Thank You Heartbreak

Question of the day: Romance aside, what are some changes you've been trying to make in your life that has to do solely with yourself? What's held you back from making these changes? What would it take to finally make them a priority?Quote of the day: "Listen: The future is whispering to you. Not from in front of you, but from within you." — Barbara De Angelis* Song giving me all the feels right now: Dennis Lloyd — Nevermindhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=naW6-WxmMiU&feature=youtu.be* Psst: The speech mentioned within was so not by Steve Jobs! It was by Steven Spielberg (hey, close...ish) on Listening To The Whispers of Your Intuitionhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJs74u1dWEw

"I believe in happily ever after but not in a fairytale sense," collector of love letters and founder of World Wide Love Story Alicia Mejia reveals in conversation with Chelsea. "I feel like we've been sold this thing that it's going to be perfect from here on out, when it's not. We can live happily ever after but it's with a different awareness of how to get through those ups and downs."

Question of the day: How have you sold yourself short in relationships? If you promised to never sell yourself short ever again, what kind of relationship can you see yourself being in next? What type of person would he or she need to be? What type of person would you need to be? What might being with that person say about you?Quote of the day: "I want to blossom. I don't want to stay closed anywhere, because where I am closed, I am lying." — Rainer Maria Rilke* Song that's given me all the feels today: Khalid — Betterhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x3bfa3DZ8JM* This article made me cry: "Wife of Aurora massacre victim got text from husband: ‘I love you, I’ve been shot at work’"https://www.chicagotribune.com/suburbs/aurora-beacon-news/news/ct-met-aurora-shooting-victims-families-20190217-story.html

Question of the day: Breakups toy with more than our heart. They often toy with the very concept we have of ourselves. It could be that you now distrust your own capacity to choose who is "right" for you. Maybe you are angry with yourself, with your ability to overlook glaring red flags. Perhaps, you fear that your ex's behavior will leave you jaded or suspicious of men or women in the future. These are some examples. What part of yourself do you feel is being called into question because of this separation/breakup?Quote of the day: "You are born quick to love and so will rush with love toward even the most trivial toy. This is the start of your search, your whole life, for the wrong things." — Dante* Song that's given me all the feels today: Marshmallow — Silence Ft. Khalidhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tx1sqYc3qas

Question of the day: What do you see as the difference between betrayal and rejection? How did you betray yourself in this relationship? What parts of yourself did you reject?Quote of the day: "Perhaps the most tragic way that self-deception harms us is that we start believing our lies and we teach them to others." — Cortney S. Warren* Song that gave me all the feels tonight:JXN — Solitudehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uvYGmKwzAdg&fbclid=IwAR3R-uYRBN2vdJlNa0sOrcfciYszdg4IlnOm6gOKKbxCcKGfbuQnpcmJl5U

Question of the day: While in your relationship, did you ever feel like you were abandoning yourself? When and why do you think you did it?Quote of the day: “I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” — Maya Angelou* What I listened to to soothe my mind after recording: ASMR | Self-Care Pampering & Relaxation ♡ 4K 60fps by Gibi ASMRhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tNrJBX91v50* 50% all services on www.breakupward.com/shop using code "vday"

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Question of the day: Before your breakup, did you ever feel the slightest bit abandoned by your ex? What happened and how did you handle it?Quote of the day: “The paralyzing fear of being lost is fed solely by the irrational fear that we will never be found.” — Craig D. Lounsbrough* 50% all servies at breakupward.com/shop using code "vday"

Question of the day, begins at 10:36: It's easy—so easy—to focus on your ex after a breakup. It's easy—so easy—to ask yourself why he or she did X, Y, or Z. It's plain ole' easy to want to question him or her and figure them out. Only, the surest way to freedom is not by knowing your ex better. It's by knowing yourself better. Emotional freedom begins by letting go of the need to know the whys of an ex in favor of discovering the whys of your own heart. Since it is so easy, however, to unconsciously self-sabotage your own growth by focusing on your ex instead of yourself, what are three ways you can focus your attention on yourself? How can you take the attention off figuring your ex out and invest in understanding and recommitting to a relationship with you?Quote of the day: "Our destiny hinges on a mindset for bold action. We gain power from again and again allowing ourselves to choose the kind of recklessness that allows us to be vulnerable, genuine, and brave in pursuit of ou

Warning the quality is poor but this Uber driver/deacon of a church's wisdom can't be tossed. The quality will get better and hopefully more slice of life stories will come from being in transit with a stranger/driver/spiritual guide. I love these guys.Uber rides kept me in motion when I felt stuck and aimless. Each and every driver showed up like a spiritual guide, offering me a connection—an immediacy—that lingered for days, weeks, sometimes even until this year. These drivers and our rides saved my spirit. And they continue to. I laugh my ass off in Uber pools, I ride shotgun whenever I can and buddy up, and without fail, I am always provided wisdom.

Question of the day, beginning at 25:20: How is your tender need to love and be loved actually the most beautiful thing about you?Quote of the day: “You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens.” — Jalaluddin Rumi

Question of the day: It's long been believed that breakups bring out the worst in us. What are the worst aspects of yourself that have been triggered or you worry will be triggered because of this breakup? What side of yourself do you not like others to witness?Quote of the day: “Looking for Mr. Right leads to desperation, because there is no Mr. Right. There is no Mr. Right, because there is no Mr. Wrong. There is whoever is in front of us and the perfect lessons to be learned from that person.” — Marianne Williamson

Question of the day, begins at minute 20: In hindsight, would taking the steps you shied away from have changed where you're at now? Would it have made any difference on how you're feeling about your relationship today? If yes, how so? If no, why not?Quote of the day: “A step taken to a new idea is a step taken to a new world." — Mehmet Murat Ildan

Question of the day: What are three steps you took while in your relationship that demonstrated your investment in it? What step did you shy away from?Quote of the day: “There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.” — Beverly Sills

"We can only ever love, at any stage of our life, to the extent that we really understand love. And that differs for people," explains Kacie Main, author of I Gave Up Men For Lent, in conversation with Chelsea. What follows is a candid account of what giving up men, or rather the quest for outward validation, did to redirect her inner compass. Joining Chelsea 13 minutes in, Kacie talks about her toxic tendency toward losing herself in relationships, letting the daydream of what this could become not only morph her into a chameleon but land her lost in the excitement of someone wanting her.—To connect with Kacie, visit her:Website: https://www.kaciemain.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/kaciemain_writeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/kaciemain.writeTwitter: https://twitter.com/kaciemain_writePurchase I Gave Up Men For Lent: The story of a jaded, hopelessly romantic, health-conscious party girl’s search for meaninghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/0998029904/ref=rdr_ext_tmb—Work with Chelsea: www.brea

Question of the day: If you were less invested in being right and more invested in how you might actually make things right, what would you need to do differently?Quote of the day: “No one is ever a victim of life; we are all volunteering to grow.” — Shannon L. Alder* My favorite ASMR channel by Gibi ASMR: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE6acMV3m35znLcf0JGNn7Q* Angelic Triggers

Question of the day, begins at 11: Turn back to yesterday and reflect, if you had said something at the time, how might this have saved your relationship or relieved you of certain feelings down the road? Give yourself time today to think of what could have happened had you not overlooked the feeling that something was off and had called attention to it at the time. What might you have saved yourself from? Why would that have made such an impact?Quote of the day: “The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.” — Coco Chanel* Apologies for the boomy audio.

Question of the day, begins at 15:07: If you could go back in time to the moment where everything seemed to shift, where your relationship felt like it was changing, what would you have said to nip it in the bud andacknowledge that something was different?Quote of the day: "When you reach the end of what you should know, you will be at the beginning of what you should sense." — Kahlil Gibran

Author of the motivational memoir Love After… Jacinth Headlam is a multi-award-winning actress, QVC model, film producer and mother of two. Joining Chelsea 8 minutes in, she talks about the many deaths we have to die to in order to come to that place of resurrection or rebirth and, in coming up for air, how discovering a new rhythm for ourselves enables us to walk a new and purposeful path as a wiser, better version of ourselves.Gems to look out for:+ two main fuels in life: purpose and appreciation+ we hold out on forgiveness as if it were our kryptonite but it only robs us of live as the person we are unwilling to forgive roams free+ the power of individual prayer and having your village pour into you+ if everything is predestined, tap into the source for clarity and use wounds as fuel+ self-doubt when you feel like your story isn't dramatic enough to be shared+ the discomfort of opening yourself enough to receive+ getting caught up in the narrative of "when is it my time?" or "what am I

Question of the day: Imagine you've sat down with your ex and you've heard what you expected to hear and you've told him or her what you went there to say. You're by yourself now and you're on your way home. You're replaying everything that just happened. The thing is, you don't feel entirely relieved. What else were you hoping he or she would tell you? If you could turn around and go back right now, if you were there looking your ex in the eyes with resilience and courage and a stunning degree of compassion, clarity, and candor, what else would you ask him? What more would you say? Write it all out. Then, say it to yourself. Even if only in a whisper, read your words aloud. Listen to yourself acknowledge the full truth. And yes, you are allowed to feel proud of the love it takes to listen to yourself really, to hear yourself in all your disappointment and dreaminess.Excerpt from Thank You for Being Such a Pain: Spiritual Guidance for Dealing with Difficult People by Mark I.