Pursue Your Spark

Sometimes the most powerful journeys begin not with a step forward, but with a fall that forces you to rise differently. Amy Thurman’s life changed in an instant after a traumatic brain injury left her unable to walk, talk, or see clearly. In Episode 240: From Trauma to Times Square, Amy shares her raw and remarkable story of healing and personal growth in midlife. But her story isn’t just about recovery—it’s about rediscovering purpose and becoming a guide for others. Now a speaker, author, and founder of the Mirror Collective, Amy created the “Polish the Mirror” framework to help women rebuild their confidence, reconnect with joy, and reclaim who they are, beyond their roles, pasts, or setbacks. This empowering podcast episode is for anyone navigating change, loss, or reinvention. Especially for midlife women who feel stuck, this conversation reminds them that they can turn pain into power and that joy can be their North Star. We talk about: How Amy redefined her identity after trauma The m

You know that moment when you’re standing in the kitchen, staring at two different snacks, and you just can’t decide? It’s not really about the snack. It’s the mental spiral that’s running the show. In midlife, overthinking becomes the default. You’re juggling shifting roles, changing bodies, and trying to keep up with everything that used to feel automatic. But now? Every decision feels heavier. You’re constantly planning, researching, second-guessing… and feeling more stuck than ever. In episode 239, “Why Overthinking Keeps You Stuck in Midlife,” we explore how mental clutter, perfectionism, and people-pleasing can quietly drain your confidence and energy and how what feels like “playing it safe” is actually keeping you from moving forward. You’ll hear relatable stories—including one about a client who spent so much time creating the perfect workout plan… she never actually worked out. You’ll learn why more effort isn’t what’s missing—and why what you genuinely need is clarity, movement, and self-

What happens after the kids leave? For many parents, the empty nest phase brings a flood of emotions—relief, sadness, confusion, even identity loss. But what if this transition could be your most powerful opportunity for growth, reconnection, and joy? In Episode 238: Navigating the Empty Nest Transition, I sit down with award-winning author Anthony Damaschino, whose Empty Nest Blueprint books offer wisdom, humor, and practical advice for parents ready to reclaim their spark. A former HR executive, father of three, and now a full-time advocate for thriving in midlife, Anthony shares why this season is the most underrated phase in a parent’s life. We talk about what happens when the house gets quiet, how to stop helicopter parenting before it pushes your kids away, and why “just surviving” these years misses the point. Anthony opens up about his emotional shifts, including the bittersweet moment his daughter left home (again), and how he and his wife rekindled their relationship without the kids at the

You’re doing all the “right” things—getting enough sleep, eating healthy, even squeezing in workouts—but you still feel tired all the time. Sound familiar? In Episode 237: What’s Secretly Draining Your Energy in Midlife, we’re uncovering what’s really behind that constant fatigue—and why more effort isn’t the answer. Midlife women are often told to try harder. Sleep more. Eat cleaner. Push through. But here’s the truth: your exhaustion might not be about what you’re doing—it’s about what’s quietly draining you. These are energy leaks—the hidden mental, emotional, and physical drains that slowly wear you down no matter how much you try to recharge. Think of your energy like a bucket. You keep pouring in rest, food, and self-care, but if there are holes in the bottom, it’ll never stay full. This episode breaks down the three biggest energy leaks most midlife women deal with: saying yes to everything but yourself, mental overload and decision fatigue, and the “someday” mindset that delays your needs. Yo

What happens when life throws you a curveball you never saw coming, like becoming a mom to triplets? For Marta Spirk, it wasn’t the end of her identity. It was the beginning of something powerful. In Episode 236: Balancing Motherhood and Entrepreneurship with Confidence, Marta shares how navigating life with three newborns became the catalyst for her business journey and how she now helps other women do the same. Marta is a business coach, TEDx speaker, and author of The Empowered Woman: The Ultimate Roadmap to Business Success. In this episode, she opens up about the reality of balancing motherhood and entrepreneurship, the messy, beautiful, and empowering. She and Heike explore how to manage imposter syndrome, build confidence as a mom and entrepreneur, and show up in life and business with authenticity and presence. You’ll learn practical strategies for developing poise and power, from Heike’s signature Pilates Body posture technique to Marta’s insights on how your voice and body language shape how o

You start strong, full of motivation. Then life happens. You get busy, tired, or just lose steam. Before you know it, you’re back at square one, wondering why fitness after 50 feels so hard. In episode 235 of the podcast, Struggling with Fitness After 50? Find Your WHY First, we’re uncovering the real reason consistency feels impossible—and how finding your WHY can change everything. The problem isn’t willpower. It’s clarity. Staying consistent will always be a struggle if you don’t know why movement matters. But when you connect fitness to something bigger, it becomes something you want to do—not just another task on your list. Your WHY is personal. Maybe you want to stay strong for travel. Keep up with your grandkids. Protect your independence. But your Purpose? That’s even bigger. It’s the long-term vision of the life you refuse to lose. Motivation fades, but a strong WHY keeps you going. Struggling to stay consistent with exercise in midlife? Stop chasing motivation and ask yourself: Why do

What if your biggest heartbreak became your most extraordinary mission? After losing his mother to Parkinson’s, Dr. George Ackerman turned grief into purpose—creating a movement that’s shaking up awareness around this devastating disease. In this powerful episode, George shares what Parkinson’s looks like, what most caregivers never talk about, and why his mission, Together for Sharon, inspires a global fight for change. You’ll hear his full story in Episode 234: Caregiving, Parkinson’s, and a Son’s Mission. George opens up about the early signs of Parkinson’s disease are stiffness, internal tremors, changes in movement—and how his mom lived with symptoms for years before being diagnosed. He also dives into the emotional toll caregiving takes, especially when you’re doing it all out of love and without a roadmap. His honesty about guilt, exhaustion, and the need to “just be there” is something every caregiver will relate to. As a law enforcement professional and educator, George is using his unique bac

You know that feeling—you want to start fresh with your health, maybe try a new workout or finally commit to better nutrition, but something stops you. That nagging thought: What if I fail? We're tackling exactly that in Episode 233: Overcoming Fear of Failure in Midlife. Fear of failure feels bigger after 50 because you’ve tried before, and maybe it didn’t stick. Maybe past diets left you feeling like a failure, or life got in the way of your best intentions. But what if failure wasn’t proof you can’t do this—what if it was just part of learning? Midlife brings enough change as it is. Your energy fluctuates, your body feels different, and let’s be real—your schedule is packed. The idea of starting over again can feel exhausting. But the truth? You don’t need a total life overhaul. Breaking past fitness failures after 50 and figuring out how to make fitness and nutrition work after 50 starts with small, sustainable steps. So many midlife women tell me they feel stuck because they’ve “failed” be

What if everything you’ve been told about confidence, desire, and pleasure in midlife is completely wrong? For so many women, midlife feels like a turning point—you’ve checked the boxes, followed the rules, and still wonder… is this it? In Episode 232: How to Own Your Power and Pleasure in Midlife, we’re diving deep into what it takes to break free from limiting beliefs, embrace confidence, and own your desires without apology. I’m joined by Sue Camaione, author of The Practical Seductress: How I Learned to Take My Hat and Run. She’s sharing her powerful journey of self-discovery, pleasure, and stepping into her full power. We talk about reclaiming pleasure and desire in midlife, shedding outdated expectations, and feeling confident and sexy after 50, even if you've been stuck in old narratives. Too often, women in midlife feel like they have to tone it down, play small, or shrink themselves to fit outdated roles. But what if this stage of life is actually your time to expand, own what you want,

Life is full of unexpected twists and turns. One moment, you’re managing your routine, tackling your to-do list, and feeling in control. And then, something happens—a phone call, a change in the weather, or news you weren’t prepared for—and suddenly, your world feels upside down. In Finding Strength and Resilience During Uncontrollable Events, we’re diving into what it means to navigate life’s most challenging moments with clarity and confidence. While we can’t control every curveball life throws, we can control how we respond. In this episode, I share personal stories, real-life examples, and practical tools to help you build resilience so you can stay grounded even when life feels uncertain. We’ll explore the emotional impact of unexpected challenges, why resilience is a game-changer, and how my S.P.A.R.K. framework can guide you toward clarity, action, and lasting momentum. We’ll also discuss how to build resilience after loss—whether that’s the loss of a loved one, a shift in identity, or a si

Feeling like self-care is selfish? You’re not alone. For midlife women over 50, guilt often sneaks in and stops us from putting ourselves first. And let’s be honest—Why Self-Care Feels So Damn Hard for Midlife Women is something we’ve all wondered about. Here’s the truth: self-care isn’t about spa days or bubble baths. It’s about creating habits that help us thrive. Setting boundaries. Avoiding burnout. Showing up as our best selves. In episode 230, I’m joined by Lesley Logan, a second-generation certified Pilates teacher, author, and host of the Be It Till You See It podcast. Lesley is passionate about helping women prioritize themselves through movement, mindset, and self-care. She shares her journey of overcoming perfectionism and embracing guilt-free self-care. Her advice is simple: Focus on the basics—sleep, movement, and proper nutrition. These small but powerful habits create the foundation for thriving in midlife. We also discuss the guilt many women feel when prioritizing themselves. Les

Ever feel like you’ve hit a wall and can’t figure out why your motivation has disappeared? Here’s the thing: losing motivation isn’t your fault. Motivation isn’t some steady, unshakable thing. It changes as we go through life, just like we do. What lit you up in your 20s and 30s might not feel right now, and that’s okay. Life throws us curveballs—work, family, caregiving—and sometimes it feels like there’s no room left for you. Add in sneaky traps like comparing yourself to others (or your younger self), trying to do everything at once, or waiting for the “perfect” moment, and it’s no wonder we feel stuck. But here’s the thing: losing motivation isn’t failure—it’s growth in disguise. In this episode, I’m breaking down why motivation fades, how to stop beating yourself up over it, and what you can do to feel excited again. Spoiler: it doesn’t involve drastic changes or all-or-nothing thinking. This episode is for you if you’re ready to ditch the guilt and rediscover your spark. Let’s talk about what r

Has your 9-5 lost its spark? If what once excited you now feels like a grind, it might be time for a change. Shannon Russell, CEO of Second Act Success, joins me to share her journey and expert advice on transitioning to a career that aligns with your purpose and brings fulfillment. After a successful career in TV production, Shannon pivoted to entrepreneurship to gain freedom and flexibility. Through self-reflection, she identified her values—family time and creating meaningful work—and built a business on her own terms. Key Lessons from Shannon: Overcome Self-Doubt: Your skills and experiences form a "lifelong resume" that proves you can succeed in a new venture. Redefine Success: Moving to a purpose-driven career means shifting your definition of achievement to align with what truly matters to you. Practical Steps for Your Career Transition: Reflect: List all your personal and professional titles to recognize your skills and unique experiences. Research: Explore 2-3 business ideas you’re passionate abou

Feeling overwhelmed and stuck in midlife? You’re not alone. For many women over 50, juggling commitments and trying to keep up with wellness trends can feel like an uphill battle. The good news? Overcoming overwhelm doesn’t require big resolutions or drastic overhauls—it’s about starting small and focusing on what truly matters. That’s exactly what we explore in episode 227: Tiny Shifts to Beat Overwhelm in Midlife. We explore why feeling stuck is common and how recognizing it is the first step toward change. Whether repeating the same routines or saying yes when you want to say no, identifying what’s draining your energy helps you move forward. From there, we explore the power of tiny, consistent actions—like adding a 5-minute habit—that creates momentum without adding stress. This episode also helps you challenge limiting beliefs, like “It’s too late for me,” and reframe your mindset to make space for growth. We’ll even tackle guilt, a familiar but surprising sign that you’re breaking old patterns a

Ever feel like you’re caught in that cycle of wanting to make a change, but somehow, it never quite sticks? Maybe you’re searching for that spark—that extra push to finally put yourself first and see actual results. But what if it’s not about wanting at all but actually committing? Today, we’re diving into this big shift with Allan Misner, a fitness and nutrition coach for people over 40 who has been right where you are. He knows what it takes to turn the desire for change into real, lasting action. Together, we’ll explore his story, the lessons he’s picked up along the way, and some surprising truths about motivation that might flip your whole approach on its head. In this episode, I sit down with Coach Allan Misner. Allan is a NASM-certified personal Trainer, Precision Nutrition Level II Master Health Coach, and FAI-certified Functional Aging Specialist. He’s also the host of the 40+ Fitness Podcast, the go-to show for health over 40, and the author of The Wellness Roadmap, a straightforward guide to

Ever feel like you’re showing up and putting in the work, but somehow, it doesn’t seem to add up? Building Strength Without Self-Judgment in Midlife can be tricky, especially when you’ve set a strength goal—like lifting heavier, trying a new move, or just feeling stronger every day—but it feels like no matter what you do, it’s never quite enough. Sound familiar? In today’s episode, we’re diving into that feeling we know too well: the self-judgment that sneaks in and makes us feel like we should be further along. We’ll unpack why this happens, especially for those of us in midlife, and how to let go of those 'shoulds' that don’t serve us. Instead, we’ll focus on a new way to look at progress that actually feels good. Take, for example, a recent conversation with a frustrated client about her pull-up progress. She found herself thinking, “I should be stronger by now.” And this wasn’t just about pull-ups; it was about that nagging feeling of “not good enough.” We often carry an invisible checklist of whe

Are you feeling the weight of caring for aging parents while juggling everything else on your plate? You’re definitely not alone. So many of us are in this boat, wondering if we’re doing enough or if it’s time to get extra support. That’s why I’m sitting down today with Senior Care Advisor for Pacific Northwest Seniorcare, Lynn Smargis, to find out how to build your caregiving dream team. Lynn, who’s encountered the Gen X “sandwich generation” challenge firsthand, shares practical advice on distinguishing between Independent Living, Assisted Living, and Memory Care. She offers a compassionate guide to making confident decisions for loved ones and navigating the often-overwhelming journey of seeking additional support. We also discuss the emotional side of caregiving—overcoming guilt, setting healthy boundaries, and the importance of open family communication to reduce stress. Lynn’s straightforward advice on self-care and building a strong support network will resonate with anyone in a caregiving role.

Ever struggle with something as simple as putting on socks or lifting a bag of groceries and think, "Is this what getting older feels like?" You're not alone. We tackle these common frustrations head-on in Podcast Episode 223: Why You Need to Change Your Workout After 40. Picture this: you're battling your socks every morning, hopping around on one foot, maybe even taking a tumble. It could be a more graceful way to start your day. But what if I told you there's a type of exercise that can make these everyday tasks easier, boost your strength, and keep you moving effortlessly through life? In this episode, we explore the world of functional fitness. It's a game-changer that will redefine how you think about staying fit and active, especially as you age. Functional fitness isn't just about traditional workouts that isolate specific muscles. Instead, it focuses on exercises that mimic everyday movements.  Functional fitness helps improve one's ability to perform daily tasks efficiently. Whether lifting

Cancer doesn't wait, nor should you. Whether you're facing cancer yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode with Deb Krier will give you the tools and mindset to take action today. Don’t settle—fight back now. October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and today's episode, 'Stop Settling for 'Fine'—Fight Cancer Now,' is a must-listen. Deb Krier is an entrepreneur, cancer advocate, and the visionary behind tryingnottodie.LIVE. Diagnosed with Stage 4 triple-positive breast cancer in 2015 and thyroid cancer in 2023, Deb has transformed her challenges into a mission to help others. Deb shares how to move beyond just being 'fine' with cancer. We discuss her deeply personal moments from her cancer journey that profoundly impacted her outlook on life and how having cancer has changed her self-perception and work. She offers advice on coping with fear and provides insights on how her business skills have helped her deal with cancer—lessons others can learn from. She also talks about the unique initia

Are you curious about how to rethink your relationship with alcohol, especially as we head into fall and the holiday season? It’s that time of year when we reflect on our habits, and for many of us, that includes those casual evening drinks that might have crept into our routine over the summer. We'll In Episode #221 – Transform Your Relationship with Alcohol Now, I dive into how to create a healthy, mindful relationship with alcohol that works for you, without the pressure to go all-in or all-out. Whether you’ve tried Sober October or another month-long break from alcohol, you may have noticed how challenging it can be to go cold turkey—and how easy it is to feel deprived and binge afterward. But it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Instead of white-knuckling through a month without alcohol, let’s explore how to make lasting changes that fit your lifestyle. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s about creating a healthy balance that works for you. Maybe it’s cutting back gradually or finding new ways to unwi