Synopsis
Advice column aficionados Hannah and Matt re-answer the greatest questions from other advice columns and podcasts as well as fielding new questions (send your questions to bit.ly/HannahAndMatt). Topics include: relationships, sexuality, roommates, professional, health, culture, and everything in between.
Episodes
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#120: The Han and Matt Know It All Finale
22/12/2019 Duration: 02h13minAfter 10,000 years, Han and Matt have finally wrapped the show. To watch the episode with our lovely mugs and our disruptive kitties (which was recorded live on Facebook!), check it out here if you're able: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hanandmattknowitall/permalink/585309755619000/ Here's loosely what we discussed: Reminiscing about the history of the show! 2019 personal/life updates for us and the cats Updates on questions and things from listeners like you! A summary of our various Facebook spin-off groups (join them!) 10 Tips for a Successful Marriage What's next From the Facebook Event: "Hello, lovely Hamkittens of the world! Han and I have decided that our long-awaited final episode of Han and Matt Know It All will be a LIVE Facebook event so that we can collectively and symbolically hand-off the spirit of the show to its new rightful owners: ALL OF YOU AMAZING PEOPLE! ♥ Seriously, y'all never cease to amaze me with your dedication to kindness and the work you've done fostering (so many!) safe com
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#119: Han and Matt Carpool to Sea
19/06/2019 Duration: 01h05minHan and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 9th, 2019, and beyond, including: NOTE: We're changing the $20 Patron Hangout Perk to be a 1-Time Hangout Effective Immediately Ask Ellie: "Wife's request for quiet time 'mindless' TV watching confounds husband" "Harry Potter Totally Sucks" Ask Ellie: "My true love might walk away because of my ex's meddling" Carolyn Hax: "My pregnant friend's husband needs to shut up already about her weight gain" Ask a Manager: "I ran into my new boss in the apartment of my one-night stand" Ask Dr. NerdLove: "What Do I Do About My Irresponsible Boyfriend?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! r/AITA: "AITA for flirting with 19 year old girls and defending myself when being called a predator." Listener N: "My Wife's Crush and Mine" Shoutout to Zoya AKA Zoe Fenson on APW: "I'm A Feminist Killjoy—And My Husband Loves it" Shoutout to Ask Real Estate: "Can a Building Charge You for Bedbugs?" Shoutou
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#118: Han and Matt Need Climate Advice (ft. Sara Peach)
12/06/2019 Duration: 01h15minHan and Matt are joined by climate change journalist and senior editor of Yale Climate Connections Sara Peach, columnist of the one-of-a-kind and invaluable Ask Sara! We interview Sara and discuss listener questions and topical questions from around the web on the topic of climate change: Sara Peach: Columbia Journalism Review: "Reporter explains local effects of climate change through advice column" Ask Sara on Yale Climate Connections #88 Han and Matt Sweat It Out Discussion on Ask Sara: "Should I tell my Republican friend that her Florida mansion is doomed by sea-level rise?" Sara Peach on Twitter Peach Report Listener Zayime, Herald of Despair: "If Our Doom Is Indeed Imminent, How Do I Go On?" Listener Berylglow, Estival Sprite: "What are some practical ways to lower our carbon footprints in our daily lives?" Listener The Feral Lamprey: "How Do I Overcome My Fears of the Stigma of Climate Change Activism?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Ask Umbra: "Should climat
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BONUS: West Coast Meetup Details
18/05/2019 Duration: 05minGreetings, Hamkittens! Long time no see. But soon, we will be on the West Coast for our two-week vacation and coming to a bar near you! Check out all the details below, RSVP on Facebook, and we might even wow you by knowing your name before you even introduce yourself. Whoooaaaa! HAMKIA Bay Area Meetup Sunday, May 19, 5-7 PM The Golden Squirrel in Oakland, California HAMKIA Portland Meetup! Monday, May 27, 6-8 PM Bye & Bye in Portland, Oregon HAMKIA Seattle Meetup! Thursday, May 30, 6-8 PM Optimism Brewing Company in Seattle, Washington And yes, things are still very hectic in Matt-land. We're taking a break while work chaos settles, but we do have at least one (guest!) episode planned for June. Stay tuned. Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fa
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#117: Han and Matt Embrace Cryptid Romance
08/05/2019 Duration: 59minHan and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 28th, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd [CW: Self-Harm] Ask a Manager: "What to say if a coworker asks about my self harm scars" Ask a Manager: "Should I say something about my coworker’s old self-harm scars?" Dear Prudence: "I'm in a Happy Relationship With My Boyfriend but I Still Want to Date Women" SPONSOR: care/of: A monthly subscription vitamin service that delivers completely personalized vitamin and supplement packs right to your door! Ask Dr. NerdLove: "Do I Have To Agree to An Open Relationship?" How to Do It: "A Nice Guy Suddenly Said Awful Things to Me During Sex" SPONSOR: LOLA: The female-founded company offering a line of organic cotton tampons, pads, liners, and now: sex products Carolyn Hax: "Bigfoot, the yeti, the Loch Ness Monster
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#116: Han and Matt Charge a Cover
01/05/2019 Duration: 59minHan and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 21st, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd Miss Conduct: "This children's birthday party has a cover charge" Ask Natalie: "Found out your engagement ring is a fake?" Care and Feeding: "Who the Heck Is Patrick?" Carolyn Hax: "Teacher frets that white Christian parents will whine about helping Muslim kids" Ask a Manager: "my office wants us to celebrate by wearing pink and blue by gender" Judge John Hodgman: "On Taco Bell Pilgrimages" "How to Eat Vegan at Taco Bell" Listener Lephra, Master Manipulator: "My Partner and I Are Exploring Ethical Nonmonogamy for the First Time and I Feel... Fine?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! r/AmItheAsshole: "WIBTA if I were to dump my boyfriend for being a snobby movie critic?" r/AmIthe
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#115: Han and Matt Accept Your Wine
17/04/2019 Duration: 59minHan and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 7th, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd Ask The Salty Waitress: "I took home the unopened bottle of wine I brought to the dinner party" Ask a Manager: "I wet my pants at my new job" [CW: Weight Loss] Ask Amy: "Wife's extreme weight loss tilts marriage" [CW: Domestic Abuse] Dear Abby: "Mom Takes Action Against Daughter's Abusive Boyfriend" Carolyn Hax: "Boyfriend wants him to tell off grandma after a chat with her" Key & Peele: "Gay Wedding Advice" NPR: "The End of Empathy" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! r/AmItheAsshole: "WIBTA if I were to dump my boyfriend for being a snobby movie critic?" r/AmItheAsshole: "UPDATE: WIBTA if I were to dump my boyfriend for being a snobby movie critic?" Shoutout to Autostraddl
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#114: Han and Matt Petition Parental Perspectives
10/04/2019 Duration: 01h11minHan and Matt and their most special guest yet tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 31st, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd Ask a Manager: "my boss brings her dog to work and he pees by my desk" Dear Annie: "Already at a good weight" Captain Awkward Guest Post: "When Woke Becomes A Fetish" Ask Ann Cannon: "Pet influencers make me feel inferior as a doggy parent" Sense & Sensitivity: "College application scandal worries parent" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener The Fiendish Salamander: "Employer Is Making Me Remove My Pronouns in Company Signature" Bustle: "Should You Put Your Pronouns In Your Email Signature? This Inclusive Workplace Trend Is Showing Up More And More" Shoutout to ¡Hola Papi!: "I’m in a Heterosexual Marriage. Do I Need to Come Out as Queer
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#113: Han and Matt Disinvite Fascist Relatives
03/04/2019 Duration: 01h06sHan and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 24th, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd Captain Awkward: "Fox News, Immigrant Family, and the F******* Wedding Invite List" Ask APW: "Why Didn't My MOH Invite Me To Her Wedding?" Dear Prudence: "Help! I Found Out My Boyfriend Cheated the Same Week He Found Out He Has Cancer." Vice: "Mussolini’s granddaughter would like everyone, including Jim Carrey, to be nice about her fascist grandpa" Miss Manners: "Family Dinners Call for a 'No Preaching at the Table' Rule" Ask a Manager: "My coworker keeps mocking another coworker's accent" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Calliope: "Is This a Close Friend?" Shoutout to APW: "Do I Need A Good Reason To Skip A Wedding?" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "working with anti-vaxxe
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#112: Han and Matt Shame the Shamers
27/03/2019 Duration: 01h04minHan and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 17th, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd Work Friend: "After Servicing a Home Can I Get Paid to Service My Clients Other Needs?" Ask a Manager: "my team got matching tattoos ... and other lack of boundaries at my start-up" [CW: Fat-Shaming] Sense and Sensibility: "It's OK to talk to friend about weight gain" [CW: Fat-Shaming] Dear Prudence: "Help! I Think My Co-Worker's Weight Is Impeding Her Career. Should I Say Something?" Dear Pepper: "Doggedly Pursuing Someone" Ask Amy: "Erotic fiction turns into catfishing reality" The Cut: "This Female Twitter Comic Was Actually a Man Pretending to Be His Own Wife" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Telreshi, Domesticator of Demons: "I Need Help With Micro-Transphobia!" S
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#111: Han and Matt Hail Brandy Jensen
20/03/2019 Duration: 01h12minHan and Matt were so excited to be joined by the one and only Brandy "Ask a Fuck-Up" Jensen! You may have seen her Tweets cited on every single topic on every single news outlet, and you'll be relieved to know that Brandy's brilliance is actually and rightfully rewarded monetarily on The Outline where she answers questions every week on one of the only good things to come out of 2018. Here's what we discussed: Ask a Fuck-Up Brand Jensen on Twitter The Outline: "I Can't Tweet for One Week and It's Killing Me" Brandy Tweeting About Advice Columns 9 Nov 2015: Someone publish a piece on how the advice column has become the home of some of our generation's best writers 2 Jan 2016: I feel like if I wrote an advice column every answer would be "we're all hurtling toward death, I'm sure it will work out" 6 Apr 2016: Wanna start an advice column called Go Fuck Yourself where I just tell you to masturbate and see if that helps 12 Apr 2017: someone give me an advice column, I love telling other people what they sh
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#110: Han and Matt Kiss and Tell
13/03/2019 Duration: 01h03minHan and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 3rd, 2019, and beyond, including: WINTER MEETUP: Washington, DC, Busboys and Poets on K Street March 16th, 6 PM - 10 PM Facebook Event [CW: Fat-Shaming] r/relationship_advice: "Boyfriend [25M] told me he used to ask out "fat girls" for fun. Am I [22F] right to be disgusted by him?" Dear Prudence: "Help! I Caught My Day Care Provider Breastfeeding My Baby." Carolyn Hax: "Should a single try to burst her friend's couple bubble?" Dear Wendy: "I Kissed My Friend And My Boyfriend Called It Cheating!" Ask a Manager: "my boss sent my client a flirty message from my email account" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! SPONSOR: care/of: A monthly subscription vitamin service that delivers completely personalized vitamin and supplement packs right to your door! [CW: Self-Harm, Disordered Eating] Listener Kalvarin Ashmore, Renowned Euphomancer: "How Do I Teach Myself That a Relapse in My Me
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#109: Han and Matt Talk Reddit Relationships (Ft. Moderator ResidentBlackGuy)
06/03/2019 Duration: 01h10minHan and Matt write a love letter to Reddit Relationships and have the honor of interviewing moderator Alex "ResidentBlackGuy" Spruiell! During the interview portion of the show, they discuss how Alex became a moderator, what makes r/relationships the best subreddit for advice, the worst partner so far of 2019, and much more! ResidentBlackGuy Alex Spruiell on Twitter Podcast: Black & Yellow SPONSOR: LOLA: The female-founded company offering a line of organic cotton tampons, pads, liners, and now: sex products! [BONUS Discussion for $5 and up patrons] #100: The Best & Worst Advice Column Humans of 2018 (Ft. Ask a Manager and Captain Awkward): Partners Category Worst Partner: "The Boyfriend" in r/relationships' "I[30] am having a mastectomy due to breast cancer and my boyfriend [29] of 4 years is having a hard time with my decision." Dishonorable Mention: "The Boyfriend" in r/relationships' "I'm [24F] on vacation without my boyfriend [33 M] because he missed his flight. Would it be wrong to live it
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#108: Han and Matt Practice Safe Smooching
27/02/2019 Duration: 01h03minHan and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 17th, 2019, and beyond, including: WINTER MEETUP: Washington, DC, Busboys and Poets on K Street March 16th, 6 PM - 10 PM Facebook Event Miss Lonelyhearts: "Does new girlfriend have eyes for hers or hims?" Listener Wants to be Supportive, but Doesn't Want to Offend: "How to respect someone's gender if you're not sure they're transgender" Listener Mary, Veiled Reckoner: "How Do You Keep the Germs From Spreading Around Your Polycule?" Listener Sabrina: "Can I Wear an Unethically Produced Shirt That Advocates for Equality Without Being a Hypocrite?" "Hannah and Matt Seek Legal Counsel" "How Do I Deal With a Sadistic Work Bully?" H&M: "Recycle Your Clothes" Listener The Raging Wendigo: "How Do I Get Past the Bitterness of My Abusive Ex Now That He's Suddenly Trying to Reconnect?" Humans of New York: "Cheating McCheaterface" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener D
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#107: Han and Matt Upgrade Their Metaphors
20/02/2019 Duration: 01h45sHan and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 10th, 2019, and beyond, including: WINTER MEETUP: Washington, DC, Busboys and Poets on K Street March 16th, 6 PM - 10 PM Facebook Event Ask a Manager: "we have twice-daily mandatory group therapy at work" "my office has a mandatory feelings chart" "my boss wants us to all share our mental health needs – at every meeting" Ask Amy: "Offensive remarks too close for comfort" Carolyn Hax: "Angry comments on news sites and Facebook? Thats my husband." Dear Abby: "Second Wife-To-Be Wants Man's Name All To Herself" Dear Prudence: "Should I move in with my hoarder boyfriend?" Miss Manners: "Business class welcomes all who can pay for the seat" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Lygeia, Cunning Mesmerist: "How Do I Support a Friend Going Through a Breakup?" + An Update! Reference: "#50: Hannah and Matt Condemn Name Thieves" Shoutout to Entertainment Weekly: "Dumplin' a
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#106: Han and Matt Eat Candy Hearts
13/02/2019 Duration: 59minHan and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 3rd, 2019, and beyond, including: WINTER MEETUP: Washington, DC, Busboys and Poets on K Street March 16th, 6 PM - 10 PM Facebook Event Ask Amy: "Boyfriend disappears into dark web" There are, thankfully, a handful of games where you play as a black female protagonist, though that list does not include "Far Cry: New Dawn" (Source) Ask a Manager: "my boyfriend thinks only bad candidates prepare for interviews" Ask The Salty Waitress: "I accidentally called my female customer sir" "Yinz" is actually short of "You Ones" Baggage Check: "My boyfriend is making me choose between him and my cats" Ask APW: "My Friend Bought Me A Used Wedding Gift That Cost $15" Dear Prudence: "Help! Our Millionaire Relatives Only Gave $30 as Wedding Gifts." SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Laura: "Should I Have Waited Longer For My Late Date to Show Up?" Shoutout to The Texanist: "H
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#105: Han and Matt Entreat Queer Abby
06/02/2019 Duration: 58minHan and Matt make their return with a full batch of queer queeries and are joined by special guestpert, Nicole J. Georges AKA Queer Abby! We discuss queer impostor syndrome, being closeted for fear of bigoted parents, normalizing volunteering your pronouns, and more! Queer Abby Nicole J. Georges on Twitter & Instagram Graphic Memoir: Calling Dr. Laura Podcast: Sagittarian Matters [CW: Bi-Erasure, Queer Gatekeeping until 25 minute mark] Queer Abby: "I’m A Queer Snob" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Closet Conundrum: "One Foot in the Closet" Listener Confused Queer: "Does My Bisexuality Count If I'm Not Having Same-Sex Sex?" Listener The Pestilent Drake: "Why is it so easy to tell others they're valid but feel yourself like you're an impostor in the community?" Listener The Marauding Wendigo: "Should I, a Cis-Gendered Person, Display My Pronouns In Support of the Queer Community?" Listener Angry Latin Queer: "We Had a Secret Gay Wedding Because Our Parents
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#104: Han and Matt Ruin Your Surprise
23/01/2019 Duration: 01h08minHan and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of January 13th, 2019, and beyond, including: BONUS: New P.O. Box! Han Malyn & Matt Albrecht P.O. Box 75532 Washington, DC 20013 [The Other] Asking For a Friend: "I Only Have Two Friends. Is There Anything Wrong With That?" Ask a Manager: "my coworker is a blood drive bully" Ask a Manager: "my office is requiring us to disclose all medications we take" Ask APW: "My Family Told Me About My Boyfriend's Proposal Surprise" Ask APW: "Who Do I Invite From A Poly Squad?" Captain Awkward: "My mom kidnapped my kid for 30 minutes. How fired is she?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Shoutout to AAFU: "I'm still in therapy. Should I be dating?" [Content Warning: sexual assault] Listener Thunder Gryff: "Should I Just Go Ahead and Disclose My CPTSD?" Listener Not a Hugger: "Question! Letting a Friend Know Their Scene is not my Scene" Listener Zaphrus Sabresong, Stalwart Mystic Update: "Is It O
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#103: Han and Matt Pursue Their Dreams
16/01/2019 Duration: 01h05minHan and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of January 6th, 2019, and beyond, including: r/amitheasshole: "AITA for very rarely/almost never wanting to go to restaurants because my girlfriend makes food that's just as good, if not better, than restaurant food?" [Content Warning: cancer] Ask a Manager: "my coworkers complained that the look of my breasts post-mastectomy is making them uncomfortable" Dear Abby: "Mom Confesses To Undermining Scholar's Dream Of Art School" [Content Warning: body shaming] Damage Control: "Can I tell my overweight friend I’m worried about his health?" Listener Winner Winner Chicken Dinner: "Am I Ruining Game Night by Winning Every Game?" [Content Warning: sexual assault] Listener The Mellow Medusa: "Should I Say Something About My Friend's Husband Having Groped Me at a Party?" Listener Dabrius the Decapitator: "My Depressed Dad Keeps Withdrawing From Everyone's Lives and I Don't Know What More I Can Do" Update from Listener Hillary: "How
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#102: Han and Matt Spotlight Jessica Weisberg
09/01/2019 Duration: 01h12minHan and Matt are joined by Jessica Weisberg, author of "Asking for a Friend: Three Centuries of Advice on Life, Love, Money, and Other Burning Questions from a Nation Obsessed" to discuss this amazing gift to advice column lovers plus some bonus historical moments: Jessica Weisberg "Asking for a Friend" on Amazon 10 Superb Questions on the History of Advice Columns Much love to the many listeners of ours on Facebook who helped contribute to these questions! John Dunton: "But REALLY Though, Should Women Legally Be Allowed to Use Beauty Products?" (1704) "Pray give your judgement, whether 'tis lawful for Women to use any Beautifying Washes or things of that kind to meliorate Nature, which some Persons are so very much against, and think 'em utterly unlawful?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Benjamin Franklin: "Advice to a Young Man on the Choice of a Mistress" (1745) Ann Landers: "The Great Toilet Paper Orientation Debate" (1986) r/legaladviceofftopic: "I trained