Simply Abundant Intuitive

Putting more energy, into a dysfunctional relationship so you don’t lose it, is not necessarily coming from love. It usually means a lot of fear around loss. One of the bigger fears could be that you’re afraid that all the work and suffering you have put into this relationship could mean it ends; it doesn’t seem fear. And an even greater fear is your partner would then turnaround and marry the next person they are with, you don’t want to be that person. The person who is always left standing empty-handed. It’s like a bad b-movie replaying itself in your love life, “Why me! I always do the right thing—it’s not fair!” But when it comes to being the only one trying so hard to convince someone else that the relationship is worth working on, because you fear the loss, what are you losing right now? You have to find value in yourself. In today's episode, you'll learn how to look within and finally take care of you. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thur

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of feeling unworthy, how to challenge negative beliefs, and nagging. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Are you constantly judging yourself? Every decision you make, every word you say is always wrong in your eyes, unless you receive a positive response. This self-judgment keeps you from moving forward in your life, choices may feel like the last thing you can commit to in the long run—so you do what you’ve always done in the short term. Basically, you do the same thing—the proven thing every day and even if it is a new environment, you try to keep things the same. Under control. This shame and self-sabotage stem from your childhood. The heaviness you feel comes from feeling a lot of shame as a kid. If you stay in this cycle of never feeling good enough, and trying so hard to be okay, you'll never be open to the things you really want in life. In today's episode, you'll learn how to break free from this struggle and let go of the shame. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of introducing a new partner to your family, being rescued from your emotional state, and how to date so it’s not painful. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Just like our previous Attachment Issues episode, this episode is all about answering your insecure attachment questions. Whether it's to an ex, your work, or your family, insecure attachment issues can manifest themselves in many ways. They all stem back to a fear you have. You’re afraid of not being good enough, of being found out, of being left alone. When you’re insecurely attached, you’re letting these fears control your life. Now, you might be thinking that you’re working hard to change your behaviors. You’re listening to this podcast after all...but it’s not enough. Don’t just listen to what I have to say today. Use today’s podcast episode to better understand your insecure attachment behaviors and take action in your life. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of letting go of outcomes, communicating with exes, showing interest too quickly when dating. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Are you always stepping in to be the “rescuer” of others? It seems the role you play to be recognized, loved or at least not abandoned. What about with your partner? You wait around for the right moment that you can jump in and be a hero, saving him or her looking like you have enough value to that person that they will be forever indebted. You think that taking care of everyone around you will gain you the validation and attention that you crave. But here’s the problem: That’s a very lonely place to be. If you only look to others for validation, you’ll never feel good enough. You may not even realize that you do this, because you’ve been on autopilot for so long. There are tips to recognizing your “selfless” behavior and changing it. You have to recognize your own worth for others to do the same. If you’re ready for a happy, healthy relationship, it starts from within. In today’s episode, learn how to listen to yourself and finally be your own superhero. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTr

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics looking for validation, self-protective habits from childhood, and staying in reality. Want to submit your question? Click here: http://bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

This episode of the Journey of Attachment is going to be different. I made a post on Facebook in January asking you for all your questions on insecure attachment, and so today's episode is my response to your submissions. When you have insecure attachment issues, you listen and intellectualize. So if you've listened to my podcast before and you've identified yourself with what I talk about, you might have felt better about your issues for some time. But it always passes, right? So you go back to feeling like you need more and more to feed your brain. But feeding your brain without any action is doing nothing. Doing the work is not listening to the podcast over and over again. Doing the work is going deep and taking action. Taking action is scary because of a fear of lack of safety. But to take action that will really change your situation, you have to go right through the fear. This episode is all about insecure attachment, so take the challenge from what I say today and turn it into action in your own lif

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of anxiety, the perspective of reality and dealing with the inner critic. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Many of us do not have any idea we try to control anything outside of us, we are always just trying to feel okay. Do you try to control the people around you? Your goal is to convince them that you’re a certain type of person because you’re afraid they’ll see the real you. The fear of not being okay, because you basically don’t think you are unless someone else does has you stuck trying to control their view of you. You control their behaviors because you’re afraid of the way they’d treat you if you didn’t. You don’t feel good enough, or loveable enough, so you’re stuck in the same cycle of unhappiness. You’re afraid to look inward at yourself, so you focus on anything else that you can control. Sound like another aspect of Impostor Syndrome? Yes, this is the aspect of how you cannot handle the end result if someone doesn’t see you how you need to be seen. To stop this cycle of fear, you have to change why you have the messages you’re sending. In today’s episode, you’ll learn how to let go of that need for

Earlier this month, I asked you on Facebook if you would be interested in me sharing what a coaching session with me is like. From the feedback that I got, I decided to do this one-time-only episode of live coaching. As you’ll hear, the person I’m coaching is someone that I work with already, so this is the perfect example of what actual coaching is and what my relationship with my clients is. We go back and forth on how life is developing in our daily life because that’s how we can make a change. We have to focus on everyday situations so we can switch how we react and how we perceive in real-time. If you liked this episode and would like me to share more coaching session examples, let me know. Write me an email to info@tracycrossley.com. If you're interested in working with me, email happiness@tracycrossley.com. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free me

Did you grow up with a narcissistic mom? Her behavior may have been unpredictable, and you never knew what was going to set her off. She might have been manipulative, always looking for your validation and sympathy. Whether she was a malignant narcissist or a covert narcissist, her actions shaped your current behavior and your relationship insecurity. Her criticism and inconsistency made you afraid of emotional intimacy. In many ways, she created your first codependent relationship. The good news is that, even though your mom instilled these behaviors in you from a young age, you can still change this cycle of insecure attachment. Listen to today’s episode to learn how your mom’s narcissism affects your current relationships and how you can finally end the fear and insecurity you feel. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of making yourself suffer, fear, and being emotionally vulnerable. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

The hard truth about insecure attachment is that it doesn’t just affect your personal relationships. It affects every part of your life, including your career. Whether you’re struggling with boundaries at work or micromanaging your coworkers to feel validation, all your behaviors stem from fear. You’re afraid that your colleagues will see you as a failure, or they will criticize you. I’ve been in your shoes, and I let my insecurity affect my work life for a long time. Despite being promoted, managing others, I was a huge people-pleaser and perfectionist, despite winning sales awards, I never felt fulfilled. I would swing from one management extreme to the next, micromanaging and then letting them fend for themselves. I held so many negative feelings toward my work, as I was truly disconnected from ut, but I stayed there because I was afraid. This insecure attachment is costing you opportunities, money, and happiness. If you’re ready to make a change and start taking action in your work, listen to today’s e

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of dream interpretation, feeling responsible for others, and setting boundaries with friends. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Do you know what impostor syndrome is? Perhaps you’re familiar with it in your professional life, it means the fear of being found out for being fake or phony. The you which you present isn’t really who you are or you feel others will not think it is who you are. For me, I always waited for people to find out I was a bad person, even though nothing about me is…it’s what I dreaded, personally and professionally. So, for those of you who have that feeling, guess what? It’s related to insecure attachment. Whether it’s in your career or your relationships, you never feel deserving of the love or praise you’re given and you worry about FIFO (Fear I’m Found Out). Despite working harder than anyone else to prove you’re worthy, it’s never enough. You’re a perfectionist, but nothing you do or say ever feels “perfect.” These feelings, like insecure attachment, stem back to the conditioning you received as a child. The good news is that impostor syndrome is a story you keep telling, a facade you can take down. In this

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of feeling like everything is against you, hidden anger and people pulling away. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Are you stuck in an anxious-avoidant loop? No matter how much you “think” you want a relationship, you find excuses not to date or in a relationship, you look for problems with your partner. Oh wait! There’s more. You may find yourself dating, which you do trepidatiously, and voila there’s chemistry. You feel the pangs of anxiety and know you’ll be hooked by dinnertime. Whether you are the pursuer or the runner, each position for the anxious avoidant is all about emotional distance, even if on the outside it looks like you’re physically there. Fear has been there for years, but you might think it is normal—the way you’ve always felt. Trying to grasp control, you are used to strategies, so you do not become engulfed or stuck or available. Sometimes you believe it is really the other person, but the truth is you are the common denominator in your love life. And its good news! Because you can do something about it! This loop of avoidant behavior stems from your subconscious belief system. To make a change, you

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of apologies, breakups, and feeling empty. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617