Simply Abundant Intuitive

Attachment means you live in an itsy bitsy world, regardless of what it looks like on the outside. You are after a feeling that comes once in a while or never. The feeling of safety or security. This started in childhood. Unknowingly it has limited your relationships, self-worth, and personal growth. Let’s scrap these behaviors, pain and feeling like no matter what you are back at it again. You can do it! Key Insights: * Childhood experiences are in the middle of your adult relationships. * Avoidant attachment wants a hot fudge sundae, but leaves the hot fudge off. * Believing in yourself that it can be different is possible. * How to know if you are growing will be answered too. "Only if it affects the inside, and it's how it affects the inside, does it really change your perception of yourself and how you see the world." ~ Tracy Crossley

I bet you think you do most things “correctly; then something comes out of left field knocking you over. The creeping feeling of "not good enough" can be felt. You then look at how you should’ve been better, did it differently, etc. This whole conversation is self-sabotage. Tune in on stopping the sabotage, feeling good even when there’s drama or issues and grow your self-awareness. By observing how you get triggered, wouldn’t it be great to stop judging yourself and let go? Key Insights You'll Gain: * Perfectionism steals all the fun! * Don’t kick out the negative emotions, learn what to do with them. * Getting out of the armchair and getting to living beyond your inner judge!

Are you stuck in a tug-of-war between two versions of yourself? In this episode, Tracy explores the inner conflict between your "Dr. Jekyll" self—the love-driven, positive you—and your "Mr. Hyde" self—the fear-driven, avoidant you. These two sides shape how you approach relationships, responsibilities, and emotional growth, often without you even realizing it.

Are you your own worst enemy in relationships? Whether it’s anxious clinging or avoidant distancing, attachment issues often create cycles of fear and emotional avoidance that sabotage the love and intimacy you crave. In this episode, Tracy dives deep into the hidden forces driving these patterns and shares how stepping into self-responsibility can transform your connections from the inside out.

How easy it is to live a separate life, until you actually realize that’s what you’ve been doing. No one sets out in a relationship to do this, most people start off with the best intentions. Conditioning is responsible for hidden patterns that lead to emotional distance. It doesn’t have to stay this way. Whether you want to stay in the relationship or go, there is a better way to live. Let’s address what truly matters—how you feel and what is possible!

Do you blame your partner for everything—or do they blame you? Either way, the blame game is not helping. Join Tracy as she explores the toxic cycles of blame, insecure avoidance, and intellectualizing feelings that keep you trapped in crisis. You’ll uncover why blame creates distance, blocks intimacy, and leaves you feeling anxious. If you’re ready to have uplevel, tune in!

Relationships take work, right? Uhhhhh, not really. But if you grew up believing that phrase, you will create the issue you don’t want. Chasing perfection—saying the right thing, doing the right thing—only to end up feeling worse. In this episode, Tracy takes a raw and honest look at how the perfectionism you may deny, sabotages your relationship. You’ll uncover why striving for perfection creates pain instead of connection. More importantly, you’ll get tips on changing that make a difference, What You’ll Learn: * Perfectionism is a mask for deeper fears. * Blaming your partner for struggles keeps you stuck. * Taking responsibility for your own triggers. * Becoming more emotionally available and having it all. "Perfectionism doesn’t come from love or confidence—it comes from pain, and if you’re bringing it into your relationship, it’s only creating more of the same." ~ Tracy Crossley

Relationship in crisis? Here is the first in a 4-part series on changing your relationship from dumpster fire to a real partnership. Sometimes you get the idea that you need to be everything to your partner as a way to save the relationship. All it does is feed into pain and disconnection. Whether you’re married, living together, or in a long-term commitment, this series can give you a direction that makes a difference. You might have lost yourself, but let’s get you back to have a relationship rooted in love, respect, and authenticity. Key Takeaways from this episode: *Why being your partner’s “everything” is a relationship killer. * The role fear and external validation play in damaging connection. * Move from fear-driven to love-driven behaviors for a real bond. "You want to have a remarkable relationship? You need to value what's inside of you. That will be a game changer with every single person." ~ Tracy Crossley

You want less drama in your relationship? Guess what? Conditioning will keep you looking for it, until you do something about it. Check out this episode to learn how to connect and relate. Let’s get to the real essence of relationships, especially if you’re grappling with attachment issues and toxic patterns. Get ready for a no-BS approach to breaking free from the shame, blame, and emotional barriers holding you back. This is your chance to change it up, so you are happier, more confident and connected. Key Takeaways: * Stop playing the game and learn to connect without judgment. * Shame impacts your relationships; take steps to overcome it. * Discover the power of honest, blame-free communication. * Break unhealthy patterns by focusing on your own emotional growth. "Relating is about sharing where we’re at. It doesn’t mean it has to be fixed or that somebody’s right and somebody’s wrong—it’s just about being honest." ~ Tracy Crossley

Ever feel like you're searching for meaning in all the wrong places? “Oh he texted me!” or “ “she said she sometimes thinks of us in the future.” In this episode, Tracy explores how we often give significance to things which really aren’t meaningful , especially in relationships, and why it leaves us feeling empty and unfulfilled. Tracy brings some historical anecdote about President Lyndon B. Johnson to illustrate how we can find true meaning.. It's about the connections we create and the values we uphold. Key takeaways from this episode: * Seeking meaning from others' actions or words is a recipe for disappointment * What genuine meaning is within yourself * The difference between superficial and deep, fulfilling meaning. * Gain insights on how to feel good throughmeaning and purpose "You break patterns by getting uncomfortable—real growth happens when you stop avoiding yourself, connect deeply, and take emotionally risky actions." ~ Tracy Crossley

Are you tired of feeling like your emotional baggage is controlling your life? Do you find yourself making decisions based on fear or wishing you were somewhere else? It's time to break free from these patterns and start living authentically. In this episode, Tracy tackles some of the most pressing questions about emotional baggage and self-awareness. She explores how to distinguish between genuine dislike and old patterns, ways to stop making fear-based decisions, and methods for dealing with feelings of dissatisfaction in life. Don't miss this opportunity to gain valuable insights and start your journey towards emotional freedom. Listen now and take the first step towards a more fulfilling life. Key Insights You'll Gain: * How to recognize if your feelings about someone are genuine or influenced by past experiences * Techniques for breaking the cycle of fear-based decision-making * Ways to cultivate emotional courage and embrace vulnerability * The importance of accepting where you are while working towa

What if the universe is constantly trying to guide you, but you’re just not seeing the signs? In this episode of "Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life," Tracy sits down with bestselling author and spiritual teacher Tammy Mastroberte, who transformed personal tragedy into a powerful journey of connection and clarity. Tammy reveals how to partner with the universe, interpret everyday signs, and move beyond the limits of traditional manifestation techniques. With her grounded, practical methods, she shows how to tap into unseen guidance, shift your energy, and create a life filled with meaning and ease. In This Episode, You Will Learn: * How to recognize and interpret signs from the universe in your daily life. * Practical steps for tapping into the "higher helpline" for guidance and support. * Tammy’s four-step method to co-create with the universe and overcome setbacks. * Quick and effective mini-meditations to shift your energy and open yourself to new possibilities. "Stop trying so hard to control ev

When I was a child, I attracted life based on fear. I was rarely able to have fun, always afraid of what lay ahead. I spent a lot of my time playing fantasy as an escape from the present. In my mind, if I could dissociate from the present moment, I was okay. Or so I thought. But I was only looking for safety. Running and hiding from anything which would trigger me into having to deal with reality. If you have a deep sense of fear that you hope will somehow go away, but you focus on being in a fantasy or not dealing with reality and you're continually fighting yourself and struggling, nothing will change. In today's episode, you'll learn how to change your relationship with fear and manifest less of it into your life. What You Will Learn from this Episode: * How fear acts as a magnet, attracting more of what you're trying to avoid * The connection between childhood experiences and adult patterns of fear * Why avoiding fear only amplifies its power in your life * How to shift from fear-based living to love-b

I used to feel this is it–”this is as good as it gets,” feeling empty and unfulfilled in my relationships. Even bored at times [when not feeling anxious]. Do you find yourself constantly trying to be the happiness fairy?, Only to end up feeling lifeless and disconnected? Let’s look at the hidden causes behind these patterns and how to be your own happiness fairy. Pay attention to the silent energy drains you allow in your life. It’s not your circumstances, it’s all in your assumptions. They keep you stuck, believing it’ll never change (whatever it is you want to change). Tune in to get some tools to help you set your wings free so you can fly! In this episode, you'll learn: How attachment styles shape people-pleasing behaviors. *Ways people-pleasing sucks you dry. *Why assumptions destroy everything. *Tiny steps to set boundaries and build self-love. "You want to feel full. You want to be filled up. You want to feel a sense of personal power. So it means you're going to get uncomfortable." ~ Tracy Crossl

Are you tired of feeling like an accidental jerk in your relationships? Do you find yourself oscillating between anxious attachment and avoidant behaviors? You're not alone. In this episode, Tracy candidly shares her personal journey as an anxious-avoidant, exploring the complex push-pull dynamic that many experience in relationships. Struggling between the desire for connection and the fear of vulnerability, she dives deep into the root causes of anxious-avoidant behavior, offering relatable insights and practical advice to help listeners break free from these self-sabotaging patterns. Tracy also provides a roadmap for those navigating this challenging attachment style, highlighting strategies for healthier relationships. Whether you're single, dating, or committed, this episode equips you with tools to stop pushing people away and start building the connections you truly desire. Key Insights from this episode: * How childhood experiences shape adult relationships * The role of guilt and shame in fueling

Have you ever felt torn between your true passions and the expectations of others? In this episode, Tracy sits down with frequency healer and quantum coach Paget Kagy, who shares her inspiring journey from aspiring actress to spiritual guide. Paget opens up about her childhood dreams of being an artist, the pressure to pursue a "practical" path, and the family tensions that arose as she tried to follow her heart. She recounts the challenges of navigating her "dark night of the soul" and the powerful moment of realization that transformed her life: "You are the creator of your reality." This profound shift led Paget to embrace her true calling as a healer, helping others clear energetic blocks and align with their higher purpose. Tune in for an uplifting and transformative conversation about breaking free from limitations and stepping into your authentic self. Key Insights from Paget's Journey: * The struggle of balancing creative passions with societal expectations * How hitting rock bottom can lead to p

Have you ever felt like you're stuck in an endless cycle of personal growth, constantly facing new challenges? You're not alone. In this episode, I share my recent experiences with multiple "dark nights of the soul" and how they've shaped my understanding of attachment and personal development. I know that spiritual awakening isn't a one-time event, but a continuous journey. It's like progressing through levels in a video game, with each new stage presenting tougher obstacles. By sharing my own vulnerabilities, I hope to inspire you to embrace your journey, no matter how difficult it may seem. Remember, no one is coming to save you - and that's a good thing. Your journey is uniquely yours, and every challenge is an opportunity for growth. Are you ready to face your own dark night of the soul? Key Insights from this episode: *Understand that multiple "dark nights" are normal and part of growth *Recognize attachments to outcomes and ideas of "arriving" *Learn to be present with uncomfortable emotions *Take

Ever wondered why some relationships feel like a constant uphill battle while others seem effortlessly smooth? Join Tracy and she sits down with dating coach and author Evan Marc Katz to explore the intricacies of modern dating and relationships. Evan shares his journey from aspiring screenwriter to becoming a renowned dating expert, offering a unique perspective on finding love in the digital age. We discuss the common pitfalls of online dating and how to navigate them effectively. Key Insights from Our Conversation: * The truth about "easy" relationships and why good partnerships shouldn't feel like hard work * How our attachment styles influence our dating choices and relationship patterns * The importance of expanding your vision when searching for a partner online * Why consistency and progression in communication are crucial indicators of a healthy relationship * The role of self-worth in attracting and maintaining healthy partnerships Whether you're navigating the complexities of online dating or se

Ever feel like you're caught in a never-ending cycle of caring too much about things that don't really matter? You're not alone. In this episode, we're going to explore the fascinating world of attachment and how it impacts our relationships, self-worth, and overall happiness. I'll share my personal journey from being consumed by attachment to finding true freedom. We'll discuss why caring about attachment is a waste of time and how to shift your focus towards self-love and compassion. Key Insights You'll Gain: * The root cause of attachment and its impact on your “entire” life * What is self-responsibility and how it helps you break free from attachment * How to stop giving others control over your emotions * Do you know how to sit with your feelings without judgment? Listen in. * Ways to build true confidence and attract healthier relationships "Attachment is a distraction from the lack of love you have for yourself." ~ Tracy Crossley

Someone makes an off-handed remark and you bristle. Or they criticize you and you go into full-blown defensive mode before you dissolve into a million pieces. Why does this happen? Why are you so sensitive to some things while others slide off your back? You react when there is some truth in what was said; a truth you don’t want to admit to yourself, let alone have it pointed out by another person. When they call it out you become awash with shame. Shame is a VERY uncomfortable emotion to deal with so instead of feeling it, you deflect, attack, avoid or blame. Maybe your friend says you can’t be alone, which is why you’re always jumping from one bad relationship to the next. If that’s not true, there would be no reaction. Nothing would be triggered inside of you. But if you strike back and/or want to crawl into a hole… that’s a sign. Shame is talking and it’s time to listen. In this week’s podcast we’re talking about how to deal with criticism and shame. It’s hard to see the unsavory or unlikeable parts of y