In This Together With Dr. Josh + Christi

How well do you manage your relationship with the screen? How would your spouse describe how well you manage your relationship with the screen? What about your kids?As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss screen time and its effects on our nervous system. We share some sobering statistics about screens and hope by the end you honestly evaluate the answer to the question, “What role does the screen play in the quality of my life?”  Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 3:20 How do you relate with your screen? 8:57 Screens and the nervous system 12:12 Dopamine, screens, and temper tantrums 19:00 Multitasking, nervous system dysregulation, and attunement 27:20 Inattention in children’s television shows32:29 Becoming relationally intelligent with screensShow Notes:If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's br

Forgiving others can be complicated. Especially when you’ve been hurt deeply by those you love the most.As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss the reality of forgiveness, why it’s so complicated, and a helpful process for forgiving others. We also offer a beautiful story of deep forgiveness in marriage as a model and a path forward. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction to forgiveness and why it matters 3:16 The reality and process of forgiveness 7:50 The people we have to forgive 10:22 The complicated beauty of forgiveness 17:32 An example of forgiveness in marriage 21:30 The grace of our own forgivenessShow Notes: If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Why do we self-protect in relationships? Especially if it hurts our deepest levels of intimacy with those we love? Though we’re hurt in relationships, we’re also healed in relationships. As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss the ways we self-protect, why self-protection is a form of artificial intelligence, and how to break free. Our hope for this episode is to give you hope that you can surrender self-protection and discover deeper relational connection with those you love. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction 4:00 The ripple effect of relational intelligence 5:00 Self-protection as a form of artificial intelligence 8:12 The ways we self-protect 18:38 Ways to surrender our self-protection 24:06 Christi shares what she’s learning in her own journey of self-protection 31:43 Self-protection, overcoming fear, and the softening of your heart toward others 38:22 Disconfirming experiences, holding hope, and healing your heart Show Notes: If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this f

In season 5, we’re talking about relational intelligence. In this episode, we’re specifically looking at it through the lens of marriage, the delicate dance of intimacy, and why emotional safety is so important. We also introduce season 5, which covers hot topics that challenge how we think about relationships, why we become numb to them, and how to navigate relational connections with those we love in a world becoming more artificially intelligent. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction to season 53:00 The face-to-face nature of relational connection4:19 Why and how we numb in relationships13:11 Defining relational intelligence16:00 Marriage coaching options17:30 The delicate relational dance of marriage24:51 Emotional safety in marriage31:54 Your relationships in light of eternity38:40 The inside-out nature of marriage Show Notes:If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://b

In this episode, we address listener submitted questions, each of them around the constant demands and interruptions that come with raising children. Christi also walks us through an exercise to help calm nervous system dysregulation. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction4:15 Costco trips, homeschooling, and the evolution of a marriage and family8:48 A practical exercise for nervous system regulation in the moment15:55 Listener question: Mom of 4 littles trying to find a soul at rest with all the demands26:36 Listener question: How to prioritize our sanity when constantly interrupted Show Notes: Ladies, interested in the fall Tender & Fierce Coaching Cohort? Register here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Get John Eldredge’s latest book called Experience Jesus. Really.https://amzn.to/4ks1NdL Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm

What does it mean to "love your marriage?" Is it something you've thought about? Or perhaps something you brag about to others? In this episode, Josh talks about what we mean by loving your marriage, the deeper meaning of marriage, and poses three revealing questions to ask yourself about your marriage. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 1:50 Tender & Fierce coming up 2:55 What we mean by loving your marriage 9:50 The purpose of marriage 13:44 Falling in love over and over again 16:27 How our marriage influences our kids 17:30 Cultivating our marriage with the Bridegroom 23:00 Three revealing questions to ask yourself about your marriageShow Notes: Ladies, interested in the fall Tender & Fierce Coaching Cohort? Register here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkoutIf you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Sometimes people come into your life as mentors, but they also become dear friends. We met Bill and Laurie Lokey in 2018 and little did we know how Bill’s cancer journey would unite our hearts and deepen our friendship.As we continue our series on The People Who Shape Us, Laurie joins Christi to talk about the healing nature of relationships through grief and loss. No matter the loss in your life, whether it’s the loss of a spouse or loved one, or even the loss of a dream or deep relational hurt, we hope this conversation between Christi and Laurie encourages your heart.Yes, we’re wounded in relationship, but we’re also healed in relationship. Laurie and Christi spend time talking about specific ways to heal the inner wounded parts of who we are and how to navigate loss while living in relational joy!Time Stamps:0:00 Introducing Laurie and how we all met12:31 How Christi and Laurie partnered together15:50 How Laurie navigates “withness” with Jesus since the loss of her husband26:55 Healing the little boy and

Have you ever been walking through life when you happen to look over and see someone else walking in the same direction? It’s like your spirit shouts, “Oh, me too!”This is precisely what happened to Josh and Christi with their dearest friends, Luke (one-half of 4-Time Grammy Award winning For King & Country duo) and his wife, Courtney (founder of Technicolor Woman and author of Technicolor Woman Devotional). Their ensuing friendship is one they share about in this episode, because it’s a testament to how our closest relationships shape our character. And that’s not just a cute social media post; it’s a scientific fact. We truly are the sum of those we spend the most time with. As we continue our series on The People Who Shape Us, Luke and Courtney join us to talk about how trusted friends call us higher, the beautiful consequences of letting others in, and how our adult friendships even shape our children. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 4:00 How we all became friends11:08 The character of friendship19:41

For the first time ever, Josh’s parents, Mike and Sharon Hess, join the show! We’re in a season called The People Who Shape Us, and we thought it fitting to have the most influential people in our lives share their own story of faith, and in this case, blended family.  Josh shares his perspective of growing up in a blended family, and Mike and Sharon address co-parenting, raising kids in a two income home on shift work, and overcoming shame. Looking for hope and healing in your story? May this one be your catalyst.   Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 4:30 Shift work and parenting on two incomes8:08 How our family navigated blended family20:19 Hard conversations with parents, teachability, and healing in blended families 35:00 From shame and isolation, to acceptance and community, after divorce 40:30 Showing respect for stepparents and stepchildren  Show Notes:  Ladies, interested in the fall Tender & Fierce Coaching Cohort? Register here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's

Did you know that being socially isolated is equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day! What's really sad about this is that we're seemingly more "connected" than we've ever been, but research shows we're also more isolated.  Friend, it should be obvious by now that being "connected" does not equal relational intimacy. That's why we're addressing the beauty found in friendship as we continue our series on The People Who Shape Us. In this episode, Christi hosts her dear friend turned sister, Courtney Smallbone (author of Technicolor Woman Devotional of which you'll want to grab a copy!) to talk about the beauty and goodness of deep, safe friendship. Christi and Courtney talk about:The struggle of finding friends you can have deep connection withThe surrender and fight for healthy friendshipAuthenticity and vulnerabilityWhat it looks like to both champion and step onto the battlefield on behalf of your friendsAnd the beauty and goodness of finding Kingdom friends who are moving lock and step in the same directi

This episode boasts the MOST influential people we’ve ever had on the podcast! Ray and Lora Lee Wood, aka Christi’s Dad and Mum, join us for the first time ever to talk about what it was like parenting Christi (quite a trip) and the lessons they learned from being parents.This is a fantastic multigenerational episode for parents, grandparents, and in-laws alike. Ray and Lora Lee share practical and life-giving insights for parents across all ages and stages, and the secrets to keeping all three generations of their adult children and grandchildren so relationally close.  Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction to Christi’s parents and the people who shape us4:30 Ray and Lora Lee reflect on their early years of parenting Christi 12:12 The lessons Ray and Lora Lee learned from being parents and the values they tried to instill 38:05 Parenting teens & older kids and strengthening bonds with adult childrenShow Notes:  Men, interested in the next coaching and discipleship cohort? Join the waitlist:https://www.famousath

As we continue our series on “The People Who Shape Us,” John Eldredge joins us. He is someone who has shaped how we pray and ultimately how we relate with Jesus ourselves. He’s been a mentor and spiritual father to many, and has significantly shaped how we lead even our children to experience Jesus for themselves. In the beautiful, kind words of a spiritual father, John shares stories about how he healed while raising his own kids, and what that healing did for how he started to relate to and experience the love of Abba in his own life. He also describes his own spiritual journey as having walked through what he calls “wardrobe doors,” a nod to C.S. Lewis’ pathway into Narnia.  He also shares how to find the people who can shape you in your pursuit and experience of Jesus. The key question John leaves us with is: “What has worked for you?”  Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction to John Eldredge and how he’s shaped us6:30 The beginning of John’s story to knowing Jesus7:34 The first wardrobe door11:47 John’s journey to

Welcome to season 4, where we spend each episode either honoring or talking to “The People Who Shape Us.”Make no mistake, we are who we spend time with — for better or worse. Whether it’s parents, mentors, friends, or extended family, we take time this season to let you in on the people who shape us, why connection is so difficult to find, and why we have to war for healthy relationships.  In this episode, we introduce season 4 talking about why healthy relationships seem so elusive, and what we have to do to find them.  Note: Registration for Cohort II of Tender & Fierce and The Field Experience ends soon. See show notes for details.Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction to Season 41:41 Registration for cohorts closing soon!2:38 Honoring how our parents shaped us6:17 The desire for connection and the lament of not having it10:23 Honoring the people who have shaped you15:30 Finding local people who shape us and we get to shape19:20 Exposing the lies of close relationships and how they develop24:38 How to war for h

What a bizarre encounter with our dental hygienist taught Josh about prayer, and why we cannot attune to both God and our kids at the same time—but the encouraging insight this offers us. This week’s episode offers lessons Josh and Christi are learning in their own spiritual journeys as parents, and a few behind the scenes happenings of what’s coming with Famous at Home.Registration for Cohort II of Tender & Fierce and The Field Experience ends soon. See show notes for details. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction1:10 Behind-the-scenes updates from Famous at Home5:15 Introduction to what’s happening in season 47:00 Josh’s lesson of the week 10:12 Christi’s lesson of the week Show Notes:  Men, registration for The Field Experience Cohort II is now open!Register here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/6fze43iaLadies, registration for Tender & Fierce Coaching Cohort II is now open! Register here:  https://www.famousathome.com/offers/9J9DwypnOrder a copy of the Famous at Home book to put your family center sta

Every individual is given gifts and talents, ways they can influence the lives of those around them for the better. Even more, every family is unique. The currencies you value as a family define how you live. What are your values? The currencies that shape your family? Is it time together? Certain hobbies or activities? Adventure? Or perhaps achievement? You may even find that the values you live by are not the values you want to be living by. That’s what the matrix does. It sucks us into living a burdened life. As we keep looking to move “Beyond the Matrix,” asking the question, “Why are we doing what we are as a family?” this episode is a conversation on vision, direction, and purpose. In other words, “What is your family’s uniqueness?” We start the episode with a humbling exercise and end it with the most purposeful and life-giving question of all, “How is our individual family uniquely designed to build for the Kingdom of God?” Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction to a joyful home1:38 An opening exercise for you

The fruit of modern-day parenting, statistically speaking, is an anxious generation. The Surgeon General even said as much of parents in an August 2024 “Advisory on the Mental Health and Wellbeing of Parents.”Why we’re trending in this direction is the focus this season of the podcast. In this episode, we cover another way to defy this cultural imposition by expanding joy capacity. What if “joy” became a metric for what defines your family, and for how you raise your kids? How would your life, and family, look different? As we keep looking to move “Beyond the Matrix,” asking the question, “Why are we doing what we are as a family?” this episode is a conversation on cultivating a joyful home.Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction to a joyful home3:55 New coaching cohorts open now5:23 What happens when we grow in joy12:35 How we grow in relational joy23:15 How joy capacity expands slowly over time 29:00 Responsibility, screens, and distractions  Show Notes: Men, registration for The Field Experience Cohort II is now ope

Is your life marked by celebration? Do you genuinely believe that everything you need for today, including enough time, is already given to you? Or do you end your day frustrated by what didn’t happen rather than celebrating what did? We’re in a series on the 5 shifts families long for, and in this episode we talk about why people are longing for more celebration in their everyday lives.As we keep looking to move “Beyond the Matrix,” asking the question, “Why are we doing what we are as a family?” this episode is a conversation on learning to celebrate the good.  Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction2:00 A conversation about dogs and living in our purpose7:35 Going beyond the matrix and living in our purpose9:05 Upcoming coaching cohorts and Famous at Home app11:10 Christi’s recent experience in Tender & Fierce14:15 A foundational understanding of what it means to celebrate the good20:25 Why we have trouble celebrating the good 25:32 Strategies for celebrating the good and shifting the atmosphere of your home37:4

We’re in a series on the 5 shifts families long for today and in this episode we talk about why people are longing for a more simple life. “We’re too busy,” or “There’s not enough time,” is the heart cry of many families today. Sadly, there’s also a ripple effect of the stress we feel as parents that gets passed onto our children. Our kids feel the busyness. As we keep looking to move “Beyond the Matrix,” asking the question, “Why are we doing what we are as a family?” this episode is a conversation on the return to simplicity.Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction3:00 The number one greatest parenting struggle today5:35 The two ways we view “time” and how it influences how we live9:00 The contemporary ways we fill our “margins”11:24 What is the filter for how you make decisions?15:28 Practical ways to simplify23:03 Trying new life-giving practices in seasons Show Notes:  Order a copy of the Famous at Home book to put your family center stage. Click here: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz Men, interested in The Field Experienc

Do you live in a perpetual state of rest with exhausted moments, or do you find yourself living in a perpetual state of exhaustion with restful moments?  In Season 3, we’re looking to move “Beyond the Matrix,” asking the hard questions about how we lead our families. Unfortunately, for many families, a chorus of words seem to ring out of what people today long for, but can’t seem to attain. The word we cover today is “rest.”This episode is the first of 5 familial shifts we’ll be talking about as we continue to ask the question: “Why are we doing what we are as families?”  Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction1:30 Living in survival mode versus longing for more7:25 What it means to live in “restedness”12:48 How exhaustion keeps us in a state of delayed joy17:55 Internally moving to a base line of rest26:22 Breaking through exhaustion in your marriage28:08 How to give your exhaustion to God in prayer29:47 The Genesis 1 paradigm for living in daily and weekly rest33:08 Practices for a state of restedness Show Notes:  Me

There have been some major societal, socioeconomic, cultural, and technological shifts over the past 150 years that have changed not just family structure, but who our children are becoming. In this episode, we ask the question: Is what culture is giving us right now beneficial for our family? In Season 3, we’re looking to move “Beyond the Matrix,” asking the hard questions about how we lead our families. In episode 2, Josh takes a 30,000 foot view of the changes throughout the last 150 years in the Western world and the corresponding changes in family structure and child outcomes. For example, he talks about the generational trend from resourceful to entitled to anxious, and the societal factors at play.Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction3:00 The top regrets people have at the end of their lives4:45 What our children pick up from us in modern Western world8:28 Family structure changes over last 150 years12:08 How socioeconomic changes impacted the family over last 150 years16:17 Changes in how we view children in