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We're joined by asexuality activist Yasmin Benoit and she's breaking down being asexual (as well as aromantic) and discussing/dispelling myths surrounding sex drive, masturbation, being in relationships, and more. We're also chatting about the spectrum of asexuality, how to talk about it with friends and family, dating, and lack of representation in the media. And we're sharing our and our listeners' non-sexual turn-ons, plus catching up on something nice Rayna did for her body and a DM slide Ashley received. Hope you enjoy! Follow Yasmin on Instagram @TheYasminBenoit. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Check our website for show dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Article: Get $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more at article.com/gge. Raycon: Go to buyraycon.com/gge for 15% off your entire Raycon order. Calm: For a limited time, get 40% off a Calm premium subscription at calm.com/gge. DailyHarvest: Get $25 off your first box at da

It's episode 169 (!!) and we brought back one of our favorite and most impactful guests, psychotherapist and best-selling author Dr. Ian Kerner, for another important discussion about sex. This time around, we're discussing the "sex script" and some of the main issues that plague couples including lack of sex/sexual satisfaction in the relationship, mismatched sex drives, boredom in the bedroom, and more. And we're tackling topics applicable to everyone regarding foreplay (and getting the kind you want), orgasms (or lack thereof), oral sex, and communication. Plus, we catch up on our Florida trip. Hope you enjoy! Order Ian's book here and see more on his website. Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Check our website for show dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Native: Get 20% off your first purchase at nativedeodorant.com/gge or use the code GGE at checkout. Buffy: For $20 off your first purchase of $80 or more, visit buffy.

Women stay upgrading men, and we're diving into it. We're discussing the motivation to change your partner, what's healthy and what's not, what you should and shouldn't try to change (everything from clothing to bedding to career goals to emotional stability), and the unfortunate reality of changing someone for the better and them leaving you. We're sharing our experiences as well as our listeners, and also catching up on Ashley's new addition, Rayna's latest phone sexcapade, plus TV recs. Hope you enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Check our website for show dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Helix: Get up to $200 off all mattress orders +  2 free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge. FabFitFun: Get $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com with code GGE. Nutrafol: Get 20% off your first order + free shipping at nutrafol.com with code GGE20. HelloFresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge12 + code GGE12 for 12 free meals including fre

Welcome to your crash course in boundaries! We are honored to be joined by the expert herself, Nedra Tawwab -- therapist and author of the New York Times Bestseller Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself. We're discussing how to establish and communicate boundaries when it comes to family, friends, romantic partners, work, yourself, and even social media so you can live a happier, more free life with healthier relationships. And we're tackling actions to take when those boundaries aren't respected. We're also chatting about running into exes when you're with a current partner, dog fostering, and Newlyweds (yes, the 2003 show). Enjoy! Follow Nedra on Instagram @NedraTawwab and visit her website for her book and more. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @RaynaGreenberg. Check our website for show dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Storyworth: Get $10 off your first purchase at storyworth.com/gge. The Pill Club: Become a patient at thepi

Alright ladies, let's TALK SOME SHIT! (Kidding...sorta.) We're discussing a topic close to home for so many -- disliking your friend's partner (namely, your girlfriend's boyfriend/husband). Although every situation is different, we're doing our best to cover all the bases -- reasons why you hate the partner, if you should say something, what to say, how to say it, advice to give your friend, setting boundaries for yourself, friend breakups, and more. We're drawing on our own experiences, and sharing stories from listeners as well. And we're catching up on Rayna's new guy and a rooftop encounter Ashley had. Hope you enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Check our website for show dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners for this episode: Aurate: Visit auratenewyork.com/gge15 + code GGE15 to get 15% off your first purchase. Pretty Litter: Use code GGE for 20% off your first order at prettylitter.com. Raycon: Go to buyraycon.com/gge for 1

Yes, it's a wedding episode, but with a lot of twists and turns! We are joined by Jamie Lee, comedian, actor, author of the book Weddiculous: An Unfiltered Guide to Being a Bride, and host of The Wedding Coach on Netflix, to talk about the ups and downs of getting married. We discuss how to set yourself up for success and also manage conflict with your partner during the planning process so it doesn't tear you apart. And we're getting real about pulling the plug on a wedding even when you feel like "the train has left the station." Most importantly, we discuss bachelorette parties, and hooking up at weddings (ahem, what brides and grooms can do to help their single friends out). AND we're recapping Ashley's brother's wedding and the action Rayna got while staying in the house with the family. Hope you enjoy! Follow Jamie on Instagram @ReallyJamieLee and binge The Wedding Coach on Netflix. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Check our website for show dates, merchandis

We have the one-and-only Asa Akira, award-winning adult film star and director, join us to discuss a whole (hole?) range of topics from how she got started in porn, to whether her on-screen orgasms are real, to blowjobs, anal, squirting, b-hole bleaching, and more. She also opens up to us about how working in porn has affected her relationships/marriages. And we're catching up on Rayna's recent rendezvous and Ashley's missed connection. Hope you enjoy! Follow Asa on Instagram at @asahole. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Check our website for show dates and merchandise. Thank you to our partners this week: Function of Beauty: Go to functionofbeauty.com/gge to get 20% off your first order. Ritual: Get 10% off your first 3 months at ritual.com/gge. Buffy: For $20 off your first purchase of $80 or more, visit buffy.co and enter code GGE. HelloFresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge12 + code GGE12 for 12 free meals including free shipping. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.c

The pandemic completely changed our day-to-day lives, but what about our sex lives? We're discussing how the last year affected couples and singles, and what the fuck the future of sex, dating, and relationships will look like. Our guest is Cosmopolitan editor-in-chief Jessica Pels, and we're unpacking data gathered by an incredible study by the Kinsey Institute in partnership with Cosmo and Esquire (spoiler alert: pleasure is the priority). We're also sharing our listeners' sex/dating outlooks, chatting about bikini waxes vs. sugaring, and our TV recs take a turn. Hope you enjoy! Check out the April issue of Cosmopolitan and follow Jessica on Instagram @JessicaPels. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Check our website for show dates and merchandise. Thank you to our partners this week: Truff: Get 15% off sitewide + free shipping with code GGE at truff.com. Uqora: Get proactive about urinary tract health and 20% off at uqora.com/gge. Calm: For a limited time, get 40%

On this episode, we are sharing stories from our listeners about dating as a woman of color, from messages they receive on apps to partners not understanding their experiences to fetishization. We're also bringing on a former (and favorite) guest Amy Chan, founder of Breakup Bootcamp, to discuss her experience growing up as an Asian woman, feeling shame as a child to leaning into the sexy stereotypes as a young woman, and her mindset today. We also discuss how to talk to your partner about these topics. And before we dive in, we're up to our usual antics with a divorced dude date story from Rayna, Ashley being single-shamed, and a tip for taking your phone sex to the next level. Enjoy! Follow Amy on Instagram @MissAmyChan and check out Renew Breakup Bootcamp as well as her book. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Check our website for show dates and merchandise. Thank you to our partners this week: Allform: To find your perfect sofa and get 20% off all orders, go to

Are divorced guys the answer? We're unpacking it and Rayna is leaning in. Then we bring in Katya Libin, founder and CEO of HeyMama, to share her story of being a single, working mother -- the struggles and successes, building her own company, the importance of a support system, co-parenting, dating when you have a child, and more. We're also discussing walking away from a relationship you know isn't right (even when it's a month before your wedding), and how to vet someone before considering having children with them. And on the topic of mothers, Ashley shares a legendary story about her mom that we all can relate to. We hope you enjoy! Follow Katya on Instagram @KatyasLife and check out HeyMama. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Check our website for merchandise and show dates. Thank you to our partners this week: Raycon: Go to buyraycon.com/gge for 15% off your entire Raycon order. Function of Beauty: Go to functionofbeauty.com/gge to get 20% off your first order.

We're so excited to collab with the Friday Energy pop culture queens, Ria and Fran of Chicks in the Office! We chatted with them about all the gossip of the moment (Royals, Bachelor, Kardashians, Harry and Olivia), but also tapped into their own personal lives/boyfriends, and social media expertise. We're discussing whether cringey social media is a dealbreaker, following/liking hot models on Instagram when you're in a relationship, how to take better photos for your own feed, and more. And before we bring in the Chicks, we're going off about NYC's energy, the vaccine, and Botox/fillers. Hope you enjoy! Follow Chicks in the Office on Instagram @ChicksInTheOffice, Fran @FrancescaMariano, and Ria @MariaCiuffo. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Check our website for show dates and merchandise. Thank you to our partners this week: Nutrafol: Get 20% off your first order + free shipping at nutrafol.com with code GGE20. Calm: Get 40% off a premium subscription at calm.com/

In their first podcast interview since getting engaged, we have Hannah Berner of Bravo's Summer House and comedian Des Bishop join us to discuss their whirlwind romance. We're talking about age differences (15 years between them), Facetime sex (they give tips), the Gen X DM slide, going from 0-60 between the first and second date, moving in together quickly, healthy fights (we witness one), and more. We also share our listeners' stories of pandemic proposals, engagements, and breakups (yikes). And we're dropping a crazy Catfish update from Rayna's story last week, Ashley shares an insane customer service experience, and we taste test flavored condoms. Enjoy!  Follow Hannah on Instagram @BeingBernz and Des @DesBishop. Check out their podcasts Berning in Hell and Des Bishop Podcast. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Check our website for merchandise, show dates, and to sign up for our newsletter. Thank you to our partners this week: Ritual: Get 10% off your first 3 mo

We're joined by an icon in the world of internet connections -- Nev Schulman of Catfish (the movie, MTV show, and podcast). We're chatting with Nev about the type of people who catfish and get catfished, how to find out if someone isn't who they say they are, confronting someone who has deceived you, and how to forgive yourself and move on after being catfished. We're also sharing our listeners' stories, Nev shares the craziest situation he's experienced, AND Rayna tells the wild story of her (very recent) Catfishing. Hope you enjoy! Follow Nev on Instagram @NevSchulman, and check out the Catfish podcast. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Check our website for merchandise and show updates. Thank you to our partners this week: Truff: Get 15% off sitewide + free shipping with code GGE at truff.com/gge. Pretty Litter: Use promo code GGE for 20% off your first order at  prettylitter.com. Helix: Get up to $200 off all mattress orders + 2 free pillows at helixsleep.com/gg

If there's one person who can speak on anxiety, depression, and panic with such humor, insight, and personal experience, it's Kelsey Darragh. We're so glad she joined us to discuss her mental health journey from therapy to misdiagnoses to meds to social situations to panic attacks. She shares what has worked for her, how to manage anxiety in a relationship (when you're the person with it or the partner trying to help), why and how she quit drinking, and more. And before Kelsey joins us, we're unpacking why guys turn down booty calls and/or friends with benefits situations. Enjoy! Follow Kelsey on Instagram @KelseyDarragh and check out her book Don't F*cking Panic. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Check our website for merchandise and show dates. Thank you to our partners this week: Calm: Get 40% off a premium subscription at calm.com/gge. Rory: Go to hellorory.com/gge to try the nightly defense for just $5. Candid: Go to candidco.com/gge + code GGE for your risk-fr

It's our three year anniversary BONUS episode **air horn** and we're giving all the status updates. We're sharing how our lives have changed since the start of the podcast, how our listeners lives have changed (grab the tissues), and the tea everyone has been waiting for -- "Where are they now?" updates on former guests, the guys we got psychic readings about, and the most beloved GGE story submissions (yes, foot job girl, movie theater anal, and more). Thank you snackheads for three amazing years, and cheers to many more! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Check our website for show dates and merchandise. Thank you to our partners for this episode: Raycon: Go to buyraycon.com/gge for 15% off your entire Raycon order. Article: Go to article.com/gge for $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more. FabFitFun: Get $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com, code GGE. Dame: For 15% off your first order, go to dameproducts.com/gge. See Privacy Policy at https://

If we've ever had an episode that's equal parts hot and healing, it's this one. We're talking about how to get your body buzzing with infinite orgasms, more enjoyable sex, and overall better pleasure with pussy healer Cosmic. She shares her four principles to follow and even guides us through the final step to getting in touch with your womb and feeling the power in your pussy. We're also talking about shame and stigmas around masturbating and turn-ons, polyamory and how to explore it, and why we need to be sunning our nether regions. Plus we're deep diving on Britney. Hope you enjoy! Follow Cosmic on Instagram @iamcosmicvibes and find more on her website. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Check our website for show dates and merchandise. Thank you to our partners this week: Dipsea: Get a 30-day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/gge. Feals: Become a member at feals.com/gge and get 50% off your first order + free shipping. DailyHarvest: Get $25 off your fir

This one might be a tearjerker for some, but we're still coming through with laughs, love, and living our truth. We're discussing the recent passing of Ashley's dog/Rayna's godson/GGE legend Dewey, and how we've been handling this loss (Ashley grieving, Rayna supporting), offering insight for those dealing with their own grief, and giving advice for supporting friends and family members in times of need. We're also sharing the inspiring ways our listeners support each other through grief, and what NOT to say when someone is hurting. And of course we still have our regularly scheduled intro programming with some commentary on the Lebron heckler, The Bachelor, mean girls, and fresh recs. Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @RaynaGreenberg. Get merchandise and tickets to our virtual live show THIS THURSDAY on our website! Thank you to our partners this week: Calm: Get 40% off a premium subscription at calm.com/gge. Ritual: Get 10% off during your first 3 months at ritual.com/

We're talking about moneeeey again! This time, we're joined by financial coach Nicole Victoria who shares a wealth of important knowledge and tips for shifting your mindset around money, making more of it, investing (and yes, for people who have no idea where to start), who to trust with your dollars, real estate investments, and more. We also discuss why A MAN IS NOT A PLAN (just saying it louder for the people in the back), and the importance of women having financial security. Plus, we have a recap of Ashley's date with the older man, an inadvertent roast by Rayna, and fresh recs. Enjoy! Follow Nicole on Instagram @nobudgetbabe and find more on her website. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Check our website for show dates and merchandise. Thank you to our partners this week: Hello Tushy: Go to hellotushy.com/gge for 10% off. Bright Cellars: Visit brightcellars.com/gge for 50% off your first 6-bottle box. 21+, some state restrictions apply. Rory: Try out your per

Real talk -- most of us have an inner stalker and women are born with innate detective skills so let's get into it. We're talking about all the crazy avenues of finding info on the internet, whether you should stalk before a first date, how far is too far, harmless stalking vs. invasive snooping, creeping on a current partner vs. an ex, tracking device hacks (LOL), hotel security, and more. Of course we're sharing some of our own stalker stories and hilarious submissions from our listeners. And we're also catching up on the inauguration, a recent Bachelor nation breakup, and TV/movie recommendations both old and new. This episode is dedicated to our angel boy Dewey whose spirit will always live in the house studio.

The positive vibes are off the charts in this episode with Peloton instructor, founder of S.P.E.A.K., and overall inspirational human Tunde Oyeneyin. She shares her fitness journey/body transformation, tips for finding the best workout for you and  staying motivated, and why your mind is your strongest muscle. Tunde also opens up about losing family members and how she healed and propelled herself to where she is today. And we're talking about Beyoncé, Rihanna, and why a red lip can improve your dating life. We're also sharing our thoughts on the Sex and the City reboot. Enjoy! Follow Tunde on Instagram @Tune2Tunde and learn more about S.P.E.A.K. at SpeakTunde.com. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Check our website for show dates and merchandise. Thank you to our partners this week: Daily Harvest: Get $25 off your first box at dailyharvest.com, code GGE. Feals: Become a member at feals.com/gge and get 50% off your first order + free shipping. Function of Beauty: Go