Sexology

Welcome to Episode 452 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Roy Graff who speaks to me about relationship anarchy, consensual non-monogamy, and the importance of communication in alternative relationship structures.In this episode, Roy shares his deeply personal journey from decades of serial monogamy to embracing polyamory as an orientation and ultimately finding resonance in the philosophy of relationship anarchy. We explore the difference between open relationships and ethical non-monogamy, the role of emotional maturity, and how boundaries and communication can transform romantic connections. Roy Graff is a Psychosynthesis Relationship Counsellor based in London, UK. Drawing on his training and over nine years of experience facilitating workshops and group work, Roy supports clients in exploring the full spectrum of their physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual dimensions. His practice is inclusive and affirming of Gender, Sex, and Relationship Diversity (GSRD), welcoming LGBTQ+ i

Welcome to Episode 451 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Joli Hamilton who speaks to me about navigating non-monogamy, jealousy, and building healthy polyamorous relationships.In this conversation, I invite Joli to share the very human, very messy path she took from a long-term monogamous marriage into consensual non-monogamy. We talk about how a simple crush, paired with new language for polyamory, sparked courageous but complicated conversations, the pitfalls of working with clinicians who default to monogamy, and the painful social narratives that cast open-relationship exploration as “cheating” even when no boundaries are crossed. Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines & founder of The Year of Opening. She is a depth psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, CNN, Vogue, Cosmo, an

Welcome to Episode 450 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Carrie Jeroslow who speaks to me about exploring monogamish relationships, communication, and relationship diversity.In this conversation, Carrie unpacks the term “Monogamish,” originally coined to describe a space between strict monogamy and fully open relationships, and shares how transparency, not secrecy, became the cornerstone of her own early experiences with non‑monogamy. We talk through the realities behind the “ish”: clunky starts, learning curves, aftercare, and the deep inner work that jealousy often invites.International Best-Selling Author and Relationship Diversity Advocate, Carrie Jeroslow, is passionate about bringing intentionality into intimate relationships by releasing the programming of what we’re taught relationships SHOULD be and shifting to what we really WANT them to be. This highly personal process requires getting to know one's ever-evolving self as intimately as possible. She believes that when we

Welcome to Episode 449 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Jackie Goldschneiderwho speaks to me about eating disorders, body image, recovery, and how all of this intersects with sexuality and pleasure.In this conversation, Jackie shares the raw, unglamorized realities of living with anorexia for two decades, much of it while in the public eye. We explore her “inherited food trauma,” the cultural pressure of the 90s, and how secrecy, rules, and constant tracking kept her illness alive. Jackie opens up about the pivotal moment at 45 when health scares and a second rock bottom pushed her to choose recovery, tell her husband, and assemble a true treatment team to address the mental, physical, and emotional layers of healing.Jackie Goldschneider is an author, activist, speaker and a longtime cast member of The Real Housewives of New Jersey.  Before joining the show, Jackie was an attorney and freelance journalist, and has contributed extensively to publications including Good Housekeeping,

Welcome to Episode 448 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Kate Balestrieri, who speaks to me about navigating low desire and reigniting intimacy in long‑term relationships.In this conversation, Kate and I normalize the reality that everyone, including sex therapists, experiences fluctuations in sexual desire. She shares the multifaceted story behind her own temporary drop in libido, touching on burnout, perimenopause, pandemic stress, and relationship “growing pains.” Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D is a Licensed Psychologist (Clinical and Forensic) in CA, FL, NY and IL. She is a Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist – Supervisor, and PACT III trained couples’ therapist. The Founder of Modern Intimacy, a nationwide therapy practice, Dr. Balestrieri is a passionate advocate for mental, relational and sexual health. Throughout her work, Dr. Balestrieri focuses on helping people build resilience and recovery from what ails them to move from a position of pain or disco

Welcome to Episode 447 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Patti Britton, who speaks to me about her new memoir Chasing Sex, the life events that shaped her as a pioneer in sex coaching, and how we can all cultivate pleasure and transcendent intimacy at any age.In this heartfelt conversation, Patti traces the winding path from her “little girl named Patti” to the globally known “Dr. Patti.” She opens up about the matriarchs who modeled sexual confidence, the traumas she survived, and the counter-culture influences that called her to sexology. You’ll hear how writing her memoir became a race against time to preserve her stories, and why she now gifts readers “52 Lessons for Life” drawn from those pages.Dr. Patti Britton is a nationally board-certified, world recognized Clinical Sexologist, known as the “Mother of Sex Coaching”. She’s the author of hundreds of articles, book chapters, forewords, and five major books in sexology. She is a proud member of the LA writers’ community, havi

Welcome to Episode 446 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Inka Winter, who speaks to me about her journey from surviving a sex cult to pioneering feminist, female-gaze erotica that centers women’s pleasure and authentic consent.Inka Winter is an erotic filmmaker and founder of ForPlay Films, an independent, all-woman porn production company. Spending her formative years living in an alternative artist commune in Austria gave Inka a critical eye for what constitutes sexy, consensual female pleasure and set the foundation for her creative endeavors in erotic filmmaking. Her background in costume design and styling informs her aesthetic and translates to the editorial feel of her films.In our conversation, Inka opens up about growing up in an Austrian commune that devolved into an authoritarian sex cult. She describes the rigid hierarchy, the separation of children from parents, and the constant pressure to conform to cult-mandated ideas of “free love.” We discuss the lingering impact of

Welcome to Episode 445 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm excited to be joined by Darshana Avila, who speaks to me about mindful masturbation as a form of self-care and erotic exploration. In this conversation, Darshana and I dive into why so many of us default to the same quick, goal-oriented masturbation routine and how that habit is wired into our neural pathways. We explore the power of slowing down, setting an intention, and treating solo pleasure as a ritual, complete with an opening, body-centered exploration, and a conscious closing.Best known for her contributions to Netflix's Sex, Love & goop, trauma informed,pleasure centric, culturally relevant erotic education is Darshana's sweet spot. Supporting women & queer community, individually or alongside their partners, is her deepest passion She's a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner & Sexological Bodyworker, guiding & serving through her private practice, public speaking & online offerings.In this episode,

Welcome to Episode 444 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm excited to be joined by Lisa Schaefer VP of Marketing at Promescent, who speaks to me about the biggest trends reshaping sexual-health products and sex-tech innovation. In the first half of the episode, I dive into three listener questions and unpack why fantasy is perfectly healthy, offer concrete scripts for sharing kinks without shame, and celebrate self-pleasure as a lifelong birth-right, while sprinkling in resources, exercises, and confidence-building tips you can try tonight. Then, Lisa joins me to map out the fast-evolving landscape of pleasure products, from wearable vibrating rings that turn penis-owners into “hands-free” vibrators, to blood-flow-boosting arousal gels that help close the orgasm gap, to tech-driven “pleasure-mapping” apps and menopause-friendly solutions. In this episode, you will hear:·      Listener Q&A On Fantasy & Orgasm·      Talking Cross-Dressing With Your Partner·      Celebrating A High Midlife Libido·   

Welcome to Episode 443 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Epiphany Jordan who speaks to me about  the essential role of nonsexual, nurturing touch in our lives and how it intersects with wellness, relationships, and even trauma recovery. In this rich and deeply personal conversation, Epiphany shares her journey from studying sacred sexuality to creating structured touch experiences aimed at fostering connection and healing. We explore the cultural, religious, and psychological factors that shape how we experience touch, especially in societies where physical affection is often conflated with sexuality. Epiphany Jordan, MPH, CPH, is on a mission to rebrand human touch. From 2013-2020, she provided platonic touch therapy in a ritualized setting with her business, the Austin-based Karuna Sessions. She is also the author of Somebody Hold Me: The Single Person's Guide to Nurturing Human Touch. Somebody Hold Me addresses the touch deficit singles face, and offers multiple solutions.

Welcome to Episode 442 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Eleanor O’Brien who speaks to me about exploring erotic fantasies through creativity, theater, and self-expression. In this conversation, Eleanor shares how her personal journey with fantasy evolved from taboo-fueled curiosity to embodied empowerment. We explore the fascinating world of erotic storytelling, from her theater adaptations of fantasy monologues to the value of devising your own erotic scenes through selfies, writing prompts, and roleplay. Eleanor O’Brien is the artistic director of Dance Naked Creative, a sex-positive theater and event company. She is a writer, performer and facilitator. She is the creator of solo shows Plan V, How to Really, Really? Really! Love a woman, GGG: Dominatrix for Dummies and Lust & Marriage. She directed and starred in the Inviting Desire series, ensemble productions that include A Theatrical Aphrodisiac, Lubricate Your Libido, Pleasure, Permission, Possibility...and The Dawn of

Welcome to Episode 441 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell who speaks to me about cultivating intimacy in long-term relationships, navigating sexless marriages, and reigniting erotic connection between partners. In this episode, we explore what truly keeps the spark alive in long-term relationships and why the common advice of compromise may actually undermine deep connection. Dr. Stockwell introduces her approach of Uncompromising Intimacy, which champions full self-expression over self-suppression in partnerships. Alexandra Stockwell, MD, aka “The Intimacy Doctor,” is widely known for her ability to catalyze immediate and profound shifts in high achieving couples who want it all–genuine emotional connection, sensual passion, and erotic intimacy. A physician coach and Intimate Marriage Expert, Dr. Alexandra is the best-selling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy,” creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program,  host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, a wif

Welcome to Episode 440 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm excited to be joined by Jeff Abraham, CEO of Absorption Pharmaceuticals, whose lead product is Promescent. Jeff speaks to me about the deeply misunderstood topic of premature ejaculation (PE) and the emotional, relational, and physiological dimensions behind it.In this enlightening conversation, Jeff and I unpack the complex web of stigma, shame, and misinformation that surrounds early ejaculation. We discuss the difference between perceived and clinically defined PE, the real physiological roots beyond just anxiety or lack of willpower, and the often-overlooked arousal gap between partners.Once retired, Jeff found his encore career in the sexual wellness space, bringing sharp business instincts, integrity, and a bold sense of mission to Promescent.Originally from a struggling town in Pennsylvania, Jeff built a successful recruiting career in Silicon Valley, placing top engineers at tech giants like AMD, Motorola, and Lam Research. During his care

Welcome to Episode 439 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm thrilled to have a panel of leading sex therapists and relationship and intimacy experts from around the world. They’ll discuss the most common mistakes people make in the bedroom and how to address them. A big thank you to Dr. Emily Jamea, Ariel Anderssen, Dr. Lori Bisbey, Catherine Auman, Candia Raquel, Dr. Stephanie Bathurst, Dr. Avrum Weiss, and Elliot Katz.In this episode, we explore the habits that often go unnoticed but can have a lasting impact on sexual satisfaction and emotional connection. You'll hear a variety of insights, from the importance of non-verbal communication and slowing down intimacy, to the roles of sensuality, presence, and emotional security. Each expert brings their unique lens, offering practical tips and surprising truths drawn from decades of experience.Whether you're in a long-term relationship or just looking to deepen your sexual self-awareness, this episode offers honest, shame-free advice. From addressin

Welcome to Episode 438 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, who speak to me about emotional regulation, co-regulation, and their transformative journey in creating a stronger sexual connection through emotional attunement.In this heartfelt episode, Glenn and Phyllis share their personal story of early sexual struggles and emotional disconnect in their marriage, which eventually led them on a lifelong quest for answers. Married since 1982, they recount decades of feeling lost and misunderstood, highlighting how a lack of emotional education contributed to sexual dissatisfaction and relational distance.Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. Dr Glenn was so determined to find out what went wrong that he went back to school & became a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. But, it wasn't until he dug deep i

Welcome to Episode 437 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Brittany Steffen, LMFT, who speaks to me about how couples can navigate and deepen their sexual communication. In this episode, Brittany and I discuss the kinds of conversations couples should be having but often aren’t, especially when it comes to sex. We talk about the importance of discussing how and when to initiate sex, redefining what “counts” as sex, and how understanding each other’s intentions can greatly enhance intimacy. Brittany Steffen is the owner and founder of Steffen Counseling Services. She earned her graduate degree in marriage and family therapy from Seattle Pacific University in 2012 and has worked as a therapist in the Seattle area for over a decade. In 2018, she began the process of becoming an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist to meet the growing demand for specialized sex therapy services.In this episode, you will hear:·      Top Three Conversations Every Couple Should Have About Sex·      How To Naviga

Welcome to Episode 436 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, co-founders of the Somatica Institute, who speak to me about sex parties. In this episode, we discuss the evolving landscape of sexual exploration, intentional relationship structures, and how sex parties can be transformative when approached with clear communication, consent, and a sense of curiosity.Danielle and Celeste share their personal journey of entering the world of sex parties, offering valuable insight into how these experiences can deepen intimacy, spark erotic creativity, and provide healing opportunities for individuals and couples alike.Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., are pioneers in intimacy, sexuality, and relationship coaching. Co-founders of the Somatica® Institute, they’ve transformed how love and connection are taught through their experiential, science-based Somatica Method. Together, they’ve trained over 1,000 coaches and helped countless indivi

Welcome to Episode 435 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Tia Lynn, a seasoned intimacy coach and host of the Sexy Biz Babe Podcast, who speaks to me about navigating threesomes, one of the most common fantasies among couples - and how to approach them with intention, clarity, and care.In our conversation, we explore the difference between fantasy and desire, and why not every fantasy needs to be acted upon. Tia offers practical advice on how couples can decide whether a threesome is right for them, including how to assess trust, emotional safety, and shared curiosity. We also talk about the importance of open dialogue, emotional preparation, and creating safe, judgment-free zones to explore these conversations.Tia Lynn is a TEDX speaker, host of the Sexy Biz Babe podcast and a Sex & Intimacy coach. She loves to help high-achieving women tap into their feminine energy, reignite their sexy confidence to have the best sex of their life. Her methods are known to increase self-conf

Welcome to Episode 434 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Rain DeGrey, who speaks to me about the world of prostate massage and milking - what it is, how it works, and the deeper cultural and psychological barriers we often encounter around anal play, particularly for men.In our conversation, Rain breaks down the differences (and similarities) between prostate massage and milking, highlighting how both are often misunderstood. We explore how performance anxiety, shame, and cultural taboos can shape our sexual experiences - and how embracing pleasure as a valid goal can be deeply healing.Rain DeGrey is an international educator, writer, presenter, podcaster and performer that has been writing articles and teaching classes focusing on kink, relationships, and sex education since 2009. After getting her start as a fetish model, Pro Domme, and competitive wrestler, she was motivated to branch out into education, something she is extremely passionate about. Demystifying sexuality and pr

Welcome to Episode 433 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Anna Lee, the CEO and co-founder of Lioness, who speaks to me about the intersection of pleasure, science, and innovation - and how we can redefine the way we understand and experience orgasms.In this episode, Anna shares her fascinating journey from working in big tech to creating Lioness, a company rooted in data-driven pleasure and sexual wellness. We dive into how her cultural upbringing shaped her early relationship with sexuality and how she turned a personal healing journey into a revolutionary tool that helps people explore their bodies. Anna Lee is the co-founder and CEO of Lioness, the startup that built the world’s first and only smart vibrator that helps improves sexual pleasure through biofeedback orgasm data and research. Anna was previously a mechanical engineer at Amazon, launching the Amazon Dash Button and the Kindle Voyage. She was most recently named one of Newsweek’s 10 Innovators Disrupting Healthcare a