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Talking points: stuckness, energy, traumaBack in May, this anonymous guest came to me trying to solve what’s blocking him from making important decisions and taking action. We uncovered a traumatic event that started this, but that’s just the start of the process. Here are the next steps in understanding and healing this man’s trauma and helping him move forward.Strongly encourage you to check out part 1 here: https://link.chtbl.com/VaiRj0Oy(00:00:00) - Intro and catchup: the feeling of stuck-ness(00:12:00) - What punishment is stuck-ness protecting you from?(00:20:17) - Learning that feelings and energy can be moved(00:32:28) - An assignment for my guest to help him move forward***This ep was brought to you by Chubbies. Your summer wardrobe awaits! Get 20% off @chubbies with the code mantalks at https://www.chubbiesshorts.com/mantalks #chubbiespodPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free r

Talking points: routines, mindsetI’m serious when I say this changed my life—and that’s coming from someone that hated mornings in general. It took a long time to turn into a habit, but it was absolutely worth it. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro and first step: actually get out of bed. Early. Here’s how to make it easier(00:05:57) - Drink a LOT of water right when you get up, and get the double S: stretch and sunlight(00:08:38) - Breathwork, and then 1 of 2 different workouts(00:11:20) - Face the cold, and journal (recommended: stream of consciousness journaling)(00:14:46) - The final and most important piece: connection***Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a revie

Talking points: PTSD, trauma, intimacy, relationshipsIt's hard sometimes to know where to begin when it comes to traumatic experiences. Even harder when they're PTSD-level, or secretly impact your relationships/intimacy/work life. Which is exactly why I'm grateful folks like Dr. Frank, who live at the intersection of cutting-edge research, lived experience, and calm strength.We dive right into WHY these things happen and how they're stored in the body and mind, offering practical advice throughout. Strongly recommend you listen to this one!(00:00:00) - What can neurobiology teach us about PTSD?(00:06:20) - What are the symptoms of PTSD, and why disassociation, derealization, and depersonalization happen(00:16:31) - Where do you even begin getting a handle on PTSD?(00:23:13) - How Dr. Frank works with men on shame, whether they’re the shamer or the shamed(00:32:29) - How trauma impacts sex and intimacy(00:45:44) - Where men should start exploring their sexual potency(00:51:14) - The event that started it all f

Talking points: monogamy, relationships, cultureWell, can they? This started with me wondering why certain men who are notorious for sleeping around are suddenly hopping on the monogamy train, and ended with me hitting the record button and getting curious. And honestly, this is way more complicated than a binary "men must/can or must not/can't be faithful partners". Listen in and let me know your thoughts.(00:00:00) - Intro and why I’m diving into this(00:05:41) - Where does the idea that men CAN’T be monogamous come from?(00:14:59) - Monogamous cultures can have benefits, even though modernity seems to disincentivize it(00:16:22) - Most men ultimately prefer monogamy, but there are underlying issues***Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from aro

Talking points: sex, technique, communication, relationshipsFrom the foundational ideas to simple practices you can start literally right now, this episode has it all. Deeply appreciate the wildly intelligent insight and practical advice here, courtesy of intimacy and relationship coach Caitlin V Neal. She says the V stands for Victorious; listen to this and I'm pretty sure you'll be feeling victorious yourself.(00:00:00) - Intro, foundational pieces to a great sex life, and how to start those uncomfortable conversations(00:11:03) - An incredible framework for communicating sexual issues(00:17:35) - The best way to create arousal for your partner, and “erotic blueprints”(00:26:38) - Responsive vs spontaneous desire, and helping your partner articulate what they want (00:37:59) - Techniques specifically for men(00:45:34) - The role and importance of breath for men (00:52:55) - Meditation + masturbationAs a firm believer in the transformative power of sexual empowerment, Caitlin V takes a holistic approach to

Talking points: mental health, mindset, diet, Whether you're just starting out with "the work" or you've snapped up a thousand books and podcasts, it pays to go back to the high-level now again again. This is a bird's-eye view of my framework on mental health, plus straightforward tactics that have been proven time and again by science, history, and my own personal experience. Dig in.(00:00:00) - Intro, and defining “mental health”(00:05:03) - My basic framework for what produces suffering(00:09:00) - Anxiety and energy(00:13:54) - Seriously, working out and meditation should be prioritized(00:16:25) - Limit your sugar, gluten, and caffeine(00:18:13) - Sleep, mother****er(00:21:58) - Social connection and body/breathwork practices(00:24:49) - Your body stores what you’re not conscious of***Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead

Talking points: neurology, biology, trauma, mindsetThis was one of the most informative episodes I've ever recorded. As expected of Mastin Kipp, an old friend and incredible coach. We covered everything nervous system—and how there may be what you might call a "unified theory of trauma". Wildly grateful for this one! Note: we had some audio trouble for the first bit, but it cleans up after minute 12!(00:00:00) - Intro, and the fragmentation problem in therapy and coaching(00:08:47) - Mastin’s take on trauma, and the role of the nervous system(00:29:44) - Do men relate, store, and deal with trauma differently?(00:37:11) - Where do you as a man begin working with trauma—and where you don’t(00:49:13) - What if you’re worried it’ll mess with your productivity/relationship/abilities?(00:56:11) - How to simply improve your baseline wellbeingMastin Kipp, life coach, entrepreneur, author and self-taught expert on the human mind who bridges the gap between therapy, coaching, and personal development. With over two dec

Talking points: fatherhood, mindset, perfectionismTo many of you, I'm still pretty new to the dad game, but it's honestly boggled my mind how much being one has changed my life and perspective on things. These are just a few of the things I've learned—or you could say my son has taught me.00:00:00) - Intro, and number one: masculinity is modeled(00:07:51) - “I would die for my kids, but I won’t live my life for them”(00:10:21) - Your anger as a man is necessary. Your aggression is not.(00:13:48) - Structure and limitation actually give you freedom(00:16:27) - The aim is not perfection, the aim is progress***This episode was brought to you by Mando. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @shop.mando and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code MANTALKS. Head to https://shopmando.com #mandopodPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Medi

Talking points: transitioning, parents, resistanceSometimes in life, we feel stuck, and that can happen even after you've done "the work" and developed a deeper understanding of how your past shaped your present. My anon guest this week (like many of us) has trouble feeling feelings. Together, we dig a little into where that comes from and why.(00:00:00) - Intro and what it was like growing up(00:09:23) - “It’s hard for me to feel the hurt”(00:14:21) - What transitioning was like, and how we can honor both our parents and ourselves(00:23:55) - Connecting with grief(00:32:25) - It’s sometimes more about claiming what it was we wanted***This episode was brought to you by Cuts Clothing. Embrace the summer state of mind. Head to https://www.cutsclothing.com and use promo code MANTALKS to get 20% off your order.This episode was also brought to you by BetterHelp. If you're thinking of talking to someone, I encourage you to give it a try. Visit https://betterhelp.com/mantalks and you'll get 10% off your first month.

Talking points: truth, social media, relationships, men, culturePhew! Mark and I covered about a million things this episode, but that's what happens when you've been friends for over a decade. There's an overarching theme though: getting caught up in narratives, and how that actually fractures our ability to stay relational and kind to people. Dig in for this very wide-ranging conversation.Editor's note: while Adderall (dextroamphetamine) has some molecular similarity with methamphetamine, they are not the same. The attached methyl group—the "meth" part—lets the compound cross the blood-brain barrier very easily, last longer, and amps up how addictive it is. The "dextro" means the compound is arranged in a specific way so much lower doses can be used.(00:00:00) - Why men a seen as the problem in our current society, and how social media plays into that narrative(00:14:42) - Balancing our perception of what men and women each bring to the table(00:27:59) - How Mark approaches charged topics and binary thinkin

Talking points: mindset, social media, sexOut of everything I've done, this is one of the simplest and most effective. To be clear, it's not about going abstinence-only or becoming a prude. It's about freeing mental bandwidth and take, taking ownership of my desires, and creating direction in my life. Dig in.(00:00:00) - Intro, and why this isn’t about being a prude(00:02:14) - The DBC: Digital Brain Cleanse. Step one, content(00:06:17) - Step two: contacts(00:08:06) - Last step: consciousness***Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and

Talking points: traumaThis was an honor. The word trauma gets thrown around a lot these days, so it's important to get back to basics and really sink into what's going on and why. After all, this is humanity we're talking about, and we're nothing if not complex. Peter is a legend in therapy circles for his groundbreaking work in somatic education and trauma work, so we dug into many of the different (and unusual) things something like trauma brings to the table. Both Peter and I encourage you to listen WITH someone!(00:00:00) - Peter’s definition of trauma and how it affects the body(00:07:27) - Peter demonstrates a somatic exercise to help release trauma(00:13:14) - Do men and women experience and handle trauma differently? (00:21:40) - On how trauma needs witnessing to heal, and Peter’s experience with active imagination (00:34:14) - Navigating the almost mystical side of healing(00:39:45) - Why the tiger?(00:43:27) - How can men work in a healthy way with anger, and how betrayal can impact how someone expr

Talking points: mindset, relationships, sex, cultureMildly spicy title, serious thoughts within. All joking aside, there are a number of things that most of us men do that undercut or diminish our sense of inner leadership, authority, and trust. These are the top 10 that I've seen in my work and in myself.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:02:28) - Stop making excuses for not working out regularly, and stop giving women free attention on social media(00:09:46) - Stop comparing yourself to other men(00:15:41) - Cut back on time wasters, or let go completely(00:19:07) - Learn how to stop pursuing short-term gratification, and kill the lottery mindset(00:24:17) - Stop believing you’re fundamentally broken(00:29:38) - Stop thinking you need to do it alone, and stop thinking that peace comes after some monumental achievement***This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Become your own soulmate, whether you’re looking for one or not. Visit BetterHelp.com/ManTalks today to get 10% off your first month.Pick up my book, Men's

Talking points: relationships, sexI've worked with a LOT of men and a TON of couples in relationships, situation-ships, and what have you. When it comes to what YOU as a man can do to craft a thriving partnership, there are 3 sort of "rules" that have come up again and again. They're also what changed the game for me and led to the wildly wonderful marriage I have now. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro and rule #1: stop worshipping sex(00:05:24) - Develop the self-esteem and willingness to walk away(00:09:08) - Get into the right place in your life, THEN find a woman***Men, the next Men's Weekend is VERY soon. Join us in California for a transformative journey of reclamation.Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Allia

Talking point: relationships, communication, boundariesI am so honored to be talking to Nedra this week, whose work and words have helped untold numbers of people. Her work on boundaries balances firmness with kindness in a way that I find inspiring. If you're wondering how to be more assertive and have deeper communication in all your relationships, this is gonna be your episode.(00:00:00) - Intro and how closeness is measured by depth(00:09:39) - Emotional followthrough is critical(00:14:48) - How to invite others into deeper conversations and how men get trapped in problem-solving mode in relationships(00:27:31) - Do men and women approach boundaries differently? (00:33:41) - Nedra’s take on what men miss with women in communication(00:45:56) - How much does our family system impact our ability to have boundaries?(00:50:11) - Nedra’s thoughts on the future of therapy, and what’s going to be necessaryNedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, is the author of bestsellers Drama Free and Set Boundaries, Find Peace, lice

Talking points: social media, masculinity, culture, the manosphereYou know the type. The conflict-focused, disrespectful bastions of non-matured masculinity. All loudly promising—if only you follow their framework—the secret to making millions and having your own harem. I get a lot of asks to weigh on this. Specifically, what makes these guys so popular. Here are my thoughts.(00:00:00) - Intro and what I grew up with(00:03:39) - The feeling of virility and reckless certainty is understandable, but it has a cost.(00:07:49) - If I were 19, I’d get the appeal(00:10:05) - Men with actual status aren’t out there selling you status, and the formula these guys use(00:14:55) - We need to pull back and ask who we’re actually listening to(00:17:54) - It’s hard to find real elders; harder to listen***Men, the next Men's Weekend is VERY soon. Join us in California for a transformative journey of reclamation.Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://

Talking points: relationships, sexThrilled to have Dr. Laurie return! This time, we go deep on sexual attachment. How it shows up, how it's a little different than the attachment styles you might know of, and what might be blocking it in your relationship. There is TONS of good info and insight here, team, so listen closely.(00:00:00) - What is the “sexual attachment cycle”?(00:05:59) - Where does the push-pull dynamic start, and how cues to sex slow down in some relationships(00:14:37) - What secure sexuality looks like on relationship (00:21:19) - Why men come out of a hookup generally more satisfied than women(00:27:29) - How do you end the push-pull dynamic and create secure sexual attachment?(00:34:19) - Navigating intimate conversations, and don’t be fooled by social narratives(00:43:21) - What creates a sexless relationship, and how to move forward (00:51:13) - Rebooting sex after a sexless relationship: the blocksLaurie Watson, Ph.D., MA, LMFT, LCMHC, Director of Awakenings, certified sex therapist, c

Talking points: anxiety, relationshipsYou asked, I answer! The latest Man's Guide, specifically for folks dating someone with anxious attachment or just general anxiousness. I've had a ton of couples come to be asking how to tackle this, so here are the important things to ask yourself, and six points you can work on right away.(00:00:00) - Intro and one of the most important elements to shifting this dynamic(00:03:38) - What role in the dynamic are you playing? It can be hard to admit!(00:06:48) - Signs your partner has a lot of anxiety, and the general impact on you(00:12:33) - Immense amount of empathy for those with anxiety(00:15:18) - So what do you do? On responsibility and regulation(00:21:11) - Don’t personalize the panic, and create some movement(00:25:01) - Pull them back to the present moment, and one powerful question to ask***Men, the next Men's Weekend is VERY soon. Join us in California for a transformative journey of reclamation.Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkn

Talking points: masculinity, culture, relationshipsWhat is it men are actually looking for? We know how media tends to define "masculinity", but what is it men are wanting to define? I sat down with MELD founder and fellow coach Owen Marcus to dig into some of this, because we've both found that what men really want and what mainstream narratives say they want are often two different things. Dig in, team.(00:00:00) - Why do you think “masculinity” gets so much attention in our culture?(00:05:44) - When are where do men feel most aligned, and why getting out of your head is important(00:12:07) - Where did mature masculinity go, and the balance of biology and culture (00:19:25) - What happens when men miss moments of maturation(00:27:03) - The value of being able to share what you’re going through with others, and what gets in the way(00:33:27) - What is emotional physiology?(00:39:24) - Tools to get back into the body, and what about men who avoid the work for fear it’ll make things worse?Owen Marcus resisted

Talking points: business, mindsetI've been asked this for a long time now, and finally decided to press the button. I don't work in this industry to show off lambos, cohibas, and designer suits. It's to help other men be what they know they're capable of being. So if you're someone who's teaching, coaching, or making something for men, listen in, because here's what I've learned.(00:00:00) - Intro, why I’m making this, and the problems to solve when working with men (00:10:25) - What I’ve discovered works well. Number: get clear on the problem you’re solving(00:12:33) - Speak to men directly. Not ABOUT men (00:15:08) - Use multiple platforms, but have one in the lead, and pay for training(00:21:04) - Leverage other people’s mastery and credibility by paying for partnership(00:25:55) - Give value every step of the way(00:29:47) - Develop a very deep level of competency(00:33:51) - Build really strong relationships(00:40:16) - Repetition, time, and consistency ***Men, the next Men's Weekend is VERY soon. Join u