The Jordan Harbinger Show

David Buss (@ProfDavidBuss) is considered the world's leading scientific expert on the evolutionary psychology of human mating strategies. He is the author of several books on the subject, most recently The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating. What We Discuss with David Buss: How dating apps work and what they're doing to our brains. Mate-switching strategies: why affairs happen and the mechanisms at play. How we can track our own mate value to keep our relationships strong and secure. Why mating strategies tend to be universal even if their cultural variations seem to suggest otherwise. Why a vacation with your partner is a good stress-test for seeing what might be in store for your future together. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Fu

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is partaking of a small amount of marijuana in the evening akin to relaxing with a glass of wine at the end of the day, or are you just lying to yourself in order to justify an unhealthy addiction? Also: is it worth the risk if it's not legal in your area? How do you become essential to a fast-growing company that has so much to offer your career among a peer group with a competitive but respectful corporate spirit? How do you navigate the chain of command without stepping on toes when you know your boss' boss is more competent than your boss and prefer to work with her when something needs to be done? You're natu

Freeway Rick Ross (@FreewayRicky) managed a billion-dollar drug empire in the age of Iran-Contra, now helps rebuild at-risk communities, and is featured in the Emmy-nominated documentary Freeway: Crack in the System. What We Discuss with Freeway Rick Ross: How Rick went from a tennis scholarship track in high school to a young adulthood making cocaine appealing and affordable for a growing urban clientele. The escalation of Rick's business model thanks to an immensely helpful Nicaraguan connection during the Reagan administration. Why Rick wished he had more hours a day in prison -- a place where most people are just looking to kill time. The story behind the ex-prison guard rapper who uses Rick's name and why he's legally allowed to do so. How Rick overcame illiteracy later in life and the must-read books he recommends for anyone with (legal) entrepreneurial ambitions. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.c

Molly Bloom (@immollybloom) is an entrepreneur, speaker, and author of Molly's Game: The True Story of the 26-Year-Old Woman Behind the Most Exclusive, High-Stakes Underground Poker Game in the World. What We Discuss with Molly Bloom: What Molly Bloom learned by running underground poker games for some of the world's wealthiest and well-known. The psychology Molly used to control the games -- and their players. The secrets of generating rapport and trust among those who aren't in the habit of trusting anyone. The strategies Molly utilized to become indispensable to her players. How Molly got involved in the world of poker in spite of unlikely beginnings, and what happened to make her quit it for good. And much more... Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- including Boosting Your Emotional Intelligence. Listeners to this podcast can check out a free trial at thegreatcoursesplus.com/jordan! Rocket Mortgage by Quicken Loans. Apply simply. Understand fully. Mortgage confi

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Did you know we have a YouTube channel? We do, and you can find it here! How do you deal with family members who threw you under the bus for inheritance money and now try to act nice to you like this never happened? What's wrong with asking for advice while simultaneously offering something in return? If you don't like the current trajectory of a conversation, how do you change the subject smoothly? As a recent transplant to your neighborhood, how do you introduce yourself to the new neighbors without being intrusive? How much do you share with your audience when the boundaries for sharing are blurry? When

Nadya Tolokonnikova (@tolokno) is one of feminist art punk collective Pussy Riot's most visible members, and she's the author of Read & Riot: A Pussy Riot Guide to Activism. What We Discuss with Nadya Tolokonnikova: The roots of Nadya's distrust of authority -- and why she became a headstrong activist against it at an age when many Americans are only beginning to discover themselves. What Pussy Riot's protest art aims to accomplish by openly defying such authority. What life in a Russian prison labor camp is really like and how Nadya and her bandmates survived their sentence for "hooliganism" there. How today's young people are making contributions to their communities in ways undreamt of just a generation ago (and often pulling bigger paychecks than their parents). The potential perils of shoplifting to survive for eight years and creating DIY music in a corrupt police state without a stunt double. And much more... Does your business have an Internet presence? Save up to a whopping 62% on new webho

Robert Greene (@RobertGreene) is the author of five New York Times Best Sellers. His highly anticipated sixth book, The Laws of Human Nature, is out now. What We Discuss with Robert Greene: Why you can't monumentally improve your life by modifying your behavior if you don't understand what causes such behavior. Why it's liberating to understand that the reason other people react to you in whatever way they do has more to do with them and their own baggage than you and yours. How oversimplifying the impression you have of someone robs you of the ability to relate to them beyond a surface level -- and what you can do to change the game. Why your lower nature seems to be the default you'll fall into without effort and what it takes to tap into the potential of your higher nature. The difference between active and passive envy, where envy comes from, why it's so often destructive, and how you can flip envy to your benefit. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationsh

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: The idea of having children with your partner out of wedlock might not matter to society as much as it used to, but it might matter more to your partner than is apparent. You don't always need to see your doctor waving a huge red flag in order to seek a second opinion, but here's a great example of one if you're wondering what such a red flag might look like. Even though the relationship you've had with your high school sweetheart for nearly 10 years is strong, you can't help but wonder if your partner's desire to explore and experience other people would break you up for good or bring you closer in the long run.

Michael Scott Moore (@MichaelSctMoore) is a literary journalist and novelist who wrote about being held hostage by Somali pirates in his latest book, The Desert and the Sea: 977 Days Captive on the Somali Pirate Coast. What We Discuss with Michael Scott Moore: Why high-seas piracy still exists in some of the world's most desperate places. How an outsider -- such as a journalist like Michael Scott Moore -- can be easy prey for pirates abroad even under the "protection" of hired security. The types of people who become pirates and how the devoutly religious among them reconcile their actions with their faith. Why you'll probably never find a restaurant specializing in Somali pirate cuisine. How a hostage remains sane over 977 days in captivity through escape attempts and threat of torture. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking a

Michael McFaul (@McFaul) is a former US ambassador to Russia, a professor of political science at Stanford University, and author of New York Times Best Seller From Cold War to Hot Peace: An American Ambassador in Putin's Russia. What We Discuss with Michael McFaul: What the role of an ambassador in the 21st century entails, how it differs from being a diplomat, and how it changes between administrations. Ambassador McFaul's creative approach to problem-solving when confronted with relentless obstruction by Putin, and how he developed relationships and recruited allies in this hostile environment. How ambassadors, government officials, and spies conduct their business and keep secrets overseas. The exhaustive preparations and precautions that precede a meeting between two world leaders. How to get inside the mind of another culture when doing business cross-culturally so you can be effective when you need to be. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship devel

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Now that you're on track to exercise, eat healthier, and lose weight, how can you help your significant other -- who wants to do the same -- get on track as well? Though you've come a long way in personal improvement over the past few years, you're a late bloomer when it comes to relationships. How can you maintain self-esteem when you keep getting dumped for having stronger feelings than the other person? You've cleaned up your act and walked a straight and narrow path to sobriety after a long period of goofing off. Now you want to expand your career options, but your resume's got some hard-to-explain gaps. Wha

Nilofer Merchant (@nilofer) is one of the world's top-ranked business thinkers, an innovation expert, and the author of The Power of Onlyness: Make Your Wild Ideas Mighty Enough to Dent the World. What We Discuss with Nilofer Merchant: How bias -- from others as well as ourselves -- works to stifle innovation and the spread of good ideas. The process by which ideas are created and spread and how we can exercise our own abilities to make our ideas heard -- even if we're at the bottom of the totem pole. Why we conform to expectations that were largely created decades ago and don't really have a place in the modern workforce. Where "left-field" ideas often originate and why they're often missed. What we can do to make the generation and capture of ideas more inclusive. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship developm

General Stanley McChrystal (@StanMcChrystal) is a retired four-star general, founder of McChrystal Group, and co-author of Leaders: Myth and Reality. What We Discuss with General Stanley McChrystal: What General McChrystal learned by reexamining one of his most controversial personal heroes. The counterintuitive ability of leaders who value their own mission over the lives of the people who work for them to attract talent. How writing his memoirs without the aid of a journal -- but the memories of others who were with him throughout his life -- put his own role as a leader into perspective. Why there's no single leadership style that's right for all leaders, and what potential leaders risk by trying to emulate styles that don't suit them. The danger of these three common myths of leadership -- formulaic, attribution, and results -- and how to dispel them. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you pers

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you know if you're making progress and on track to a better and brighter future if you feel underqualified and inadequate about so much of your life? How can you measure your growth? Sometimes you try so hard to help your loved ones with their issues that you forget to help yourself. Support is close if you know where to find it -- here's where we suggest looking. How do you keep yourself from falling back into old, obsolete patterns of behavior whenever you visit your friends in your old hometown? Aren't you better than that now? You've been on Facebook for 14 years and have never weeded out friends you'

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us for this deep dive into the five keys to being unforgettable — what makes you memorable, common pitfalls that may make you unforgettable for all the wrong reasons, and what you can do to maximize the chance that you’ll be unforgettable for all the right ones. [Photo by EfE] What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi: How the competitive edge of authenticity aids in making you unforgettable. Strategic vulnerability versus authentic vulnerability. Why generosity is the backbone of networking and making you stand out from the crowd. What leveraging intrigue does to leave someone curious to know more -- and remember more -- about you. How contrast between you and your surroundings can be a double-edged sword that makes you unforgettable in ways you'd rather not be (and how to better ensure it cuts in the right direction). And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personal

James Clear (@JamesClear) believes that you do not rise to the level of your goals; you fall to the level of your systems. He is the creator of the Habits Academy and author of Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. What We Discuss with James Clear: How a near-death experience began James' exploration in leveraging tiny habits for giant outcomes. The difference between systems and goals and which one you should commit yourself to if you want results. What bamboo, cancer, and a winning Olympic coach can teach us about little changes that amount to a lot. Why the way you behave depends on the type of person you believe yourself to be -- and what you can do to modify this belief for the better. What it takes to break bad habits while creating good ones without falling into the “fake it ‘til you make it” delusion. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: If anxiety is a conspiracy theory you tell yourself about yourself, how can you just debunk the hell out of it and get on with your life? Speaking of conspiracy theories, how do you snap your beloved parent out of believing everything seen on YouTube and [pick your biased media outlet of choice here]? Living abroad is massively rewarding, but not usually for the reasons people think. Here are some tips for giving it a real go before giving up if things don't go as expected (and they won't). Should your partner build themselves up to your level if they feel lower in the social value hierarchy, or should you let th

Scott Harrison (@scottharrison) pivoted from hard-partying club promoter to life-saving charity founder. His first book, Thirst: A Story of Redemption, Compassion, and a Mission to Bring Clean Water to the World, is out now. What We Discuss with Scott Harrison: Discover how you can get your foot in the door of an industry and claw your way to the top through hustle and creativity. Explore how you can expand your thinking and your horizons while divining a sense of purpose if you're feeling lost or are ready for a change. Uncover how creativity and storytelling are the keys to creating an emotional connection with your line of work, product, or business -- whether you're selling overpriced champagne to investment bankers in Manhattan or securing life-saving, clean water for kids in Africa. Find out how prodigal son Scott Harrison returned from the self-serving world of nightclub promotion to save lives at the head of an organization that ensures 100 percent of its donations provide clean water to the people

Jennifer Dulski (@jdulski) is the Head of Groups and Community at Facebook, former COO of Change.org, and author of Purposeful: Are You a Manager or a Movement Starter? What We Discuss with Jennifer Dulski: While they're both necessary for any organization to succeed in realizing its ambitions, what really separates movement starters from managers? What movement starters from all walks of life have in common and what they do differently that makes them able to achieve incredible results. How businesses and teams can unite for a common purpose -- and why this is not only important, but crucial for moving forward and keeping everyone involved on the same page. How to bridge the gap between idea and impact -- from creating a clear vision for your team as well as persuading decision-makers and even navigating criticism. How you can use influence mapping to recruit others to support your movement. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including you

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Do the re-engagement scripts we recommend in Six-Minute Networking ever grow stale? Don't people notice when they receive the same lines every year to stay in touch? Is there a way to tame the emotional outbursts you have whenever you receive criticism -- even when it's constructive and warranted? How should you handle that old school friend who always says "yes" to a coffee but never, ever buys you one back? How do you look for another job while still employed when your current job leaves you so depressed, anxious, and emotionally drained? Is it reasonable to suspect that the person who left someone else to be wi