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Keith dials in from Cyprus to tells us a bit about his travels. A bit of everything, including women looking for paid experiences and a dating adventure in Armenia, origin of the lovely Cher and the not-so-lovely Kim Kardashian. Though I told Keith he could ask me questions about my discussion of transexual porn last week, he took a pass on that for now, choosing instead to dive into a number of pressing questions. Namely, we find another situation where Keith believes a woman is just asking for more sexual interest from her partner in a roundabout way. Another's partner keeps losing his erections, but only after having sex with her for several minutes. Is a relationship salvageable if the female partner has been faking orgasms for 14 years? And, should men just ask for oral or does that spoil the mood? Is there a better solution for initiating in relationships? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://

I asked ChatGPT to summarize the podcast, which it did, sort of. It started short-circuiting when I brought up the topic of trans and trans porn. Ironic, given that I wasn't really negative on it at all. It's just a taboo that can't be broken apparently. I tried to stay true to the AI's effort to transcribe in the following, even though it refused at points: In the first segment of the podcast, Mike is hosting alone as Keith is in Armenia. He discusses receiving three French books from Ally, one of which is called "Submission" by Michel Houellebecq, a novel containing some racy content involving a professor and his annual affairs with students, leading to some amusing language learning moments with his French tutor. In the second part, Mike explores the capabilities of GPT-based tools, particularly their ability to predict and generate text in a similar manner to the human brain. He also proposes a gap in the market for AI-generated literotica, and speculates on the potential for AI-generated pornography tai

With Keith still climbing mountains in Georgia (the country, not the state), Ally and Mike tackled some new questions, and Mike delicately but firmly improved the quality of the blowjobs Ally gives to her partner. You're welcome, mystery man! We discuss Mike's efforts at reviewing sex toys, whether men's or women's bodies are objectively more attractive, how Mike first learned about autoerotic asphyxiation and other important personal topics. Ally wanted to know how long a blowjob should take, which is what led Mike to enlighten her broadly on the best oral strategies. A questioner wanted to what's going on with a boyfriend who jerks off at lightning speed, and if it's even possible to pleasure him. Another was curious about whether women experience physical discomfort if they are aroused but don't orgasm. And, we discuss a man and a woman, each of whom wants anal but who has a partner that isn't all that keen on it. It's too bad we can't hook them up with one another. We get a lot of our questions from Redd

With Keith out of town, Ally joins the podcast to bring a woman's perspective to our standard fare of questions. Some women like the "motion of the ocean," while others prefer to be orally satisfied by an insatiable lover. Ally, on the other hand, prefers the "Roller Coaster of Love," opting to be jostled into submission. "I can't manhandle myself, after all," she notes. We descend into a discussion of dirty talk, and I'm not talking about such standard fare as, "Can I play your cello" or "Explain Lie Algebra again to me, please." No, this is the real serious dirty talk that women sometimes need to get themselves going. There's some good detail of what exactly Ally feels when a man ejaculates inside of her. This goes for her vagina and/or her mouth, so a pretty detailed description all-in-all. Ally tells the story of a friend whose partner wanted feet intimately involved in his ejaculatory routine. What surprised me was her friend's willingness to reveal such a situation among friends. And, does it work for w

What kind of a world would we live in if men were subjected to overwhelming social pressure to be more submissive and less career oriented? Would it make them happy? If not, then why is it so surprising that the pressure put on women to be more dominant and career oriented doesn't necessarily make them happier? When a man decides he's going to fully prioritize his female partner's pleasure, is he making a good bet? Or, will she be confused because she is really expecting and wanting him to pursue his own pleasure in the bedroom? Let's say you work late and your wife or girlfriend tells you it's OK if you want to have sex with her while she's sleeping, as long as you don't wake her up. Should you take her up on it? And, is it a genuine offer? And, do women like being called "good girls"? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv.me/120/good-girl https://ymmv.me/120/priorities https://ymmv.me/120/nymp

We convene today to discuss a topic at least as important as the "debt ceiling" and when AI is going to take your job: What exactly is the purpose of women typically wanting the first scene of the sex act to be them performing oral on the man? This is made especially vital as we have a first-person account of a man whose female partner was angered when he orgasmed during the oral instead of waiting. A man decides to pull out his penis, wipe it off and put it back in, which reminds Mike of Devin The Dude and his well-known song with Dr. Dre, https://ymmv.me/119/fuck-you. He promises to take it out and wipe it off if he's "going too far." Makes sense to me. A woman wants to encourage her man to provide more animalistic sex, and another is complaining that men "change rhythm" when she's close to orgasm. Does it bother women when men have to think of baseball to avoid cumming too soon? And, what's the deal with Keith's sock? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are lin

Most of this episode is dedicated to an in-depth look at how Keith triages potential partners he finds on dating apps. Before you brush it aside, consider that Keith almost certainly has knowledge about this domain that goes past the ordinary man. We discuss various women who come up on one of the popular dating apps for Keith, how he might approach them, and what he thinks of them. There's also talk of general trends he's observed, what works, and what does not. And we discuss Keith's profile and photos as well. Later, we get into a woman who wonders why her partner seeks more "closeness" while she's sitting on his face. And, is it smart for a woman to tell her partner that her vibrator really gets the job done better for her? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv.me/118/riding https://ymmv.me/118/secrets https://ymmv.me/118/vibrator Twitter: @ymmvpod Facebook: ymmvpod Email: ymmvpod@gmail.com

Does it mean that I'm sheltered that I have no personal experience with people who believe astrology is real? In high school, I knew a young man who believed fervently in evangelical Christianity, so much so that he now leads a well-known southern church as its pastor. But I always imagined that deep down he didn't really believe the things he was saying. The frequency with which Keith purports to encounter such beliefs on dates has me thinking that people really do go for this stuff and don't view it all as parlor tricks. Or, perhaps, as my grandfather said, "You have to believe something." We had what I thought was an interesting discussion about whether it does women any harm at all to make a guy wait for sex. It seems likely to me that it does do women harm to be forced to decide whether to make a relationship sexual after only two or three dates. And I do believe in general that it's the woman's choice. And, does a woman asking for more "animalistic" sex just mean she's not that into the guy? Should a wo

Keith reveals the details of his condom-discussion strategy during dinner with a new partner. It turns out that you can undertake a discussion that simultaneously conveys that you're a reasonable partner and that subtly asks whether sex is on the table that evening. Also, it becomes evident that very few men have such a conversation or behave in a reasonable way around condom use. A discussion ensues about how exactly (other than the obvious) Keith should react when a woman initiates oral sex on him early in a sexual encounter. He's concerned about her expectations for how far he should let things develop before transitioning to PIV sex. And then we transition into the question of whether society views these things fundamentally through the male gaze. Does society consider submissiveness to be problematic? Is giving oral sex inherently embarrassing? Is the prone-bone sex position athletic for the man? What about other positions? And, what does it mean if your partner offers you "free use" of her body for sex?

A lively conversation with Allison, who works with women who are dating after getting out of a long-term relationship. Allison is also an author. Her book, "Find Love Again: Learn how to Date Like A Goddess," penned under the name Allison Jayne, seeks to help women navigate the dating, relationships and sex. According to Allison, essentially no guys offer to use a condom when having sex with a new conquest for the first time. This led Keith to offer what I consider some pretty solid advice for men to turn this to their advantage. Allison also has a healthy sex drive, and she helped us understand the differences between clitoral and internal orgasms. She described how entering the dating pool enabled her to explore her sexuality in a way that wasn't really possible while married. For more information about Allison, you can check out her website, which also contains links to her book: https://ymmv.me/115/allison Twitter: @ymmvpod Facebook: ymmvpod Email: ymmvpod@gmail.com

Well, it's about time we talk about a person with a truly off-the-map sexual experience. In this case, it's a woman who spent many years in amorous relations with her canine buddy. I can't say I've ever felt the desire to be in such a situation, but starting as it did in her younger years, I can understand some level of confusion. And her poor partner who now has to process this information. We discuss in reasonable detail the ins and outs of vasectomies and relationships. It seems like for younger women learning that a partner has had one might be discourage continuing with the relationship. But maybe a sperm bank could operate as a reservoir of good will? And, do men think of clits in a way inverse to how they think about penises? Is better worse? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv.me/114/dog https://ymmv.me/114/clit https://ymmv.me/114/vasectomy https://ymmv.me/114/bleeding Twitter: @ymmv

We discuss with Celeste Moore her experiences with coaching mid-life men on dating, how men and women approach sexual experiences, and the during and after of working in a strip club. I think the typical assumption is that different people experience dating in more or less the same way. But there's a pretty significant gender gap in how things get experienced. This is particularly true at younger ages, when young women might feel like they can "get away" with anything because there are plenty of fish in the sea, and young men are just trying to navigate the maze to get sex. But, as people age, the tables turn to a significant extent, and maybe what men and women are looking for even begins to look more similar. In my mind, they're both likely looking for membership into exclusive spaces, like the Soho House. Is such a place the same as sugar dating, or is there an important difference? Should people seek partners online or in person? Has dating gone awry? Which reminds me, I went to the Tesla factory the othe

What is there left to say about blowjobs? Keith doesn't like them, but women like giving them. They like that submissive role, giving their man a good safe place to put his semen. What a privilege. How should a woman take it if she clearly is sexually interested in a man and he's not reciprocating? The sad truth is it probably means he's just not seeing a future with you. That categorically does not mean he won't continue to have sex with you occasionally, but it does very likely mean he wont be pursuing much if any of a commitment. What's the right response for a woman who is dating a man who only cums from masturbation? And, how should she respond if he texts her after not being able to cum during partnered sex to tell her that right after she left he had a great orgasm from masturbation? And, should men be embarrassed about premature ejaculation? I know I was sort of embarrassed when I became partially aroused from Keith's description of one such encounter by a questioner. To see Mike's Subreddit, contain

Can hot girls be good at sex? It's certainly possible, though it might also be the case that a less well-endowed female would try harder in the bedroom to impress her partner. What is pretty evident is that prior to getting into bed, women who are more attractive don't have to work as hard to land a partner. We finish up our dissection of the audio and questions sent to us last week by a female friend of the show. Then we move on to discuss whether men using sex toys is (at least somewhat) aberrant. A man wants to know how he can last longer in general, and we discuss the difficulties in that area early in a relationship. And, what is the right set of tongue movements when performing oral on a woman? Should it be random? Rhythmic? Systematic? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv.me/111/toys https://ymmv.me/111/squirting https://ymmv.me/111/lasting-longer https://ymmv.me/111/asking https://ymmv.

A kind listener wrote in to ask some questions and to provide us with what I have to admit is a pretty good audio of her masturbation session and orgasm. I want to mention this up front, because we'd certainly like to receive more content like this in the future. From women. Not from men. But also, if you like listening to women orgasm, you should consider listening to this episode now. What would you do if you proposed an MFM threesome to your female partner, whom you'd never provided an orgasm through intercourse alone, and within the first minute of the other man penetrating her she had an orgasm. A pretty crushing situation for the man, and confusing for the woman. She's thinking, "He's going to be so happy I had fun." He's wondering, "Why is this other guy's cock so much more effective than mine?" What's going on in a situation where a woman feels so unable to refuse sex that even when she has Covid she feels obligated. And, is she really proud to be able to offer him "all three holes"? Or is it just som

Threesome trouble stories are our bread and butter, and this episode is no exception. We have both an MMF and an MFF tale of woe to bring to you. Then there's this question about how much less pleasure men get from sex when wearing a condom. Keith says it's "a lot worse." Women don't care that much about PIV sex in many instances anyway, so what's even the point? But look I don't want to bury the lede too much here. We discussed just how much money it would take in various instances for Keith to be willing to engage in gay sex. It's pretty expensive, but there's a wide range depending on exactly what he has to do. Maybe one of our listeners/benefactors will step up to the plate and make it happen? We discuss whether a woman should prefer giving the first 90 percent of a blowjob or the last 10 percent. It's honestly not clear. And a word on glory holes. I've never rightly seen someone using one in person. For me they operate more as a sort of philosophical entity, useful for distinguishing what exactly you'd b

Soaking is the practice of placing the penis in the vagina but not moving, presumably to enjoy intimacy with a partner but without violating religious strictures against premarital sex. We discuss a couple who soaked while watching a movie, but then the situation got too intense and progressed from the figurative to the literal. Keith attended some sort of Ketamine-fueled San Francisco Eyes Wide Shut party, complete with a naked hot tub. His claim was his eyes were focused on the view of the bridge and the bay. That's not what I would have been looking at. Mike only likes submissive eye contact, not the kind that searches for a true interpersonal connection. Seems normal. And we investigate the details of a camgirl's menu. Frankly, she's missing the point. Camgirls need to take charge and show a real interest in the proceedings. Just the presence of a menu suggests a passive, somewhat uninterested role. That's not what men want when they're hunting for online sex. To check out the menu discussed at the begin

I wanted to start off by saying that we haven't done any original research into this question of whether dentists can easily discern which people have recently given oral sex to a man. But it seems plausible, and assuming it's true, it's a pretty funny situation. It's usually the woman who has to work around men not being able to "go the distance" during sex, but what if the gender roles were reversed? How would a man tolerate a situation where the woman orgasmed very quickly and then lost all interest in sex? What is the right level of pregnancy protection? Especially if the partners trust each other? And, if they don't trust each other, does each partner need a form of protection that he or she controls? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv.me/107/bad-sex https://ymmv.me/107/rough https://ymmv.me/107/protection https://ymmv.me/107/thrusting Twitter: @ymmvpod Facebook: ymmvpod Email: ymmvpod@

This week I interviewed Stephanie Sellars who both wrote and appeared in the movie Lust Life Love, about the experiences of people in the polyamorous lifestyle. I enjoyed the movie thoroughly, watched it twice and took notes. Without giving too much away, some things I wondered about were the prevalence of MFF versus MMF situations in poly arrangements. How important are ground rules, and is poly a lifestyle choice that can work long-term. The film depicts a polyamorous club/party scene which frankly surprised me. I always imagine such situations as mostly dominated by men looking for hookups or partners, but I learned that the film is based heavily in reality. As often happens with these subjects, I found myself wondering what's in it for each person. I get that the most obvious thing straight man gets out of polyamory is multiple partners. But what about other folks, and is that really the main reason a straight man would do it? And, is polyamory a lifestyle or something you're born wanting to do? For more

Going through Aella's "scientific" studies is a pretty interesting exercise, so I decided to dedicate part of this episode to her findings. She uncovers data about fetishes, the definition of rape, political and gender differences. Down to the nitty gritty, a man is trying to figure out if his thrusting technique is sub-par, made more difficult by his issues with premature ejaculation. A couple men have issues giving oral sex to women. A woman wonders whether she really is too pretty to give a good blowjob. And, is it compelling at all to women when men "slap" their vulvae, either with their hand or their penis? Here are links to Aella's scientific work: https://ymmv.me/105/fetishes-1 https://ymmv.me/105/fetishes-2 https://ymmv.me/105/autogynephilia https://ymmv.me/105/rape To see Uncle T's most recent episode, here's a link: https://ymmv.me/105/uncle-t We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv.me