Adoptive Family Success Podcast

Anxiety about school and meeting expectations seems to be an epidemic for our children, and for parents! Being through this with her two now young adult children, Yolanda shares the guidelines, the tips, she came up with through years of on the job practice, successes and mistakes.

In this episode, Yolanda discusses what all parents dread, those really difficult questions from their child. As parents, we sometimes feel uncomfortable answering sensitive questions and as parents by adoption, we often don’t have the answers or we’re concerned that the answer may hurt our child. Yolanda breaks down the reality and gives some sound advice and perspective.

Yolanda strongly suggests these topics that will help you in your parenting. Help you have a better relationship with your child. Help you understand your child better and as your child matures, help him understand himself better. Makes for a long term benefit.

Yolanda gets real and puts some perspective, some clarity, and some transparency about this often asked question when adoption is considered. Finish this episode and feel much better about this concern.

Yolanda speaks from personal experience and her work with hundreds of families in open adoptions and considering open adoptions. She suggests realistic and reasonable ways for birth family and adoptive family to grow positive relationships for the health of their child and other members.

Yolanda talks about a question she gets from those considering adoption, a concern that is very hard for many to admit is a serious barrier. Yolanda will get real with her answers and what she often expresses to those that have the courage to ask. Let’s get it out in the open and stop acting as if this is not a concern, completely non-judgmental.

The idea of updating your adoption agency/staff, authorities in your international adoption, attorney, home study provider, state/county staff, on the journey of your child is such a brilliant idea. This is not a new idea, something parents have been doing for ages. The reminder in the Facebook page of Families with Children from China is a valuable reminder to all of us that this provides real information from real families on how adoptive families are doing.

Such a common concern for those adopting and already parenting a child, whether their first child was by birth or adoption. In this episode, Yolanda Comparan provides a follow up to Episode 88. You will feel much more comfortable about this concern after this short episode.

Anxiety seems to be a common experience, sometimes a formal diagnosis with our children by adoption. Yolanda suggests 5 actions adoptive parents can do, have within their control, to help teach our children to manage, relieve stress.

A common question from those considering adoption is “will I love a child not biologically related to me.” Yolanda answers this question. She discusses the realities of love for your new child and you’re bound to feel better after this short episode!

Yolanda discusses actions that can lead to a healthy adopted child and adoptive family. These are patterns, commonalities identified in her work with clients and her community participation.

High recommendation for the new book by Bessel Van Der Kolk MD., The Body Keeps the Score. This episode is for those considering adoption or in the process of adoption. Yolanda see’s clear benefits to learning of trauma and its impact on brain, body, and behavior. These benefits include; understand your child better and avoid stuck in yuck, anger and despair; clearer understanding of how to help your child heal and create healthy relationships; and healing for yourself if you have experienced trauma.

Yolanda shares high praise about Van Der Kolk’s new book, The Body Keeps the Score. This incredibly valuable book trauma and its impact and imprint on the brain and body. It is an absolute must for those parenting by adoption and really anyone impacted by trauma themselves or anyone who cares for someone with a trauma history.

Yolanda explores the shared discussion of adoptive parents, the influence of Nature, birth family hereditary impact. Yolanda strongly endorses identifying the gifts and passions that come from this influence and being thankful that our children possess this influence from birth family.

This is a follow up to episode 81. Yolanda discusses what she had noticed in writing the notes for episode 81 that the people she knows that have yet to deal with their trauma are very competent, overly competent in areas of their life that are more obvious to the world, while their more private areas of their life are in shambles. She also mentions benefits to recovery.

In Brene Brown’s newest book she discusses Van der Kolk’s book, The Body Keeps the Score and this prompted Yolanda to discuss parent’s neglect of their own trauma experiences. Yolanda mentions her own healing from trauma that she discusses more fully in episode 81 and strongly suggests that perspective parents can be better parents, healthier parents, if they deal with their own trauma.

In Brene Brown’s newest book she discusses Van der Kolk’s book, The Body Keeps the Score and this prompted Yolanda to discuss parents’ neglect of their own trauma experiences and need for healing, while they are supported their children’s healing. Yolanda shares her own physical and mental consequences of not healing her trauma and the potential cost to others in not resolving their trauma.

This episode is a follow up review of episode #78. Yolanda discusses the agreement that the need for post adoption services and transition services is huge, and rarely exists in an organized manner. She strongly states that it is our (parents) responsibility to set up post adoption services for our family and recommends three ways in which to do just that. Adoptive Family Success Podcast provides support, tips, resources, practical steps and complete honesty and directness for those that are considering adoption, in the process of adopting or parenting by adoption. Each episode is designed to give you strategies and realistic steps to build your family by adoption and strengthen your family created by adoption. Yolanda believes those that are willing to do the work, with critical knowledge and support, can create the family of their dreams through adoption. Yolanda Comparan, the host, delivers one episode each week for prospective adoptive parents and one episode each week for those already parenting by adopt

Yolanda does a take-off of a quote from Danielle LaPorte, inspirational speaker. She discusses the reasons that getting what we and our children need to heal sooner, rather than later is best. She outlines 10 ways in which to do this and guidelines on when to access help.   Adoptive Family Success Podcast provides support, tips, resources, practical steps and complete honesty and directness for those that are considering adoption, in the process of adopting or parenting by adoption. Each episode is designed to give you strategies and realistic steps to build your family by adoption and strengthen your family created by adoption. Yolanda believes those that are willing to do the work, with critical knowledge and support, can create the family of their dreams through adoption. Yolanda Comparan, the host, delivers one episode each week for prospective adoptive parents and one episode each week for those already parenting by adoption. International adoption, foster to adopt, infant adoption and kinship adoption a

Yolanda suggests four ways in which adoption and marriage are similar and one really profound way they should not be similar. Yolanda also discusses “re-homing” and how to make the movement of a child to another family healthier for all involved, especially the child. Episode #80 is a follow up to this episode.   Adoptive Family Success Podcast provides support, tips, resources, practical steps and complete honesty and directness for those that are considering adoption, in the process of adopting or parenting by adoption. Each episode is designed to give you strategies and realistic steps to build your family by adoption and strengthen your family created by adoption. Yolanda believes those that are willing to do the work, with critical knowledge and support, can create the family of their dreams through adoption. Yolanda Comparan, the host, delivers one episode each week for prospective adoptive parents and one episode each week for those already parenting by adoption. International adoption, foster to adopt