Cupid's Coach With Julie Ferman

Why is emotional intelligence (EQ) the #1 quality modern women are looking for in a partner? In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with fabulous dating and relationship coach Chris Gillis. Known for his deep understanding of human consciousness and "emotional fluency," Chris explains how men can move past "spreadsheet logic" to create real, lasting chemistry.Julie and Chris explore the "empathy loop" and why acknowledging feelings must always come before trying to fix problems. Whether you're a "nice guy" struggling to get a second date or a high-achieving professional looking to deepen your connections, this conversation provides the tools to shift from performing to actually being seen.Inside this Episode:Spreadsheets vs. Soul: Why treating a woman like a problem to be solved kills chemistry and how to prioritize empathy instead.The Empathy Loop: Mastering the art of vulnerable disclosure and responding with validation.Childhood "Cheat Codes": Using early memories to bypa

Is online dating leaving you feeling more disconnected than ever? In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman welcomes the ultimate people connector of Santa Fe, Maggie Lamb. As the founder of Local Singles, Maggie has built a thriving community of nearly 2,000 members dedicated to face-to-face interaction, networking, and authentic romance.Julie and Maggie dive into why building a local social circle is essential for your emotional health and how to navigate the transition from "married" to "single" with a growth mindset. Whether you live in New Mexico or are just visiting, this episode reveals the magic that happens when you step out of your comfort zone and open your heart to new possibilities.Inside this Episode:The "Tiny Town" Advantage: Why meeting singles in person is the best way to bypass the superficiality of dating apps.12 Connections in 1.5 Hours: A look at Maggie’s unique, structured small-group socials that foster deep, meaningful conversation.The "Revolving Door" Myth: Why s

Are you living in "boy psychology" or stepping into your true strength as a man? In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with coach, entrepreneur, and author Mike Raboor to discuss his direct approach to mindset, discipline, and accountability.Mike dives deep into the concepts from his new book, "Man Up," exploring why modern culture often promotes weakness through a "dopamine economy" of immediate comfort. He shares his personal journey from a multimillionaire lifestyle of external validation to finding true internal peace through "self-applied suffering" and radical responsibility.Inside this Episode:• The "Disciplined Savage": Understanding when to embrace your inner strength and how to tame it with honor and respect.• Radical Responsibility: Why "manning up" means taking ownership of every area of your life.• Breaking the Comfort Addiction: The power of a 4:00 AM protocol, cold plunges, and morning rituals to reprogram your brain.• Boy vs. Man Psychology: Why a man produc

Dating Outside Your "Type" with Jennie Agin Are you stuck in a cycle of "one-date wonders"? This week on the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with Jennie Agin, founder of Storyful Matchmaking, to reveal why your "type" might be exactly what's keeping you single.Discover how to reinvent your dating rules through the power of activity-based dates—from character-revealing board games to nature-focused "Adventure Rabbi" retreats. We dive into the art of the second date, sitting with the discomfort of first meetings, and finding "vicarious joy" in small moments.Key Takeaways:* Dating Outside Your Type: Why moving past surface-level preferences leads to deeper connection.* Low-Pressure Dates: How activities like board games serve as the ultimate character test.* Nailing the Second Date: Practical tips for women to suggest options while staying in their feminine energy.* Smart, Soulful Connection: Navigating the "tender" early stages of dating with open-mindedness.Connect with Jenny Agan: Visit Sto

New Year, New Intentions: Doing More of What You LoveHappy New Year, everyone! It’s the beginning of 2026, and as we look ahead, I have a big question for you: What is it that you really love to do that you just haven’t been doing enough of lately? In this episode, I’m inviting you to join me on a mission to bring more joy, simplicity, and open space into your life. We talk about why we often fill our calendars until there’s no room left for ourselves, and why I’ve started scheduling everything from my naps to walks with my husband and dog.We also dive deep into the habits that build happy, lasting relationships. I share some powerful research from John Gottman about celebrating wins and expressing gratitude , and I tackle a phrase I hear way too often: "I don't want to be a nurse or a purse." I’ll tell you exactly why that mindset might be the very thing keeping you single and how to shift toward a more generous, giving heart.In this episode, we’ll explore:The Blessing of Simplicity: How I’m using AI to

2026 Dating Trends with the "Digital Matchmaker"Are you ready to "outsmart Cupid" in 2026? In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with a true industry rockstar: Julie Spira, America’s top online dating expert and founder of Cyber Dating Expert. With four decades of digital innovation and media experience, Julie Spira has watched every major trend shift—from the dial-up days of AOL to the AI-driven world of today.The two Julies dive into Spira's latest feature article, "Dating Trends to Expect in 2026," which outlines why singles are now demanding clarity, consistency, and emotional substance over surface-level thrills. Whether you are navigating a "gray divorce," re-entering the dating world after being widowed, or curious about the new role of AI, this episode is a masterclass in modern romance.Inside this Episode:* The 2026 Recalibration: Why "emotional safety" is replacing high-octane chemistry and performative "love bombing".* Gray Divorce as a Gateway: Viewing a late-li

Doing Dating Better with the "Profile Helper"Are you feeling burnt out by the "dopamine slot machine" of modern dating apps? In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach podcast, veteran matchmaker Julie Furman sits down with the "OG" of online dating, Eric Resnick of Profile Helper. With over 40 years of combined experience, they share a candid look at how to navigate the digital dating world without losing your mind—or your heart—to the wrong people.Julie and Eric dive into the shift from traditional sites to social discovery apps, the truth about "unnatural matches," and why your profile should never feel like a sales pitch. Whether you're recently divorced, widowed, or just frustrated with swiping, this episode provides the "training wheels" you need to transition from "me" to "we".Key Takeaways:* Dating App Evolution: Understanding the "sweet spot" between traditional apps and casual swiping. * The "First Week" Rule: Why you should aim to meet in person or via video within 3 to 7 days to avoid "dying on the

How do you find true compatibility in dating — especially later in life?In this episode, Julie Ferman chats with Ann, founder of After Hello, about navigating age gaps, attraction expectations, lifestyle differences, and emotional intelligence in matchmaking.Key takeaways:* Why fantasy dating can set you up for frustration* How to assess compatibility beyond surface-level checklists* Managing power dynamics and expectations around money* Using phone calls and virtual dates to streamline connections* Insights from Anne’s own love story and client experiencesDating later in life is about connection, alignment, and flexibility — not just chemistry.

Is the label, "Narcissist" misused and overused? Yes. Let's clear things up. Julie shares colleague Marina Edelman's short list on what narcissism REALLY is, how to spot it, and why you should run the other way.

Tim Molnar, Dating Coach/author of Date Smarter, uses research-backed strategies and social science insights to evolve the dating landscape. How developing the art of social magnetism and saying YES to IRL events is .... dating smarter. 

Authenticity is the new Sexy. Bob C. Grant, Relationship Coach, shares how feelings are different for men than women. What's the magic that women bring to men's lives? A woman's success and strength - is it intimidating to men, or maybe just annoying? What does support look like, and the power of the slow burn approach to sex. 

Fractured Family Relationships? Often considered a red flag in dating - Josh Coleman, Ph.D., author of "Rules of Estrangement" addresses the issue from a personal and therapeutic perspective. When values clash among family members, can we agree to disagree? Are there underlying issues at play, and what might we do ?

What 104 Dates Taught Her About Love | Heidi Friedman on The Cupid’s Coach PodcastWhat does it really take to find lasting love in today’s world?In this inspiring episode, Julie Ferman talks with Heidi Friedman, an attorney turned author, who documented her journey through 104 first dates on the road to true love.Heidi shares how heartbreak, patience, and a commitment to personal growth helped her discover what really matters in relationships — from emotional safety and mutual support to finding someone who helps you become your best self.You’ll Learn:• How to stay hopeful and confident while dating• Why “practice dates” can be your best teachers• The key qualities that make love last• How to move past perfectionism and open your heart to real connectionWhether you’re single, divorced, or just curious about modern love — this episode will give you fresh insight and hope for your own journey.#JulieFerman #CupidsCoachPodcast #HeidiFriedman #LoveLessons104Dates #ModernDating #RelationshipAdvice #DatingAfterDivor

In this episode, Julie Ferman sits down with author and trailblazer Misty O’Hara to explore what it really means to live — and love — authentically. From overcoming judgment to embracing polyamory and writing The Hundred Man Plan, Misty shares her personal evolution and the courage it takes to live outside the box.Together, they unpack ideas from Brené Brown’s “Atlas of the Heart,” touching on comparison, resentment, and the power of belonging. This conversation is an invitation to honor who you truly are — in love, in life, and in every connection you make.Watch to learn:* How to deal with resentment and comparison* The real difference between envy and jealousy* Why belonging starts with being yourself* How Misty found confidence and joy in her unconventional love storyListen, reflect, and rediscover your own definition of love and freedom.#JulieFerman #DatingPodcast #TheHundredManPlan #AuthenticLove #SelfDiscovery #ModernRelationships #BreneBrown #AtlasOfTheHeart #Polyamory #Belonging #RelationshipAdvice #E

Why are so many successful, capable women still struggling in love? Julie Ferman sits down with Natalia Hart, transformational coach for strong women, to unpack the hidden patterns that keep high-achieving women from finding lasting connection.Together they explore: * The deeper reasons accomplished women get “stuck” in dating * Healing from role models and cultural messages that distort femininity * Balancing power with openness — and learning to receive love * How to embody confidence and softness without losing yourselfThis episode is a beautiful reminder that strength and vulnerability can coexist — and that love often begins with reclaiming your feminine power.#JulieFerman #NataliaHart #DatingAdvice #ConsciousDating #StrongWomen #ModernLove #FeminineEnergy #HealthyRelationships #MindfulDating #DatingCoach #RelationshipWisdom

In this episode, Julie Ferman invites you to look deeper — beyond surface attraction, resumes, or “types.” It’s about digging for gold in dating: noticing the qualities that truly matter, the subtle green flags, and the small acts of integrity that reveal real potential.Julie shares practical ways to shift from judging to discovering — so you can spot the keepers and stop overlooking great partners.Whether you’re dating online, in real life, or somewhere in between, this episode will remind you what genuine connection really looks like.Listen in and start finding the gold that’s been right in front of you.#JulieFerman #DatingAdvice #ConsciousDating #ModernLove #HealthyRelationships #MindfulDating #DatingCoach #RelationshipTips #LoveWithIntention #DatingJourney

The Bright Spot in the Waiting Room: Host Julie Ferman shares a powerful story of a client who decided to be the "bright spot" in a difficult setting, choosing to connect with people instead of staring ahead or reading a book. By simply starting a conversation with a stranger, they arranged to keep going at the same time, ensuring neither of them would be so alone. It's a powerful reminder that connection is possible, even in the hardest places.

Who's getting it? Stories of real people who are transforming the way they're doing dating, with remarkable observations and surprising results. Volunteer work, expanding geographic radius

The Art of Conversation in Dating | Julie Ferman with Sarah HoltzConversation is one of the most powerful tools we have in dating and relationships — yet most of us aren’t very good at it.In this episode, Julie Ferman sits down with Sarah Holtz, author, mentor, and host of Advice to My Younger Me, to explore how asking the right questions can transform connection.They discuss:- How to avoid "ping pong" conversations- Transactional vs. connection-building questions- How men and women approach questions differently in dating- 7 tips for asking questions that create deeper bonds- First date questions that reveal what really matters — without feeling intrusive Watch now, and start asking better questions.

Miriam Katz: Host of The Ex Appeal Podcast, who's interviewing EVERYONE she ever dated. What is she learning as she interviews 111 former flames, including her 6th grade boyfriend, and the Orthodox Rabbi - she dated that guy too!