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In this special series Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of when insecurities are triggered, asking for help and family relationships. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: https://www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Are you still stuck on a relationship that ended months, maybe even years ago? You’re still carrying this longing inside of you, always wondering what life would have been like if they had stayed. A part of you is still waiting for them to come back, to give you some kind of closure for the sacrifices you made. Looking back on your memories, you think you still love them. It may feel like love, but what you’re really feeling is attachment. To move past the emotional triggers that are still keeping you attached to your previous partner, you have to start by taking responsibility for your own emotions. Once you find your agency, you can empower yourself to make a change. In today’s podcast episode, learn 4 tips to let go of the pain of your past relationship and finally put it behind you. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: http://bit.ly/2ExXCLJ

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of shifting your dating focus, negative feelings and being authentic. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Do you never feel good enough for the people around you? You’re probably creating unreachable expectations for yourself. You can’t recognize your own value, so you become obsessed with getting validation from other people. Without even realizing it, you could be overcompensating for your self-doubts by pouring all of your energy into making other people happy. These behaviors stem from fear and attachment. You’re overextending yourself because you’re afraid to disappoint the ones you love. You’re manipulating your behaviors to fulfill an image you only think your partner wants. If you’re tired of feeling frustrated and upset, it’s time to discover your value. On today’s podcast, learn 3 tips to overcome your fears, recognize your attachment behaviors, and finally break the cycle of self-pity.

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of triggers, commitment issues, and manipulation. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: https://www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Healthy relationships are not built on fantasy, they are also not built on the hard work of trying to get your partner to change. You’re attached to a fantasy version of your partner, but you need to stop waiting for their behavior to change. The only thing that can change in this situation is you. You have the power to break out of this prison of attachment. In the meantime, look at what you say yes to while you wait (hope) for things to change. Perhaps, the person you’re dating cancels plans consistently, offering a laundry list of half-hearted excuses. Maybe they disappear for days or even weeks at a time, giving you nothing but radio silence. You start thinking that you did something wrong. Are you not good enough? You say things to them to get them to own up or change, but nothing does change. You have a fantasy—can’t they see it too? In this episode, you’ll learn how to see and accept your reality and change, so that someday you will not settle for less than you deserve.

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of spouse behaviors and challenges at work. Want to submit your question? Click here: http://bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards! http://bit.ly/2ExXCLJ

Codependency is a painful place to be, and it can manifest itself in many ways. Do you crave validation from your partner? Are you always placing their needs above your own? In many cases, you probably feel wracked with guilt at the thought of doing something without them. You might even try to earn your right to a night out with affection and housework. These codependent situations are not a healthy way to build a relationship, and they’re not sustainable. If one person feels like they’re sacrificing so much, they become resentful. The truth is, neither of you should be making those kinds of sacrifices. The good news, however, is that this is a great opportunity for you! If you feel like all of the blame is on your partner, think again. Now is the perfect opportunity for self-growth and to change your relationship mindset. In today’s episode, you’ll learn how to step out of a codependent relationship and into a happy, healthier relationship with yourself.

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics feeling like you don't have enough, fears and valuing yourself. Want to submit your question? Submit it here http://bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST.

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I have a second conversation with Guy Finley, bestselling author of more than 45 books and founder of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit Center for Spiritual Discovery. Listen in as we talk about being stuck, triggers and reincarnation. Learn more about Guy Finely at www.GuyFinley.org.

Does this sound like you? After a series of boring dates and incompatible partners, you’re still single. It’s not you; you just haven’t found the right person yet. Maybe you even have a list of traits your perfect match will have when you finally meet them. Each time you go out with someone new, you wait for that wow factor, the spark, but it never comes. If you’re starting to think you’ll never find your soulmate, I have a secret to share with you: You might be the problem. You’re stuck in a cycle of toxic relationships because you’re scared to find the one. Without realizing it, you’re shutting yourself off to a healthy relationship because you don’t see your true value. You can stay stuck in your cycle of bad dates, or you can open yourself up to the possibility of love, but you have to decide that it’s time for a change. Are you ready? On today’s podcast, you will learn useful tips to recognize your behaviors and finally approach dating with an open heart.

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of apologies, dealing with an avoidant, emptiness and what it means to be emotionally available. Want to submit your question? Watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. You can submit your questions here: http://bit.ly/2sQ4sJT

You cannot cobble together enough breadcrumbs to create a satisfying meal, and yet many people accept breadcrumbs when it comes to relationships. When you meet someone and there is chemistry, you can get hooked pretty quickly. You may become attached to the idea of what it could be—a loving, fulfilling relationship. Then perhaps they stop contacting you and you are a ball of anxiety, wondering what you did wrong. Once you have accepted they are gone, WHAM, they come back. They have fed you enough breadcrumbs that you believe they are returning to give you the whole loaf. But of course, they don’t… so the cycle repeats. This can go on for years, waiting for them to change their behavior because you are attached to the idea of what the relationship COULD be. When you’re in this scarcity-driven relationship, you work hard to collect crumbs of attention, validation, and acceptance without even realizing it. You’ve been doing it for so long it feels normal, but it is not the path to a healthy relationship. The se

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of manipulation, fatal flaws and self-respect. Want to submit your question? Email info@tracycrossley.com and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST.

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I talk with Alton Pete, U.S. Army Veteran and Author. Listen in as he takes us on his journey through the military and loss of his mother and sister to now where he sheds light on PTSD and Depression as well as just completed his first book "Life is so Precious." Learn more about Alton Pete at altonpete.com

Men and women are wired for intimacy at birth, but some are conditioned to reject it. If you are insecurely attached, you probably didn’t experience a lot of true intimacy as a child so you learned to see the world as an emotionally unsafe place. You may have learned that love is not easily shown or given; that it’s conditional upon behavior; that it’s inconsistent. As a result, intimacy as an adult has the same limitations—regardless of gender. Fear of engulfment or abandonment wreak havoc on intimacy to create distance, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Intimacy is built by stepping toward those fears, not away from them. Some people believe being emotionally distant is just how they are. False. We are ALL wired for connection, and distancing yourself from another person is a choice. Until you open yourself up to intimacy, you’ll never fully align or bond with your partner. And no, intimacy does not just happen in the bedroom. It doesn’t appear in certain moments and then vanishes. It comes and stays. If

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of boundaries, triggers, and people-pleasing. Want to submit your question? Email info@tracycrossley.com and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST.

Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic used to make you question your reality, but when you’re insecurely attached, you may not trust your own reality to begin with. You look externally for validation because you believe other people know how you should feel more than yourself. If your partner says you’re horrible at budgeting, you may feel a deep sense of shame, even if you’ve always felt you did just fine in the budgeting department. After a string of negative comments, you question your budgeting skills and wonder if he/she is right. You also wonder if you’re being gaslighted. Everyone has their own point of view, however, so who’s to say their version of reality is more accurate than yours? When you question your own choices, you can become anxious and wonder if there is something wrong with you. To trust yourself you have to connect on a deeper level and stop guessing what other people think is right. It’s about stepping out of your comfort zone and dispelling the belief that others know how you feel or w

Depression sometimes results from pleasing others at the expense of yourself; by trying to be someone else in order to make others happy; by defining yourself through your actions for others. As a kid, if you felt you were unlovable or unacceptable in some way, you hid those unsavory parts about yourself and doubled-down on the parts that received validation. All that time spent seeking approval from others and trying to make them happy probably led to years of hiding and self-loathing. But you were good at hiding the self-loathing too, putting on a happy face so you wouldn’t be found out. Refusing to be who someone else wants and choosing to be fully yourself is HARD because you have to love and accept all those disowned parts of yourself. The truth of who you are matters… even if no one else agrees. Let’s say you go on a single date with someone who you’ve decided you really like and then tells you they want a partner of the same religion—no compromise and you’re not that religion. Already thinking about h

Are you afraid of expressing your true feelings because you might upset someone? Or do you think they will shut you down because they can’t handle the truth? If you were yelled at as a kid for doing something wrong, then shared how it made you feel and were told your feelings don’t matter, you learned to shove your feelings down. As an adult, this might manifest as trying to keep the peace so everything appears ok on the outside while suffering on the inside. Holding your emotions in or denying them, however, leads to all sorts of emotional and physical (yes, physical!) issues. It also allows somebody else to control your emotional state. Nobody enjoys hearing criticism or blame, but it’s actually not about that. It’s possible to express your feelings without doing either when you focus on how their actions impact you. You can simply share what is true for you (i.e. your feelings were hurt) without judging them, asking them to change or doing something differently. But first, you need to get clear on what yo