Selfwork With Dr. Margaret Rutherford | Self-help | Mental Health | Depression | Anxiety | Relationship Problems| Therapy

Individual therapy can be emotionally difficult, although well worth it. Couples therapy? In some ways, it’s even harder, as two people who are more or less demoralized try to remedy problems that have been around for quite a while. With both nurturing and directness, Dr. Margaret identifies the four major signs of relationship disaster (researched […] The post 016 SelfWork: What Is So Hard About Couples Therapy? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Abusive relationships, whether the abuse is emotional, physical or sexual, can be extremely difficult to leave. Yet many people will shrug their shoulders, saying, “If someone treated me like that, I’d be out the door.” What is that old saying? “Walk a mile in my shoes….”. This podcast is all about the complication of abusive […] The post 015 SelfWork: What Keeps You From Leaving appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Gratitude is a wonderful thing, right? It definitely is when it’s demonstrated and expressed in relationships, whether they be an intimate one, a good friend, or even perhaps with perfect strangers. But can it be a problem? Today we’ll be talking about the importance of gratitude in partnerships, especially when there are children involved. Two […] The post 014 SelfWork: When Gratitude Backfires appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Divorce is tough, no matter how amicable. If you or someone you love is considering divorce, this episode of SelfWork will walk you through what you may be able to expect. Dr. Margaret offers some surprising facts about divorce, and reveals six ways to be your best self during what can be a difficult life […] The post 013 SelfWork: What To Expect When You’re Divorcing appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

What does it mean to feel emotionally grown up? Feeling mature, decisive, not being reactive but responsive, having insight into our own behavior and changing that behavior when it’s appropriate – when we can do these things, we are acting in our adult selves. So much of how or how long that takes depends on what […] The post 012 SelfWork: How To Become An Emotional Grownup appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Emotional abuse is very real for many, When it comes from a parent, the damage done can horrific and life-altering. This is a complex issue — and Dr. Margaret talks about it with understanding and compassion for all involved Today’s post describes a mother who meets criteria for what’s termed Borderline Personality Disorder, (BPD) which is a way […] The post 011 SelfWork: The Emotionally Abusive Mother appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Loving someone who is trying to heal from depression can be a tough job. So here’s some help! In this podcast, Dr. Margaret gives you tangible tips (Dr. M’s focus is always, “What you can do about it!”) and thoughtful recognitions.  Included is a brief rundown of the different modes of depression itself, and special […] The post 010 SelfWork: How To Love Someone With Depression appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Shame can be a tremendously destructive force in our lives. This podcast will help you learn how to identify shame in yourself, and gives specific suggestions on how to work through it. Shame is usually present in the form of self-loathing or constant thoughts about yourself that are negative or make you feel as if […] The post 009 SelfWork: Healing From Shame appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Welcome back to SelfWork! Today’s podcast is all about the skills of listening — really listening. We all get into such bad habits, and learning how to effectively hear and respond to another person, especially someone you love, can make a huge change in how your relationship works and feels. You may have heard yourself […] The post 008 SelfWork: Learning The True Skills Of Listening appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

There are many people who never reveal to others, or perhaps even admit to themselves, that they were abused as children. Your victimization might have been physical, emotional, sexual, or through neglect. Shame, feeling somehow that the responsibility was yours, denial or avoidance of pain — all can have a stifling effect on your present […] The post 007 SelfWork: Childhood Abuse: How It’s Healing To Reveal appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Grief and depression are hard enough to get through at any time of the year. Add the busy nature of the holidays, and that pain can be incredibly lonely to bear. In today’s podcast, Dr. Margaret gives tangible suggestions of both things to do, and recognitions to keep in mind, to help cope with either […] The post 006 SelfWork: Vital Tips To Cope With Grief And Depression appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Regaining trust, whether it’s after an affair or some other form of betrayal, can be a complex process for any relationship. In this podcast, Dr. Margaret provides the essential steps of healing and regaining trust, specifically after an affair. But she points out that these very steps can be used within any relationship — parent […] The post 005 SelfWork: After An Affair: The Essential Steps Of Regaining Trust appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

This podcast is the second in a series of two on what Dr. Margaret calls “Perfectly Hidden Depression.” PHD isn’t a diagnosis, but a syndrome, or group of characteristics that are found together, and serve to help you deny or ignore depression that’s kept far underneath the surface. Your life looks perfect. You’re active and […] The post 004 SelfWork: Perfectly Hidden Depression Pt. 2 appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Are you struggling with loneliness, exhaustion, even depression but no one knows it but you? Do you have trouble admitting vulnerability? Do you keep a facade of having it all together, when you realize at some level there’s something wrong? If so, this podcast is for you. Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD) isn’t a diagnosis, but […] The post 003 SelfWork: Perfectly Hidden Depression Pt. 1 appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Did you know that anxiety is much more prevalent than depression in our culture? And what’s worse than anxiety or panic? Being anxious or panicked about panic — feeling as if you dread the next hour or day because you don’t know if your anxiety will overwhelm you. Dr. Margaret gives you both information about […] The post 002 SelfWork : Panicked About Panic appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In her initial podcast, Dr. Margaret focuses on the seven things that keep your work in therapy safe and appropriate. Her “Seven Commandments of Good Therapy” applies to all therapies, and gives you a yardstick to measure a new therapist, or therapy you’re already receiving. It’s amazing how many people keep going to therapy, without […] The post 001 SelfWork: What Is Good Therapy? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands