Cupid's Coach With Julie Ferman

What does it take to produce a singles / dating / flirting party today? What connecting with people looks like today, why it's so hard, and how to master the art of meeting and sticking with people. 

Most people who think they should hire a matchmaker actually... shouldn't. Find out why and determine for yourself if you're a good candidate for THIS matchmaker, or for ANY matchmaker. The qualifications might surprise you.

Fabulous people have full lives. Tips here on how to create windows for a new person in your jam packed schedule. Dating / connection opportunities in your daily commute. How to manage your Fussy Factor over your diet, working with frugality and crafting solutions for caring for your kids, your pets and even your elders, to creatively invent new space in your life for dating and a new relationship.

Alison Armstrong is my guest, on the 100th episode of the Cupid's Coach Podcast! Listen in to discover how to transcend Instinct to make far better choices. What qualities do commitment-minded men need in order to invite a woman into his life? What is it to bring courageous, authentic communication to the dating process? And how has dating been going for HER, after having lost her dear husband? 

Disciplining ourselves to see the opportunities in our "problems", recognizing that having a relationship (with a human or an animal) is trading a headache for a stomach ache - acknowledging the power we have to choose how to frame life's happenings. Happiness chemicals - how to create them consistently for ourselves, through disciplined, consistent practices.   

Curiosity is the antidote to boredom. If you've been bored (or boring) on your early dates or in your relationships, uh oh.... that's on you. Develop your arsenal of deep dive, under the surface questions and topics that you can and maybe should be incorporating into your dating game. And my pick for the best "How We Met" story!

Do you focus more on what you DON'T want, than what you love and appreciate? Are you a "Human No Machine" , guarding yourself with your obscenely long Must Have List?  And do you have the courage to look your "bad habits" squarely in the eye and step into a new, healthier, happier version of yourself? 

There's no shortage of truly GOOD men out there. The real issue might be whether you are ready for a true blue, rock solid, partnership-oriented man -- or maybe not so much. Find out why a bunch of ladies missed meeting my awesome gentleman client, Sean, and why one super smart woman gets to keep him and experience family life together. 

Setting yourself up for success in your dating life. Join me as we create your action plan for finding "your person" this year. How one smart 44 year old managed dating and is now married with a baby on the way. Creative first dates, out of the ordinary Zoom dates, and why it's great to have a posse of single pals.  Is this your year to find Your Person?  

Meet my guest, Chuck Tyler, author and teacher of meditation and yoga, as he shares his transformational journey through recovery from childhood sexual abuse. Gaining power over our thoughts through meditation and yoga is instrumental in moving through addiction and trauma, and why comedy improv is therapeutic.   

Assessing  2021's dating adventures, let's mine for gold in your calendar. How to make lemonade with a Close But No Cigar gathering. Why your "crazy busy" calendar is saying to your romantic hopefuls, and how to make yourself more accessible and more bookable for dates with potential candidates. Over-sharing - how to stop doing it and how to save someone who's doing it. And how to spin a "bad date" into a mutual WIN!

Are you dating for only ONE reason, to find Your Person? If so, uh oh, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Listen in as we shine light on the Boobie Prizes that are everywhere along your dating journey. Expanding your capacity to communicate compassionately, to hold your space, to contribute and to embrace contribution from another imperfect person. And when it's time to evolve beyond ageism. 

The more specific your criteria...the broader your reach needs to be.  Expand your radius, qualify and nurture your candidates and suitors, book the flight or get in the car and drive to meet your most interesting prospects. You go the extra mile. Plus, why First Responders are truly hot!

In the hot seat today is Marty Kupper, co-founder of Surprise Date Challenge for individuals and couples. How to create and enhance connection, romance and fun in ALL of our personal relationships. How planning surprise dates will thoroughly transform your experience of dating and relating. 

Are you "red flagging" too much? Is it OK to have a Friend with Benefits? What about the dog in the bed? She voted for WHO? Have you barricaded yourself behind so many red flags that no one can get to you? Do you really want another person in your life? Let's get real about that.

Are you setting yourself up for failure in dating because you're seeing an unnatural match, someone who isn't seeking you? Why you should pay particular attention to the Maybes.

Adam Gilad shares his invitation, to join us for the upcoming Kyyndr Summit. I want ALL of my peeps with me at this miraculous, thoroughly innovative online event -- an opportunity to engage with, learn from and learn with thousands of other single men and women who are enthused about the notion of doing dating well, with love, care, compassion, openness and courage.   www.kyyndr.com/ferman

Why are Caroline and David still single, after years and years of dating, while Blake and Kathy find themselves entwined in a surprising new love affair? How two perfectly imperfect humans can create beautiful love together.

Do you have Dating ADHD? How to best utilize your tech tools: your dating apps and online dating memberships. Managing your inner psycho by building your dating funnel. What fears are driving you to sort out those who are different than you are?  Doing your part to maximize each of  your opportunities with likely candidates...while staying open to surprises!

When things go awry in dating, is it because that "loser" was misbehaving...or merely clueless? When it's you who's got the blind spot, when it's you who made the unfortunate choice, were you misbehaving or were you clueless? What do we call the person who's misbehaving AND clueless?  There's a word for that too....