I Said What I Said - Podcast

TRIGGER WARNING: suicide is mentionedIn this episode we discuss happiness: is it a practical pursuit or a futile illusion? Are white people the happiest race, is the internet a portal to freedom or unhappiness and does love keep score? karma: it is NOT punishment, karma is Newtons 3rd Law: for every action there is a reaction, it is circumstance as a result of action, totally void of value judgement like good and badCome chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/SOCIALSGUEST Bobo: instagram.com/bobo.matjilaMukundwa: 
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In this episode we discuss managing internal noise and our experience with psychics and hypnotherapyCome chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/SOCIALSMukundwa:instagram.com/mukundwa_Youtube: tinyurl.com/y4x7klh4twitter.com/mukundwa_Nyakwww.instagram.com/nyakwez Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Bobos Void & FlexMami (Lillian Ahenkan) of 'Bobo & Flex' join us to discuss the nuances around self-publishing and elevating ourselves on social media: what is the benefit and cost of clout? Do we want people’s truths or people’s performances? And does social media reward authenticity? Come chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/ SOCIALS Mukundwa: instagram.com/mukundwa_ Youtube: tinyurl.com/y4x7klh4 twitter.com/mukundwa_ Nyak (Co Host) www.instagram.com/nyakwezi/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your friendship dilemmas answered! Are you a disposable friend? Is it sustainable to be attracted to your friends? And do you position yourself as a saviour?GUEST: www.instagram.com/tloukieCome chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/SOCIALSMukundwa:instagram.com/mukundwa_Youtube: tinyurl.com/y4x7klh4twitter.com/mukundwa_Nyak (Co Host)www.instagram.com/nyakwezi/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this chatty episode Mukundwa and Nyak pick your topic suggestions from a hat and give their off-the-cuff opinionsPLEASE DM Mukundwa to feedback about this episode format! Do you prefer structured episodes nucleating around one theme, or did you like this casual chat format?Come chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/SOCIALSMukundwa:instagram.com/mukundwa_Youtube: tinyurl.com/y4x7klh4twitter.com/mukundwa_Nyakwww.instagram.com/nyakwezi Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Transactional relationships have become increasingly mainstream: in this episode we discuss putting the “work” back into sex work. Popularised online as a get-rich-quick stint and an "elevated boyfriend experience", what are we missing about the physical and emotional labour required? What are the occupational hazards of being a sugar baby/blessee?We are joined by B to discuss her experiences with transactional relationshipsCome chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/SOCIALSGUEST: B - https://twitter.com/vumani_boBook mentioned: Clementine Ford - Boys Will Be BoysEvent Hosted by B: "Surviving Capitalism" 6:15pm on 31.10.2019, Brookyln Exclusive Books, PretoriaMukundwa:instagram.com/mukundwa_Youtube: tinyurl.com/y4x7klh4twitter.com/mukundwa_Nyakwww.instagram.com/nyakwezi Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you going through an existential crisis? Welcome to the party! We discuss the discomfort of personal growth, relinquishing control during this process and how to pay attention to patterns. Is the luck or misfortune in your life a ~sign~ or incidental?Come chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/SOCIALSGUEST: Bonolo - www.facebook.com/maungocraftjam/Mukundwa:instagram.com/mukundwa_Youtube: tinyurl.com/y4x7klh4twitter.com/mukundwa_Nyakwww.instagram.com/nyakweziShow less Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens if you aren't particularly excellent at anything? In this episode award winning entrepreneur and friend Bonolo joins us to discuss money, career and freelancing. Is freelancing for the mediocre? How does conviction around career and the law of attraction interface with reality?Come chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/SOCIALSGUEST: Bonolo - https://www.facebook.com/maungocraftjam/Mukundwa: instagram.com/mukundwa_ Youtube: tinyurl.com/y4x7klh4twitter.com/mukundwa_

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Is it possible to reclaim the word ugly? We discuss:Curating spaces that affirm you, Dress Sense as an art form: intrigue over appeal, Body Positivity vs. Body Neutrality and Reclaiming vs. Rejecting the term 'ugly'.Please note some names bleeped out due to inaccurate informationCome chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/MENTIONS+RESOURCESThe Beauty Myth - Naomi Wolf@flex.mamihttps://www.manrepeller.com/2014/04/why-i-dont-wear-makeup.html"How To Be Ugly And Confident" - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZyJw5C5JRWYStyle inspo on instagram: Check out Mukundwa's IG highlight "fashion"SOCIALS

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In this episode we discuss framing singleness as a state of abundance rather than a state of limbo, lack and waiting. How can we use this time to get to know ourselves and our desires? We look at how serial dating can lead to betrayal of self, and how spending time alone can help us divest from the male gaze. Also, did Westlife singlehandedly ruin our romantic lives before they began?Come chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/Instagram

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In this episode we unpack the fallout of trigger warnings and double standards in online communication. And more pressingly, should Bums be allowed on Mars?Come chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/MENTIONSJameela Jamil - https://twitter.com/jameelajamilNichiren BuddhismDiscipline and Punish by Michel FoucaultDOWNLOAD 
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Ever police your boundaries so hard that you end up isolating yourself? Is your refusal of performing emotional labour ruining your social life?Nyak and I break down the difference between self-care and toxic self preservation. We look at how we get in our own way by setting anticipatory boundaries to combat fictional use, abuse and exhaustion.Come chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/---Instagram:
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Nelisa joins us again to discuss: Is it un/healthy to make your relationships a microcosm of your politics and feminist ideology? We also look at how our relation to gender roles, masculine+feminine energy affect our expectationsCome chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/GUEST: Nelisa - instagram.com/nelngcoboInstagram:
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To Be Bitter or To Be Better, that is the question!in Part 1 Nelisa joins us to discuss the following: are woke men found in the wild or do we have to educate them into the people we want to date? Is refusal to get deep on the first date a red flag, do we owe it to other women not to cheat with their men, and is asking "what are we?" really viable or effective?Come chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/---GUEST: Nelisa - instagram.com/nelngcobo
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Resident zaddy Abolade joins us to explore the duality of therapy. We discuss the empowerment of receiving a diagnosis and the danger of internalising them, and also look at the limitations of western medicine and spirituality in addressing manifestations of existential dreadCome chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/---GUEST: Abolade - twitter.com/AboladeeeInstagram:
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In this episode we discuss how career and moneymaking both help and complicate the pursuit of self. Is money a distraction? Or does the all-consuming activity of working help us make sense of life? Can we create meaning without a career? And is it possible to understand our value outside of productivity?Come chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/---Instagram:
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In this episode we reflect on personal growth in 2019: AHA Moments, growing pains and the personal paths to a better version of ourselvesCome chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/MENTIONS Abraham HicksNazeema (Healer) - https://www.facebook.com/Barefootbutterflyhealing/*Nichiren* BuddhismThe Slight Edge by Jeff Olson - https://amzn.to/2K10BzL---Instagram:Mukundwa: instagram.com/mukundwa_Nyak: www.instagram.com/nyakweziYouTube:Mukundwa: tinyurl.com/y4x7klh4Twitter:Mukundwa: twitter.com/mukundwa_ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we talk about *surprise surprise* FRIENDSHIPPPPP. This episode is the culmination of all our friendship episodes as Mukundwa takes her own advice and the results are *SHOCKING*We discuss- Which is kinder, the crippling truth or a lie?- Can we transition vapid, unintentional friendships into meaningful ones?- Can you still be friends with someone if you love them but don't like them?- What happens to friendships that become more maintenance and damage control than bliss and new shared memories?THE FRIENDSHIP AUDIT GUIDE: https://dl.orangedox.com/friendship-auditSend us feedback + testimonials about how you're finding this guideCome chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/Instagram:Mukundwa: instagram.com/mukundwa_Nyak: www.instagram.com/nyakweziYouTube:Mukundwa: tinyurl.com/y4x7klh4Twitter:Mukundwa: twitter.com/mukundwa_ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In part 2 we use three listener dilemmas as the lens through which to explore people pleasing and the intricacies of friendship amidst mental health issues Come chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/InstagramMukundwa: instagram.com/mukundwa_
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Mukundwa: twitter.com/mukundwa_RESOURCES1. Abraham Hicks2. Deepak Chopra on The Laws of Abundance (easiest to start today is Gratitude) :A) https://play.acast.com/s/09135fd4-faf8-48ac-bb91-ed3fcb4374ee/gid%3A%2F%2Fart19-episode-locator%2FV0%2F82ltjxQ9VKSYR-yGVaoNkU3IRM1JkQCYnbAlc7XcvrMB) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q1C1v_5k80AC) The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra - https://amzn.to/2lk8mGZ3. Download Mukundwa’s free gratitude calendar here - https://tinyurl.com/y2u6afn34. Transgenerational Trauma, Birth Repatterning, Past Life Regression Therapy. There are practitioners who deal with identifying and managing the above

In part 1 we discuss friendship transitions and the effort we do/nt make towards curating meaningful relationships. What doses it take to successfully transition a friendship from high school / university into adulthood? Do we want a quality of friendship that we aren’t willing to work for? And is requiring loyalty a cover up for your cowardice?Instagram:Mukundwa: instagram.com/mukundwa_Nyak: www.instagram.com/nyakweziYouTube:Mukundwa: tinyurl.com/y4x7klh4Twitter:Mukundwa: twitter.com/mukundwa_ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.