Betrayal Recovery Radio

Today, Carol the Coach interviews Rebecca Ray wh wants to talk about the dissociative process that can affect partners due to on-going stress, abuse, and psychological terror. This disorder causes disruptions or breakdowns in memory, awareness, identity and or perception and she wants are listeners to know that they CAN live normal lives when they manage the symptoms and the triggers!

If you want to learn from the Master....we have an expert on post traumatic growth on the show to help you with betrayal and other forms of trauma. Today Carol the Coach is interviewing Dr. Dayton who has been a guest expert on NBC, CNN, MSNBC, Montel, Rikki Lake, John Walsh, and Geraldo. She is the author of 15 books including Neuropsychodrama in the Treatment of Relational Trauma, The ACoA Trauma Syndrome: How Childhood Trauma Impacts Adult Relationships, Emotional Sobriety: From Relationship Trauma to Resilience and Balance, Trauma and Addiction: Ending the Cycle of Pain Through Emotional Literacy, Heartwounds: The Impact of Unresolved Trauma and Grief on Relationships, Forgiving and Moving On, The Living Stage: A Step by Step Guide to Psychodrama and Experiential Therapy, and The Magic of Forgiveness. You can also read blog posts by Dr. Dayton on The Huffington Post and Thrive Global. Her films and videos include The Process (a 73-minute award-winning docudrama that uses psychodrama to tell stories of add

Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Matthew, who will be sharing about his work helping men who have committed betrayal and/or who struggle with unwanted sexual behavior restore their lives and relationships. He and his wife Joanna, have been working in the field of betrayal/addiction recovery for over 5 years helping couples rebuild what was lost. He explains to Carol the Coach that his particular focus of this effort has been in coaching men to reclaim their authentic, healthy self in order to constantly show up as safe and loving to the people who have been wounded by their behaviors. His  research and experience has taught him that in order for this to happen there is vital work for the betrayer to restore identity and safety for himself/herself. This work of restoration includes forgiveness of others, practicing self compassion, emotional regulation, mindfulness, and empathetic growth. He has seen men transform from dangerously destructive for their partners to radically supportive, patient, and s

Betrayal trauma creates a pain that has been described as worse than the death of a loved one. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Amanda Elliott Asproni who wants to help betrayed partners work through the trauma. Clients who come into counseling with betrayal trauma alongside untreated complex trauma/PTSD struggle with the healing process in nuanced ways compared to betrayal trauma alone. She will be explaining the differences for clients who present with both complex and betrayal trauma?  And she will be sharing how their recovery journey compares with clients who suffer from betrayal trauma?

During the last year, all of our lives have changed drastically. While we now have more access to therapy and recovery groups than ever thanks to online platforms and Telehealth, we are also facing isolation and stressors that can severely derail or escalate addiction and trauma. Recovery in a post pandemic world takes new levels of commitment, but can also deepen our growth more than ever. Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Faith Niece who works with partners and families to navigate through the trauma of sex addiction partner betrayal while in a pandemic.

There are many types of residential,  intensive and individual programs designed to help the addict, but today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Timothy Lee, who founded  the New York Pathways Relationship Restoration Program. We are featuring this program  because it works from a partner sensitive approach in that it includes loooking at partner trauma. Timothy describes treating both the addict and the betrayed partner and working to restore the relationship. He defines the addicts program as the following: we work from the addiction treatment model, which focuses on abstinence, psychotherapy, peer support and 12-step recovery. For our partners, we are mainly using a trauma model of treatment, helping the partner establish safety self-care and setting boundaries. We also work with the conjoint therapy model. The model focuses on various tasks to be completed to maintain good individual and relational recovery.He does this by meeting with his therapist along with his partner and her therapist. Listen as

Today Carol the Coach is interviewing Jenni Rochelle who has created a coaching program for women healing from betrayal trauma.  It’s a six-month, private coaching program for women who are in the later stages of healing and are ready to reclaim and rediscover themselves.   The website is www.jennirochelle.com/beautyafterbetrayal

Carol's guest was unable to appear so she talked about her new book "Unleashing Your Power" and how that book can move you through the 3 stages of partner betrayal. As you listen to the show, ask yourself what you can do to detach from the pain and grow from the inner strength that you have inside.

Returning to a healthy sexual relationship is complex and often times partners want to know that their spouse will not be triggered by resuming  a sexual relationship. Partners do not want to be compared to unhealthy sexual images or experiences and wish they could "know" what their  husband is thinking while they are being intimate. Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Alex Katehakis, who has written a workbook for sex addicts  to help them develop a sexual health plan that emphasizes the many dimensions of healthy sexuality. Listen, as they talk about the sensitive subject of sexual reintegration.

Lots of professionals are finding brainspotting an efffective technique to process trauma. Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Julie StOnges who took the training and has found it is absolutely the quickest way to help children and people who have ADHD. She also believes it can help with partner betrayal. She has been tracking clients progress and their emotional states and have found measurable differences . She saw amazing patterns of processing, pain, relief, joy and even God spots. They call God spots a space where God shows up and speaks love and acceptance.  She describes "Brain Spotting" as an experience which uses your upset memories or thoughts along with stressful body sensations to isolate spaces in your brain and mind where trauma or stress has not assimilated into your story. Facial reflexes and breathing patterns indicate how processing is going and what stage you are in. Most clients say it is the last time they ever feel the pain to that extent. Listen as Julie, shares this exciting process

There are many great forms of therapy out there today to help partners and sex addicts process betrayal, trauma, recovery, and other important issues for healing.Today, Mike Vaugn shares with partners, a powerful type of therapy that can connect addicts to the pain that may have contributed to their addiction and deceit.  One of the more powerful types of therapy is called experiential therapy. We all know that the joys and sorrows in life impact not only our minds, but also our bodies. With that said, experiential therapy helps clients process fully because it engages our whole body. It is often said that just as wounds happen through experience, healing happens through experience as well. Experiential therapy is designed to help healing through techniques that engage the whole person.

Sex Addiction can fatally wound a marriage relationhsip.  Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is an APSATS therapist and helps marriages move from a place of woundedness to a place of healing.  She conducts Three Day Marriage Intensives for couples who have a consistent recovery path with Sex Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Recovery, and are ready to move from a place of woundedness to a place of healing in their relationship.  She wants partners to know there is hope for building and maintaining a strong, fun, loving, intimate, healthy marriage that includes a healthy and fulfilling sex life.   Visit her website at www.CrystalHollenbeck.com.  She has offices in Orlando and Tampa Florida.  You can call her at 407.408.6521 or email her at Crystal@CrystalHollenbeck.com

Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Riana Milne who is a relationship expert and personal life coach who has studied relationhip trauma and she wants to go over the 10 adverse childhood events that sabotages relationships. Many partners have had childhood trauma and would like to understand what they have experienced and what they need to do to cope with it. She also wants to offer some free gifts to our listeners who want to understand their self and the relationship.

Carol the Coach will be interviewing a couple about Sexual Addiction and Partner Betrayal and how to get clarity when it doesn't feel like recovery is working. Listen to their story and what they have tried to get healthy.

Carol the Coach will be interviewing a partner who wants to share her story of betrayal and how she found meaning from it.

Peggy Matheson has created a coloring book that will bring about serenity. She drew a few sketches when she was a young woman, but had such a love for the performing arts that drawing quickly fell by the way side. Earning a BFA in Music Dance Theater from Brigham Young University was a jumping off point that punctuated years of performances on stage and on screen. Her tenacity to create the most impact with a performance has informed her ability to create poetry and drawings that not only resonate but also delight. After college, a parallel path was forming as her desire for freedom from pain drove her to do deep emotional healing work. She eventually found a modality that transformed her life and subsequently became a Certified Journey Practitioner helping others heal their pain through restorative guided meditation.Above all Peggy is a believer. She is a believer in the power to become our best selves and that life and relationships have meaning and purpose. For years, she felt her mission was her successf

The importance of sex in human relationships, especially with our spouse, is well known to us as a vital element in developing and maintaining a healthy marriage and relationship. Thus, the betrayal from a loved one, related sexual affairs, brings traumatic experiences for many. It would not surprise to say that the relationship between sexual compatibility and marital satisfaction is a universal experience for many couples. However, the impacts of culture in navigating sex in a relationship bring unique challenges in Asian-interracial relationship. US society has a long history of stereotypes toward Asian women. A mail-order bride is one of the good examples. The description of "exotic" and "submissive" Asian women intensifies non-Asian men's unrealistic expectations toward Asian women. The adult/sex industry's spreading influence that commercializes Asian women's sexuality adds to the modern era's complexity. On the contrary, in Eastern cultures, women's sexuality, especially the value of virginity, has b

Helping couples heal is an APSATS misssion. Today, Carol the Coach interviews Clinton and Charity Munoz, who  knows how difficult it is to restore the relationship after sexual addiction recovery has been initiated. want to talk about how important individual help is to get first, what their roles are in the restoration process. They believe in the process of rebuilding intimacy and trust after infidelity. Once a couple is getting traction in the healing process, they want to help them understand how they can have a thriving marriage even after infidelity. In the beginning, there are a lot of questions in understanding the role the wife now plays to the husband, aka not an accountability partner, and understanding the role the husband now plays to the wife, aka make her feel safe again. Today, they will share the process of how couples can create a thriving mariage.

Listen as Carol interviews Liza Young on Toxicity. Liza is a therapist with over 15 years of experience in helping  people overcome life's most difficult situations. Liza has developed an online video course called Toxic Free Relationship. This course is designed to help you identify if your relationship is toxic, and what to do about it. She provides videos worksheets, and resources to help guide you to hope and healng.You can find out more about this course at www.lizayoungcounseling.com. You can hear her on her own podcast which is Therapy Extended with Liza Young.

Replay of Carol the Coach talking with Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck talking about helpping couples heal.