Girls Gotta Eat

You may be an expert on softboys, have no idea what one is, or think you know but you don't (spoiler alert: it's not just a sensitive guy); but whatever your softboy knowledge status is, we're here to break down these dudes who are infiltrating modern dating. We're defining and discussing, plus sharing our listeners' experiences with them. Before we break it down, we're chatting about the guys we met in Texas, and at the end of the episode, we're answering two hilarious listener emails about a confusing post-hookup leave-behind and masturbating to your co-workers. Enjoy the first (and probably last) episode recorded from the car! Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, episode directory, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Osea: Get 10% off your first order with code GGE at oseamalibu.com. Pretty Litter: Use code GGE for 20% off your first order at prettylitter.com. HelloFresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge16 + code GGE16 for up to

We absolutely loved chatting with author/comedian/speaker Lane Moore about how to be alone (and actually enjoy it). We're discussing how childhood trauma affects relationship building throughout your life, how to enjoy your own company, self-talk for when you're alone, the benefits of being single, false narratives about marriage, making friends, and more. Before Lane joins us, we're discussing Rayna's breast reduction and Ashley's rescue mission. Enjoy! Follow Lane on Instagram @HelloLaneMoore and buy her book here. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Blueland: Go to blueland.com/gge to get 20% off your first order. Single Drunk Female: Series premiere January 20 on Freeform, streaming on Hulu. Babbel: Go to babbel.com with code GGE to get 3 additional months when you purchase a 3-month subscription. Article: Get $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more at article.com/gge

In our first solo episode of the year, we're diving deeper into a topic combo that's always relevant: Communication and conflict. We're covering romantic relationships, friendships, and even work situations while discussing the importance of speaking up when something bothers you, how to express yourself in a productive way, why your initial reaction isn't always how you really feel, and how to re-address something when you already reacted one way. Before we get into it, Rayna pops off about everything that's been happening in pop culture (ahem, Tristan Thompson), and Ashley shares an overdue date story. And we're ending the episode with a classic segment, Fuck My Phone. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Helix: Get up to $200 off all mattress orders + 2 free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge. Native: Get 20% off your first purchase by visiting nativedeo.com/

It's a new year and alcohol is on the agenda -- we are joined by therapist and author of Not Drinking Tonight Amanda White (@TherapyForWomen). She shares her story of sobriety and walks us through the process and self-reflection for people who want to examine their relationship with alcohol and explore quitting or cutting back (and yes, we're chatting about the fear of dating and socializing sober). We're also discussing why our brains aren't made for the social media world and why it's ok to not be positive all the time. Before Amanda joins us, we're sharing our 2022 goals, Ashley has a confession, and Rayna revels in her recent cooking win. Enjoy and happy new year! Follow Amanda on Instagram @therapyforwomen and check out her book Not Drinking Tonight. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Babbel: Use promo code GGE at babbel.com to get 3 additional months when you purchase

It's our last episode of the year and we're packing in a lot! We're talking about our highs and lows and the lessons we learned this year, doing a recap of the best pop culture moments and breakups, spilling some wild tea from our listeners, and sharing never-before-told confessions of our own. We're also dissecting And Just Like That, plus giving more recs. We hope you enjoy and we'll talk to you in 2022! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and to purchase the holiday show to watch until 12/26. Thank you to our partners this week: Jiminy's: To learn more and save 20% on your first purchase, go to jiminys.com/gge + code GGE20 at checkout. The Pill Club: Become a patient at thepillclub.com/gge and a $10 donation will be given to bedsider.org. Pretty Litter: Use promo code GGE for 20% off your first order at prettylitter.com. Feals: Become a member at feals.com/gge and get 40% off your first 3 months + free shi

Settle in for three women unpacking a wide range of body-related topics. We are joined by writer/founder of Slutever Karley Sciortino and she so graciously explains pee fetishes (we had a lot to learn) and her stint as an amateur dominatrix. Then we're chatting about dating women and why we have "phases" of different types of partners, guys not wanting to go down on you, sex parties, and lastly, why we fake orgasms (and should stop). Before Karley joins us, we're talking about Rayna's breast reduction and an accidental sext Ashley received. Hope you enjoy! Follow Karley on Instagram @KarleySlutever. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Click HERE to watch the Holiday Spectacular! Thank you to our partners this week: StoryWorth: Get $10 off your first purchase at storyworth.com/gge. Bright Cellars: Visit brightcellars.com/gge6 to get 50% off your first 6-bottle box + a bonus bottle. 21+. Some states excluded. Buf

We've all had a rebound, been a rebound, and wondered if a rebound relationship would last. In this episode, we're discussing the telltale signs for knowing you're a rebound and what to do about it, plus sharing our own experiences. We're also deep diving on Selling Sunset, plus revealing where Rayna has secretly been spending all her time and Ashley's latest investment. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. **Get tickets to our Holiday Spectacular Livestream HERE!* Thank you to our partners this week: Uqora: Get proactive about urinary tract health and 20% off at uquora.com/gge. Native: Get 20% off your first  purchase at nativedeo.com/gge or with promo code GGE. HelloFresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge14 + code GGE14 for up to 14 free meals and 3 free gifts. Hello Tushy: Get 10% off + free shipping at hellotushy.com/gge. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notic

We have a GGE fave, actress/comedian Heather McMahan, back in the studio for a hilariously chaotic episode about everything from planning an Italian wedding to living with your husband and mom to Britney to butt stuff, and everything in between. Heather also opens up about her fertility/embryo freezing journey, and we pop off about a number of things like her Netflix movie, cuckolding, and things that shouldn't be on pizza. Before she joins us, we recap our recent hometown dates and makeouts. Enjoy! Follow Heather on Instagram @HeatherKMcMahan and visit her website here. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Get tickets to our Holiday Spectacular Livestream HERE! Thank you to our partners this week: Olipop: Get 20% off your Olipop order, with free shipping: drinkolipop.com/GGE or use code GGE at checkout. Allform: To find your perfect sofa and get 20% off all orders, go to allform.com/gge. Hello Tushy: Get 10% off

Ever wonder what you're doing "wrong" (read: against your own best interest) in dating? We are breaking it down in this eye-opening episode with behavioral scientist, dating coach, and author Logan Ury. We're discussing the three types of unrealistic daters and how to combat the tendencies that are working against you, how to pick a long-term partner, if you're too picky or not picky enough, and what you should/shouldn't compromise on. We're also discussing best practices for the apps, a scientific strategy for meeting people IRL, and why you should (almost) always go on a second date. Before Logan joins us, we're chatting about breakup season still being in full effect, scaring your friends/partners, fresh recs, and more. Enjoy! Follow Logan on Instagram @LoganUry and visit her website for more. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Get tickets to our Holiday Spectacular Livestream HERE! Thank you to our partners

Oh yesss, we have an erotic and educational episode for y'all! We're so excited to chat with sex educator and author Dr. Justin Lehmiller about fantasies, fetishes, f*cking your friends, and more. We're discussing the psychology behind fantasies and kinks (yes, including foot fetishes), threesomes and tips for successful/enjoyable ones, cuckolding questions, and even how your political affiliation can play out in the bedroom. Justin is also sharing the truth (and data) behind friends with benefits, and we dive into casual sex and why it's more difficult for women to indulge in. Before he joins us, we're recapping our wild Cancun trip, Rayna's post-breakup turnaround, and Ashley's missed connection. Enjoy! Follow Justin on Instagram at @JustinJLehmiller and check out the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Babbel: Go to babbel.com and use c

It's a friendship episode (!!!) and we're covering red flags for toxic friends including jealousy, clinginess, unreliability, "joking" insults, and more. We're also discussing our personal experiences, why so many situations aren't black and white, and how to decide if a friendship is worth saving. Before that, we're chatting about Hinge's voice prompts, Ashley's most irrational fear, the biggest change in Rayna's dating outlook, and the rare phenomenon of (male) exes posting thirst traps that actually work. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more! Thank you to our partners this week: Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy order, visit buffy.co and enter code GGE. Helix: Get up to $200 off all mattress orders + 2 free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge. ThirdLove: Go to thirdlove.com/gge for 20% off your first purchase. HelloFresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge14 + code GGE14 for up to 14 free meals and 3 free gifts

We are welcoming back a GGE fave, Matchmaker Maria, and she's  serving up that spicy advice. We're discussing the definition of and importance of having a hoe phase (no matter your age), how to have a successful hoe phase, how to recognize someone in their hoe phase, and dealing with judgement from others or your own guilt while you're hoe'ing. Maria also gets real about unfulfilled desires in a marriage/after having children and how to address them with your partner and mend a struggling sex life, plus gives candid answers to dating questions like "How do I tell him to go down on me?" and "How many dates do you give it to see if there's a spark?" Before Maria joins us, we talk about bombing a joke while flirting, car knowledge, and what shows we've been watching. Enjoy! Follow Maria on Instagram @MatchmakerMaria and check out her podcast Ask a Matchmaker. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our par

In this hot episode (alternately titled "Rayna Makes It Weird"), we are joined by author, podcaster, and Bachelor Nation fave Mike Johnson from his hotel room, and chatting about dating, self-love, jealousy, and more. Mike shares why a woman's looks are not the sexiest thing about her, how to develop confidence from within instead of via external validation, and how to stay grounded in a social media obsessed world. We're also asking him our listeners' questions and what he's looking for in a partner. Before Mike joins us, we're catching up on some iconic moments from our tour, giving fresh TV recs, and diving back into breakup content with more tips for managing your anger/emotions and how to deal with an ex who won't stop coming at you. Enjoy! Follow Mike on Instagram @Mike_Johnson and check out his podcast Talking It Out. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Living Proof: G

We're so excited to welcome some of our fave fellow podcasters -- Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik of Almost 30 Podcast! We're chatting and laughing about friend fights, weddings, being catcalled, and more, but also going deeper on topics like anxiety surrounding getting married/losing your identity, moving across the country to be with your partner, and handling family and friends when they judge your decisions. We're also discussing comparison (why we do it and how to manage it) and overcoming body insecurities. Before the ladies join us, we discuss massage preferences, Halloween costumes, and rescue dogs. Enjoy! Follow Almost 30 on Instagram @Almost30podcast and check out their website here. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise,  and more. Considering donating to the Animal Lighthouse fundraiser. Thank you to our partners this week: Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy order, visit buffy.co and enter code GGE. Hello Tushy: Ge

We've got a lot going on in this episode -- Rayna's relationship status, Ashley's face, canceled trips, a cringe Hinge moment, recs, PSAs, and more. We're opening up about some things, talking about privacy and boundaries, and discussing amicable breakups vs. blindsides and blow-ups. We hope you enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Feals: Become a member at feals.com/gge and get 40% off your first 3 months + free shipping. Nutrafol: Get $15 off your first month's subscription + free shipping at nutrafol.com with code GGE. Calm: For a limited time, get 40% off a premium subscription at  calm.com/gge. Buffy: For $20 off your order, visit buffy.co and enter code GGE. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shit has been wilder than ever before -- breakups everywhere, exes crawling back, and just general relationship chaos. We are analyzing this in terms of the pandemic, cuffing season, and astrology (with the help of expert and former guest Kara Catrelle), and discussing how to stay sane through it all. We're also sharing our listeners' theories and wild stories. And we're going deep on the recs and get into a social media and mental health discussion stemming from The D'Amelio Show. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for live show dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Bev: Get 20% off your first Bev wine purchase + free shipping at drinkbev.com/gge or with code GGE at checkout. Helix: Get up to $200 off all mattress orders + 2 free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge. Ritual: Get 10% off your during your first 3 months at ritual.com/gge. HelloFresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge14 + code GGE14 for up to 14 free m

It's the long overdue, much-needed episode on narcissists with a true expert -- clinical psychologist, professor of psychology, and best-selling author Dr. Ramani Durvasula. We are discussing what a narcissist actually is, why people are attracted to them, what dating one looks like, what to do/how to leave if you're dating one, and the effect dating a narcissist can have on you. Dr. Ramani also breaks down the differences between narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths, and we hit her with burning questions like "What happens when two narcissists date?" and "Are we all a little bit narcissistic?" Before she joins us, we catch up on Ashley's ghosting situation, and a trash DM Rayna received. Hope you enjoy! Check out Dr. Ramani on YouTube here and visit her website here. Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Article: Get $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more

Double check where your bluetooth is connected before hitting play on this one y'all -- we have Weezy and Mandii of Whoreible Decisions podcast in the studio talking about sex clubs, sucking dick, and scientology (briefly). They walk us through the sex club experience, we discuss having a type, and we're all sharing tips to give (and receive) better oral sex. We also bring back Is This Weird? and it gets messy. Before they join us, Rayna shares a living-with-a-man mishap and Ashley has a crazy date story. Enjoy! Follow Whoreible Decisions on Instagram @whoreible_decisions, Mandii @fullcourtpumps, and Weezy @weezywtf. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Ritual: Get 10% off during your first 3 months at ritual.com/gge. Rory: For a free online visit + free 2-day shipping, go to hellorory.com/gge. Calm: For a limited time, get 40% off a premium subscription at calm.com/gge. Daily

Warning: This episode may turn you on. We're chatting with dominatrix and educator Colette Pervette about how to embrace your erotic desires and approach/execute BDSM, kinks, fantasies, role playing, and more in your relationship (trust us, it's not as intimidating as you may think). We discuss everything from pegging to threesomes, and Colette also walks us through her typical experiences as a domme. Before she joins us, we share our and our listeners' safe words (you might get some inspo), Rayna admits to getting clickbaited, and Ashley continues to be a nosy neighbor. Enjoy! Follow Colette on Instagram @ColettePervette and visit her website here. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Truff: Get 15% off + free shipping with code GGE at truff.com. Buffy: For $20 off your order, visit buffy.co and enter code GGE. Candid: Go to candidco.com/gge for your risk-free starter kit and

In a surprising twist this week, we're unpacking dating and sex advice you SHOULDN'T take. We're deep diving on the bad advice people give and how to spot it, debunking and discussing classic quotes like "you'll meet someone when you're not looking" and "opposites attract", plus sharing our listeners' hilarious sex tips gone wrong. And we catch up Rayna's bf meeting the fam, the best compliment Ashley received on a dating app, and fresh TV/movie recs. Hope you enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for show dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Olive & June: Get $20 off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/gge + code GGE. Helix: Get up to $200 off all mattress orders + 2 free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge. HelloFresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge14 + use code GGE14 for up to 14 free meals + free shipping. Ritual: Get 10% off during your first 3 months at ritual.com/gge. See Privacy Policy at https:/