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Welcome to episode 240 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Set a Boundary (and Really Mean It!) I really love this episode with my client, Laura, because she’s in a very specific situationship with her best friend, but we tie it back to some deeper, core issues. Setting a boundary or asking for what you want or need is never the problem. I know it can feel scary to do it especially if you’ve done it before and it’s blown up in your face. But remember, if someone can’t handle your boundary, emotion, or opinion, the problem is who you attracted into your life, not you. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!   5:27 - Laura wants to know what to do about her best friend who is not respecting her boundaries 14:25 - Laura’s version of success is different from her family’s, causing friction 18:48 - My advice to Laura on how to set a boundary with her brother 24:22 - Why setting a boundary with her best friend may be hard 27:

Welcome to episode 239 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Get Started With Inner Child Work (and Why You Must Do This to Find Love) Inner Child work is the core of the work I do with my clients.  If you want to find love, doing this work is non-negotiable. In fact, I’m very clear with all my potential clients that they need to be on board with doing this. Because talking about profiles, texting, what you’re wearing, or how you’re meeting people isn’t going to help you find love. Find a date? Sure. But if you have patterns and blocks that are holding you back emotionally, it doesn’t matter how awesome your profile is or how many dates you go on. Nothing will change. Since I get so many questions about this, I created an episode where I break all this inner child work down. So if you’re not sure what I mean by inner child work, or you’re not sure how it applies to you, or how to get started, you’ll love this episode. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback.

Welcome to episode 238 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Feel Worthy of the Relationship You Want with Maya The worthiness wound is the core wound of all core wounds.  I think all of our core wounds, one way or another, go back to worthiness. My caller this week, Maya, is definitely not alone in asking how to feel worthy.  I could tell her over and over again that she’s worthy, but in order to fundamentally change how she feels about herself, she has to do the deep healing work, which is exactly what I coach her to do in today’s episode on the Love Life Connection. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 4:07 - Maya wants to know how to feel worthy in a relationship 11:24 - We dig in to Maya’s childhood 16:07 - It doesn’t matter if you remember everything from your childhood to do inner child work 23:04 - When we don’t want to deal with messy emotions, we typically don’t want to deal with messy things physically 27:37

Welcome to episode 237 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to know the difference between your intuition and fear with Katy. You know by now that dating by your intuition is the name of the game here… but what if your intuition and fear kinda feel like… the same thing? The good news is they’re not. But it CAN be tricky to know if your gut is telling you to stay away. Or if fear is running the show, and ultimately holding you back. In my coaching conversation with Katy today, we dive into some important questions and techniques to use that’ll help her know the difference in no time. Once you apply these to your own life, you’ll have the clarity you need too. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 2:35 - Fear is not BAD! 3:56 - Katie asks how she should know the difference between intuition and fear  11:01 - I walk Katie through emptying the vessel to help figure out the answer to her question 16:00 - The difference between

Welcome to episode 236 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Get Over Your Anxiety of Dating Again Whether you’ve been in previous long term relationships, if you’ve haven’t been dating for a bit, and you’re ready to date again but have a paralyzing fear about it, you’ll love this episode. And I want you to take note of the coaching techniques I used with Natalie, because you’ll be able to do them yourself and hopefully get around your anxiety of dating again. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 8:24 - Natalie introduces herself and presents her question about having anxiety of dating again 14:30 - How to foster your relationship with your anxiety 16:10 - Natalie talks about the specific fears she has around dating 22:22 - I give Natalie a tool to use as her compass when she enters the dating world 30:17 - Natalie’s action steps 33:00 - The recap from my conversation with Natalie 45:11 - What to do if you’re feeling s

Welcome to episode 235 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Know What a Healthy Relationship Looks Like If you’ve never been in a healthy relationship, it can be really easy to buy into the story that you don’t know what a healthy relationship looks like. You don’t know what to do, how to be, or what to say. For instance, for my caller, this created so much fear that a part of her just wanted to stay single. As a result, she didn’t have to deal with the constant fear and self-doubt that she’s screwing everything up. As I coach Joanne, you’ll see that her question isn’t just about how to be in a healthy relationship.  More importantly, the question goes much deeper than that. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 6:40 - Joanne explains her dilemma of not knowing what a healthy relationship looks like 9:02 - Joanne describes what her core issues were 15:30 - The big secret everyone knows, but no one is talking about 22:0

Welcome to episode 234 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to do Inner Child Work When You Don't Remember Much of Your Childhood. Today my caller, Lori, knows she wants to change her love life pattern, but is uncertain about how to do that because childhood was a long time ago, and she doesn’t remember much of it. The nice thing about inner child work is that you don’t have to remember much, and  what you do remember doesn’t have to be what actually happened. What matters is how you FEEL about what happened, because that ultimately creates your view point, and that’s where your patterns come from. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 4:24 - Lori asks how she can heal something that she can’t remember 5:55 - Lori talks about patterns of alcoholism and narcissism in her relationships and  a deep longing to feel loved by a man 10:03 - I walk Lori through a visualization to dig in to why she doesn’t feel loved 14:00

Welcome to episode 233 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Do You Have To Wait On A Man To Have Children? The society we live in tells us that our ability to have a family and kids is based on being able to find a man to procreate. And the truth is, that’s not the only way.  My guest, Dana, found herself at the age of 39 in a dead end relationship, with a strong desire to be a mom. So, she decided not to wait on a man to have children and went the donor route. We talk about the logistics of going the donor baby route, plus the emotions that come with it. And at the end, Dana shares how she met her now partner on the day she conceived her second baby… at a fertility clinic! I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 3:03 - A little background on Dana 6:58 - Dana introduces herself 8:57 - The story of how Dana came to the decision that she could have a baby on her own 14:32 - The first step Dana took in the journey to get pr

Welcome to episode 232 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Feel Confident in Your Body as You Date AND Get Older In today’s episode, I’m talking with Beth who is worried about being rejected for her body.  She’s feeling self-conscious since she’s divorced, aged, fought breast cancer, including multiple surgeries leaving her body with scars.  No matter how old you are, if you struggle with your own body image or are worried about being rejected for the way you look, you’ll love this episode.  We’ll talk about exercises you can do to feel confident in your body. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 2:45 - The societal pressure on women to look a certain way 7:27 - Background on my caller, Beth, who is having a had time feeling confident in her body as she’s aged, divorced and fought  breast cancer 11:20 - How Beth’s relationship with her body transformed after her fight with breast cancer 13:44 - The first piece

Welcome to episode 231 of the Love Live Connection podcast, The Relationships You’re Confusing with Love I’ve worked with enough women to know that sometimes when someone is describing a current or past relationship, I know when they are describing it through rose colored glasses. Obviously things happen, but I’m very skeptical when I hear stories around being blindsided. Yes, that might have been your experience, but to the outside eye, there were probably a lot more signs. Knowing what love is and what it isn’t will help you to protect yourself from being in a relationship you're confusing with love and from being blindsided in the future. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 3:12 - Why I describe love and happiness as  states of being 4:52 - Why I’m skeptical about hearing stories about being blindsided by a breakup 6:38 - Why the scenario of filling a void can be confused with love 12:08 - The second type of relat

Welcome to episode 230 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Get Past a Big Breakup With Amber. Amber joins me today with a question about why dating was so hard after her 13-year marriage came to an end.  Getting over a big breakup is not as straight forward as you may think.  As is common in my coaching sessions, I help Amber to see that moving on from the relationship isn’t just about getting over the person.  It’s also about looking at the reasons the relationship came into your life, understanding the dynamics of it, the break-up, and what that relationship gave her that she wasn’t able to give herself. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 1:00 - A personal update 12:00 - Amber presents her struggle getting over her big break up 15:15 - Amber describes her relationship with her recent relationship 17:56 - Where Amber’s self-confidence is rooted 20:44 - My recommendation to Amber to take a break from dating

Welcome to episode 229 of the Love Live Connection podcast, The Rest of 2020 Astrology:  Your Love Life, Coronavirus, and the US Election with Veronica Perretti. I’m super excited to welcome back to the show, my friend, Veronica Perretti.  Veronica is here to talk about the remainder of 2020 Astrology.  Specifically, how it might affect your love life, Coronavirus, and the US Election and the direction the world is going in general.  I think you’re really going to enjoy this one.   I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!   5:27 - Venus is now out of retrograde, changing the game in our dating life 12:28 - Mars is in Aries for the rest of the year helping us find our motivation 18:30 - Saturn was in Capricorn and moved into Aquarius sparking humanitarian conversations 23:34 - The back and forth of Mars squaring Pluto three times before the end of the year is a war energy 30:55 - Jupiter comes into Aquarius and meets up wi

Welcome to episode 228 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Set Boundaries, manage anxiety, and not sabotage a finally healthy relationship This episode starts off with a common fear I hear from many women in the community: I finally met someone great, how do I not mess it up?  I discuss this very issue today with my caller, Abby. But like usual on the show, there’s a hindrance to her feeling more secure in the relationship. In this case with Abby, it’s rooted in her relationship with her mom.  It’s not that she needs to heal her relationship with her mom, but she needs to set boundaries because it’s bringing out her core wounds.  This is the equivalent of picking off scabs when you’re trying to heal a physical wound. Setting boundaries will give Abby the space she needs to have an even better relationship with her mom.  It will also help Abby do the inner child work she needs to do to feel less anxious in her romantic relationship. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an em

Welcome to episode 227 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Know If Your Expectations Are Too High I’m really excited about today’s topic.  This question comes up a lot with my new clients who ask me, “Veronica, are my expectations too high?  If they are, just tell me.”  They think by lowering their expectations, that will get them into a relationship.  I think a lot of this comes from the patriarchy in place in our society. It’s a really good example of how the political landscape is personal and shows up in our relationships and in the bedroom. So, I’m going to go through five ways that your expectations may be too high and five ways your expectations are definitely NOT too high. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 6:56 - The first way your expectations might be too high - You believe they should know what you want 9:30 - Reason #2 your expectations may be too high - You aren’t okay with any degree of argume

Welcome to episode 226 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Why You Can’t Emotionally Connect With Anyone With Pam I’m talking with Pam on the podcast today who has a question about why she can’t connect with anyone in the dating world and was wondering if she needs to put herself out there more.  As we began to dig into why she felt she couldn’t connect with anyone, it became clear that she has some core wounds around being a people pleaser as well as a generational pattern in her family around gender roles that she needs to break.  Once we identified these core wounds, I walk her through the best way to approach the healing process. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 6:31 - Pam asks why she doesn’t need to date more to meet the right person 9:16 - Why dating is not a numbers game 11:06 - Pam talks about why she has problems opening up during a date 16:58 - Pam describes the dynamic of her home growing up 18:55 - P

Welcome to the July Bonus Episode of the Love Live Connection podcast, Meditation for Less Anxiety and Better Sleep For the bonus episode this month, I am offering a Yoga Nidra meditation. Yoga Nidra translates to yogic sleep.  It is a very relaxed state of consciousness.  It has been used across the United States, as well as in the US Military as a way of supporting soldiers and veterans suffering from anxiety and PTSD.  I thought given all of the anxiety and fear revolving around the pandemic right now, this meditation could be really helpful. Enjoy and be well. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 2:20 - What Yoga Nidra is and how it’s used. 5:15 - Start of Meditation After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: If you would like a downloadable version of this meditation, you can find it here. To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, whe

Welcome to episode 225 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Dating as a Feminist and Healing from Sexual Trauma In today’s episode, I’m joined by my new friend Kimberly Rose Pendleton.   In my conversation with Kim, we talk about how viewing your experience in dating and relationships as a feminist reveals patriarchal norms still around us.  We also discuss how to heal, especially sexual trauma, though pleasure. Kim has a Ph.D. in women’s studies AND, she coaches women around sexual trauma and empowerment. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 7:40 - Kim introduces herself 9:05 - How Kim’s Ph.D. intersects with the coaching she does 12:30 - Examples of patriarchal structures that exist and how one might experience them based on who they are 16:40 - How patriarchal norms show up in active and online dating  27:09 - What encompasses sexual trauma in Kim’s work 32:54 - How pleasure is the key part of the medicine to heal

Welcome to episode 224 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Rediscover Who You Really Are With Rachel You know when you’re on a date, and you really want the other person to like you, but you can’t help but feel like that awkward teenage girl whose boobs were growing faster than the other girls and you just got a big zit on your nose?  On the Love Life Connection this week, my caller Rachel is wondering why on earth she’s pushing away potential partners, even the seemingly nice ones.  This actually is quite common among my clients and while there are quite a few reasons this can happen, in Rachel’s case, she still feels like that awkward teen with acne.  Over the years, Rachel has completely forgotten who she is, and has found herself pleasing, conforming, and going through the motions.  Per usual, I coach Rachel through some inner child work to heal this, but it’s with a bit of a twist.  You’ll see what I mean when you listen.  I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email

Welcome to episode 223 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Four Reasons Why the Law of Attraction Doesn’t Work In the personal development world,  the Law of Attraction has become quite popularized, and I see an alarming amount of coaches teach as if it were as real as the Law of Gravity.  But in my opinion, the Law of Attraction is crap.  At best, it’ll hold you back from what you want to achieve.  At worst, it can cause further damage to your healing, and therefore to your goals of shifting your patterns and attracting a healthy partnership. So today, I’m going over four reasons why the Law of Attraction doesn’t work and why I want you to consider letting go of it or at least shifting your relationship with it. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!   6:23 - The definition of The Law of Attraction 7:55 - What I believe about the Law of Attraction 8:44 - The first reason I want you to let go of the Law of Attraction 1

Welcome to episode 222 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Dating an Addict I am addressing a topic that is often not talked about enough: addiction.  My caller today is in a relationship with someone who has an addiction and is unsure about how to move forward.  We dig into her inner child wounds and the parallels between her relationship with her mom and her boyfriend.  We also talk about the re-mothering she needs to do so she can heal the heartbreak and avoid falling into the pattern of attracting someone else she can try to heal her mom void with.  I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 2:05 - Confronting the stigma around addiction   5:40 - Tiffani presents her question about her boyfriend’s addiction 7:50 - We dig into Tiffani’s family history of her mother’s addiction problem 13:07 - How Tiffani’s current relationship is like being in a relationship with her mom all over again 18:20 - Why Tiffani is holding on