Having It All: Conversations About Living An Abundant Loving Life

How would you describe what being an "involved dad" is? And, if you're a father, would you currently consider yourself an "involved dad"? This idea came up in a conversation Sarah and I were having on our other podcast, Doing It At Home, and I was clear that discussing fatherhood and what it looks like to show up powerfully as a dad was something to bring to Having It A.L.L.. Join me as I dive into what it really means to be an "involved dad" and why that label itself carries with it some controversy.  Resources from this episode: Study Explains What It Means To Be An "Involved Father" - https://citydadsgroup.com/nyc/2010/07/what-does-it-mean-to-be-an-involved-father/ The Involved Dad - https://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/the-involved-father/ Say Good Bye To The Involved Dad - https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2015/11/11/say-good-bye-to-the-involved-dad/ * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abunda

Have you ever found yourself up late at night, scrolling through social media, feeling worse and worse with every thumb flick, but unable to break away? That my friend is known as "doomscrolling" and it's robbing you of your happiness, peace and mental health. Doomscrolling is when you find yourself deep into an internet or social media hole, looking at posts and stories that leave you feeling anxious, depressed, hopeless, angry, disheartened, but you just cannot seem to break away. You scroll and scroll and scroll, knowing in the back of your mind that nothing productive or healthy is coming from it, but you feel unable to close the app and put your phone away. Doomscrolling has been going up in recent years, and as a result mental health and emotional health has taken a huge hit. In today's episode I talk about Doomscrolling, break down why we do it, and give you some expert advice on how you can break the cycle and reclaim your health! Struggling with Doomscrolling? I can help you. Learn about my coaching

Where does your personal health rank on your list of priorities? Probably not at the top. Well, as you can guess from this title of this episode, I'm making a strong case for why you MUST begin to push your health to the top of your list. And I'm talking right now! Not next month, next quarter, over the summer. NOW! And yes I do mean priority. Your health should be the first thing you're thinking about each day, before your kids your spouse your job your co-wokers, all of that.  I'm going to break down why your health needs to be priority, what exactly I mean by "Health", and give you clear steps to start making meaningful strides in your health right now.  Resources from this episode: Get on the Balance Chart app Get in touch with me for individualized coaching * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHI

How do you know whether or not you "have it all" in your life? One of my goals for you is that you move closer towards your definition of "having it all", and to do that you need to have an objective way of assessing whether you currently have it all. That's where the 6 F's come in! Today's episode is part of a series I did where I breakdown the meaning of "Having It A.L.L." (particularly the A.L.L. acronym). In today's conversation I'm sharing with you the 6 key areas of life that are an integral part of the Having It A.L.L. Framework, the 6 F's: Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, Finance, and Fun. In the episode you'll hear my definition of each of those areas, how they impact your life, and things you can do to improve or increase any of those 6 areas so that you can get closer to truly "having it all". * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.mat

What is the Hero's Journey and how does it apply to your life? Patterns exist in our world, and those who learn how to read those patterns effectively can better navigate the ups and downs of life. The Hero's Journey is a story template (aka pattern) that is found in separate cultures all over the world, and can be seen in great works of literature and cinema. But the framework of the Hero's Journey isn't just for entertainment! In fact, the Hero's Journey very accurately describes YOUR journey of overcoming your fears and limiting beliefs to become the best version of yourself! In today's episode I'm breaking down the Hero's Journey, walking you through each of the 12 stages, and relating it back to your personal journey as you move from the background player of your story, to the Hero standing front and center! Grab the free PDF that goes along with this episode at www.matthewbivens.com/hero. * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-liv

As we head towards the midway point of 2022, how are things shaping up? Have you made noticeable progress on achieving your goals, solving your problems or realizing your vision for the year? Or are you facing the tough reality that things haven't changed much since the beginning of the year? There are patterns of effectiveness that can lead you to new results. Whether is a problem you wish to solve, a goal you want to accomplish, or a dream you desire to manifest -- the broad steps to getting there are the same. And once you know those steps you can use that knowledge to your advantage! In today's bonus episode I'm talking about a huge reason why you might not be seeing the results you wanted by now, and I'm helping you get out of the rut before it's too late. Resources from this episode: Mel Robbins video - https://youtu.be/XZMCT30PHFU Tracey Knight website - https://www.iamtraceyknight.com/ * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-

Does the idea of taking risks scare the mess out of you? I know it did for me, and for much of my life I was completely risk averse. But thankfully I grew to realize that everything I wanted -- a fulfilling career, a deep and loving relationship, healthy and vitality -- all could be mine if I was willing to take the necessary risks, and I started pushing my comfort zones. And the beautiful thing is that it's a learned behavior, something that ANYONE can improve. In today's episode I help you become more bold when you're afraid of taking risks, and I break down simple things you can do and think about that will get you moving in the direction of your abundant loving life. Resources from this episode: Take A Risk: The Odds Are Better Than You Think - https://www.forbes.com/sites/margiewarrell/2013/06/18/take-a-risk-the-odds-are-better-than-you-think/#715d993345c2 The Incredible Power Of Taking Risks In Life - https://www.thedailypositive.com/taking-risks-in-life/ Afraid Of Risks? How To Be Bolder - https:/

Do you have toxic people in your life? How about in your inner circle? Are there folks in your life who are constantly bringing negativity and noise into your world? And what are the things you should be reviewing and thinking about when preparing for marriage? These are the questions I answer in today's episode of the podcast! The topics today were suggested by YOU and all have to do with OTHERS. Last week I focused on SELF, and today we're focusing on OTHERS (next week is LIFE). I get fiery in this one, so buckle up for some real talk! If you want to share an idea with me, reach out through my email: matthew@matthewbivens.com * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit

What do you do when you're feeling stuck in life? It's not uncommon to feel stuck at some point in life. It could be in a job that's no longer fulfilling, a relationship that has lost its intimacy, or just a general feeling of going through the motions in life. The reasons for feeling stuck are as varied as you and I, but the solution to getting unstuck is often a few layers deeper than you might be thinking. In today's episode I'm sharing my story of where my wife and I were stuck for 2 years, how we got unstuck, and why the way you are approaching the problem might just be making it worse. * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode I'm sharing with you my tried and tested process for being more productive and feeling more fulfilled, by working smarter and not harder. I have been somewhat obsessed with productivity and work efficiency ever since graduating college. Once I jumped into the working world and realized that I could easily eat up 12 hours of my day on menial tasks and still not feel like I had really done anything, I got to work developing a better system for myself. I read articles and books, watched people's "life hack" tips, tried anything that seemed like it might work for me. Many things did not work, but a few did. Years later, I'm now in a new place in my life where being efficient and producing a lot in a short period of time is extremely important. I'm a new father to an 8 month old baby girl, I run multiple businesses from home, and I produce 2 podcasts. All of this happens from my house. On top of that, I frequently have solo daddy-baby time while Sarah is out training clients. So my windows of fr

Are you open to receiving feedback? Feedback is an integral part of the growth and evolution process. It's one of the most important ingredients to making improvements, progressing towards your goals, and ultimately creating a life where you feel like you "have it all". But it's also an area where many people struggle, because receiving feedback can be tough (especially to our egos). The best feedback coming from a loving, healthy source, means little to nothing if we take it personally and never do anything with the information. In today's episode I'm sharing the three types of feedback that exist, and talk about why each one is essential for your own growth and evolution. I also dig into why you keep experiencing the same results over and over in your life.  * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@mat

Are you aware of the impact of the excuses you make in your life? Your desires, wants, goals, aspirations all move you in a certain direction in your life. Excuses pull you in the complete opposite direction. This is true for all of us (it's principle, not personal).  If you're playing for a life of abundance AND you're prone to making excuses, then buckle up because things are going to be rocky for you. In today's episode I'm sharing with you 5 excuses that are keeping you from the abundance you desire, and showing you how to end the excuse so that you can get to living your abundant loving life! Resources from this episode: https://www.instagram.com/matthew_bivens/ https://www.facebook.com/YourDayBALANCEGame/ * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choice

What does it mean to be healthy and fit? How healthy and fit are you right now? I've shared a lot of different tools with you over the course of this podcast, and in today's episode I'm going to go deep into one particular tool/concept that I want you to really understand well, because your health depends on it! I'm talking about your Body Vehicle and the 5 wheels that make up your Body Vehicle: Mental, Spiritual, Social, Emotional and Physical. These 5 areas are what make up our health, and everyone is operating at different levels in each area. You may be operating at different levels in each area depending on what time of day it is! The Body Vehicle is a great framework for looking at your overall health and fitness, but actually putting it to use can be tough if you don't know where to start. Today that ends because I'm going to not only break down all 5 areas, but I'm going to give you very specific habits you can perform and incorporate into your life that will help you heal and grow in each of the 5 ar

What does it mean to heal your inner child? The process of growing up into adulthood is filled with many impactful events, some empowering and others not. As children, we are experience life with little to no filter, leaving us open to experience hurts, fears, angers and traumas with an extreme level of intensity and realness. Those "wounds", when not addressed properly, carry into our adulthood and have a profound influence over our lives. In today's episode I'm sharing with you a recent experience where I had the opportunity to look at, talk with and heal my wounded inner child. Resources from this episode: Psychology Today Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evil-deeds/200806/essential-secrets-psychotherapy-the-inner-child * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn

Have you experienced "personal development burnout"? You may not know exactly what it is, but your best guess is probably not far off! Personal development burnout is the feelings of overwhelm, guilt or obligation that can come up around the self improvement work you're doing to make empowering shifts in your life. As you work on improving yourself and creating a life you love living, sometimes you can feel shame or judgement around being where you are. The books, courses or podcasts that are meant to help you rise up, are instead creating feelings that are weighing you down. In today's episode I'm talking about personal development burnout and letting you know that it's okay to HIT PAUSE. * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adch

With your last major life challenge, did you seek out solutions from other people or from within yourself? You have a vast amount of wisdom and knowledge within yourself that can be used to helping you get unstuck in life. However, you probably don't trust it right now. Most people are so used to seeking out answers from others, that they are presented with a challenge in life they toss their hands up in the air and claim they don't know how to overcome it. I don't believe that at all, and after today's episode you won't either! In today's conversation I'm helping you tap back into your inner genius so that you can coach yourself on overcoming your own challenges and getting yourself unstuck. * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ * SEND ME A QUESTION:

What does it take to "have it all"? That really has been the purpose of this entire podcast, hasn't it?! Today we celebrate the podcast turning 6 years old, and it only seemed fitting to share with you 6 giant lessons from the last 6 years of Having It A.L.L. * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What are the habits that have created a big impact in your life? How do you keep positive momentum going when you get derailed? How do you deal with outside criticism and judgement? These are the listener questions that I'm answering in today's episode! Over the years you've sent in hundreds of questions for me, and today I'm taking a few of them and answering them from my perspective as both an individual working on leveling up their life, and as a personal transformation coach who has shifted many lives. Tune in and you'll learn about: The habits that I do regularly that have a huge impact (and how to keep from being overwhelmed while building habits) Ways to keep feeling empowered about life and not fall into a depressed state The difference between criticism and feedback, and how to not take the latter personally What questions do you want answered in a podcast? Email them to matthew@matthewbivens.com * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversa

How do you feel about making commitments? About going "all in" in life? Making commitments is a part of success and part of turning a desire into reality. Anyone who has succeeded at anything significant has gone "all in" on themselves and on the results that they desired. There's great payout to going "all in", but there's also great risk. The risk lies in spending too much time in the "danger zone" of commitment. In this episode I'm going to share with you the process of making commitments and going all in, and explain what the "danger zone" is and why you find yourself in it. Understanding this can free you and unlock your ability to create your abundant loving life! * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ * SEND ME A QUESTION, COMMENT OR FEEDBACK: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adc

When you think about sex, what is the goal for you? Is it to have an orgasm, or to make sure your partner has one? Is it to show your partner how much you love them and to validate your relationship? Is it something else? For most of my life, the goal of sex was orgasm. My orgasm mostly, but at times her orgasm was my priority as well. I picked that goal up from porn, from media, from peers.  Sometimes the goal of sex for me was to fulfill the expectation (and sometimes obligation) of being "in love". It was a way to make myself feel like my relationship was mature, legitimate, and secure.  Having goals like that created some interesting beliefs about sex, myself, my partner, intimacy, love, and relationships. (and by interesting I mean unhealthy, judgmental, scarce, intimidating, self deprecating, and sexist).  But there are other goals of sex that can create a much more powerful, loving and connected experience.  In today's episode I'm diving into the goal of sex and am serving up a few alternative perspect