Pressing Pause

For the first time in the podcast’s history I reshare seven ideas for how you can bring down the overwhelm and create some calm, and even feel a little more joy, during Christmas and the New Year. In this episode we look at: How your expectations impact your enjoyment of Christmas What small, practical actions you can take to ease the stress What to do if you don’t feel full of festive spirit How to make the most of the good stuff Resources Episode 14: The damaging word every overthinker uses Episode 18: How to deal with difficult emotions If you’d like to explore how one to one coaching with me could free you from the hamster wheel take a look here or message me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com and we can have a chat to see if it’s right for you If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here

When you have too much to do and too little time to do it, it feels impossible to do it all. We get tense, stressed and feel overwhelmed by the pressure and expectation. But there is something we do have control over that helps us to deal with the overwhelm. In this episode we look at: Why feeling overwhelmed is not your fault The three common reactions to feeling overwhelmed How your thoughts and feelings play a part in the overwhelm What you can do to put yourself back in control Resources Check out the special offer available until 20 December on my Focus Calls coaching package to get you quickly get a handle on your overwhelm here  If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here

Think celebrating is only for big occasions? You’re doing yourself a disservice and the chance to build your resilience, feel stronger and experience more joy, comfort and hope. In this episode we look at: A different way to look at what’s celebration-worthy How and why the voice in your head stops you celebrating What we’re really doing when we celebrate How to gain the benefits from celebrating everyday moments Resources The Calm Mind Club is closing to new members on 3 December and the price will rise when it reopens February 2020. Find out more and join at thecalmmindclub.com Episode 45: Being afraid to feel truly happy If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here

Comparison is something we all do in everyday life but when comparing yourself to others makes you feel bad it’s time to do something about it. In this episode we look at: How we compare What is confirmation bias and its role in comparison What our judgements about others tells us about ourselves What you can do when you get into comparison  Resources Break the Overthinking Loop online workshop is taking place on Thursday 12 November at 8pm UK time, join here and get the recording if you can’t make it live Get the workshop for free when you join The Calm Mind Club, find out more here Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com

If you feel like you’re not in charge of your own life, or mind, that there’s always so much to do, people to please, expectations to meet, your mind never stops whirring with all the things to remember and worrying what people think of you, you’re not alone. In this episode we look at: What the voice in your head is telling you when you feel this way Why your inner critic is shouting so loudly How to deal with it What you can do to start taking back control of your own life Resources Episode 55: Do you have a choice? If you’d like to explore how one to one coaching with me could free you from the hamster wheel message me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com to find out how I can help you Find me on Instagram as @gabrielletreanor Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com

“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t – you’re right” – do you believe that? What we believe is possible for us, what we think we’re capable of can see us making progress or keep us feeling stuck. In this episode we look at: The power our beliefs have over us How our beliefs create our world The antidote to a lack of belief What you can do when you only believe a little bit Resources If you believe, even only a tiny amount, that it could be possible for you to be free from overthinking message me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com to find out how I can help you Find me on Instagram as @gabrielletreanor Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com Join The Calm Mind Club now for £1 at thecalmmindclub.com

The feeling of being backed into a corner and having little say in our own lives has been coming up in coaching conversations so I’m focusing on the topic of choice in this episode. Do you feel like you have a choice? In this episode we look at: What we don’t have any control over in life Where we can fail to recognise we have a choice The power in making micro choices in everyday life How to feel more in control of life through the choices you make Resources Join The Calm Mind Club now for £1 at thecalmmindclub.com If this topic of choice interests you, perhaps you’re struggling with feeling overwhelmed and you’d like some help finding a way forward, message me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com You can find me on Instagram as @gabrielletreanor Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com

As an overthinker it’s all too easy to get stuck replaying a conversation or a situation and thinking up all the different ways you could have handled it and how that could have changed things. So what do you do with all these thoughts? In this episode we look at: What continuing to go over and over something in the past is doing for us When rehashing the past is helpful and when it is not What you can do to help yourself get out of this loop and move forward Resources Find out how I can help you to be free from overthinking and feel free to live your life as you want at theoverthinkerscoach.com Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com

When you’ve spent years, decades, worrying and overthinking it can feel like you’re stuck that way and you’re destined to always be an overthinker. So is it really possible for you to learn how to overthink less? In this episode we look at: What the label ‘overthinker’ means What overthinking is and what it’s not What positive psychology research has discovered that impacts how possible it is to learn how to overthink less Why having tried and failed to worry less doesn’t mean you’ve failed Resources Book your free 30mins Jumpstart Coaching Call (numbers are limited) here Find out about The Calm Mind Club where overthinkers find calm, confidence and community, and join, at thecalmmindclub.com Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com

In our first new-style episode where I answer listener questions we have a brilliant one to start us off with. In this episode we look at: How to treat ourselves when we’re what if-ing Different ways to deal with this particular worry When distraction is helpful and when it is not Resources Find out about The Calm Mind Club where overthinkers find calm, confidence and community, and join, at thecalmmindclub.com Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com Find out about working 1:1 with me and book a free call at theoverthinkerscoach.com

The break was a lot longer than I anticipated but finally the podcast is back and I have plans… In this episode we look at: What’s been happening that caused the break to be almost four months long The (over)thinking that I was doing during that time The new project I’ve been working on that is now at the heart of what I do to help you worry less and enjoy life more How I want you to be involved in the podcast going forward Resources Find out about The Calm Mind Club where overthinkers find calm, confidence and community, and join, at thecalmmindclub.com Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com

By taking just a few seconds or minutes to hit the pause button in your daily life you can calm your overthinking, tend to your own needs, be more intentional and so much more. In this episode we look at: What pressing pause in your own life can look like How it can help you mentally and physically Ten different ways you can gain by taking a moment to be still Resources: There are lots more resources and ways to work with me on my website gabrielletreanor.com Connect with me on Instagram, I’m @gabrielletreanor Join my private Facebook group for overthinkers here

Stopping ourselves from doing what we want, being successful and happy, doesn’t make sense and yet we all do it. Overthinkers are particularly good at self-sabotaging as we overthink and talk ourselves out of so much. But when we pay attention to ourselves we can start to address it. In this episode we look at: How self-sabotage shows up in life What impact it has on our lives How we can start to address it and curb our inner saboteur Resources: Doors close for the online course Worry Less for Life – how to calm your mind, build resilience and enjoy life more on Friday 29 March, click here to join Episode 41: How fear of failure shows up and what to do about it Episode 43: Build self-belief with the messages you give yourself

We can lose the sense of awe and wonder we had as children as we get bogged down with the responsibilities and worries of grown-up life. But feeling awe brings us out of ourselves, it reminds us that we’re not the centre of the universe and helps us to get perspective on life. And it feels good too. In this episode we look at: The surprising benefits of spending more time in awe How to take a wonder walk in nature and in a built-up urban area Where else you can find awe in everyday life Resources: There is a new payment plan available for Worry Less for Life – how to calm your mind, build resilience and enjoy life more online course. The course starts on 1 April and doors close to joining on 29 March

Feeling like you couldn’t cope if things went wrong, if life became super challenging, is a fear overthinkers share. It’s behind a lot of the What If-ing and the need to overplan and be in control at all times. There’s a skill we can all develop and strengthen to help us feel able to cope – resilience. In this episode we look at: How the fear of not being able to deal with life keeps us scared of life What resilience is How being resilient reduces overthinking Different ways we can build and strengthen our own resilience Resources: The Early Bird special offer on my new online course, Worry Less for Life – how to calm your mind, build resilience and enjoy life more, ends 10pm Wednesday 13 March, the course is available to join until 29 March, check it out here Episode 18: How to deal with difficult emotions

Wanting to please people, to be kind or helpful, isn’t in itself a bad thing. But when your desire to please others, make them happy and life you interferes with how you live your life, it’s no longer kind or helpful to yourself. In this episode we look at: What’s behind people-pleasing What it looks like Why it doesn’t have to be pleasing everybody or nobody How to be compassionate and supportive to others AND to yourself too Resources: My new course is open to join now with an Early Bird special offer, check out Worry Less for Life – how to calm your mind, build resilience and enjoy life more here Episode 19: Why you don’t need to apologise for everything (including your own existence)

To some the idea that you’d be afraid to feel happy sounds absurd but not to the overthinker. The fear of being utterly content and joy-filled is real because it’s accompanied by the thought of what if this all goes away? In this episode we look at: Why we feel so scared to be happy How we think we’re protecting ourselves by reining in how joyful we feel What foreboding joy is really doing What we can do to allow ourselves to release the fear and feel the joy we want to Resources: Join the Worry Less and Enjoy Life More Facebook Group  Get the focused support you’re looking for to feel more confident, calm and capable by working with me one-to-one, find out more here

We all experience change throughout our lives but that may not stop us overthinking and resisting it. How can we cope with change better so that it causes us less upset, grief and stress? In this episode we look at: When we can influence imminent change and when it’s out of our control What we can learn from changes we’ve already experienced How we can take care of ourselves when change feels challenging Five actions we can take to make change feel less stressful Resources: Episode 43: Build self-belief with the messages you give yourself Episode 3: The life-changing power of feeling grateful Be the first to know when Worry Less for Life – my new, most in-depth course on how you can worry less, calm your mind, build resilience and enjoy life more – is available by signing up here. I’ll send you some helpful goodies while you wait too.

We give ourselves messages all the time, often negative ones, through our internal monologue so why not harness these powerful messages to help ourselves build self-belief? In this episode we look at: The belief statements or affirmations you already use, even if you haven’t realised it How to create new powerful, positive belief statements What affirmations can and can’t do for you How to use affirmations or belief statements in daily life Resources: Episode 14: The damaging word every overthinker uses Episode 19: Why you don’t need to apologise for everything (including your existence) Episode 35: The one little word that can change how we think and feel Join the Worry Less and Enjoy Life More Facebook Group  Feel confident, calm and capable, and live the life you want by working with me one-to-one, find out more here

Being busy has become our default but why are we so busy? What does it mean for our self-worth if we’re busy or, if we’re not? What impact does our busyness have on us and what can we do to reduce our busyness and increase the joy we feel? In this episode we look at: What fears lie behind our busyness The ‘little’ ways we make our lives busier The difference between real work and busy work Five steps we can take to be less busy and enjoy life more Resources: Episode 14: The damaging word every overthinker uses Secrets of Productive Peopleby Mark Forster Get the focused support you’re looking for to feel more confident, calm and capable by working with me one-to-one, find out more here