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The ManTalks Podcast - 64: Dr Randy Paterson Dr Randy Paterson knows all about how to be miserable. In this interview, Roger and Dr Paterson outline some of the 40 specific behaviours and habits, which-if followed-are sure to lead to a lifetime of unhappiness. On the other hand, if you do the opposite, you can join the ranks of happy people everywhere.   Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio, TuneIn For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.comFacebook | Instagram | Twitter   Some questions Roger asks: What is Dr. Randy Paterson’s defining moment as a man? (2:13) Where did your insight for the book come from? (7:30) What are some of the lessons in your book, and who is the book for? (10:23) What would your advice be for somebody suffering from depression? (13:20) Can you explain your clinic? (18:25) What are some bits of advice you'd give? (21:40) What advice you give to young men to leave home and get work? (25:20) Has anything shifted in the tools you've outlined in the book? (28:40) How can you pu

The ManTalks Podcast - 63: Joe Solmonese Joe Solmonese is a fighter. Just ask President Obama (we talk about this in the interview).  Under Joe Solmonese's leadership, the Human Rights Campaign (the largest LGBT civil rights organization in the United States) became the model other organizations look toward to create effective social and political change. By using the anger raging from the social injustices he was witnessing, the anger of his adversaries and his followers, HRC was instrumental in passing landmark national legislation such as the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr., Hate Crimes Prevention Act; repealing “Don't Ask, Don't Tell”; and passing marriage equality acts in eight states. How did Solmonese do it? In our interview Solmonese tells Roger that for him, the key to success was learning to harness his anger. Essentially it's just a form of energy. Channeled, it can keep you moving forward on a long journey. But uncontrolled, it can blow everything up. Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher

Did you know you can learn the best time to eat lunch, ask for a raise, have sex, write a novel, take your meds and more?  In this episode Roger talks to Dr. Michael Breus. Dr. Breus is a sleep specialist and has written a new book called The Power of When - its currently the #1 book on Amazon in the Time Management category.  In The Power of When Dr. Breus talks about chronotypes. What is a chronotype? Your body has been programmed to function much better at certain times of the day than others. Based on general morningness and eveningness preferences, different people fall into different classifications, called "Chronotypes”.There are four Chronotypes (Dolphin, Lion, Bear, and Wolf), and most people fit into the “Bear” category. You can even take a free quiz to learn which of the four chronotypes you are. Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio, TuneIn For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.comFacebook | Instagram | Twitter   The ManTalks Podcast    Some questions Roger asks: What is Michael’s de

This is a huge episode! Its going on the "did we really just get to talk to him?" shelf.  If you have never heard of Mark Manson before then get ready.  For decades we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. But those days are over. “Fuck positivity,” Mark Manson says. “Let’s be honest; sometimes things are fucked up and we have to live with it.” For the past few years, Manson—via his wildly popular blog—has been working on correcting our delusional expectations for ourselves and for the world. He now brings his hard-fought wisdom to this groundbreaking book and we talk all about it (plus dig into Mark's life) on today's episode.   Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio, TuneIn For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.comFacebook | Instagram | Twitter   The ManTalks Podcast    Some questions Connor & Roger asks: What is Mark’s defining moment as a man? (3:25) How has your shift in thinking show up in your own life? (5:50) What be some advice you would give to guys g

In this episode, Dr. Michael Olpin (author Unwind!: 7 Principles for a Stress-Free Life) shares with Roger how you can optimize your body, heart, mind, and soul, recognizing that any and all of these dimensions of your life affect your anxiety level. Its an awesome interview that shows you how to take charge of your life and how to make better choices that will prevent stress in the first place.    Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio, TuneIn For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.comFacebook | Instagram | Twitter   The ManTalks Podcast    Some questions Roger asks: What is Michael’s defining moment as a man? (2:45) How did you become an expert in stress & what is it? (7:30) Could you give us an overview of the book? (15:20) In this modern world, are we more stressed out about things that didn't exist before? (20:20) How are men doing dealing with stress? (35:30) How do you insure you're not too far out of the 'now' in your thoughts? (38:30) What's the legacy you want to leave? (43:23)   Did

Jordan Bower is a strategic storyteller and corporate intimacy expert. In his role he helps companies build a clear, human and emotionally powerful story that purposefully and strategically connects, motivates and inspires. In this week's episode of the ManTalks podcast we tap into Jordan's expertise to help you deepen your relationships and craft your story by learning all about Jordan's walk (yes, walk...) from Vancouver to Mexico.    Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio, TuneIn For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.comFacebook | Instagram | Twitter   The ManTalks Podcast    Some questions Connor asks: What is Jordan’s defining moment as a man? (3:35) How do you think being a ‘nice guy’ played into the separation? (7:32) What are some of the things you learned from the end of relationship? (9:10) How have your relationships shifted since your journey? (12:50) You walked from Vancouver to Mexico! What were some of the highlights from the trip? (18:15) Would you recommend that people walk the 3,

Can you imagine being in the 6th grade and learning that your mother has been murdered? Fast forward to when you are an adult. Can you imagine not only forging the killer but save his life? Then can you imaging inviting him on stage with you in front of hundreds of people? Today's guest did all of this and it is a true honour to get a chance to speak with him on the ManTalks Podcast. This week we talk to forgiveness expert Dean Smith who shares with us his journey to forgive, reconcile with and help save the life of the man that murdered his mom and how his story was made into an award-winning, internationally distributed documentary entitled Live to Forgive. Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio, TuneIn For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.comFacebook | Instagram | Twitter   The ManTalks Podcast “The difference between true forgiveness and forgive and forget is I can remember it, but not be shackled to the bitterness of it.”   Some questions Connor asks: What is Dean’s defining moment as a ma

We love talking about Success on the ManTalks Podcast. In today’s episode Connor talks with Steve Sims. If you have never heard of Steve he is the founder of Bluefish, a very successful, exclusive luxury concierge service for the elite. His daily life includes helping clients craft incredible experiences including a live underwater tour of the Titanic, a flight to space, red carpet events and supersonic military jet flights in Russia. Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com Facebook | Instagram | Twitter The ManTalks Podcast  “We shouldn’t be talking about authenticity like it’s the ability to breath air. It should be real.” Some questions Connor asks:  What is Steve’s defining moment as a man? (2:20) What is BlueFish? (7:17) Who are the raddest people Steve has had the fortune to meet? (9:16) What is Steve awesome at? (10:32) Why does Steve feel like ‘no BS’ authenticity is so important? (13:35) Has Steve found himself more successful since making the shif

Giovanni Marsico is a talent scout, social entrepreneur, and connector of superheroes. He is the founder of Archangel, a private membership community filled with mission-driven entrepreneurs who are passionate about philanthropy. Giovanni discusses predictions in the entrepreneurship space for the next 10-15 years, how people can find their own personal superpower, and so much more!    Key Takeaways: [3:35] What was a defining moment as a man for Giovanni? [5:45] Giovanni has had many mentors throughout his life. Most recently, Philip McKernan made a big impact on him. [8:15] What is Giovanni up to right now? [10:30] What inspired Giovanni to get into social entrepreneurship? [12:05] As a social entrepreneur, how does Giovanni 'get over' or fight criticism of making money for the purposes of giving back? Isn't that what nonprofits are for? [13:40] How did Giovanni come up with the idea for Archangel Academy? [17:55] Does Giovanni believe that social entrepreneur will be the norm in the future? [20:05] Giovann

Derek Kief is an astronomer at H.R. MacMillan Space Centre, located in British Columbia, Canada. Both Connor and Roger sort of nerd out on this podcast with their guest, but it provides the listeners with some great knowledge as to what's out there―beyond our planet. Derek says that our space programs are the only things that countries from all over the world agree on. He believes that when we eventually colonize Mars, we'll begin to see more diplomacy in the world as everyone works towards a common goal.   Key Takeaways: [0:50] There are some fantastic things happening in ManTalks. Connor gives a quick update. [3:45] Derek talks about his defining moment as a man.  [8:15] It took Derek some time to figure out that he didn't have to conform to a stereotype. He can be who he is. [9:35] What does Derek do? [11:25] Who inspired Derek to become an astronomer? [13:30] Be prepared! The guys geek out a little bit. [13:50] What are we close to discovering out there? [19:15] Where does Derek stand in the science commu

Tim JP Collins is an expert on anxiety and runs The Anxiety Podcast. His mission is simple: less anxiety, more life. Tim used to suffer regularly with anxiety and panic attacks, but understood that he had to move past this as it was draining him mentally and physically. Now, he teaches those around him how they can overcome their anxiety, with or without prescription medicine.   Key Takeaways: [4:00] Anxiety can consume your every waking moment. [5:50] We often need pain in our life to see what's possible and to make changes. [7:00] Tim talks about a woman who has been suffering from anxiety for 35 years. [8:20] As people become more successful and have more people rely on them, anxiety starts to creep in and take a hold of them. [8:55] What makes Tim the person that he is today? [11:40] What are some of the biggest myths about anxiety? [12:20] For a lot of people, medication for anxiety only covers up the problem. [13:30] How did anxiety come into Tim's life? [15:05] What can people learn about anxiety? [17:

Zachary Stockill is an award-winning Canadian researcher, writer, podcaster, and educator. Zachary is the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy and discusses with Roger a lot of the shame men experience when trying to find resources or help to overcome their irrational jealousy. Zachary knows the subject all too well because he too was once a man who obsessed over his then-girlfriend's past. Discover more about the unhealthy and obsessive habits jealous men often fall into.   Key Takeaways: [2:20] What was one of Zachary's defining moments? [5:05] What does Zachary do? [4:50] Zachary unpacks what 'retroactive jealousy' means. [7:00] Out of nowhere, Zachary came up with ridiculous scenarios about his then-girlfriend and became jealous.  [8:00] Despite realizing his jealousy, Zachary couldn't find the right resources that would address this issue for him. [8:20] Both men and woman experience this equally. [9:35] Men tend to have extreme double standards towards women who have done the same sort of sexual ac

Julian Treasure is a sought-after and top-rated international speaker. Collectively his five TED talks on various aspects of sound and communication have been viewed an estimated 30 million times. His latest talk, How to speak so that people want to listen, is in the rare group that has over 10 million views on TED alone, putting it in the top 20 TED talks of all time. Julian discusses how to become a better listener and the bad habits people have when they try to listen.   Key Takeaways: [2:15] What was Julian's defining moment? [6:35] If we all start listening a bit better, then we start to understand each other better. [7:25] What can men do to enhance their listening skills? [9:40] Silence is important when trying to improve your listening skills. [13:40] Julian breaks down what the RASA acronym means. [17:40] Women often feel like men aren't listening to them. There are different types of listening modes you can switch to. Julian explains further. [21:45] What are some bad habits people do when trying to

Connor Beaton does a solo show to answer some of his listeners’ common questions. He discusses how he prepared for his TED talk, the elements of what makes a good talk, and then dives further into how he and his team built such a strong community at ManTalks. Towards the tail end of the show, Connor reminds the audience on the importance of staying focused and limiting your distractions as you try to achieve great things.   Key Takeaways: [4:04] How did Connor prepare for his TED talk? [6:10] If there's a way to invite the organizers of an event (TED talks) to hear you speak, then do it. [6:35] Have a sticky idea? Share your idea with close mentors and friends, and get feedback. [8:15] Connor breaks down how you format a Ted talk and make it memorable. [9:40] TED talks are ideas worth spreading because they're based in facts. You need concrete evidence to back it up. [11:35] Practice your public speaking skills. [12:05] Let your message do your work and allow the slides in the background to back up and re-enf

Dr. Arthur P. Ciaramicoli is a licensed clinical psychologist who has been treating his clients for more than 35 years. He is the Chief medical Officer of Soundmindz.org and has lectured at Harvard Health Services. Arthur is the author of several books including The Stress Solution and The Power of Empathy, which both Arthur and Connor discuss on today's show. Discover the need for empathy in your daily life and learn how to apply it in today's episode.   Key Takeaways: [3:45] What was a defining moment for Arthur? [7:15] Empathy slows down the process during intense moments or conversations. [10:15] 50% of people wake up during the middle of the night due to stress. [10:40] Stress is produced often by misconceptions. You can use empathy to calm the emotional brain. [13:15] What are some of the causes of stress? [16:15] How can we combat stress? [17:00] The most successful people in life have a wide emphatic range. [18:55] Remember, empathy is different than sympathy. [21:40] Take the time to see beyond the s

Neil Pasricha is a New York Times bestselling author of The Book of Awesome and The Happiness Equation. Neil has spent the last decade of his life as the Director of Leadership Development at Walmart, which he left this year to pursue his writing projects. He is also the writer and creator of the 1000 Awesome Things blog, which has won Best Blog in the World two years in a row. Connor sits down with Neil to discuss some of the secrets to happiness and why it is so hard to find.   Key Takeaways: [2:25] Grab a pen and paper for this episode! [3:10] What was Neil’s defining moment? [6:00] What was it like giving a TED Talk? [8:35] Beautiful things come out of darkness. [9:15] Are you building a business on the side? Neil says don’t quit your day job. [10:05] Neil was not a confident person, but when he started his side business, he gained more confidence. This lead him to being promoted at his full-time job. [11:25] Despite Neil’s success, he didn’t leave his full-time job at Walmart until this year. [11:55] Con

Srinivas Rao, founder of The Unmistakeable Creative website and podcast, and author of Unmistakable, has interviewed over 600 thought leaders and people from all walks of life on his show. Today, he joins Connor on the show to discuss creativity, a bit of his background, where he found his drive, and why we should always learn from others, but not mimic them. Srinivas says that we do not need more copies - we need originals, willing to travel the road that's never been traveled before, because true success is work that no one else can replicate.   Key Takeaways: [1:40] Let's talk creativity on today's show. [3:15] Famous on the internet? This concept is amusing to Srinivas. [4:45] What does Srinivas's name mean? [7:10] Who is Srinivas? [8:55] Srinivas downloaded Snapchat for the first time yesterday. [10:15] Everyone should get on Snapchat? Everyone should start a podcast? No! [11:00] Srinivas loves the platform 'Medium'. [11:35] Find one platform/thing and then get really, really good at it. [12:40] What was

Phil T Mistlberger is an expert on masculinity and brotherhood and has worked in this space for over 30 years. He is the author of four critically acclaimed books on the subject of men's work and is the founder of The Samurai Brotherhood. Phil discusses the differences between men today vs. back 20-30 years ago and what the men of today's generation are seeking the most.   Key Takeaways: [2:40] Who is Phil and how did he get started? [7:00] Phil discusses Robert Bly's book, Iron John and the deep connection men need to have. [7:20] Men have not been around to raise their sons. They've been raised by mothers. [8:45] What do men currently struggle with the most? Has this trend changed over the last 30 years? [10:10] The way men communicate has been disrupted by technology. [12:15] Do Millennial men lack grit? [13:15] There's a weird mix of resentment and entitlement in the average Millennial man. [16:40] Millennial men are seeking more of their masculine side when they come to Phil. [21:30] The ideal is to have

Michael Bungay Stanier was banned from his high school graduation for "the balloon incident", was sued by one of his Law School lecturers for defamation, and has held a number of jobs where he had little or no impact. Through his experiences, he founded Box of Crayons, a company that helps organizations do more great work. On today's show, he discusses his latest book with Roger, The Coaching Habit and how you can say less, ask more, and change the way you lead others.   Key Takeaways: [1:45] What was Michael's defining moment? [6:45] What is Michael up to these days? [8:20] Michael talks about his latest book, The Coaching Habit. [13:30] Slow down on giving advice, but stay curious for longer. [17:00] If Michael could pick one type of person to read his book, it would be the busy manager. [20:30] Did you know that boys are much more emotionally expressive than girls are in early childhood? [22:00] There are seven essential questions you need to ask yourself. Michael explains further. [25:40] Believe it or no

Jason Connell is a speaker, former magician, and a writer on personal development. Jason discusses with Roger and Connor on today's show about successfully moving through life transitions and accepting the new challenges that come from taking action. Jason also talks on the subject of manhood and some of the key things our everyday modern man struggles with in a society littered with social media.   Key Takeaways: [1:35] What was Jason's defining moment as a man? [4:00] It's hard to follow/discover a path you were meant to follow. Many people wake up to a 9-5 job they hate. [5:40] Millennials are feeling much more disconnected with others. [7:40] Jason talks about his career as a magician. [9:25] You don't have to follow the same path for the rest of your life. [10:40] Men suffer from the 'lack of money' barrier. [12:15] Jason is slowly winding down on his 8-year company, Ignited Leadership. [15:20] We're prone to stick with what we know – even if it makes us unhappy. [17:20] Your own brain is often not enoug