The Jordan Harbinger Show

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: What's the best way to deal with inconsiderate seatmates on an airplane? How do you conscientiously create social media content that doesn't inflict FOMO on others? Do you stay at your stable job that gives you more time with your family, or take the stressful, time-consuming job at the startup for the chance to make more money? You've been a counsellor for 15 years and want to transition to working online. Do you need to be really narrow with your audience, or can you reach out to people on a broader spectrum? You started therapy for acute to moderate generalized anxiety disorder recently. But should you disclos

Kevin Barrows is a former FBI special agent who now conducts traditional corporate fraud investigations, reputation risk and due diligence efforts, and supervises computer forensic and computer crime assignments for Renaissance Associates. What We Discuss with Kevin Barrows: Why conducting a successful interview is an art that requires establishing credibility, understanding motivation, employing psychology, assessing body language, and listening. Why approaching a witness at an inconvenient time, in the wrong place, or in the wrong way can ruin an interview before it gets started. How to quickly identify the motivation of the person being interviewed. How to make the truth the only option for the person being interviewed. How to create and execute a game plan to get to that truth -- whether it's with our spouse, our kids, or our colleagues and employees. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like

Chris Voss (@vossnegotiation) retired as the lead international kidnapping negotiator for the FBI, is CEO of the Black Swan Group, and is the author of the national bestseller Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as If Your Life Depended on It. What We Discuss with Chris Voss: How you can be a more effective negotiator for anything by using the FBI's own field-proven hostage negotiation techniques. How to determine which of the three archetypes of negotiator you're dealing with: The Analyst, The Assertive, or The Accommodator. Who has the real leverage in a kidnapping or hostage scenario -- and how this applies to your own lower-stakes negotiations. What it takes to subtly convince someone to have it your way. The Black Swan Rule: Treating others not the way you want to be treated, but the way they want to be treated. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a re

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: What's the best way to let your parents know you appreciate all they've done for you -- especially when they let you live with them rent (and guilt) free while paying down your credit card debt? It's your absolute dream to become a race car driver, though you don't really have experience working with cars and don't want to get stuck in sales or marketing. What's your best next step? You need money, but your hours have been cut. Is it ethical to pick up freelancing work that might put you in competition with your main job? Your current boss feels threatened by your rising star status and seems determined to sab

Todd Herman (@todd_herman) is an entrepreneur, coach, mentor, and author of The Alter Ego Effect: The Power of Secret Identities to Transform Your Life. What We Discuss with Todd Herman: How you can harness the power of your own secret identity -- and why you would ever want to. What it takes to adopt seemingly out-of-character characteristics and dominate your personal and professional life. Why taking on an alter ego isn't a "fake it 'til you make it" scheme, but channeling little-used facets of yourself you may not even realize exist. The hidden enemy forces that oppose your attempts at accomplishment and how to resist their subtle and not-so-subtle influences. How to honestly understand and come to terms with what truly motivates you -- and deal with what keeps you from following these motivations. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even on

Cesar Millan (@cesarmillan) is the internationally renowned master dog trainer known best as the Dog Whisperer, founder of the Dog Psychology Center, and best-selling author of Lessons From the Pack: Stories of the Dogs Who Changed My Life. What We Discuss with Cesar Millan: How Cesar Millan went from impoverished Sinaloan kid to homeless immigrant to world-famous Dog Whisperer.  What we can learn about communicating with dogs by understanding the priority of their senses compared to our own. Why the key to correcting an "untrainable" dog is usually reprogramming the human in charge. Why the rich, famous, and powerful often find animal companionship so much more grounding than time with even their closest human friends. Why human beings are the only species on the planet that will follow an unstable leader who does not represent the greater good. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is your passively stoic expression (aka resting bitch face) getting you turned down for promotions? Here's some advice for turning down the Spock and cranking up the rock. How can you reduce stress and have a social life when your deadly serious job requires you to be on call 24/7/365? In trying new ways to strike up conversations without coming across as having a motive or being awkward, how do you spot the line you shouldn't cross? Are you missing out on life by not spending as much time and energy on your relationships and friendships in your 20s because you're so focused on personal development? For a year

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us for this deep dive into why a lot of self-help makes you feel miserable by design and what you can do to improve yourself without being suckered by hucksters or succumbing to an existential meltdown. What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi: Why so-called "self-help" often makes you feel worse about yourself than before you sought it. How to separate actionable self-help from motivational "hustle porn" designed to prompt emotions and elicit sales. Why those inspirational bromides you’re seeing all over Instagram might goad you into short-term action, but won't do much for you over the long haul. Striving to improve yourself is admirable and encouraged -- just don't get suckered into the myth that there's a finish line. How to consume genuine self-help without being miserable while avoiding the big business con-artistry that pervades this space. And much more... Sign up for Six Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jor

Cal Newport researches cutting-edge technology and writes about the impact of these innovations on society. He is the author of Deep Work, So Good They Can't Ignore You, and Digital Minimalism. What We Discuss with Cal Newport: Why focus in our modern era of endless technological distractions is the new IQ. Why your greatest competitive advantage may lie simply around decluttering and resetting that focus. The best ways to declutter the mental landscape to optimize your capacity to focus. How Henry David Thoreau's analog lessons from Walden can be applied to your 21st century digital lifestyle. How you can use technology to improve your daily life without becoming absorbed by its distractions. And much more... Sign up for Six Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and res

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How can you prove that your teacher is name-grading essays without cheating on the paper? You're a veteran looking to transition back to civilian life. Here are some resources that might help (many thanks to your fellow veteran Zach Criswell for this info). When the big change you really need is a job opportunity at another company, is it unfair not to give your current employer a chance to negotiate with you to stay put? You're worried your significant other might have gotten wrapped up in an expensive self-help cult. What might you say to bring them gently back to Earth without wasting even more time and money?

John Ruhlin (@ruhlin) is the world's leading authority in maximizing customer loyalty through radical generosity. He is the founder of Ruhlin Group, and author of Giftology: The Art and Science of Using Gifts to Cut Through the Noise, Increase Referrals, and Strengthen Retention. What We Discuss with John Ruhlin: Active loyalty versus passive loyalty. Why personalization matters. Why you should be asking "What's the most I can do here?" when investing in relationships rather than "What's the least I can get away with?" Why the timing of a gift matters. How to exercise radical generosity and take gift-giving to a whole new level. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/

Jaron Lanier is an early Internet pioneer, computer scientist, visual artist, musician, and author of Ten Arguments for Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now. What We Discuss with Jaron Lanier: The real cost of the "everything is free" mentality that accompanied the cultural proliferation of the Internet and social media. How social media manipulates human behavior to threaten free will. Why negative emotions are the lifeblood of social media. How social media contributes to the mass production of misinformation. Why feeding on social media content tailored to you makes it difficult to empathize with the perspective of others. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  The One You Feed is a podcast by Eric Zimmer and Chris Forbes that hosts inspiring conversations about creating a life worth living. Check it out here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! C

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Teaching your kid how to play chess? Here's a simple way to keep them engaged without crushing their spirits or throwing a single game. When your line of work grants you even a minor level of celebrity, how do you express appreciation when you're recognized without succumbing to awkwardness? How can you work with someone you don't like or respect -- and ensure that you still like and respect yourself in the process? You've been selected to give a graduation speech in front of 2,500 people and want to crush it. What can you do to be as prepared as possible? Someone owns the Web domain you want, but they're not

Adam Grant (@AdamMGrant) has been Wharton's top-rated professor for seven years, is the host of podcast WorkLife with Adam Grant, and is the author of three New York Times Best Sellers: Option B (with Sheryl Sandberg), Originals, and Give and Take. What We Discuss with Adam Grant: Why you probably don't know yourself as well as you think you do. Why you're prone to believe things about yourself that are patently false. How people closest to you benefit from reinforcing these falsehoods. Why the people who would most benefit from helping you see these falsehoods are the least likely to point them out. What you can do to become more accurately self-aware. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  The One You Feed is a podcast by Eric Zimmer and Chris Forbes that hosts inspiring conversations about creating a life worth living. Check it out here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your new neighbor's loud arguments and wild parties at all hours would be annoying enough if they involved multiple people, but the only person who ever seems to be in attendance is her. Should you be concerned enough to inform management -- or the police? When reconnecting with someone in your network (per our Level One exercises), how can you identify ways to add value to their goals? Long-time listeners would understand a covert contract from the contractor's side of things. But what do you do if you suspect someone has a covert contract out on you? Your newest roommate is a slob who pilfers your food and do

Dave Asprey (@bulletproofexec) is a self-described biohacker, CEO and founder of Bulletproof 360, Inc., host of the Bulletproof Radio podcast, and author of Game Changers, Head Strong, and The Bulletproof Diet. What We Discuss with Dave Asprey: How Bulletproof founder Dave Asprey biohacked himself from a 300-pound heart attack waiting to happen to 9.6 percent body fat. How a prenatal condition, bullying, a thyroid condition, and toxic mold collaborated to bring Dave's health to a point so low even his doctor couldn't help him. What is your immune system's "memory" forgetting, and what role does mitochondria play in how you feel? What does Dave believe are the top two causes of autoimmunity, and what can we do to guard ourselves when our body can't even identify the enemy? Why does Dave put butter in his coffee instead of milk or cream like normal people, and what's the difference between real Bulletproof coffee and what the small-town cafe on the other side of the world is trying to peddle as "Bulletproof

Derren Brown (@DerrenBrown) is a mentalist, illusionist, magician, artist, photographer, collector of curiosities, and author. What We Discuss with Derren Brown: How did Derren Brown make the transition from law student to career hypnotist? How does psychological manipulation and hypnotic suggestion work to make people operate counter to their own desires? How does Derren use his own manipulative skills for good? How do faith healers and psychics ply their trades so convincingly? What are the limits to hypnotic influence? And much more... The One You Feed is a podcast by Eric Zimmer and Chris Forbes that hosts inspiring conversations about creating a life worth living. Check it out here! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found her

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Are you a square if you think your casual love triangle has devolved into nothing more than a crossed line? Your wedding guest list is getting out of control. How can you maintain the desired intimacy of a smaller gathering and keep the budget in line without offending anyone? If epilepsy keeps you from driving, how can you overcome feeling like a nuisance to your friends and family -- and how do you work around it for potential dates? You're feeling a little overwhelmed from having so many irons in the fire, but you need to keep the momentum going to support your family. What are some healthy ways to regain a sen

Erik Aude (@erikaude) is an actor, stuntman, professional poker player, and the subject of 3 Years in Pakistan: The Erik Aude Story. This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to check out part one here!  What We Discuss with Erik Aude: How Erik Aude entered one of the world's toughest prisons an innocent man and emerged as a murderer. What processing, being the new curiosity, and solitary confinement are like in an overcrowded Pakistani prison. How you know when you're really in danger in a foreign prison: when they put you on death row for your own protection. How much you should expect to pay a lawyer to defend you from a hanging offense in Pakistan (and how much they'll try to charge you). Life lessons that can only be learned in the school of the hardest knocks from world-infamous hijackers and mass murderers. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a re

Erik Aude (@erikaude) is an actor, stuntman, professional poker player, and the subject of 3 Years in Pakistan: The Erik Aude Story. This is part one of a two-part episode. Make sure to check out part two here!  What We Discuss with Erik Aude: How an American actor with a successful career gets wrongfully imprisoned in Pakistan for three years. Why Erik's unique history with pain tolerance made him uniquely suited to survive torture and the rigors of prison life. The culture shock an average westerner might expect to experience while visiting Pakistan. What the phrase "physical remand" actually means in Pakistan's justice system. How Erik remains positive and grateful for what he has in spite of the ordeals he's faced -- in Pakistan and at home. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle s