That Anxiety Guy - Straight Talk And Help With Anxiety, Panic And Agoraphobia

Send in a question or comment via text.When you decide to start facing your fear, doing exposures, meeting challenges, and breaking your avoidance cycle, that's awesome! You're being brave and choosing to do hard things because it's help you in the long run, so take the credit for making that leap!But you may - like many do - accidentally fall into the trap of only meeting challenges, doing your exposures, and generally doing hard things only on the days when you feel "good". This week on the podcast we're talking about why that's a bad idea and why its so important to take action and do the hard things when you're having "bad days". When you take action in your recovery on the days when you feel like you can't or shouldn't, you learn the most valuable recovery lessons. Let's dig a bit deeper into this idea so we can help you avoid or break free of this common trap that can leave you feeling stuck, frustrated, and down on yourself.PS. Like the n

Send in a question or comment via text.There is no automatic immune response that fixes an anxiety disorder while we retreat, rest, wait, and hope. This is an active process that requires that you do more than just hope and wait.This week we're trying a little experiment! I'm re-visiting episode 11 of the podcast from way back in 2015 to give it a little update, add some detail, clarify a few things, and make some much needed corrections. I hope you find this helpful in some way. Feedback - as always - is welcomed. For full show notes on this episode:https://theanxioustruth.com/265---My books, social, and other links: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/links ⁠Support The Anxious Truth: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/support ⁠Support The Anxious Truth: If you find the podcast helpful and want to support my work, you can buy me a coffee. This is never required, but always appreciated!Disclaimer: The Anxious Truth is not therapy or a replacement for therapy. Listening to The Anxious Truth does not create a th

Send in a question or comment via text.Recovery from an anxiety disorder can impact not only the recovering person, but the people close to them. Sometimes our helpers wind up needing help themselves!When that happens, we may want to be supportive of them, but anxious fear may also turn this into a disaster. Anxiety may tell you that your helper reaching out for help is a nightmare and that the fear, uncertainty, and discomfort you feel about this turn of events means you must insert yourself into the process and try to control the narrative around the help they are accessing.Remain aware of this trap! You may find it very uncomfortable when your helpers reach out for help, but do not believe your anxiety when it insists that you must try to control what your loved ones feel, what they say, and who they say it to. This can cause even more problems than the anxiety itself has caused in the relationship. Giving in to these anxious demands and trying to soothe your fear by attempting to control things you do not

Send in a question or comment via text.HOW CAN I ACCEPT OR ALLOW ANXIETY WITHOUT SPIRALING?This week on The Anxious Truth let's answer a common question about "spiraling". This is a term used every day in our community so lets dismantle it a bit and re-conceptualize spiraling in two parts. One spiral - the downward spiral - is based on how you feel. The other spiral - the anxiety itself - is an UPWARD spiral, which is more accurately described as a storm.Let's look at how we can address the first spiral by addressing the second - robbing the anxiety storm of its energy rather than feeding it more.This episode is - as usual - full of paradoxical stuff. Isn't recovery both interesting and really confusing sometimes???For full show notes on this episode:https://theanxioustruth.com/263---My books, social, and other links: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/links ⁠Support The Anxious Truth: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/support ⁠Support The Anxious Truth: If you find the podcast helpful and want

Send in a question or comment via text.End Stage Anxiety Recovery - What Does It Look Like?What does end stage recovery from an anxiety disorder look and feel like?  How do you know when you're recovered? Is there a moment when things change?  Will you automatically be happy and joyful? What will like look like as you get closer to the recovery "finish line".  Lets talk about end stage anxiety recovery so you can have a bit of a road map to bring with you as you progress. It might help you stay out of some common traps.For full show notes on this episode:https://theanxioustruth.com/262---My books, social, and other links: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/links ⁠Support The Anxious Truth: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/support ⁠Music Credit: AfterGlow by Ben Drake (with permission) ⁠https://bendrakemusic.comSupport The Anxious Truth: If you find the podcast helpful and want to support my work, you can buy me a coffee. This is never required, but always appreciated!Disclaimer: The Anxious Truth is not

Send in a question or comment via text.If you love anxiety success stories, you're gonna love Jon Brandon Cruz (aka "Cruz'). Cruz went from stuck in his apartment, riddled with panic and afraid to leave, to back at work on a world tour to promote the Black Adam film with Dwayne The Rock Johnson.How did he do it? Cruz is an almost textbook case of how to apply the principles of recovery in a committed, tenacious way. Grab a beverage and listen to this one. Cruz is inspiring and his story will give you hope.Check out Cruz's "Do It Scared" video here:https://www.instagram.com/p/CrtGPsnN115/For full show notes on this episode:https://theanxioustruth.com/261---My books, social, and other links: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/links ⁠Support The Anxious Truth: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/support ⁠Music Credit: AfterGlow by Ben Drake (with permission) ⁠https://bendrakemusic.comSupport The Anxious Truth: If you find the podcast helpful and want to support my work, you can buy me a coffee.

Send in a question or comment via text.I CAN'T STOP SCANNING FOR HOW I FEEL!!!This is a common issue for anxious people that leads to frustrating and a fear/scanning/fear cycle that seems like it never ends. This week we're talking about that cycle and answering the question, "How can I stop constantly scanning and checking how I feel?"For full show notes on this episode: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/259---My books, social, and other links: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/links ⁠Support The Anxious Truth: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/support ⁠Music Credit: AfterGlow by Ben Drake (with permission) ⁠https://bendrakemusic.comSupport The Anxious Truth: If you find the podcast helpful and want to support my work, you can buy me a coffee. This is never required, but always appreciated!Disclaimer: The Anxious Truth is not therapy or a replacement for therapy. Listening to The Anxious Truth does not create a therapeutic relationship between you and the host or guests of the podcast. Information here

Send in a question or comment via text.VALUING YOURSELF MEANS MORE THAN JUST SOOTHING AND SMOOTHING...This week we're examining the idea that in recovery we must value ourselves in such a way that we go beyond the common sense of soothing and smoothing to allow ourselves to struggle for a reason. There are lessons - critical lessons - in the recovery struggle. Allowing oneself to struggle is important. We must be mindful of either devaluing ourselves or accidentally coddling ourselves because we think that's what high self-value means.We also touch on the idea of self-parenting and how that relates to this often overlooked recovery concept.For full show notes on this episode: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/259---My books, social, and other links: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/links ⁠Support The Anxious Truth: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/support ⁠Music Credit: AfterGlow by Ben Drake (with permission) ⁠https://bendrakemusic.comSupport The Anxious Truth: If you find the podcast helpful and want to suppor

Send in a question or comment via text.This episode was recorded on a beach by myself in a spot where my cell/mobile phone gets no signal, where there were no people to save me if I needed to be saved, and where I was far from help. This is a place I would never have come by myself when I was struggling, but I don't even think about it now. This is part III in a series of podcasts where I'll take you to places that I was once terrified to go. I hope you find some hope or inspiration in this one.People often ask me what I do to "stay recovered" and to be sure that anxiety doesn't come back. To be honest with you, I don't really do anything to stay recovered and I don't have to worry about "it" coming back because there is no "it" in my life any more. Anxiety and fear stopped being "it" many years ago from my point of view as a fully recovered person. In this episode I talk about my changed relationship with anxiety and fear, why I don't have

Send in a question or comment via text.Distraction For Anxiety: Does It Work?"When I panic, I have to scroll through Instagram to distract myself!"Distraction is one of the most popular "techniques" for getting away from high anxiety, panic, and any thoughts or sensations that people hate or fear. It's talked about all the time.  A quick look on social media would likely reveal many many posts about "tips for anxiety" that are based primarily on distraction techniques. Distraction - in the moment - can often bring some quick relief.  Not always, but in many cases people find that it they run to a distraction to escape from anxious feelings and thoughts, then can feel better.  But does distraction actually "work" in the context of real recovery, or is it just a band-aid you use to get you through one anxious moment so you can fear the next anxious moment and do it all again?For full show notes on this episode: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/257---My books, social, and

Send in a question or comment via text.I can't stop thinking, "What if it comes back?"This is one of the most common issues I hear almost daily from people traveling along the path toward anxiety recovery. This week on the podcast we look at why we often overlook a very important aspect of the recovery process that renders this question almost irrelevant. The important part is that YOU change in recovery. Anxiety doesn't change at all, and that makes your fear of it "coming back" far less important and worthy of attention.For full show notes on this episode:⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/256---My books, social, and other links: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/links ⁠Support The Anxious Truth: ⁠https://theanxioustruth.com/support ⁠Music Credit: AfterGlow by Ben Drake (with permission) ⁠https://bendrakemusic.comSupport The Anxious Truth: If you find the podcast helpful and want to support my work, you can buy me a coffee. This is never required, but always appreciated!Disclaimer: The An

Send in a question or comment via text.When I was struggling with anxiety, panic attacks and agoraphobia, I was terrified to go just 3 or 4 miles from my house the the business I owned. Anxiety made it really difficult for me to go there or stay there for any length of time.This is the second in a series of podcast episodes where I'll take you to places that anxiety, panic, and agoraphobia used to tell me I should never go. This week we're at my old office where I'll share what that experience was like, and how I conceptualize it today as a fully recovered person.For full show notes on this episode:https://theanxioustruth.com/255---My books, social, and other links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Support The Anxious Truth: https://theanxioustruth.com/support Music Credit: AfterGlow by Ben Drake (with permission) https://bendrakemusic.comSupport The Anxious Truth: If you find the podcast helpful and want to support my work, you can buy me a coffee. This is never required, but always appreciat

Send in a question or comment via text.For many in our community, addiction coexists alongside an anxiety disorder. Maybe one precluded the other, or maybe they developed concurrently. Regardless, this can often add additional shame and a sense of hopelessness. This is a topic we'll talk more about going forward so today my friend Adam Jablin stopped by to talk about his addiction story and how it related to his struggles with anxiety, both then and now. Adam speaks openly about his struggles with addiction and is an excellent advocate for those struggling with this problem.If you are struggling with an anxiety problem and also find yourself struggling with dependency on alcohol or drugs, this episode may help you see that you're not broken and you're not alone. I hope you find it helpful in some way.For full show notes on this episode:https://theanxioustruth.com/254---My books, social, and other links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Support The Anxious Truth: https://theanxioustruth.com/sup

Send in a question or comment via text.This week I want to introduce you to a new anxiety and mental health resource. Disordered: Anxiety Help with me and Joshua Fletcher (aka "AnxietyJosh").Josh popped in to chat about why we started Disordered, what we hope to achieve with it, and why we think its a resource everyone should take advantage of. To learn more about Disordered, to contact us with questions or comments, and to hear all the episodes, visit us online athttps://disordered.fmFor full show notes on this episode:https://theanxioustruth.com/253---My books, social, and other links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Support The Anxious Truth: https://theanxioustruth.com/support Music Credit: AfterGlow by Ben Drake (with permission) https://bendrakemusic.comSupport The Anxious Truth: If you find the podcast helpful and want to support my work, you can buy me a coffee. This is never required, but always appreciated!Disclaimer: The Anxious Truth is not therapy or a replacement for therapy. Listeni

Send in a question or comment via text.Trauma And Anxiety. Are There Conflicting Messages In Recovery?Trauma and anxiety often co-exist.  That's not news.  For many in this community, the lingering effects of traumatic experiences are real, and they can impact the anxiety recovery process.  Today I want to take a look at something a little out of the ordinary.  I want to talk about how some of the core principles of anxiety recovery might cause confusion and even conflict for those working to overcome trauma.For full show notes on this episode:https://theanxioustruth.com/252---My books, social, and other links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Support The Anxious Truth: https://theanxioustruth.com/support Music Credit: AfterGlow by Ben Drake (with permission) https://bendrakemusic.comSupport The Anxious Truth: If you find the podcast helpful and want to support my work, you can buy me a coffee. This is never required, but always appreciated!Disclaimer: The Anxious Truth is not therapy or a replacement f

Send in a question or comment via text.No new podcast this week, but we'll be back next week with episode 252.  I asked my Facebook group which of the old podcast episodes they like the most and these are a few that came up often in the discussion: Episode 150: How Do I Talk TO My Anxiety Episode 51: Panic Attacks - The Critical Moment of Decision The Exposure Episodes: 13, 17, 192 and 226 Related to Exposure: Episode 116 - Are You Trying To Ignore Your Anxiety? I did a short series detailing my personal experience with medication in episodes 145 through 147, and Jenn Swantowski stopped by to share her experience with benzo withdrawal on episode 223. Finally, the success story episodes are popular.  Search "success story" on my website, on my YouTube channel, or in your podcast app to find those.And ... check out the new podcast with Joshua Fletcher at https://disordered.fmI'll see you next week!  :-)Support The Anxious Truth: If you find the podcast helpful and want to support my work

Send in a question or comment via text.WHY Did I Have A Panic Attack? I NEED To Know!"Why did I have a panic attack?" is a question asked many many times every day in the community surrounding this podcast.  People early on in the anxiety journey labor under the assumption that in order to get better they must uncover and decode their panic triggers and understand WHY panic attacks are happening to them repeatedly. This might make sense at face value, but it's often quite unhelpful or even harmful. People down the road to recovery might go a long time between panic attacks, then experience once, then immediately get dragged down the rabbit hole of trying to figure out why it happened and what it means. Again, not terribly helpful and not necessary.  Let's look at why.While we're at it, let's do the first in my mini-series visiting places that I used to be terrified to go, starting with the end of my own driveway.  True story.  I was afraid to go that far from my front door at one

Send in a question or comment via text.Afraid During A Panic Attack ... Or Afraid OF Panic Attacks?This is one of those recovery concepts what will make you tilt your head and wonder what I'm talking about.  But there is a difference between being afraid during a panic attack, and being afraid of panic attacks. That difference matters because it speaks to the mechanics of issues like panic disorder and agoraphobia.TL/DR: EVERYONE is afraid during a panic attack. That's normal.  That's natural.  You can't get rid of that.  The problem is the fear that persists BETWEEN panic attacks, where you're afraid of the next one.  That's the part we're working on in recovery. See how that can be subtle, but important?For full show notes on this episode:https://theanxioustruth.com/250---My books, social, and other links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Support The Anxious Truth: https://theanxioustruth.com/support Music Credit: AfterGlow by Ben Drake (with permission) https://bendrakem

Send in a question or comment via text.Examining Body Dysmorphic DisorderBody Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) is a condition in which a person sees - and becomes excessively focused on - problems or "defects" in their appearance that nobody else sees. This can become overwhelming when the person with BDD starts to see themselves as completely defined by this problem that nobody else would call a problem. This week therapist, BDD and OCD specialist Robyn Stern dropped in to talk about body dysmorphic disorder and how it can exist alongside conditions like OCD and other anxiety disorders.I learned so much in this conversation, and I'm hopeful that you will too!For full show notes on this week's episode:https://theanxioustruth.com/249---My books, social, and other links: https://theanxioustruth.com/links Support The Anxious Truth: https://theanxioustruth.com/support Music Credit: AfterGlow by Ben Drake (with permission) https://bendrakemusic.comSupport The Anxious Truth: If you find the podcast hel

Send in a question or comment via text.Scary And Difficult Do Not Mean IneffectiveRecovery by way of facing fear is scary and difficult. When people choose to recover by learning how to accept, tolerate, surrender to and move through anxiety panic and fear, sometimes they will declare that it doesn't work for them.  They'll say that because they are afraid and they are challenged. They accidentally equate being afraid with recovery not working.  They'll decide that being challenged means that they're not getting better or can't get better this way. These are logical errors.Today lets talk about how recovering in this manner means you WILL be scared and you WILL be challenged, but that neither of those facts means that this doesn't work. Let's talk about accidentally selling yourself short and abandoning hope simply because you are afraid or encountering difficulties.For full show notes on this week's episode:https://theanxioustruth.com/248---My books, social, and other