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If you feel you lack feminine energy, you might be conflating it with something else altogether. Recently, my client Amanda asked about how to bring more feminine energy into her love life. But we discovered that the issue isn’t really about femininity but how to let go of needing to be perfect. Perfectionism can feel like a masculine energy even though it isn’t. So in this episode, I walk Amanda through this confusion and help her release her need for controlling everything in pursuit of perfection. If you can relate to being a perfectionist or have some part of you that you wish to change, you’ll want to give this one a listen. 11:38 - The relationship that plays a huge part in Amanda’s perfectionist tendencies 14:57 - Looking at the phrase “no one’s perfect” in a different light 17:32 - How the perfectionism part of Amanda actually helps her 19:42 - A shift you can make with any part of yourself you want to change 21:50 - Ways in which Amanda has already cultivated her feminine energy 23:58 - Why Amanda tr

I conducted a community survey last month, and one response really stood out to me. This person said they want to meet someone organically. However, they also appreciate the ability to pre-screen people online for compatible values and interests. While dating apps have their advantages, I don’t believe using them in this way guarantees you’ll reach your goal for a deep, romantic relationship. Today, I want to dive into how to know if you’re compatible with someone. I cover three reasons why you don’t need dating profiles to figure out if someone’s a good fit for you. Then, I wrap up with three considerations to help you make informed decisions when dating someone new. 4:37 - The rabbit hole you can often fall into with dating apps 6:38 - How arbitrary decision-making on the apps can backfire 9:09 - The real issue with depending on dating app profiles 14:30 - Different ways discernment and judgment affect your approach to relationships 15:57 - Why compatibility and chemistry aren’t the same things 17:34 - One

Do you tend to rush into relationships and eventually find yourself overcommitted and losing self-confidence in your pursuit to make your partner happy? When you’re single, everything else can be going great: your work, your health, and your life generally. It seems like the perfect scenario to add someone special to the mix. But when you finally meet someone, you suddenly want to drop everything else in your life and career, and the confidence you feel goes down the drain. If this sounds familiar, then you’ll love this episode! In my coaching call with Nilsa, you’ll discover how to stop rushing into a relationship with actionable tips to help you keep confidently living the life you want. 8:31 - Nilsa describes her self-sabotaging situation 12:00 - The habit Nilsa developed that affected her relationships for a long time 14:46 - How Nilsa’s long “situationship” still affects her today 17:49 - Nilsa’s underlying fear behind not earning love or approval 20:28 - What Nilsa really needed to hear as a child 23:43

Do you ever wonder how you're going to meet your “the one”? Does it occur to you that there is a possibility that you two have already met at some point? If these ideas have crossed your mind, let me tell you that there is a great chance that you are already on your way to meeting the love of your life. I would be glad to share with you the steps I took to get to mine. There are several places where you will most likely meet your soulmate. Welcome to Part IV of our miniseries called Dating in the Wild, where you’ll find out how I landed into the serendipitous moment of meeting my very own soulmate. 1:39 - How randomly saying “yes” can change your life entirely 3:18 - The role of common interests in building friendships 4:02 - Creating long-term relationships  6:44 - Being open to new experiences and its impact on your chances at serendipity 8:09 - How to create serendipitous moments that may lead to your soulmate I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forw

Are online dating platforms starting to feel forced and unnatural to you? Are you someone who appreciates the traditional meet-and-greet experience? If you are looking to meet someone in a more organic scenario, I can tell you that there are lots and lots of ways that you can build your community to create more chances for serendipity to happen in your favor. I want to guide you through this process of building your community and meeting potential partners off the apps and IRL. Welcome to Part III of our miniseries called Dating in the Wild, where you’ll find out how to make meaningful interactions to expand your community and find your potential soulmate. 1:17 - How people meet their spouses according to statistics 2:22 - What serendipity really is all about 3:30 - The mindset my coach taught me that lead to my business success that we can adopt to dating 5:06 - Different ways to build and expand your community 6:01 - Setting goals for social interaction on a regular basis 8:00 - Where to stay focused on I h

What can you do to create the off-chance of meeting someone new today? Believe it or not, you have a lot more control than you think. If you, like many of my clients, want to meet people off the apps and in the wild, then I challenge you to create your own serendipitous moments. “Serendipity” is defined as “the occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way.” I help my clients create more of it in their daily life, and in this episode, I cover the three mistakes and myths that can prevent you from creating, encountering, and enjoying serendipity in your own love life. 1:49 - Real life examples of what serendipitous moments can look like for you 2:16 - The series I could watch all day long, that I recommend you watch to see serendipity in action 3:00 - The #1 mistake that’ll burn you out on creating serendipity  5:05 - The challenge I give to my clients to prevent them from making mistake #2 in creating serendipity 6:07 - What you don’t have to be in order to create serendipitous m

Are you tired of spending the last year and a half at home and just want to get back into the dating world offline?  While I don’t think it matters whether you meet your partner online or offline, so many people tell me they want to have serendipitous dating experiences and discover partners organically.  If you feel that meeting people in person is the best fit for you too, then I’ve created this new miniseries to support you. Welcome to part one, where you’ll find out why dating in the “real world” isn’t as complicated as you think. 1:53​ - The surprising place where you can meet great men  3:04 - The #1 way people meet their spouses and why it doesn’t really matter 4:14 - The 80/20 rule and how to apply it to your dating life 7:27 - How to begin tackling your biggest challenge in meeting people organically 8:34 - Manifesting serendipitous romances without using Law of Attraction tactics I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

It’s time for us to talk about the dark side of personal development. If you’re in the self-help industry as a coach or any kind of healer or helper, then this episode might make you feel a little uncomfortable, but I’ll remind you that this feeling can catalyze growth. What I’m sharing reflects both my experience being on the receiving end of the dark side of personal development, as well as the ways I’ve fallen prey to the industry when it comes to making money and getting clients. I’m being really transparent on my own growth in this way and how I want to show up for you, but I also want to warn you of the pitfalls so you can become a better consumer (or coach) of personal development as well.  6:42 - The inner child programming that the personal development industry plays into 9:11 - How toxic positivity shuts us down from healing through spiritual bypassing 14:32 - The critical piece missing when we talk about The Law of Attraction  17:20 - The toxic culture around gurus, and the false belief that there

Welcome to episode 268 of the Love Live Connection podcast. If you feel like you lose yourself in relationships, struggle with worthiness or boundaries, or become a chameleon, then this episode is for you. Ashley has been feeling lost in many areas of her life but especially when she starts a new relationship. In my coaching conversation with her, I help her work through her feelings of self-worth, self-consciousness, and rejection and uncover her perpetual pattern of outsourcing her worthiness and likability. 5:40 - Ashley’s journey in the last few years  12:36 - What Ashley wants and requires right now 17:53 - Difficulty getting into 10 or 12-year-old Ashley’s head space 21:03 - My preferred self-exploratory question to ask daily, at minimum 23:31 - Passion and purpose don’t need to be tied to income 26:27 - Working through feelings of self-consciousness 31:07 - Recapping the coaching call with Ashley 39:23 - Two action steps to take I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with you

Welcome to episode 267 of the Love Live Connection podcast. Today’s topic probably applies to most, if not everyone, who listens to this show. One thing that comes up in dating and relationships is the different levels of interest in personal development and growth. One person will often be more interested in this area than the other, and sometimes that can create real relationship conflict or some wrinkles that need to be ironed out. Luckily they can be, so in this episode I talk you through my process of being married to someone who isn’t super into this stuff whereas I live and breathe it as a life coach. Yet, my husband and I still have a beautiful relationship and make it work, even with ups and downs. So perk your ears up as I get really personal! 6:42​ - My history with personal development since childhood 9:03 - Deciding what personal growth will look like in the relationship 13:41 - Spiritual growth and my anxiety about its affect on my relationship 18:09 - First thing I had to do in my relationship

Welcome to this quick bonus episode of the Love Life Connection podcast. I just wanted to pop in to tell you I have some space open for new clients this summer. Right now I’m taking on two new clients a month. In this short episode, I go over what I do, how my work helps you, and how you can get one of the open spots. So tune in if you’re interested in working with me! 00:53 - Clarifying the kind of work I do with clients 1:36 - The big secret about how my work benefits you 3:01 - Your first step to take if interested I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Are you done with where you are right now?  With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love.  Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here. If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitli

Welcome to episode 266 of the Love Live Connection podcast. This episode originally aired back in 2019, so if you’ve been listening for a while some of this might sound familiar. I know a lot of people experience a dating fizzle where things seem to be going well, then all of the sudden the other person feels a little more distant. Or they don’t want the same thing you want and the relationship fizzles out or just abruptly ends. If you can relate to this, you’re gonna love this episode. 6:24 - Renee explains her situation 14:58 - Surprising people-pleasing realizations 20:59 - Things Renee can do to put herself first 25:08 - Renee’s action steps moving forward 32:39 - Recapping the coaching call 36:38 - What to work on if being a people pleaser is blocking you in love I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Are you done with where you are right now?  With my impactful

Welcome to episode 265 of the Love Live Connection podcast! I often talk about how some gaslight-y things go on in the world of personal development, but Amy Smith doesn’t do that. I think the way she teaches about communication, vulnerability, and boundaries is her sweet spot. She also inspires me when she talks about her 20+ year marriage, which is why I’ve invited her as a guest today. If you feel like you don’t have a healthy relationship model to inspire you, then this episode’s for you. Listen to what’s underneath the surface of what she’s saying so you can emulate it with your relationship.   6:36 - Amy gives an overview of her relationship 11:13 - Why her marriage feels freeing instead of restrictive 16:59 - Intimacy and vulnerability as directly related to each other 23:07 - How we can over-glorify relationships these days 27:37 - Amy’s advice on personal growth and development in a relationship 33:32 - Tips for maintaining and daily care-taking of a marriage 42:08 - How Amy and her husband manage co

Welcome to episode 264 of the Love Live Connection podcast! My caller today, Amy, has two issues. She keeps finding herself in the same pattern over and over again, settling for people and relationships she knows she doesn’t want long-term. She also has a fear of being in a committed life-long partnership, even though it’s what she desires. Self-sabotage like this is more common than you think and can happen for several reasons: confirmation bias, over-identification with the part of ourselves we want to change, fear of vulnerability in allowing and receiving, and worry about what others’ think. So keep all of this in mind for today’s coaching call. 7:16 - Amy describes the pattern she keeps repeating 11:14 - What her fear of success is really about 19:25 - An assignment to help her let her light shine 26:37 - Another good exercise for getting in deep with subconscious fears 31:42 - Recapping the coaching call with Amy   I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I l

Welcome to episode 263 of the Love Live Connection podcast. A lot of advice you hear for getting over an ex comes from not just what we say to each other, but also our pop culture. But it can leave you feeling stuck and thinking it’s impossible to do, or you’ll put yourself in a similar situation in your next relationship. So today’s episode is all about getting over an ex, specifically three mistakes that I find a lot of women make in the process. 10:34 - Mistake #1: a dangerous mindset that gets quoted a lot 15:12 - Mistake #2: distractions and staying in busyness mode 17:56 - Mistake #3: forcing yourself to date again or dating too early I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Sign up for my free email course: How to Quickly Get Over Your Ex If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here. Finally, If you get value

Welcome to episode 262 of the Love Live Connection podcast. Today’s guest, T.J, wants to know that her partner is as serious as she is about commitment. But I need to give a trigger warning: she and I discuss abuse that she’s endured, and her experiences with past abusive relationships affect how she approaches her current relationship. We don’t go into many details about it, but we do bring it up. So if this is triggering for you, please take care of yourself and don’t listen to this episode. For help with an abusive situation, call 1-800-799-7233 or go to thehotline.org. 8:40​ - Walking TJ through a quick ground process 17:46 - Past abusive relationships, childhood bullying, and their effect on TJ 24:42 - A rundown of what I want TJ to do to heal her inner child 31:30 - TJ’s biggest relationship fear and not putting all her worthiness eggs in one basket 39:04 - What I want you to take away from this episode I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward

Welcome to this bonus episode of the Love Live Connection podcast! I just want to share one quick thought today based on a question that’s been coming up a lot with my clients: how does money work in a relationship? Who should pay on the first date? Here’s the truth. 3:59 - First date recommendation and having a money conversation for future dates 6:05 - Why it actually might not be fair sharing expenses 50/50 I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Link to the episode mentioned: EP211: Money, Love and Food Sign up for my free email course: How to Quickly Get Over Your Ex If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here. Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community! Host

Welcome to episode 261 of the Love Live Connection podcast. I’ve brought clients on the show before and often tell them that you have to reach mini goals along the way to reach the big goal. So it’s not a failure if you’re not in the relationship that’s going to last forever by the time we’re done working together. Sometimes you just need to get the confidence to start dating again and meet real potential partners, or get over an ex. My guest today, former client Markie, is a really good example. So much of her life has changed, not just in her love life but in other parts of her life too. In this episode, I let her tell you her story. 12:43​ - Markie before we started working together 17:10 - How inner child work supported her in achieving her wins 21:00 - The transformational shifts she underwent with online dating I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Links to the

Welcome to episode 260 of the Love Live Connection podcast! Sandra is really struggling with anxiety and forgiving herself for mistakes she’s made in past relationships. She’s also taking the unfair brunt of the blame for her relationships ending. We’re gonna get into why this is happening to her but also get into the bigger picture of wider things at play subconsciously. It takes a few minutes to get into the meat of this coaching call, but I highly encourage you to hang in there and listen to the whole episode. We cover a lot of ground, unpack a lot of things, and I think it’ll be an incredibly helpful and transformative experience for you. 6:28 - Questions to keep in mind as you listen to this coaching call 10:05 - Sandra recalls her mother’s behavior in relationships 19:29 - Why parenting the parent gets in the way of your ability to receive love 23:09 - I walk Sandra through an introspective and emotional exercise 27:55 - What Sandra would say to her mom 30:51 - My recommended next steps for Sandra 35:49

Welcome to episode 259 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How I Found Love Part 6. Previously, I finally fulfilled a dream of living in a big city, had moved to Washington D.C., and was excited to meet a nice Jewish boy. Things were going really well, but then I took a couple of steps back when I found myself crazy about a guy who wined and dined me. The connection wasn’t really there, so he broke up with me and I was really devastated. Thankfully, I got some sense knocked into me by a good friend and pulled myself together. I’d started online dating, and for the first time in my life dating was really fun no matter what happened (or didn’t). Eventually, it all led me to a Happy Hour hosted by my (then) future husband, Stevie. 5:31 - Finally pursuing Stevie a few weeks later 9:31 - Our first date and the possible Tanzanian bump in the road that wasn’t 13:53 - Deciding to move to Dallas together 16:01 - A trip to Denver and a proposal in Boulder I saw coming I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instag