The Terri Cole Show

Are you running on empty? Are you so depleted that you’ve found yourself pulling back from your relationships and the things that used to inspire you?  If you feel desperate to replenish yourself in some way and you could use some tips, then this episode is for you.  In today’s episode, you’ll learn the difference between being stressed and burned out (‘cause they’re not the same), how to pinpoint what drains you the most, and 3 strategies to help you bounce back from burnout. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/382 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m chatting with my great friend and New York Times bestselling author Gabby Bernstein about the inspiration behind her newest book, Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace. This book is Gabby’s most profoundly personal. It sparks a conversation about how trauma creates harmful patterns of self-protection and how we can escape them, as well as the healing power of being a better parent to ourselves and our children. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/381 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever met someone you would describe as an “old soul” or seemingly older than their years?  You might be describing someone with high emotional maturity.  Investing time and energy into growing your own emotional maturity is well worth it. When you learn how to master your emotions you have a deep understanding of yourself, you are able to flex your empathy muscle in a healthy way, and you are more competent and calm in stressful situations.  Listen to today’s episode to learn more about your current emotional maturity level and what you can do to increase it because doing so will create more opportunities for growth and more harmony in your life! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/380 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m excited to share an interview with Michelle Chalfant. She is a therapist and coach who created a model called the “adult chair” to help adults recognize immature aspects of their psyche and live more emotionally healthy lives. We’re talking all about what you need to do to live a healthier, happier life, including how to be more self compassionate and how to recognize triggering experiences as opportunities for healing. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/379 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you are the only person in your life who knows how to do anything correctly?  Have you ever asked your partner or your teenager to do something, and they come back with “But you do it so much better…” or “I don’t know how…” OR wait so long to start that you just end up doing it?  What if the people in your life are pretending to be less competent than they are to get you to do more than your share? Let that sink in.  If you are overworking, overdoing, and, if you’re honest, resentful and burnt out, you might want to learn about strategic (or weaponized) incompetence. In today’s podcast, I break down this manipulation tactic and share how you can begin to step back from overfunctioning and move towards a more equitable distribution of labor in your life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/378 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever feel like you are too busy to create the life you really want? A lot of us always feel like we’re playing catch-up, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Today’s guest, Tanya Dalton, shares strategies that can help all of us live with intention by making truly fulfilling goals and sticking to them. Plus: Tanya shares the story behind her brand new book, On Purpose: The Busy Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of Meaning and Success. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/377 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How often do you find yourself bummed out on Valentine’s Day?  I can tell you, as a psychotherapist for 25 years, whether you’re single or in a relationship, Valentine’s Day has a way of setting us up for disappointment. Every year post-Cupid, I would prepare myself for the aftermath because my therapy practice would be full of people who were sad, lonely, or angry over what did or did not go down on V-day.  What if you asked for what you really want? What if you decided to fulfill your own desires this year? What if you fell wildly in love with yourself? Listen to today's episode to learn several ways you can get your needs met this Valentine’s Day plus a sacred self-love ritual to help you feel supported, deeply nourished, and adored. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/376 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing Serena Dyer Pisoni. Her father, Wayne Dyer, passed away a few years ago. If you don’t know him, he was a big influence on my life and work, and I know he also touched the lives of many others. Serena recently co-wrote a book called The Knowing with her sister Saje, all about processing and learning from the many losses that they were going through during that time in their lives. In today’s episode, Serena shares the tools and strategies she developed to make her way forward through that grief, and we also talk about the importance of practicing self-love and self-forgiveness even when you believe guilt is all you deserve. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/375 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find that you attach unusually quickly to people, whether in friendships or romantic relationships? Do you stay in relationships that you know are bad for you because the thought of being alone scares you more than staying in a bad relationship? Or do you repeatedly find yourself in relationships with unavailable people? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you might have abandonment issues. In this episode, I’m helping you recognize the signs of abandonment issues in adult relationships and reviewing the most common causes of chronic fear of abandonment. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/374 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Before the pandemic, I was always a gym person. I liked the social aspect of meeting up with my gym friends, and I never imagined that I could motivate myself to work out at home. That changed when I found today’s guest, Michelle Briehler. She is a Youtube workout leader and certified health and life coach who has helped thousands of people, including my sister and I, stay fit and feel good about themselves without going to the gym in person. Michelle shares how she started leading remote workouts and we talk about why home workouts are a staple of my routine even now that my gym is open. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/373 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you’re continually struggling in relationships with the same self-absorbed, controlling people? It could be in your romantic relationships, friendships, family, or work relationships.  Maybe you keep finding yourself with narcissistic partners even though after your last breakup you swore, “never again”...  Or you get a new job and, sure enough, you end up with the same version of your last bully boss.  If you’re nodding your head yes, trust me, you are not alone. Looking into our past can help us understand why we might be enacting behavior patterns that can leave us vulnerable to narcissists.  Listen to today's episode to learn the most common signs of being raised by a narcissist, plus the 5 red flags you should look for in your relationship/dating life so you get empowered to break the cycle.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/372 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I started out wary of astrology, but over the past decade, I have become increasingly open to the perspective it can offer on our individual struggles and the shifts we see in society as a whole. My change in perspective is thanks in part to Ophira Edut, a good friend of mine who is one half of the celebrity astrologer duo the AstroTwins. I invited her today to chat a bit about what astrology tells us to expect from 2022, and the entire decade ahead of us. She also shares a special elemental horoscope just for empaths and we discuss how trauma and unfamiliarity can be opportunities for positive change. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/371 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you are in a conflict do you clam up and go silent? Do you run away and avoid it at all costs? Or maybe you explode and escalate it?  Listen to this episode to learn the top four most common communication in conflict issues that people experience. Plus, you’ll get some tips and scripts that you can use when you find yourself in a heated situation.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/370 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Real Love Revolution season is in full swing, my people, and that means I’ll be teaching all month long about how to raise your love vibe and create vibrant, lasting love in your life! One of the foundational pieces of my body of work on healthy love is the love blueprint. Your love blueprint contains information to help you understand the conscious and unconscious ways you currently relate to love.  This learned behavior is not your fault, but understanding it now is your responsibility– especially if you want to make changes in your love life. The exciting news is with the right tools and guidance, you absolutely have the power to rewrite your love blueprint. In today’s episode, I’m going to teach you how to uncover your downloaded love blueprint! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/369 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m excited to share my interview with Alex Banayan, author of The Third Door: The Wild Quest to Uncover How the World's Most Successful People Launched Their Careers. After a decade of interviewing very successful people, he shares what he has learned about approaching success by thinking outside the box. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/368 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why you attract the people you do romantically? Do you find yourself dating a version of the same person over and over again...only to eventually be disappointed and frustrated? Or maybe you are in a relationship and you are craving more- more intimacy, better communication, and a deeper connection? If you have ever thought amazing, epic love is for other people or the lucky few who happened to be in the right place at the right time, you are not alone. I used to think the same until I started diving deeper into therapy to understand my own attraction style.  In this episode, I'm teaching you how to identify your romantic attraction style, because it is an important aspect of understanding your romantic experiences which sets the stage for you to create and maintain healthy, vibrant love. Self-knowledge is power and I can attest that real love isn’t for the “lucky,” it is for the self-informed. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/367 Learn more about your ad choices

Recently, many people have been asking me to talk about addiction. During the pandemic there has been an increase in consumption of substances like alcohol, weed, and pills around the world as people use them to cope with difficult times we are going through. Today I invited a special guest, my friend Patty Powers, who is an amazing addiction recovery coach who I have referred my own clients to. We’re sharing our conversation about addiction, relapse, and psychoeducation, as well as Patty’s own incredible battle with addiction.   Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/366 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you feel about New Year’s resolutions? Did you know studies show that only 8% of people keep their New Year’s resolutions and that nearly 80% fail by February? Those aren’t great odds. Why is it so difficult to follow through with our New Year’s resolutions despite our best intentions? From a therapeutic perspective, resolution setting is missing an essential piece; honest self-reflection. For real, lasting change to stick, we need to look back, assess, and find evidence of what’s working and what’s not in our lives. It is only from a place of self-awareness and clarity that true transformation can happen.  That’s why in today’s episode, I’m offering you a therapeutic process to help you unpack 2021, honor your experiences and understand your own growth so you can clear the way for the changes you want to make!  It’s my favorite sacred ritual to start the year feeling energized, clear, and ready to take on 2022! Find the shows notes for today's episode at terricole.com/365 Learn more about your ad choi

Physical and verbal abuse are not the only kinds of childhood trauma that can impact us in our adult lives. Though often overlooked, childhood emotional neglect from parents who were overbearing, overly lax, absent, or dismissive can lead to adult difficulties with self-esteem, emotional literacy, and boundaries. Today I am helping you determine whether you might have experienced childhood neglect and guiding you through some steps you can take to heal now that you are grown up.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/364 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m excited to share a chat with my friend Latham Thomas, who is a celebrity wellness and lifestyle guru, doula, and educator. She explains the role a doula can play in a client’s childbirth village. We also discuss the Black maternal health crisis, and Latham shares how she became a doula herself and later launched her doula training program so that more parents could experience childbirth the way she did. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/363 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices