The Holderness Family Podcast

This week we had Ian Morgan Cron on our podcast to discuss his new book, The Story of You. It’s an enneagram-based book that not only talks about your type, but also the common broken childhood stories we tell ourselves and how we can write new ones. There was so much good stuff that we covered, we felt it had to be a two part podcast. In Part 1, we discussed Enneagram 7 (Penn) and how they can sometimes be guilty of toxic positivity. Enneagram 7’s have a hard time accessing their full range of emotions, or allowing themselves to feel pain and suffering. Penn discussed his experience with his own parents now in assisted living and dealing with dementia. (Let’s just say, we are asking Ian to bill us for the therapy session.)You can learn more about Ian and his work here and buy his latest book here.Don’t forget to call us and leave a message - we might play your question in next week’s episode. Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929.Thank you for listening! Your support m

Watching ourselves on The Amazing Race is supposed to be the fun part. We’ve already done all the work and we know how the story ends. What I didn’t account for is how watching the challenges would make my body re-live the stress and anxiety of the race all over again. [SPOILER ALERT] In week one, we discuss Penn’s ADHD… the blessing and the curse. It may have gotten us through the art puzzle in the first leg but it also cost us time on the Mail Rail clue the next day. We also revisit the Cake Flag challenge and why we thought you only had to make a flag.. Just any ol’ flag.Tell us your questions and we will try to answer them in these recaps next week! Call 323-364-3929 or e-mail us at holdermesspodcast@gmail.com.We wrote a book! Learn more here: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamilyFollow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamilyAbout the Holderness Family
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Before Penn and I went on The Amazing Race, we trained and planned as much as we could. But another thing we did was talk about how we were going to talk to each other. The race can be a lot of pressure and we anticipated tensions to run high. As competitive as we planned to be on the show, our marriage is a priority. Penn and I talk this week about our tips for wartime vs peacetime conversations in a partnership. We also discuss what we do and don’t like when we are under stress… spoiler alert: “shake it off” < “you got this.” (Who is with me?) Don’t forget to call us and leave a message - we might play your question in next week’s episode. Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929.Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email us at holdermesspodcast@gmail.com.We wrote a book! Learn more here: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book Join our Facebook family: www.

Penn and I couldn’t be more opposite when it comes to making and keeping resolutions. This week on the podcast we heard from all of you about how you keep resolutions. In this weird week between Christmas and New Year’s, it was motivating to get your take on how to make a New Year resolution a success, including not making them at all! (Thanks Gary.) We also had some fun with a TikTok comment we got from a fan that lead into an analysis on the phrase “just saying.” For the record, you cannot say something terrible and then follow it up with that phrase to cancel the terrible out. Let’s make that a 2022 rule, shall we? Don’t forget to call us and leave a message - we might play your question in next week’s episode. Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929.Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email us at holdermesspodcast@gmail.com.We wrote a book! Learn more here: ww

This week we sit down to talk to Shawn Johnson and Andrew East about their transition from being professional athletes to content creators and everything in-between. Shawn and Andrew are so fun and have wisdom beyond their years. We talk about how they met, their take on youth sports, and how we all might jump into a zero-gravity jet! You can listen to their podcast (just nominated for a People's Choice Award) and learn more about their tour here: https://www.couplethingspod.com/Don’t forget to call us and leave a message - we might play your question in next week’s episode. Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929.Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email us at holdermesspodcast@gmail.com.We wrote a book! Learn more here: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamilyFollow us on Instagram: www.instagram.c

Penn and I both agreed that being on The Amazing Race was a bucket list item for us. It was a fun dream because in our minds there was a ZERO percent chance it would ever happen. Until it did. We’ve had to keep a secret for almost TWO YEARS that we were competing on The Amazing Race in Season 33. We left in February 2020 and we were in Europe as the world was shutting down. Earlier this year, we left again to finish the competition and we learned a lot about ourselves. Anxiety and ADHD make quite a pair when you’re trying to win a $1 million prize. As the show airs, we are going to be doing weekly recaps on the podcast as BONUS episodes with fellow contestants on the show. We will talk about each episode and each of our experiences doing the race every Friday starting January 7, 2022.Don’t forget to call us and leave a message - we might play your question in next week’s episode. Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929.Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to u

Marriage isn’t always 50/50. In fact, in our marriage, there are times one partner is pulling the entire load. The last few weeks have been tough for our family. On top of the “normal” family struggles that bubble up in every house, my grandmother’s health took a sharp decline. So Penn started using this phrase and pairing it with thoughtful action: “I’m anticipating your needs…” then he would do the thing that I needed. Let’s face it, you know your person better than anyone. You know what would help them feel supported. It takes some knowledge and a little effort, but dang, it’s a game changer. In this podcast, we talk all about how to bring "anticipating needs" into your marriage.Don’t forget to call us and leave a message - we might play your question in next week’s episode. Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929.Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email

It's always fun to interview people we can fangirl over and this week's guest is no exception. Penn and I talk to stand-up comedian, writer, actor, and fellow North Carolinian Fortune Feimster! Everything Fortune does seems to be steeped in positivity. We talk about her growing up in NC, what her parents must have thought about her becoming a comedian, and how she accidentally stole the show in the movie Office Christmas Party. We love Fortune's unique brand of comedic storytelling which she attributes to her Southern upbringing. Anytime we see her in a show or a clip online, she always makes us smile. You can see Fortune in a city near you on her 2 Sweet 2 Salty tour happening now. Learn more and get tickets: https://www.fortunefeimster.com/Don’t forget to call us and leave a message - we might play your question in next week’s episode. Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929.Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider

We thought it would be fun to hear from you guys this week on some of your favorite Thanksgiving traditions and your crazy stories... and thanks to this new invention called a TELEPHONE we get to actually hear your voices too! This Thanksgiving is going to be a hard one for our family, but your calls brightened our day and made us laugh. We are thankful for you.Don’t forget to call us and leave a message - we might play your question in next week’s episode! You can tell us what you like or you don’t like. Or ask a question. Call 323-364-3929. Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review where you are listening! We also love feedback. Email us at holdermesspodcast@gmail.com.We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamilyFollow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily Find us

Penn and I talk about treating your marriage like a team using the most inspirational and uplifting muse we know… Ted Lasso. Our family loves watching Ted Lasso, and we’re going through withdrawals now that Season 2 is over. So we thought we’d use some of the show’s best one-liners to talk about treating your marriage as a team. (Who needs couples therapy when you have Ted Lasso, right? Totally kidding.)Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? CALL US AT: (323) 364-3929Or send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.comWe wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review:www.theholdernessfamily.com/book Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamilyFollow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamilyAbout the Holderness Family
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*This podcast episode is around the heavy topic of social media and the prevalence of sexual predators. There is content on the show that people may find disturbing. Though it’s important to have these conversations with your kids, we recommend listening on your own first.* We interviewed my friend, Roo Powell, on our podcast in February 2020 where she talked to us about her work uncovering online sexual predators. Roo is a mom, writer, advocate, and the founder of  SOSA, Safe from Online Sex Abuse, a non-profit that raises awareness and combats the pervasiveness of online sex abuse and exploitation. Roo and the SOSA team have a new docuseries, Undercover Underage, that was released this month on Discovery+ that shows her work undercover to keep kids safe.  To learn more about the work that SOSA is doing and ways you can support this important work, visit their website at: sosatogether.org. You can stream Undercover Underage (rated TV-14) on Discovery+.   Thank you for listening! Your support means the world

People always ask us what it’s like to do our job. We get it. It’s a weird way to pay the mortgage. Our version of a business seminar is when we get to sit down with other creators and share our non-traditional job experiences. That's why we were excited to swap stories with fellow creators Kristin Hensley & Jen Smedley from #IMOMSOHARD on this week’s podcast. We guarantee these ladies will make you laugh, as we did PLENTY of times in this interview. You can find Kristin and Jen on the #IMOMSOHARD: Getaway Tour at www.imomsohard.com. Also be sure to check out their new line of wine, Accomplice, and their new children’s book, The Meanest of Meanies. What’s something weird you have to do at your job? Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamil

Penn and I have been married for 16 years, so we've gotten real comfortable with each other. So comfortable, in fact, that one day we realized... are we showing more gratitude and appreciation to a complete stranger than our spouse? In this podcast, we share our top tips to help when you are feeling a gratitude deficit and how to show appreciation more effectively. Leave a review or comment, and tell us how you make sure you show gratitude to your significant other! Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily  Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily About the Holderness Family
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This week we have Dr. Lisa Damour on the podcast, whose books have really helped us understand that teenage minds and bodies are going through A LOT. We ask her our questions about raising teens as well as questions we got from you! Having strategies from her to deal with the predictable stressors has been incredibly impactful--plus she has the most soothing voice. You can learn more about Dr. Damour (and her books and podcast) here: https://www.drlisadamour.com/. Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily  Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily About the Holderness Family
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Penn and I went on Instagram to ask you about a time you took a huge leap and also what has held you back. (And wow, some of you guys are braver than we are!) We share your answers as well as our “pre-flight checklist” of things that helped us take a leap or things we wish we did. Have you ever taken a big leap?  Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily  Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily About the Holderness Family
: Penn, Kim, Lola, and Penn Charles Holderness create original music, parodies, and Vlogs for YouTube and Facebook to poke fun of themselves and celebrate the absurdity in

Surprise! This week the Holderness Family team steps in to share their favorite podcast moments while Penn and Kim are traveling. From funny to heartfelt, they guarantee these clips will make you smile. (And they promise Penn and Kim will be back next episode!) Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily  Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily About the Holderness Family
: Penn, Kim, Lola, and Penn Charles Holderness create original music, parodies, and Vlogs for YouTube and Facebook to poke fun of themselves and celebrate the absurdity in circumstances most families face in their day to day

Have you ever realized the fights you have with your partner have a pattern? Taking a 30,000 foot view to look at stressful seasons in our lives and how that impacts our fights has changed our marriage. This week we asked our marriage coach, Dr. Christopher Edmonston, to join us on navigating fight cycles and patterns including how to approach and resolve them.  Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily  Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily About the Holderness Family
: Penn, Kim, Lola, and Penn Charles Holderness create original music, parodies, and Vlogs for YouTube and Facebook to poke

As our kids are getting older, we want to know the best way to support their athletic goals without pushing too hard. This week on the podcast, we spoke with licensed marriage and family therapist, Nina Westbrook, about the balance, the joy, and the struggles of competing in youth sports.  Nina shares her first-hand experience working her way up to NCAA Division I Women's Basketball at UCLA. She also tells us how we can help navigate our kids through sports, other interests, and mental well-being.   Nina is dedicated to inspiring mental health, interpersonal growth, and self-connection. She has useful tools designed to cultivate a sense of well-being in every area of life: https://benebynina.com/  Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/b

This week, Penn and I talk about how to really understand one another when in an argument. When you're in a fight, using the phrase “I’m Sorry” flippantly is really more about making yourself feel better than your partner. We used to use "I'm Sorry" as a "please-don't-be-mad-at-me-let's-just-let-this-go" Band-Aid, and it did us a lot more harm than good. Not taking the time to understand your partner can fester into having an insecure sense of attachment, among other things. Luckily, we have some magic words to help in this episode. Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily  Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.c

Would you rather potty train a toddler or teach a teen to drive? This week we have Dude Dad's Taylor and Heidi Calmus on the podcast to talk all about our different seasons of parenting. We discuss how we first met each other, what it was like to create content in a pandemic, as well as their new TV show Super Dad on Magnolia Network. (Yes, Magnolia like Chip and Joanna Gaines...) Penn also tells more than one poop story... we apologize in advance. You can find more hilarious videos from Taylor and Heidi here: https://www.dudedad.com/ as well as watch their new show here: https://magnolia.com/watch/show/c3dc8b62-f029-5237-904d-283cf1529f6a/super-dad/.  Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook