Getting Unstuck

Ever catch yourself overthinking what others might think of your choices? In this episode, I open up about my own struggles with external validation, from skipping my first podcast episode in 5 years to making authentic decisions while writing my book "Getting unSTUCK." I'll explore why we often give too much weight to others' opinions and how it can hold us back from living our most authentic lives. Plus, I'll share practical strategies to help you trust your own judgment and make decisions that truly align with your values. Join me for this honest conversation about breaking free from the approval-seeking cycle – because you deserve to live life on your own terms. Ready to dig deeper? Come work through these challenges with me in our live weekly coaching calls inside The unSTUCK Method program!  www.shiragura.com

Do you ever get frustrated when things don't go as planned, especially when you're hoping for something simple, like having a meal together with your family? I recently had one of those moments. After fasting for Yom Kippur, I had this picture-perfect idea of breaking the fast with my family around the dinner table. But as I walked home from prayer services, I started to fume, convinced that they’d already started eating without me. Instead of letting the frustration boil over, I used a tool I created called The CLEAR Way, which helped me prepare for whatever I might walk into. And I’m so glad I did, because when I got home, my boys were sitting at the kitchen island, already eating!

Do you ever get annoyed by those little things people do that just grate on your nerves?

I wanted to share something unexpected that happened just a few hours ago while recording this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast. The theme of today's episode was drama, and life certainly delivered. As I was recording, Iran began launching ballistic missiles at Israel, triggering sirens that sent us rushing to our safe rooms. In the rush, I dropped the mic but forgot to pause the recording. When it was safe to return, I discovered the recording was still running. I've decided to keep this part in the episode to keep things authentic and real. Please be aware that you'll hear this interruption around minute 7 or 8 of the episode. I share this not only to prepare you but to reflect on how crucial it is for us to manage our responses, especially in unexpected and challenging times. Wishing us all peace and safety, and the strength to get unstuck, even in the toughest moments. Love, Shira P.S. Imagine how much better our world could be if everyone knew how to use the tools to handle

Ever wished you could hit a "reset" button on a conversation gone wrong?

This week on the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, we're exploring the transformative power of self-reflection. I've been emphasizing how taking a moment to pause and consider our actions and thoughts can significantly impact our personal growth and awareness.

Ever find yourself on the brink of a kitchen squabble over something as simple as boiling eggs? That happened to me recently, and it turned into an unexpected lesson in managing frustrations and choosing my battles. In the midst of me boiling some eggs, my husband came in out of nowhere and decided to switch pots to save energy—a small action that unexpectedly sparked a big internal reaction from me. I'm curious - would this have annoyed you? How do you think you would have reacted? Tune in to this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast to hear how I handle this very irritating situation with the help of The unSTUCK Method. www.shiragura.com

This week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast will be different. After the heart-wrenching news of the execution of six hostages in Israel, including Hersh Goldberg-Polin, a friend of friends, I found myself deeply affected. In light of this, I invite you to join me in taking a moment to pause—a stop that feels necessary right now, not just for me but perhaps for many of us.

In this episode, I talk about living from possibility. Living from possibility means envisioning a better reality and actively shaping interactions to be more positive. It's about seeing past the cycle of negative experiences and using proactive communication to transform relationships. Embracing this approach can lead to more fulfilling connections, helping you move from conflict to harmony with confidence and ease. www.shiragura.com

In this podcast episode, I explore the common yet often unspoken issue of shame that many people feel when confronting negative emotions, getting emotionally stuck, or facing relationship problems. It's incredibly normal to feel embarrassed about needing tools to manage one's emotional health, but this shame is truly unnecessary. Once individuals join a supportive community, they quickly realize that everyone faces similar challenges, and there is great power and relief in shared experiences. By acknowledging and accepting these feelings openly, members can move past shame and work towards genuine improvement and empowerment together. This collective journey highlights the universality of emotional struggles and the benefits of facing them head-on. Learn more: www.shiragura.com

Have you ever signed up for a gym membership full of enthusiasm, only to see it go unused? That’s exactly what sometimes happens when it comes to using The unSTUCK Method. We know it's there, we know it can help us, we know it's within our reach and yet, we sometimes forget to use it. In this week’s "You Can Handle Anything!" podcast, I explain why embracing The unSTUCK Method in your daily life is essential for making real changes in how you respond to life’s emotional challenges. It's not just about knowing the steps, it's about actually applying them to your life. Every emotional situation is unique, and using the method consistently helps you navigate these effectively. This is a short episode in a 5-week series I created this month that came out of a recent conversation I had with a woman named Lisa. www.shiragura.com

In this podcast episode, I discuss the significant role of language in managing emotions and enhancing well-being. The term "stuck" is pivotal in my approach; recognizing when you're "stuck" on an emotion is crucial because it signals that there's a method to help you move forward. I encourage rephrasing emotional states, such as changing "I'm angry" to "I'm stuck on anger," to remind ourselves that emotions are temporary states we can navigate through. The ability to articulate feelings accurately not only helps in identifying emotions but also in adopting new perspectives to shift them. This mastery of language and its application in everyday life, as shared through personal and family experiences, underscores how powerful and transformative clear communication can be in resolving emotional challenges. www.shiragura.com

This podcast focuses on the importance of taking personal responsibility, especially when feeling emotionally stuck. Often, the instinct is to blame others for our feelings, but this approach means we're not fully owning our part. Taking personal responsibility involves acknowledging, owning, and processing our own thoughts and emotions. By doing so, we reduce blame and better understand the true sources of our suffering, rather than projecting responsibility onto others. If more people embraced this mindset, it could lead to significant improvements in personal well-being and interpersonal relationships across the globe. Click here to learn more about The Unstuck Online Program and Community

This week's "You Can Handle Anything" is going to be slightly different than usual. Instead of sharing one of my stories, I'm going to share with you someone else's. And that "someone else" is the actor, Andrew McCarthy. I'm going to dive into the intriguing story of Andrew McCarthy and the infamous "Brat Pack" label that shaped his career. The film captures his journey as he revisits old friends and questions whether the label or his reaction to it caused more harm. It’s a powerful example of how external labels can trap us, and what it takes to break free and reclaim our identity. Click here to tune in and perhaps consider labels in your own life and the impact they've had on you. If you’re in the Unstuck Revolution and have thoughts on the documentary, I’d love to hear them! Let’s discuss how we can apply these insights to our own paths to becoming unstuck. https://courses.shiragura.com/the-unstuck-revolution/

In this episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I explore the heavy and often sneaky nature of guilt, sharing a personal story from a recent family dinner. After deciding not to partake in desserts my mom made, I was unexpectedly overwhelmed by guilt, despite making a simple, healthy choice for myself. Guilt is a complex emotion that can quickly transform into self-resentment, reminding us that we're often our own harshest critics. During the podcast, I discuss how emotions are essentially energy in motion and how they can change, sometimes needing guidance to move in a constructive direction. I'll walk you through the specific steps of The unSTUCK Method that I used to navigate and transform my feelings of guilt. This method not only helped me understand my emotions but also taught me how to handle them effectively without letting them control me. Tune in to learn how to manage and transform guilt, and discover that you can handle anything life throws your way. www.shiragura.com

Have you ever felt incredibly strongly about something, only to find yourself talking to someone who sees things the exact opposite way? Or maybe they just can’t see your side at all? It’s beyond frustrating. You might argue back and forth, but no matter what you say, they don’t budge. It feels like you’re the only one suffering, but it’s likely tough for them, too. This is what unfolded for me last week with one of my kids, following up on last week's podcast episode where we clashed over something I found quite unethical. I turned to The unSTUCK Method to escape that frustrating deadlock because clinging to being right was getting us nowhere. In this week’s "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, I dive into exactly what I did and the new perspectives I embraced to resolve this conflict. Because ultimately, we may not control the obstacles in our lives, but we can master our responses to them. www.shiragura.com ​

Ever felt stuck on how to respond when someone close does something you disagree with? Reacting impulsively can damage relationships and make you regret your actions, while staying silent might leave you feeling like a doormat. Here's a tip: try asking for permission to share your feelings. It’s a respectful way to communicate without overstepping, and if they’re not open to it, you need to respect their choice. I faced a similar dilemma with my son recently. He sent a video from California that I found disappointing and unethical. Conflicted about how to respond, I used the unSTUCK Method. Want to know how it went? Click below to tune in and find out how to handle similar situations effectively. www.shiragura.com

Ever wake up feeling weighed down by regret over something you did yesterday?

In this episode, I discuss the importance of morning routines and how they transform my day. I share how my morning starts with peace and quiet, using practices like breathwork, yoga, and my essential "Getting Unstuck" worksheet. This routine isn't just about starting the day; it's about clearing out leftover emotions and setting a positive tone. Listen to learn how these practices can help manage daily disruptions and why they're as crucial as brushing your teeth. Interested in creating a transformative morning routine? Tune in for tips on setting up a morning that starts your day right. www.shiragura.com Order the Morning Practice Workbook on Amazon by clicking here.

Big news—I’m about to hop on a jet plane and head to the United States for the summer! ✈️ Every year, I cherish this chance to reconnect with family and friends, but this summer, I’m hoping to do something special: an "Unstuck Summer." From my base in New Jersey to as far as California (or even Canada!), I’m looking to bring the power of The unSTUCK Method to religious institutions, workplaces, and even right in people’s homes.