Living Fully Alive

On this episode, join Mary, and her very special guest and boyfriend, Bentley Caldwell, as they take a deep dive into the journey of transition from an old self into a future self. How many of us have found ourselves stuck? Stuck in careers we dread showing up for everyday. Stuck in relationships that are holding us back and bringing us down. Stuck in situations that stopped being life giving a long time ago… but we don’t know how to move on. Where do you even start? At the very beginning. Sometimes we need to pause, strip everything away, and remember what brings us joy. In order to construct the life we really desire, we often have to walk away from our current situation before we even begin walking towards a new life.When we do this we create the space to remember and pursue the things our soul needs to truly feel fulfilled and connected to our purpose.  ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS... -Knowing when it’s time to walk away -Why evolution is the key to happiness -How the pursuit of joy is the only thing

On this episode, join Mary as she kicks off this month’s topic of Necessary Endings. The beginning of Fall is the perfect time for us to dig into this topic. Everything going on in the world right now, and for many of us even our personal lives, seem to be mimicking exactly what we are seeing in nature. We are in a season of letting things die in order to make space for something new. Something better. When we allow a release,  enter into the flow, face the things we are ready to let go of, and we put down the heavy things we will experience massive relief. In order to move forward and live our lives fully alive we have to routinely pause and reevaluate what we are choosing to carry and what we might need to end. The thought of endings can bring so much fear and anxiety. But endings are necessary. In order to grow internally and to live aligned lives we have to begin to recognize when it is time to let go. The longer we hold onto things that we need to let go of, the more suffering we will experience. When we

On this episode, join Mary as she wraps up this month’s topic of Soul Rest. What does it mean when we need something more than just need physical rest? What happens when it is deeper than that? When our actual soul needs rest. When we are feeling weary, how do we begin to feel alive again? After a year like this, so many people are needing something deeper. We are being bombarded with conflict and contrary information. We have faced situations and circumstances that none of us have had to navigate before. Many of us have had to change directions in our work and family life. Even in our spiritual and self development we may find ourselves striving to check off boxes and do things perfectly. We need to be actively finding ways to carve out space to give our soul deep meaningful rest. We need to be practicing grace with ourselves, allowing ourselves to receive, and releasing perfection. It is time to practice allowing our souls to lead, and putting our ego aside.    ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS... -The warnin

On this episode, join Mary and her very special guest Melody Miles. Melody is the emerging millennial leader on rest, self-care, and creating space in life for your soul to breathe. Formerly an international expert at the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, she managed millions of dollars and helped launch the global campaign to eradicate malaria. After working in 25 African countries by the age of 30, she found herself hyperventilating through a panic attack, confused why she felt so stressed, exhausted, and unhappy inside the life she always thought she wanted. After quitting her dream job, selling her belongings, and traveling solo around the world, Melody founded Soulcation, a company that helps fellow hustlers, perfectionists, and world-changers develop regular self-care routines that revive the soul. In addition to sitting on nonprofit boards and working as an internationally sought-after consultant, Melody is preparing for the release of her book, Soulcation: Living a Life You Don’t Need a Vacation Fr

On this episode, join Mary and part time co-host Lindsley Brooks, as they explore a new way of approaching our lives that includes rest. Sadly, we live in a culture that glorifies and rewards “the hustle.” And workaholism is a socially acceptable form of addiction. It is often rewarded with success, money, status, and acknowledgement. But when we cross the line from just being someone who works hard, to straight hustlin’, the rest of our life begins to suffer. Eventually our physical, mental, and emotional health starts to deteriorate. And the relationships with our loved ones become strained. This is our wake up call. It’s vital that we begin to add in new rhythms of rest into our daily lives to create a little more balance. And finally, we must learn to disconnect our sense of self worth from our level of productivity, and create space and opportunity for more peace, more pleasure, and more nourishment. ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS... -Our cultural addiction to work  -Socially acceptable burnout  -Why

On this episode, join Mary as she kicks off this month’s theme of Soul Rest. As we move through the next few months, the election, the holidays, whatever else 2020 wants to throw at us… we need to pause, replenish, recharge, and regroup. Most of us have spent much of this year in fight or flight. And now that state of survival has become normal. All of this is having an effect on our physical bodies. We need rest. We need to create space to give our bodies the opportunity to come out of that state of defense where our nervous system is over functioning. We need a serious pause in order to be able to take on the rest of this year. Our bodies are talking to us and we have got to listen. We are in a marathon, and this is the time for rest and recovery. In order to provide for ourselves, our families, and to pursue the things we are called to, we can not afford to not rest. We need to plan and prioritize our rest so we can take on the rest of this year from a place that is more stable, more empowered, and more fo

On this episode, join Mary as she wraps up this month’s theme of Aligned Routine. If you have spent this month considering creating an aligned routine for yourself but there is still some hesitation this episode is for you! In the past have you set goals but haven’t followed through? Maybe you’ve tried a morning routine but after a couple of days you just quit. Or have you made a commitment to a drastic life change but didn’t end up with the results you had hoped for… Whatever the case might be, maybe it’s time to challenge the way you’re  looking at things. How do we get into action and make it happen? The answer to that question is Self Integrity. It’s hard to create change when we don’t trust ourselves to be consistent. The more you honor your own word to yourself, the easier it will become to create lasting change. This starts by making small realistic commitments to yourself and keeping them. Commitments that don’t feel overwhelming but that feel life giving. Commitments that will set you up for success

On this episode, join Mary and special guest Jimmy Jean as they take a fresh look on what it takes to create a new kind of spiritual discipline. Jimmy Jean is a certified life purpose coach who is passionate about helping others discover the unique reason they were put on this earth. He is the owner of his own coaching company based in New York and New Jersey. He is also a motivational speaker for schools, nonprofit organizations and corporate companies. Jimmy is a writer who has lent his expertise in personal development to various publications, as well as his "The Road to Purpose" monthly newsletter. He is currently working on his first book, which will be released in early 2021. Jimmy truly embodies his mission of serving, leading and equipping others to become the best version of themselves.   ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS... -Divorcing spiritual discipline from morality  -Living from a place of grace in all that we do -Why we need spiritual discipline more than ever   -Why spiritual disciple shouldn’t

On this episode, join Mary and Lindsley as they talk about how your personality is key to creating a sustainable aligned routine. This episode is one giant permission slip to be yourself. When thinking about the kind of routine you would like to create you should start by considering how you are wired. When you do this and build a routine based on it, you are setting yourself up for success. We do not have to work against our nature. The more we can give ourselves permission to be in our natural state the more we can create a routine that is catered to our needs, desire, and nature. We don’t have to look to someone else to create a successful routine. We already have everything we need inside of us.  ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS... -How your Enneagram number can inform your routine -The basics of your specific Chronotypes -How following others advice about routine may be setting you up for failure  -Societal preferences and personality types  -How Mary and Lindsley’s types show up in their routine -How to

On this episode, join Mary as she introduces this month’s topic of Aligned Routine. Last week we wrapped up our topic of Manifestation and dove deep into what it looks like to step into action and take responsibility for our part in creating our future. But what happens when we meet resistance? When we find ourselves in a place of shoulds, have to’s, rules... and we are just sick of having to have a routine? Maybe routine hasn’t come naturally to you in the past. Or maybe you have negative experiences attached to discipline and routine. This is true for so many people! But why? We live in a culture where we look to other people and what they are doing for a way to model what we need to do. But someone else’s routine will never feel natural or flow with your life. We need to discover how to create a routine that works for us personally and aligns with our life.    ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS... -Why we respond negatively to discipline  -Why we self sabotage when we attempt to create routine  -Why doing wha

On this episode, join Mary as she wraps up this month's theme of Manifestation by sharing how we practically can begin to live lives where we are manifesting consistently. We often believe that our external life affects our internal state, but in reality our external state is a mirror to what is happening internally. Mary explains how you can begin to reference your imagined future to proactively create your future self and future life. How would you feel if your desired reality was real? Then practice feeling that. How would you act if your desired reality was your reality? Then act in that way. How would you carry yourself if your desired reality was your reality? Then carry yourself that way… This new way of being creates a subconscious roadmap to assist you in creating your new reality. And as you partner with your co-creator, your life beings to shift. ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS... -How B.E.A.R. (Acronym) is the model for manifestation  -How our reality moves from the inside out -Why we must break

On this episode, join Mary and her executive assistant, Liz Eskridge, as they talk about the roll privilege plays in manifesting. For those of us born with privilege there can be several pitfalls to overcome when manifesting the life we want. How much more so that is true when you aren’t born into privilege. When the challenges we face daily are heavy and overwhelming it can be seemingly impossible to even allow yourself the space to dream of things being different or to have hope for a new or better future. What responsibility do those of us with privilege have to our neighbors who don’t share that privilege? What if we can play a part in helping to build and manifest together? What if we all used the gifts, talents, and resources we have available to us to help not only manifest the lives we desire to live but also use what we have to help our neighbors do the same.    ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS... -The pitfalls we all face when trying to manifest   -How we can co-create not only with the universe but

On this episode, join Mary and special guest Jen Mazer as they talk about how to become a natural manifester. Jen is the “Queen of Manifestation.” She’s always been able to dream up outrageous adventures and actually live them out—from rubbing elbows at a small private cocktail party hosted by Martin Scorsese, to living rent-free in the East Village of Manhattan for 10 years, to paying off over $38,000 of debt in less than a year, having her artwork published in the New York Times, traveling the world, meeting the man of her dreams (a successful rock star), giving birth at home to a beautiful daughter, and starting a green school in Africa. Jen is a sought-after transformational speaker and coach. She teaches people how to manifest their biggest dreams while making an impact on the world. She is known for her signature Manifestation Masters Program and Private Success Coaching.  ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS... -How we overcomplicate manifesting  -How our imagination is linked to our intuition  -Receiving t

On this episode, join Mary as she dives into this month's topic of manifestation. When we are connected to the highest source of LOVE and aligned with our highest selves, we can truly manifest whatever we want. But on the contrary when we are stuck in old beliefs, anxieties, and fears we block the very things we desire. We are creative beings and have the amazing gift to be co-creators in our lives. We can choose to have an active role in creating our reality. We do not have to stand by helplessly feeling like nothing we do matters. Our intentions create our realities. When we pair what we want to create with purpose, service and consistent focus - we become unstoppable manifestors. Tune in to this foundational first episode of the month to learn Mary’s 5 Step Process to Manifestation.   ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS... -What it means to be a co-creator  -How the universe works and your part in it -How your thoughts and intentions create your reality -How being in autopilot is keeping us stuck -The importan

On this episode, join Mary and special guest Dominique Gabrielle Braden as they discuss the role attachment styles play in our relationships. Dominique has had the privilege of working in a variety of therapeutic settings. She has held positions with qualifications in marriage and family therapy, behavior Intervention, community mental health, and family focused therapy . She provides behavior focused support and systemic treatment to families and individuals, in a variety of community settings. Her specialties foster the treatment of complex attachment issues. She adapts Attachment Focused Therapy and Experiential Therapy, to instill insight and tools to foster healing and freedom. Her practice primarily focuses on complex men's issues and women's issues that promote healing of relational, and transnational wounds that are experienced by all walks of life.     ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS... -What attachment theory is -How to identify the signs of each of the 3 main attachment styles  -How your attachment

On this episode, join Mary and special guest Kathryn Ely as they discuss keys to healthy long lasting relationships. Kathryn is a former lawyer and stay-at-home mom. As her children transitioned out of the house she knew she wanted to pursue something different for her next season of life. She went back to school and earned her Masters Degree in Clinical Mental Health. She has a counseling and coaching practice in Birmingham, AL. She specializes in helping women discover their next purpose and the actions necessary to achieve their fulfilling next chapter. Listen as Kathryn shares the wisdom she has gained as a therapist and from her own 26 year marriage about how we can have relationships that change, evolve, and stand the test of time.    ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS... -Why some relationships last and others don’t  -How to move from apathy to connection in your relationship  -Why expectations are a recipe for resentment  -Setting firm boundaries to keep your relationship feeling safe  -Tips to weather w

On this episode, join Mary and Lindsley as they discuss their adventures in dating! Last week we talked about how to have intimacy with yourself first and then how to show up as your true self in order to create healthy connections. But what about dating? How many of us have bounced from relationship to relationship, seeing the same patterns showing up every time, and wondering how do we stop this? We are in a culture obsessed with dating. The thought of being alone for many is our worst fear. We find ourselves constantly looking for someone to fill a void and make us happy, only to be disappointed over and over again. Often times we are attracting exactly what we are. Two half people coming into a relationship won’t make a whole. Having to heal alongside someone else is much harder than healing alone. We will attract healthy partners when we do the work to get healthy ourselves.   ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS... -How to enter into a relationship from a conscious and mindful place.  -The fear that we will

On this episode, join Mary as she kicks off this month’s topic of RELATIONSHIPS. When you don’t bring your full self into a relationship it can often lead to major issues. We can’t talk about intimacy, conflict, desires, or longing until we address how we are personally showing up. We have to learn how to bring our total and full self into our romantic relationship. When we feel like we have to edit parts of ourselves in order to be loved, we’ll never feel known or truly seen. So if we want true connection and intimacy, we have to be willing to take the mask off. To show up as our true selves and bring everything to the table. Not just the “good parts.” But the broken parts. The parts that need healing. The parts that don’t feel pretty. There is no intimacy without authenticity. And the more we know ourselves, the deeper we can connect with others and have a fulfilling relationship. It starts with SELF.   ON THIS EPISODE, MARY COVERS… -How the lack of intimacy to ourself will cost us everything -How we put on

On this episode, join Mary as she takes this topic of body love one step further. When we come into this world we don’t have a concept of what a good body is and what a bad body is. But somewhere along the way we all have a defining moment that begins to change the way we see and judge our bodies. Maybe it came from our family of origin, our friends, or the media. But wherever it came from, someone told us that our bodies weren't good enough.  It is crucial in the process of beginning to cultivate body love that we identify this moment. When we don’t understand our own history, we have no power to update our story or decide if we want to believe the lies we were taught when we were younger. We never get the opportunity to challenge them. When we look at where our body shame originates we finally see that we aren’t broken after all. And the we have the power to change how we see ourselves.   ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL TALK ABOUT… -How to identify your originating body shaming story  -The moment Mary believed her

On this episode, join Mary and her cohost Lindsley Brooks as they talk candidly about our most intimate relationship… the one we have with our own body. Mary and Lindsley share their journey through weight gain and emotional eating and offer ways to make peace with our ever changing bodies. Often when we have worked hard to cultivate love for our bodies it can bring on a lot of shame when our bodies "backslide" and the unconditional love goes into question. But it isn’t about never getting triggered, or never feeling anything but love for our bodies. It is about how quickly we can move back into love when we start to slip into negative self talk. Because our body is an amazing barometer that helps to illuminate what we are really longing for and needing. Allowing your body to speak to you is the greatest way to wake up to your life. ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL TALK ABOUT… -Quarantine’s effect on our bodies and the “Quarantine 15” -How you’re in intimate relationship with your body -Why it’s normal for our bodies