Women Who Work With Men Podcast - For Women Leaders Tired Of Standing Down, Leaning In, & Bending Over.

Do you work best or in a team? Do you know how to suggest solving a problem to get some autonomy?   We explore all of this is this episode.

Take a look at the more of and less of lists you made yesterday. On the less of list - those may well be things you are tolerating - things that don't work or maybe never worked for you. The things we tolerate are really kind of interesting. They can drain our energy - subconsciously  - like continually walking by that mini-blind that you want to replace or they finally build up and energize you to raise your standards.

Grab your journal and be willing to dig deep: What activities do you want more of? What activities do you want less of? What people do you want to spend more time with? What people do you want to spend less time with? Be brave - describe it in detail - make it aspirational on what you want to more of. Never mind the how - focus on what - who and the why. Who will you become if you do this? 

What could you do with your tie if you gave up social media for a month? How about if your family put their cell phones in a basket when they cam in the house - how differently would you interact? Wait - hear me out - what if you did something to start a crazy challenge of no cell phones in the evening - for everyone at your house 0 guests included.   Listen in - see how you might implement your version of this and deepen in-person relationships.

Projects can fail when they begin with an unspoken accountability agreement. That ambiguity gives people an out - they didn't understand - it wasn't clear. Eliminating ambiguity build positive accountability into your projects. Having these kinds of important work conversations get you started  -let's collaborate on your important conversation at http://whyleap.com 

OMG When you step up and get really focused that can have a big impact on the folks around you. Your real friends will support you but others may actively doubt you in ways to knock you off kilter.   If that happens - here are some suggestions on how to get back on track.

It's Giving Tuesday and I don't think we need a designated day for giving. Every day we can give through respect, our time giving an opportunity and by having important work conversations. The kind of conversations that you are avoiding and losing sleep over. Not having them wakes you up at night.   Here's one example of a different approach using empathy and kindness for a more impactful important work conversation. Want help with your important work conversation? You could be part of my year-end project of helping 100 women have their important work conversation. See how at http://whyleap.com

So you have decided to focus on your important work. Great, how do you fit it in?? You have far more control over your work schedule than you think - you simply need to decide that you are taking it. Organize all the actions for your important work that you want to be accomplished by the end of the year. prioritize them decide what you are working on this week. work on one thing at a time  when complete move it to the done status column You can do this. Remember everyone else is choosing to coast.

It's back to work tomorrow after a long weekend. Are you going to choose to coast the rest of the year or will you choose to do your most important work? What would that important work look like? Some important conversations you've been avoiding - some ideas you want to share - a project you want to start. A great exercise and a challenge for the few who choose to make a difference with their important work. Want help with an important conversation - http://www.whyleap.com  

I believe that the communities that we live in have the personalities we want them to have when we get involved. What kind of community do you live in? Does it reflect your values? Do you get involved or hide behind the door. Getting involved in simple ways can expand your life and the lives of others.

When we get together for the holidays it is easy to fall back into familiar family roles that we had as kids. The thing is - we aren't;t kids anymore and those old roles as the peacekeeper, the clown, the one who stays quiet just don't fit anymore.   Here's how to change your role as an adult in your family. Join us at Why Leap Alliance and keep up with all of the new changes we have going on there as our company transitions into adulthood.

The holidays can bring up all sorts of emotions - happy memories from childhood or the sadness of a 1st Thanksgiving without a loved one. This year add something different to your holidays - some fun for the kids - some boundaries for the adults if needed - invite some new people over to shake up the usual crowd. Don't be afraid to set up some new rules or even decide that you don't want to those the December holidays. Shake it up in a new good way.    

Are you memorable in your work? Do you provide something extra, a special kindness a reason to smile? There are 5 people highlighted in this episode who regularly provide memorable services to their patients or customers. It's who they are and how they do their important work. Lessons for all of us on how to be memorable in our work.

In her HBR article Do Your Employees Feel Respected? Kristie Rogers gives some insight and actions on respect at work. As soon as I read her article I knew I wanted to speak with her and share more about her research on respect. So I tracked her down at Marquette University so that she could share more with our listeners. Kristie shares with us the two kinds of respect at work and how we can each show each other more respect even through simple actions. Join us for this conversation on respect at work.

Claire Marin, bravely quit her job, combined some things she loved and has become one of the handful of women craft distillers in the country. She started her company, Catskills Provisions, as an outgrowth of her beekeeping hobby. Originally selling honey and maple syrup she expanded into the word of craft distillers by mixing her honey with her enjoyment of whiskey to create New York Honey Rye Whiskey. Read more about it here.http://wp.me/p7I4SB-CA

Sometimes it’s not confidence that allows us to take action, according to Abbe Solomon Vacek it’s simply making brave decisions. That simple concept is filled with so much power. Many people won’t make decisions. Many senior people especially won’t make decisions even though that is the main part of their role. Decisions mean taking a stand, taking action and it might not work. Yet Abbe tells about the importance the real impact it can have on your life when you choose to act with a posture of bravery. We can often get stuck in our current comfortable life – on a trajectory perhaps of someone else’s design that doesn’t fit, that never will and yet we may stay. It’s what’s expected. We stay because we don’t have the confidence, we don’t think we know enough. Doing that thing that is calling us just seems too irresponsible. Yet Abbe shows us how we can do this and do it bravely – not waiting for permission or our paralyzing concepts of perfection. “I've used bravery and made brave decisions that might have seem

Bronwyn Smith Challenges the thinking that company culture comes from the top. She says it can come from the sides, from the middle and that all of us can have a big part in creating it.

Are you stuck in a communication style that you fail when it goes down - like Slack just did?

Lot's of people love to say people quit because of their bosses.  I think it's for reasons way more interesting than that. Check out my brand new program POUNCE at www.whyleap.com 

If you are lucky you've had a teacher or a boss who had more confidence than you had in yourself - you pushed you and gave you all sorts of opportunities.    Are you helping someone else like this? Here are some quick ideas on how to be a sponsor for someone else and how it also helps your career.