Having It All: Conversations About Living An Abundant Loving Life

How can you improve any relationship in your life? Today I'm sharing with you an incredibly effective way to improve any relationship in your life, from a marriage to a friendship to your relationship with your boss or neighbor. This episode pulls from many past relationship experiences that have both improved and terminated. The advice today will totally change how you feel about your relationships and who you attract into your life.  * APPLY FOR COACHING: https://www.matthewbivens.com/apply/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How are the laws of vibration and attraction impacting your life RIGHT NOW? Before being introduced to the words and works of Bob Proctor, I'd have no idea what the heck that question even meant! But today not only do I understand it, but I am very intentional about practicing it and aligning with these laws to create my Abundant Loving Life. And this is all in large part to Bob Proctor. On today's episode I want to take a minute to reflect on the life and lessons of Bob Proctor, who transitioned last week at the age of 87 years young. Bob Proctor's message came into my life when I was just starting to "work on myself" and became intentional about creating a better life for myself. I credit his ability to explain concepts which I was struggling to understand, for unlocking within me a way of looking at my life, my results, and my personal power. If you do not know who Bob Proctor was then I encourage you to check out the links below and start exploring. Much love! Resources from this episode: Video - How The

What's holding you back from creating a greater life for yourself this year? Well that's a loaded question, isn't it! Because if you knew what that answer was then maybe you'd feel more confident in making this your greatest year yet! Don't worry though, because today I'm sharing with you 3 habits that I've doubled down on to create even more results for myself in 2022. AND, I'm also going to share with you the reasons why you will probably not follow me in adopting these habits as well. My #1 goal is to help you HAVE IT ALL and create your own Abundant Loving Life. And my intention for today's episode is that you walk away feeling more confident in the tools you have at your disposal to build your dream life. Let's do this thing! Resources from this episode: Mary J. Blige interview in Elle: https://www.elle.com/beauty/a38830509/mary-j-blige-the-state-of-black-beauty-super-bowl/ "Olympics 2012: Michael Phelps has mastered the psychology of speed" - https://youtu.be/Htw780vHH0o Mel Robbins "Why I NEVER ke

The self improvement game is, many times, a public one. Spiritual, physical, mental and emotional self work can all be done in the open or with a group of people. And with group meditation and yoga and other similar things really taking off these days, one could buy into the idea that self improvement is a public act.  But there's something so much more important than the things we're DOING to improve our relationship to our selves, others and life, and that's who we're BEING.  I've talked about Doing vs Being on the podcast before, but today's topic takes it a degree further. Today I'm going in on the question: Who are you when no one is watching? So, I ask YOU -- when you're alone, in your secrecy, with no one watching and no one holding you accountable except for yourself, who are you? How do you treat yourself? What allowances do you give yourself? What language do you use to describe yourself and those around you? The way you answer those questions reveals more about your true state of being than other m

What "leaks" do you have in your life that need addressing? As you plan out your goals and intentions for 2022, it's important to not only think about the new things you desire, but also to understand the old stuff that you need to address once and for all. These "leaks" can be tough to identify, because focusing on the immediate problem is easier than really getting to the root of what's going on. But if you fail to identify the essence of your challenges, problems and breakdowns, then (1) they will never fully be resolved, (2) they will return in some form, and (3) you will not be able to reach the greatest heights of happiness, peace, freedom and health that you have the potential to reach. My relationships, career and health were stuck for years because I didn't fix my leaks. But I chose to dig in, do the hard and uncomfortable work, and address the things that I had been avoiding (or completely unaware of). Those choices have led me to where I am today, and my relationships, career and health have reache

What is it that you want to create for yourself and your life in 2022? I have a tradition here on Having It A.L.L. that at the top of each year I help you create an amazing year. And in this episode I'm doing just that! But today, we're taking things up a notch and I'm sharing with you the simple 3 step formula that you can follow to create massive results in your life in 2022. When you study the masters, you spot patterns of effectiveness and success. I'm excited to bring you a pattern of success that I've applied in my life to have it all, and I've seen at play in countless other success stories. Get your pens and papers ready, we're about to do some work! Resources from this episode: Creating Your Word For The Year, 2021 Edition - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/creating-your-word-for-the-year-2021-edition/ Special LIVE Episode: Create Your Word For The Year Workshop - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/special-live-episode-create-your-word-for-the-year-workshop/ How To Discipline Your Thinking So Th

"What are 3 things you want the world to know about caring for women?" My friend, Dr. Nathan Riley, asked me that question on his podcast, The Holistic OBGYN, and it sparked a really great conversation between the two of us. I'm excited to share that full conversation with you today! Here are links to Dr. Nathan Riley's podcast, website and Instagram: Podcast - https://www.holisticobgynpod.com/ Website - https://www.belovedholistics.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/nathanrileyobgyn/ Interested in coaching with me, but want to learn more? Fill out my coaching application and set up a free consultation call with me at matthewbivens.com/apply. Want to get in touch with me directly? Shoot me an email at matthew@matthewbivens.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What are your core beliefs when it comes to relationships? Your beliefs influence your thoughts and actions, and shape the results that you create. Hold onto a belief that's ineffective and not-so-powerful, and the result may be something that you don't like. In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we're diving into some big relationship myths and misconceptions that we have believed that have lead to unhappiness in our relationships.  My intention with this episode is for you to be aware of the impact that your core beliefs have, and to start thinking about the beliefs that are shaping your relationships. Fill out my coaching application and set up a free consultation call with me at matthewbivens.com/apply. If you want to get in touch with me to ask questions, give feedback, or inquire about my coaching offerings, shoot me an email at matthew@matthewbivens.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you one of the 92% of people who never come close to completing their New Year's Resolutions? As you can tell by the title, I don't like New Year's Resolutions at all. I'm all for people committing to better themselves, but the New Year's Resolutions framework is not set up for you to succeed. In today's episode I share why I dislike New Year's Resolutions and what to do instead if you want to start off your year on a powerful note. Now accepting applications for the 2022 HIA Personal Transformation Program Apply today at https://www.matthewbivens.com/apply/ If you want to get in touch with me to ask questions, give feedback, or inquire about my coaching offerings, shoot me an email at matthew@matthewbivens.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself at a crossroads where you knew with all your soul that one decision was better for you than another, yet making that decision was terrifying? I've shared various parts of my story over the 5+ years of this podcast, and there's a theme that comes up for me often: crossroads moments. I can think to a handful of very specific, very powerful moments where the choices I made sent my life in a whole new direction. On today's episode, I'm sharing with you an interview that I did with my good friend Ross Leppala, host of the great podcast Project UnchainED. In this conversation Ross is interviewing me, which is a great reversal of roles. What I love about Ross is that he has his own very powerful story about a crossroads moment in his life, which propelled him down the path of spiritual and transformational self work. I won't share the details here because I really want you to go listen to Ross's podcast to hear the story (he shares it in the very first episode of Project UnchainED). In t

What shame are you hiding? Fellas, this episode is for you. As a man, I've carried with me different types of shame through my life that have had a big impact on how I see the world and operate in it. I learned early on that burying my shame and pretending it wasn't there was the safest way for me to operate. The truth is, it's not. And for me, it took years of living in denial and robbing myself of true joy and fulfillment, that finally helped me see that. In today's episode we're tackling a topic that lives within many men -- shame. I'm pulling from various sources here to help you understand shame, watch how it plays out in the lives of men like you, and see how other men are choosing to face it. My intention with this episode is that it inspires you to look into those dark corners of yourself where you have been hiding your shame, and finally choose to bring it out into the light. Do you want some support or coaching on overcoming your shame? Email me and take the next step towards eliminating shame from

How do you bounce back when your world gets rocked? When everything seems to be going wrong in your life? When your dreams are shattered? Disappointment is interesting. It can be focused internally on ourselves, or externally on others. But no matter where the focus is, the root of it is some sort of attachment and typically judgement. When you get swept up in the emotions around disappointment, it's easy to be carried off in the direction of disempowering emotions and thoughts. The sequence can go like this: you feel the disappointment, you start to judge or take something personally or get angry or react, which leads you to more fear based feelings and thoughts, which pulls you down further. But spotting this behavior and recognizing it at the moment of the triggering event is key to being able to rise above those feelings and stay in your power, in the face of the disappointment. In today's episode I share with you what inspired me to jump off the couch, grab my mic, and record this very podcast! If you wa

Have you ever felt completely lost in your life? Like you didn't know what you were "supposed" to do, who you should be as a person, and what your true passion was? You can't see it, but I'm raising both hands at that! I spent my teens and twenties in a state of confusion about all of those things. And truth be told, the fog is still lifting, as I'm constantly getting to know myself better and learning what it truly means to trust my intuition. In today's episode I'm sharing the mic with Paul Colaianni - personal empowerment coach and host of The Overwhelmed Brain Podcast. Paul and I talk about introversion and finding your way in life. The topic comes by way of a listener email. In this case, a listener of Paul's podcast The Overwhelmed Brain reached out to him for advice. What you're hearing on today's show is me joining Paul on his podcast to answer his listener question. If you consider yourself an introvert, have felt lost in life, have never really felt like you know who you should be as a person, and f

When was the last time you had a major breakdown in confidence and self worth? So often when our confidence is shook and we're questioning our own value, it's a major challenge to recover and get back into a powerful place. I have too many stories that are a testament to this. In today's episode I'm sharing one of these stories - my recent experience attending my wife's high school reunion. I went through the gamut of emotions, limiting beliefs, and self deprecating stories, leading up to and during this reunion. I questioned my abilities as an entrepreneur, husband and provide. It was fascinating!! The whole experience was so eye opening to me that I'm still extracting lessons from it months later. In the episode you're going to hear me talk about: What initially came up for me when I first heard we'd be going to the reunion How my fears, judgements, and self-worth conversations impacted how I showed up What I tried in the moment to get myself out of my head and ego, and into my heart and power And what

What does it mean to "discipline your thinking" and how is this directly tied to you feeling like you have it all? I want to shine light on what is probably the biggest thing keeping you from having it all in your life -- undisciplined thinking. Undisciplined thinking is being a victim to your thoughts. Undisciplined thinking leads to feelings of angst, fear, worry, anxiety, anger, resentment, and pain....consistently. Undisciplined thinking, when left unchecked, will be what sabotages you from HAVING IT ALL and truly being in love with your life. I had my own experiences recently that showed me where I was in my mental discipline, and laid out in front of me very plainly how chaotic things can get within my mind and body when my thoughts are left unchecked. Ask yourself this question: how disciplined am I with my thoughts, one a 1-10? How effective am I at steering my thoughts in a direction I want them to go in? How comfortable am I being with my own thoughts? In today's episode, I'm bringing you wisdom fro

How attached are you to the way you feel your life should look like? If you're frustrated with the way things are right now... If you're annoyed because something in your life is not going according to your plan... If you're experiencing anxiety because the goals you set are not being met in the timeframe you wanted them to... Then we are in the same place, and this episode is for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you considered starting a podcast? If yes: Awesome! If no, why the heck not?? This is an amazing time to start a podcast: more and more people are listening each day, the space is not too crowded yet, your voice/story/message need to be heard right now, and you've got the time on your hands

Do you have principles? What are they? How do you use them? Are you confident that you know what living a principally based life means? Today I'm shining light on this idea of "principles" that so many self help gurus and successful people tout as the key to living a great life. You will learn the 5 key principles that I choose to live my life by and I show you how you can live by them too.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does it feel so hard at times to not take things personally? We hear the phrase "don't take this personally" all the time. You've probably said it to someone before making some potentially hurtful or offensive statement. It's such an easy idea, but boy can it be tough! For me, I used to take things very personally. Growing up, my emotions would be triggered by the slightest look or question that I felt was off or directed at me in a malicious way. I made villains out of a lot of people, I felt small and hurt often, and I just plain took things personally really frequently. But I had my breakthrough moment! Yes, I was able to connect with some deep truths about myself and others that have helped me learn to not take things personally. And today I'm going to share those truths with you so that you too can break free from the trap of taking things personally in life.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What are you playing for in life? Each of us have something we're striving for in our lives. Some reason that we're waking up each morning and doing what we do. You already know the power of being intentional and having a vision for your life. One powerful tool that I've used to help me become the person I want to become, is a personal mission statement. In today's episode I'm sharing with you my new personal mission statement and unpacking all of its elements.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices