Quick And Dirty Marriage Podcast

When trust is broken, it does not mean the relationship is over or unstable. It just means there's work for both of you to do if you want to make it work. Begin the journey of Rebuilding Trust in your Marriage. Trust makes people feel safe. And in a relationship, when it begins on a firm foundation of trust, you both live a life free from deception, assumption and overall heartache. Over the next few weeks, we are going to talk about specific things you BOTH can do to begin the long journey of rebuilding Trust in your Marriage. Deciding to Love (for the one whose trust was broken) Let go of the past. Force yourself NOT to play the broken record of what happened. Choose to move on. Decide to love your spouse.  See your partner for WHO they are, not what they've DONE. The decision to love is a good one if your partner has made that decision as well.    

Are you losing the war against screentime? Do you kick, scream and shout when your kids are locked behind their screens for hours? Are you so sick of it that you want to rip your hair out? There is nothing worse than seeing the back of your child's device...all the time! When you try to talk to them and all they answer with is "yup...uh-huh...oh ok!" Which translates to, "Sorry I'm not listening to you. I'm kinda busy at the moment." When this happens over and over, 2 things are happening and will happen: Your kid is so addicted to their screen that they don't even realize it Your relationship with them will deteriorate over time because of all the arguments that WILL happen But there is good news! It doesn't always have to be a fight. You don't have to take their device away. In fact, let them keep their device, but then do this one thing. Take Control. That's right, control! Remember, you are the parent. You are the one who pays for the internet. You

Parenting is hard. And it's worse when you hurt your kids. But there's good news. There's always good news. You can say sorry to them and make things right. Not only do you make things right, you also prove to them that your relationship is more important than always being right. In this Episode, we chat about the importance of creating a habit of saying sorry to your kids when you hurt them, when you screw up, when you mess up and 100 other reasons why you should apologize. ONE KEY: As often as you can, model an attitude of reconciliation by apologizing to your kids as often as possible.   Join the FREE Forever Quick and Dirty Community

We all want things. But for some people, they feel they are entitled to whatever it is they want and feel as though they deserve it all. And that can make for very difficult relationships and a whole lot of disappointment. Entitlement is a killer. And it starts at such a young age. But unfortunately, in most cases, it starts with parents. When parents hear words like: "You owe me!" "I want this now!" "I deserve to have it!" Parents hear those words and have 2 options, deny what they demand and walk them through the struggle, or, give them what they want in order to avoid any arguments. Sadly, most parents choose the second option in hopes that this will help their kids, not knowing they are creating habits in their life that will affect them in their relationships later in life. Struggle is a good character builder. Allowing your kids to struggle will empower your kids to become more responsible, build confidence, develop a strong work ethic and become more grateful. The One Key:

The balance between Marriage and Kids is one of the toughest jobs one can accept. It's not one for the faint of heart. But it's one of the most rewarding. No one comes into a marriage wanting to lead a child-centered home. But sometimes it happens so fast that one wouldn't even see the warning signs coming. Some dangers of a child-centered home include ignoring your marriage in place of your kids, decreasing sexual intimacy as a result of kids sleeping in your bed, and worst of all, raising kids who have no idea how to deal with disappointment, failure, and rejection. But worst of all is raising kids until they grow up and move out of your house only to leave you and your wife not knowing who you are anymore. It's tragic. So then what? Focusing on leading a Marriage Centered home with a healthy balance between parents and kids. The Health of a Marriage determines the Happiness and Security of your children.

They are around you. Toxic people and toxic relationships. The question is, how do you manage them in a healthy manner? This article describes 8 Things the Most Toxic People in your Life have in Common. It’s a good article and we think you should read it. Primarily because it allows you to identify certain traits in someone who may be toxic. If someone in your life is either toxic or has toxic tendencies, we feel that in order to keep the relationship intact as best as you can, is to keep these in mind. Create detailed and specific Boundaries. For example, We can meet, but only for 60 minutes and in a public setting. Get to a place of Forgiveness.  Which is different from saying the offense or behavior is ok. If trust is broken, it must be earned back Remember to do what you need to do in order to keep yourself healthy Support your Partner by listening to their struggles with someone toxic in their life. Avoid jumping on the negative train and blasting the other party. This does not help…at all!

Do you know when you most feel loved? Like actually? Because it's important. Especially when you're in a relationship. Because love can be so complicated, simplifying it and understanding your own personal love language can prove to be quite advantageous. Love Language What's a Love Language? Simply put, Your Love Language is your primary love language. To feel really loved, some people respond to encouraging words, some are more sensitive to gifts and actions, some to physical touch, and others to time spent together.   Have you joined our FREE Forever Quick and Dirty Community on Facebook?

There are so many variables that come into play when it comes to relationships. Discovering what they are is the first priority. And the second, and most of all, is understanding what those variables and challenges are and how to manage them.  Nothing affects two people in a relationship more than their personalities. Do you know your personality type? Have you ever wondered how it affects your relationship with your partner?  What is your Personality Type? If you are looking for a quick way to figure out if you are an Introvert or Extrovert, this article by Huff Post is a good read.  Click here to read the article.  But if you are looking for a simple and free test to figure out what your personality type is, this is the test that Heather and I took. Take the Free 16 Personalities Test ===>Join our NEW Quick and Dirty Facebook Community. It's FREE FOREVER!!!

Newsflash, you will never agree on absolutely everything.  It's near impossible. Because you both are 2 different people with 2 different points of views, you will eventually come to a place where you don't see eye to eye and are faced with either fighting it out or ignoring it and not dealing with it all.  Both of these solutions are destructive and can only lead to a disconnect in your relationship. But there's good news!  There's another way...

One of the major killers in our relationship used to be Conflicts and Arguments.  We had no idea how to discuss things respectfully in a calm and peaceful manner.  It was always 0-100 in 2 seconds flat when either of us was upset about something. Thankfully though, we understood the importance of placing healthy boundaries in the context of how we argued.  Some of those boundaries that we still use today are: Never bring up past arguments Talk respectfully to each other Never argue when you are tired Take breaks when things get too heated We encourage you both to talk to each other when things in your relationship are going well. Then agree on some healthy boundaries around arguing and also, write them down so you both can see them and are aware of them. Once you both master this aspect of your marriage, it will be like heaven on earth and your arguments will substantially lessen over the years. If we can do this, so can you! Newsletter: http://eepurl.com/dm_V5P FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/qui

Guys need to understand that in order to have a great sex life with your wife figure out what she likes, and SLOW IT DOWN.  Find ways throughout the day to kick start her mood and her desire for you, so that by the time you get home from work, she's already emotionally connected with you and the level of intimacy has already started! Here's a few things for you think about: Kissing her in the morning Giving her a hug, and then walking away Send flirtatious text messages and Emojis Help out with the kids when you get home Taking care of hygiene before bed Freshen up before bed Create an atmosphere       

One Key We want you to walk away from this episode and talk to your spouse about what is acceptable and enjoyable in bed.  Once you are in agreement, we believe that there are no boundaries, except the things that either of you are uncomfortable with.  Respect each other, agree on things and sex will become a beautiful thing that you both can look forward to. 

Once you cross a boundary, it becomes easier to cross it again. And once that begins, the lines keep moving farther and farther out until you become desensitizedto the dangers around you.   Best Sex Married people should be having the best sex, but when this topic comes up, many couples are struggling in this area and sex is usually the first casualty to drop when it comes to other problems in marriage. Boundary What are you feeding your mind? What fantasies are you having? What thoughts are you bringing into the bedroom? All those things play a huge part when it comes to becoming sexually unsatisfied with your partner. The One Key: Have an open and honest conversation with your spouse about what boundaries need to be put in place as far as what you watch, the music you listen and anything else that  would hinder you from having a deep and intimate your marriage 

Too often we think that relationships with the opposite sex can be harmless.  But then you end up going for JUST coffee, and then it's JUST lunch, which turns into JUST dinner, and then it's JUST talking in your car and before you know it, you both find yourself JUST in bed together wondering how this could have happened.   We recommend you Affair Proof your Marriage with Boundaries when it comes to the opposite sex.  It's not like you can't have a relationship with them, it just might look a bit different.  And the main thing we advise is to NEVER be alone with them.  Too many things can happen and in the end, it's not worth throwing your marriage away for the sake of a friendship.    The One Key:   Spend some time with each other and discuss and agree on areas in your relationship where you need to set boundaries in place. These can be new ones, or they can even be boundaries that have been crossed in the past, and now you need to put them in place.

There's no other time in history where we've been so bombarded with the many distractions of life. From our jobs, to our families, and most of all, to Social Media, we need to get back to being intentional at combatting those distractions in order to have strong and healthy Relationships.

How does one stay desirable their spouse through the entirety of a marriage?   Desirable to your Husband Be his Cheerleader and Biggest Fan Appreciation Thank him for what he does Taking notice of who he is Support and Encouragement Support for the hard things he goes through Meetings, Races, Decisions, Dreams and Goals  He will know you are there for him Desirable to your Wife Create and Provide Safe Environments for your Wife Physically Strong Protector Strong Presence Sexually Thoughts are just for your spouse.  Build Trust. Without it, they stay closed and Sexy Time is less frequent Send Messages - "Good Morning" "I love you" Constant Affirmations - Feeling secure that she is the only one on your mind Emotionally and Mentally Trust. Tell everything, even if it hurts. To make mistakes without ridicule Laugh and be silly Be her authentic self  Strong Tower - Handle it when she is feeling down Spiritually Respect Different beliefs   The On

In this Episode, we chat about the core need of a woman and what that looks like when it's implemented in a relationship. The One Key   Women need security and love. Women feel most secure when they are married to a sacrificial, caring man.   Guys: Ask your Wife "What does love look like to you?" Ladies: Write your list and share it with them. Guys: APPLY IT!!! Break the Crazy Cycle of a Disrespectful and Unloving Marriage. When a man loves his wife unconditionally, the woman will respect his man, which will simply cycle into a beautiful and amazing marriage relationship. The concept is Simple. Quick and Dirty Marriage on: INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK WEBSITE

What Heather came to understand was that when exposed to an environment where respect is abused, demanded and used as a way to control, the exact opposite occurs and it breeds an undercurrent of resentment and contempt.  Extend kind words and being polite was about as much trust and respect Heather was willing to give up.  I had noticed by just being polite, Dale's heart towards Heather started to open up and he would become more kind with his words.  Then in Heather's respect experiment, she started to do kind things for him and as she extended a little more trust and respect, his heart opened up even a little more and they started to get a bit of momentum going. At the same time rebuilding trust. Respect spills into everything. Here are a few examples: Not undermining your husband's parenting style. Ask your kids, "what does Dad say about that?" Finances -  learn to agree with how you spend our money Avoid nagging Give him space and time to spend on his hobbies ...and more! A

In today's Episode we want to share a few different fight styles and how destructive they are, BUT, we also give you simple steps you can take today, to manage how you argument in a more healthy way! Criticism and Blaming (1st) You are always late! "You never get off your phone" "You never..." "You always..."  This style could lead to contempt and you begin to attack their character and you now add the word 'Because...' "You are always late...BECAUSE you are so lazy!" "You never get off your phone...BECAUSE you are so selfish" There are 2 ways to respond to this. Defensiveness (2nd) With this style, once you hear any accusations or comments against you, you are quick to react, your v olume rises and you pull up the shield and begin to defend yourself.   This could lead to defensive and harsh responses such as  "Just shut up!"  "Oh never mind" And then you begin to move into belittling the person and also start

How do you Stay Connected in Survival Mode? In this Episode, we answer a question called in by the Quick and Dirty Website.  Don and Glory asks: "how do we stay connected when you're in survival mode"! PLANNING Once a month planning Weekly Scheduling: some weeks are the same so we just take a quick glance at the calendar to see if anything needs to be added, changed or figured out.  It only takes a few minutes once you've had your initial once a month planning session. Planning helps to keep the guessing work out of the equation. Each of us knows what each others responsibilities are for that week so there isn't room for disappointment. We are both on the same page entering in each week. Being flexible  Life throws us curve balls so it's really important to have a plan and be flexible if things change.  Plan for set backs  Budget your time [Jar Example] Jar with 24 colorful balls representing the 24 hours we all have in a day.  So each is 1 hour.  Depending on y