of escaping certain parts of your life, especially when things feel uncertain or chaotic? Do you check out through travel, work, exercise, Netflix, or something else? Does a part of you believe that a relationship would just be a burden? In this call, Antoinette reveals her deep rooted feeling that relationships are a burden, feelings of insecurity in her home, tendency to use escapism as an act of avoidance, and how her parents and childhood contribute to it all. 5:25 - Antoinette suspects there’s something wrong with her or her dating approach 11:22 - Feeling a subtle instability undercurrent from being raised by incompatible parents 17:01 - Little Antoinette lack of a group of friends or peers consistently nice to her 24:49 - Feelings of shame associated with home spaces in Antoinette’s past 31:58 - Recapping my conversation

Welcome to episode 247 of the Love Live Connection podcast. As I acclimate to new parenthood, I’m re-running a series that originally aired on my podcast almost four years ago.  It’s a 6-part series about how I met my husband, beginning with my first boyfriend in sixth grade. I share with you the ups, downs, and everything in between. For many years in my dating life, a healthy and long-term partnership felt so far away. So my goal with this series is to inspire you and help you see that a relationship is possible for you too, no matter how far off it may feel right now. 7:20 - Embracing the creation of serendipitous moments and envisioning your relationship10:21 - Wanting to find, at age 11, the person I was going to marry and spend forever with13:49 - The best friend I thought about marrying at one point, despite misgivings I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Joi

Welcome to episode 246 of the Love Live Connection podcast. In today’s coaching episode, we’re joined by Nicole to discuss whether to follow the head or the heart when they contradict each other in relationships. It’s really her 11-year old self asking for help. A history of perfectionism, OCD, seeking the approval of family (especially her parents), and a religious upbringing all combine in her outsourcing her power. So I talk her through doing some inner work and figuring out how to get marriage off the pedestal she’s placed it on.  7:01 - What Nicole’s head is saying about her current relationship 11:23 - OCD as a child and where Nicole’s perfectionism comes from 17:30 - Nicole’s message to her 11-year-old self and how she’d respond back 20:56 - Revealing Nicole’s misalignment and the work she needs to do 27:45 - Taking note and keeping track of the stories Nicole tells herself  34:09 - Not liking yet still accepting what your partner does and compromising (or not) 38:35 - Compatibility issues and deciding

Welcome to a bonus episode of the Love Live Connection podcast! This feels extra special because this is the first episode I’ve recorded since giving birth. As much as this is my business and livelihood, it’s also my creative outlet. So it’s really good to be back podcasting and working with old and new clients again. Usually, I look back and share some highs and lows (professionally and personally) at the end of the year. But this year has definitely been one for the history books and not one we want to re-live! Since I’ve always liked hearing other people’s birth stories, instead of the usual I thought I’d share with you my birth and fourth-trimester stories instead. 3:20 – Enduring a painful prenatal procedure involving “sweeping the membranes” 11:49 - Why I wanted to avoid an epidural and taking a morphine nap 23:15 - Surprising news, undergoing a big fear of mine, and seeing my baby for the first time 28:40 - Why I couldn’t hold my baby boy for 12 hours 35:19 - Realizing all the dogma about newborn care

Welcome to episode 245 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Why High Achieving, Successful Women Struggle in Love When we talk about independence, we have to talk a little bit about feminine and masculine energy. This is not an episode on feminine and masculine energy. However, I do think it’s important to understand the basics of that, so you can see why being independent can actually be a hindrance and how you can be independent and be in a relationship at the same time Make sure you listen to the end so you can take those steps and start making changes in your love life 5:41 – What the Independence Complex is and why it can be a hindrance 8:02 - A few examples of how masculine and feminine energy work together 10:52 - How being super independent results in the person in your relationship not feeling needed or able to hold an emotional connection with you 15:36 - Three actions steps to take from this episode I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forwar

Welcome to episode 244 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Use Fem/Masc Energy to Stop Procrastinating and Get Back on Track With Your Goals With Maureen I’m speaking with a long time client of mine, Maureen, who’s having trouble leaning into her masculine energy to move her career forward. I think she described herself as a puddle of feminine energy. She wants to meditate, clean, focus on the self-care inner work, but when it comes to moving her career forward, she feels stuck, and puts off applying to jobs. In the past, Maureen  used to be very into her masculine energy.  She could achieve any career related thing and knock out any to-do list. She wants to know how she can get back into that. Maureen thinks her problem is a masculine energy problem, but I disagreed. I think she has a healthier relationship with her masculine energy than she thinks. In reality, the problem is rooted in her feminine energy. 4:45 – Background information on Feminine and masculine energy 9:20 - Maureen asks how to re-en

Welcome to episode 243 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Clear Love Blocks When Your Parents Had a Great Marriage In today’s coaching episode we’re joined by Alice to talk about clearing love blocks and the inner child work that comes up even if your parents had a wonderful marriage. And be sure to join us for the entire show because, in the end, I’ll share why I didn’t move into some heavier topics during this conversation. It’s going to be really valuable if you’re also a coach, or even coaching yourself.  2:13 – Alice asks, why is she still single after ending a 20-year relationship 5 years ago.  4:28 – We explore Alice’s background and childhood.  6:18 – Do you really want unconditional love?  10:17 – Alice becomes enlightened, and you can too.  16:08 – The importance of looking at how you already have what you want in the relationship with yourself.  18:48 - We dig in to why Alice attracts the wrong people 23:07 – Start taking people off the pedestal, it’s not fair for you or them.  29:48 – Whe

  Welcome to episode 242 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Relax in the Early Stages of Dating with Miriam You know when you’re dating someone you feel excited about, and yet, the anxiety is killing you! You anxiously await text backs, you hate not having plans in place, you want to know how they feel and where this is all going. My caller Miriam, just started dating someone she’s super excited about… yet the excitement has tipped over into anxiety, to a point where it’s becoming unsustainable.  We talk through some tools she can use to help relax during this early stage of her relationship. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 4:18 - Miriam asks how to navigate the anxiety she’s feeling in the early stages of dating 6:42 - How Miriam is trying to deal with a wound of not being picked. 13:00 - Tools Miriam can use to help with her negative storytelling 19:00 - The power of not giving your power away 26:57 - A recap

Welcome to episode 241 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Is He Right for Me and How to Know What You Need With Marti In today’s show, my caller is unsure of how to ask for what she wants and needs in her relationship without being bitchy or naggy. She’s also got these other questions swirling through her head, “Is he right for me?” “How can I ask for what I want without trying to change him?” and “What’s happening long term in this relationship?” All of these questions can feel overwhelming and cloud the issue at hand which, getting what she needs. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 3:14 - A list of episodes (linked below) to start with if you are new to the podcast 7:51 - Marti asks for direction with dating  10:59 - Finding a balance between settling or being too picky 15:05 - How to ask for what you want 36:45 - A walk-through of the Emptying the Vessel technique to help you make big decisions   After you listen to t